Widowed marriage is a description of the unhappy state of marriage. Especially when one or both spouses are indifferent to the family and the marriage foundation is in name only. Although there is no widowhood on the surface, married life is like widowhood.
? Form a widowed marriage? The situation is caused by multiple factors, which cannot be explained clearly in one or two sentences. Need sociological experts to analyze and study. But I want to crack the widowed marriage? There is still a way.
First, once married, both parties must establish their responsibilities to the family, care for and love each other.
Second, arrange working hours reasonably, ask for leave after work, and spend more time with your lover and children.
Third, both husband and wife must communicate and exchange, and solve any problems in time, which can't be delayed or hidden. Otherwise it will definitely affect the relationship between husband and wife.
Fourth, under special circumstances, one party may not meet for a long time when going abroad or on a business trip, which requires both parties to contact by phone or WeChat video frequently to keep their feelings fresh.
? In short, in order to put an end to this kind of marriage, everyone must do more homework, that is, communicate more, contact more, accompany more, care more, tolerate more and understand more, so that the other party can feel their love.
There are many kinds of widowed marriages, some two people want to separate, and some choose to separate because they have no feelings. My wife and I have been separated for a long time. Of course we have to.
In 20 12 years, I met my wife through neighbor introduction. To tell the truth, my wife is not beautiful. At that time, I was 26 years old and my wife was 25 years old, both of whom were old enough to get married. In the countryside, if I am married and still not married, I will be urged by my elders. It was my parents who urged me to be impatient and chose to marry my present wife. From the realization that we have been married for less than two months, we can say that there is no emotional foundation at all, and marriage without emotional foundation is also the most dangerous. After marriage, we almost quarreled for two days and quarreled for three days (I really regret it now). At the beginning of the quarrel, my wife always kept silent and stood by, but I think she pushed her luck even more when she didn't talk, and sometimes she talked too much. In this way, more than two months passed, and then my wife got pregnant. After I got pregnant, I became worse. Sometimes if I don't go home once a week, my wife doesn't seem to blame me. Instead, every time I go home, she is very kind to me. Until my wife gave birth to Dabao, I was angry with her again and threatened to divorce her. This time, she is completely different from before. She dragged me to the Civil Affairs Bureau. I just scared her not to get a real divorce, so naturally she refused to go. She went back to her parents' house by taxi. Unexpectedly, a few days later, she sued the court for divorce, which caught me off guard. I hurried to her house to pick her up, but she refused to come back. There really isn't. Uncle, I went to her house to pick her up, and after all kinds of persuasion, I agreed to go home with me, but on one condition, I would go to work in the city and rent a house to live in, and of course I promised her.
At that time, I earned very little money, more than 2000 a month. When renting a house, I almost took out all my belongings. After renting the house, my parents followed me to take care of the children in the rental house. I work in a factory, and my wife got a job selling jewelry. The monthly income of our two people adds up to less than 5000 yuan. Although the income is not much, it is still stable. I didn't talk to my wife loudly either. I pretended to giggle when my wife spoke loudly to me. In this way, more than two years have passed, and although life is tight, I still have a good time.
20 17, the income is unbearable. I moved to a company 500 kilometers away from home, and my wife and I officially lived a separated life. At first, it was hard. A person's biggest problem is loneliness, but I still have to stick to it when I think about my family and children. Make a video call for an hour every night, otherwise the disappearance of the child will really make me cry. After the separation, my wife and I have reached an unprecedented level of affection. It is said that parting is better than getting married. Every time I go back, I feel that my wife is like a newly married new daughter-in-law, and she is tired of being together every day, as if she can't live without it for a moment. In 20 18, we successfully bought a house in the city. My wife does everything herself, from decorating to buying furniture. I won't interfere too much, but give some advice at most. I am also very happy to see her humming while working.
My wife and I have been separated for more than five years, and it feels like a long time. From the initial lack of feelings at the time of marriage to the gradual cultivation of feelings now. From quarreling all day at first, to talking about everything now. I think we have already run in, and the marriage needs to run in. Far from weakening our feelings, the separation between the two places has strengthened our feelings. Now I often think of what I did to my wife when I first got married, and I regret it very much. Why should I treat her like that? It is no use regretting the past. Make up for it later.
This is the most common marital situation that women encounter at present. It is not that they don't love each other. It is the helplessness of life and the cruelty of social existence that forces us to come to such a day, when one goes out to work hard and one is filial at home. There is no law of living in reality that you will work hard to get the bread you need. As a widower for more than ten years, I really have too many feelings and too much sadness in my heart. In the past ten years, I have been disappointed, wavered and had the idea of divorce. However, the reality of being old and young reminds me to persist again and again. Maybe you will say that money is enough, but sometimes spiritual comfort is more practical than the money in the wallet. People outside feel wronged, and people at home are not less sad. It depends on whether the relationship between two people is strong. If conditions permit, it is best not to let yourself fall into this mode. If in this life, the most important thing is to understand each other, communicate more, and have some sense of life ceremony.
My parents-in-law, because of different ideas, have conflicting personalities. One is a dragon and the other is a tiger. The advantage of my father-in-law is that he is tall and handsome. At that time, he was a high school student. His shortcomings are: he likes being a leader but has no ability to be a leader, his emotional intelligence is low, and his words hurt people. Have a habit of domestic violence, no sense of humor, the hierarchy of the sixties, stingy.
Mother-in-law: The shortcomings are stupidity, poor cleaning ability, poor ideological consciousness, no understanding, low emotional intelligence and relatively reticent. Beautiful advantages.
The two of them often quarrel over a trivial matter. My father-in-law starts work and my mother-in-law runs away. Under the pressure of my father-in-law Under the policy, my mother-in-law has become a dissatisfied wife. Why not talk to her mother-in-law, because she has lost her dissatisfied wife's character in this life? My father-in-law lacks a sense of humor and always gives people a sense of superiority, making him a loner. They have been enemies for decades, not the kind of husband and wife who complain about everything in their families, but really look like enemies. They haven't divorced or been together for decades.