My partner (Xiao Yi) and I have been together for more than 8 months now. The first time I went to his house was on New Year's Day, and his mother didn't say hello to me (it was only over three months then, so I think it's ok not to give it to him on New Year's Day, so don't ask). The next day, his mother took me to her husband's house to pay New Year's greetings (I work and live near his house) and met my grandmother, uncle and aunt and her good friends. At that time, she wore high heels and I wore flat shoes (I like comfort). She came to confirm whether my height was 162, and I reminded her that wearing high heels would make me shorter. Later, I went to his house and confirmed it with me three times. Finally, I feel that I don't have enough respect, and the object communicates with her. My object's height 182. Because Xiaoyi basically doesn't eat at home, she often asks me to eat at his house after work (so Xiaoyi will go back). Once during the Spring Festival, Xiaoyi's grandmother said that she wanted to tell me something so that I wouldn't be wronged. Then tell me, if I can't get engaged, should I go home and discuss it with my father? I said it was unacceptable. She said that Xiaoyi's mother meant that it was not a feudal society now, and she only gave me six rings at most when she got married. She said their custom was like that, but my colleague told me that it was not that simple when she got married, and she wanted to buy a lot of gold. Since March this year, she has told me that there are many customs in your place, so if you want to marry into our family, everything will be simple according to our customs. (Our two families are from Fujian, their family is from Quanzhou, and we are from the countryside), and then they told me, why don't you get married after giving birth? I said that I was educated after all, and I couldn't accept marriage after giving birth. I was afraid to get along with her, so I broke up with Xiaoyi. Later, Xiaoyi communicated with her parents. His father said he didn't want children until he passed the door, and he also said that he would give as much gold as he could. The day before yesterday, Xiaoyi's mother and his aunt went to my house to discuss the engagement with my parents. My father said that our family is no worse than others (although it is a rural hukou, my father has his own studio). We are like others, no more, no less. Then when she came back, she decided to get engaged next week. In the evening, she called me to her room and took a refurbished gold ring and asked me if it was enough for engagement. Let me put it on (2 grams, very light, I have many rings myself, I can feel it). Then she took out her own pair of very thin gold bracelets, saying that they were bought for 5000 yuan, so that I could wear them when I got married, and then she would exchange her gold for a necklace to get married for me. To tell you the truth, I really haven't seen so little. I said I don't want gold and I can't wear it at ordinary times. Just say change the diamond ring for Xiaoyi and me. Then she ignored me and went on, confirming with me whether a ring is enough for engagement. I told Xiaoyi that it was a pity to take out so little gold. I didn't want to wear anything. In the evening, Xiaoyi came back to communicate with her. After a quarrel, she agreed to buy a diamond ring, but she couldn't go to a brand store. She wants to buy it from her friend. Then I thought it was over. Yesterday, she started asking me if I could cook and what I could do. I obviously feel that she wants me to cook after marriage. I graduated from college and have a job. I went to school because I didn't want to be a housewife. I am also a schoolmaster! ! ! ) Then I blew it up. I was born in 1990. I don't think I can get along with her. She pushed her luck and wanted to live together after marriage. She said we would change beds and wardrobes after marriage. I want to break up now, but I can't bear to part. My partner communicated with my family last night and said how I got engaged just with a ring. I'm not a beggar. His parents said that if I really love his son, I should consider his son, marry him and follow their customs. Xiaoyi said that his parents could not communicate with him. I didn't expect to be so stingy. I feel sorry for myself, but there is nothing I can do. I said I don't care about gold, and I will be tough when I should be tough in the future. He said I was strong and her mother was strong. Note: I have bought a house for his family in Quanzhou city, but his parents won't let us go out to live, and the economic conditions are average. Getting married is a good way to have two surnames. So it is difficult to have a mother-in-law who is extremely difficult to get along with.

When encountering a difficult mother-in-law, it is basically not recommended for girls to consider marrying such a family. Because dealing with family problems will become a daily life after marriage, and emotional breakdown is just around the corner. Unless you completely accept the unreasonable demands of the other party, then the other party will intensify. However, why do you want to be so wronged yourself and your family?

If two people are really stronger than gold and are willing to "go through fire and water" for each other, they should also meet the following conditions: when you face unreasonable difficulties of your family, the boy can always stand up and defend you in front of everyone and solve all the problems from their family for you, and the difficult family is still far away from you. Once or twice a year, when the young couple go home, the boy will make up for you.

On the other hand, your boyfriend once fought for you, and when he failed, he told you that he couldn't handle it. You said to be tough, and he said it would only make your situation worse. Basically, you are mainly interested in your future mother-in-law. In addition, I really want to capitalize here, and you will live with your in-laws after marriage. Even if you live with a very reasonable in-laws, you are very prone to friction. According to the description of the topic, with such a mother-in-law, even in the same city, your life is wonderful enough. Don't comfort yourself, my future father-in-law will be reasonable. Only when it is good for their small family will he turn a blind eye. The pattern of their husband and wife getting along for many years, from the point of view that your father-in-law thinks that her mother-in-law is unreasonable but ineffective, and her mother-in-law still goes her own way, you can hardly expect him to "uphold justice" for you.

Personally, I guess the subject's boyfriend should not be financially independent. Apart from the material or personal support from his family, it is likely that everything he needs is directly or indirectly in the hands of his future mother-in-law. So, after weighing the pros and cons, he made a choice.

The boy's mother despised you from the first moment she saw you, and treated you slowly, even rudely. I don't quite understand why the subject still stays in such a relationship that will get him into a quagmire.

Although, I would rather tear down ten temples than break a marriage. But you're not married. The father of the subject not only protected his daughter, but also was very sober. He has gently reminded you that your family is no worse than other families, and your treatment cannot be so low. Your parents are very liberal. You grew up under the care of your parents, so you don't care too much about some small things you think. This is your luck, but it also makes you weak and unclear about goodwill and malice.

Continuing to talk about marriage is not only scarred, but also difficult to preserve the dignity of the family. The wonderful daily life after marriage can also open the eyes of the subjects.

Good girl, stop loss in time.