Zhu has been driving for less than half a year, but he insists on driving his newly bought car back to his hometown. Buying a car is not just necessary for him. The money for buying a car is borrowed, and some loans are also borrowed. This means that Zhu has to pay back his car loan with half of his salary every month.
But he thought it was all worth it. He worked hard outside for many years since he was a child, and now he can finally drive a new car back to his hometown, let his relatives and friends see him and win face for his family.
For this reason, he ignored the requirements of the traffic law and got on the expressway, which led to a car accident and huge compensation.
This is just an example, but it is enough to make people think.
Adventure, want to show off in front of relatives and friends illustrates two points:
1, people always like to live in the evaluation of others.
2, if people can't recognize the reality, it is very dangerous to do things that don't match their abilities.
Zhu grew up in a poor family and was obviously inferior. The more people feel inferior, the more eager they are to express themselves and show off themselves. Even if it is a loan, it is a shame to borrow money to buy this car.
People who value face too much often live in the evaluation of others. If others evaluate it well, they will be very satisfied. If others don't evaluate it well, they will be lost. You know, people's opinions are difficult to adjust. Even if you do well, some people like you and others don't. With such a mentality, you will not be happy anyway.
If you don't need to feel inferior for lack of material things, what you need is constant self-enrichment and gradual accumulation.
It is usually dangerous not to recognize the reality. Before you do anything, you must first ask yourself: What do I have now?
If you want to buy expensive jewelry, but have no money, so you borrow usury or steal it, it is dangerous. If you can't skate, it's dangerous to put on skates to be brave.
Because your strength and ability don't match what you want to do, the higher the mismatch, the more dangerous it is.
To sum up:
1, don't live in other people's world, it will be very tired, and you will be happy to live your own life.
Ask yourself what you have before you do anything, and never do anything that doesn't match you.