Love follows fate, not to say that "life and death are generous, and children are happy." Hold your hand and grow old with your son. Just ask for "in your life, there will at least one time that you forget yourself for someone, asking for no result, no company, no ownership or even love." I just want to meet you in my most beautiful years. " Friends follow fate, "I will visit my only soul mate in the vast sea of people;" I am lucky to get it; No, my life. "In this life, I love Xu Zhimo's natural and unrestrained and romantic. His love and poetry have fascinated me all my life. I love his innocence, his talent, and his gorgeous life like fireworks. Undoubtedly, in love and marriage, he is free and chic.
Marriage is like a besieged city. Those who didn't come in wanted to come in, and those who came in wanted to go out. Life, if you can grow old with the people you love, slowly taste the bits and pieces of youth and recall the lingering intimate feeling, it will be a blessing that has been cultivated for several lives. Many people left, the stars dimmed, and you left. Marriage is fate, and many people walk into the "grave" in confusion. Happiness, happiness, entanglement and pain are all among them. A master explained: women lose their minds and men are imprisoned. This is marriage. In fact, there is a calm heart, accepted into a family marriage. Indifference to the long flow of years and indifference to days is not a kind of generosity and tolerance. In a cup of bitter tea, it is also a kind of Zen to taste the ups and downs of life and the triviality of life. There are countless meetings and departures in life. In fact, gathering and parting are all our own fate. What we have to do is to cherish what we can cherish and let go of what we have to. If you can't be calm, you should also wave your hand smartly and wish the lovers who have held hands a happy life!
Buddha said, "There are flowers in spring, moons in autumn, cool breeze in summer and snow in winter. If you have nothing to worry about, it is a good time on earth. " For those who study Buddhism, every day is a good day, and every time is a good day. As long as there is nothing in my heart and no attachments, it is comfortable to live. Flowers in spring, autumn moon, cool breeze in summer and snow in winter are not natural and selfless gifts. As long as there is a grateful heart, everything will be fine. Appreciate the wind and rain, the sunshine, relatives, friends and yourself. No matter right or wrong, no matter honor or disgrace, I am grateful. Because gratitude is a kind of perfection, kindness, compassion and vision. Gratitude is actually a realm of life. Usually, we will thank strangers and friends who are far away for their gifts and help. Turn a blind eye to relatives, parents and spouses around you, and no amount of dedication and love is only normal and proper. In fact, we should all be grateful for all the fate and separation in this life. Getting together is happiness, isn't separation a relief? Those who insult, cheat and hurt us are not affectionate gifts of time, just like wind and rain to vegetation, which promotes our growth, sharpens our will and makes us stronger, more mature and more attractive.
Calm and calm is a kind of life accomplishment and a general demeanor. In the history of princes and princes, which one is not strategizing and winning thousands of miles away? Mount Tai collapsed in front of it, its face unchanged, and among thousands of people, it was like entering nobody's business. Win without arrogance, lose with grace. If a person ignores life and death and looks down on gains and losses, he will often be rescued and get unexpected gains. There is a story that a tofu seller suddenly and unexpectedly received a challenge from a samurai, and his life was at stake. He asked a Zen master for help, and the Zen master taught him to be calm, not to treat a duel as a duel, but as tofu. It's time for a duel I saw the tofu seller in no hurry. He gently took off his hat and put it on the stool. He unhurried, slowly untied the robe, gently brushed the dust off it, carefully folded it, slowly put it on the stool, then walked over and slowly pulled out his long knife without even looking at the samurai. Suddenly, the samurai sat down and threw away his knife. The samurai was stunned by his composure and completely lost confidence. So calm, you must be an expert in the world! In fact, we often lose to ourselves, and it is our heart that makes us fail.
Being calm and calm is a realm of life and an attitude towards life. Dongpo, a great writer in the Northern Song Dynasty, was a layman and was good friends with Zen master Fo Yin. One day, he realized the Zen principle that "eight winds can't blow" and was very proud. He wrote these five words at once. Busy to send extremely to the other side of the Fo Yin River to correct me. After reading it, Fo Yin stamped a word below: Fart. Su Shi was annoyed and successfully passed Jiang Lai Theory. Fo Yin smiled indifferently and said, "Eight winds can't blow, but a fart has passed Jiang Lai." . Dongpo has experienced many ups and downs in politics. After experiencing the trough of life, he realized the true meaning of life and became chic. "If you don't listen to the beating of leaves in the forest, why not sing and go?" Bamboo poles and sandals are more dexterous than riding horses. What's to be afraid of? A misty rain is a lifetime. "
For every ordinary person, the road of life is mostly bumpy. Only when you face it frankly and accept it thoroughly will you not feel bitter. Life is bitter. Only by having a heart that is not afraid of suffering can we taste the sweetness in suffering. Since ancient times, Huashan has been a road. How many people can walk gracefully on that ancient cliff road? "I always feel very shallow when I get it on paper, and I never know that I have to do it." To study in thousands of books, it is better to take Wan Li Road. The sixth ancestor of Zen Buddhism is wise and omniscient, but he can understand nature and talk calmly. It can be said that Tao is in life and Tao is in nature.
When reading philosophical essays, the most frequently read sentence is: "Don't be humiliated, watch the flowers bloom in front of the court; I have no intention of staying and looking at the clouds in the sky. "In fact, Tao is very simple, and life is also very simple. Only when it becomes Vientiane will it become very complicated and unreasonable. The truth in the world is very different. Even in Buddhism, there are 84,000 kinds of practices. Walking in is like entering the sea of Wang Yang. What is said is nothing more than the origin of emptiness. Sometimes reading, the more you read, the smarter you get; Sometimes, on the contrary, the more you read, the more stupid you become. Zhao Kuo, a bookworm in the history of China, did not read too much, which led to a strange injustice through the ages. What people say in life is 99.99% nonsense, and so is what they write. If you talk too much, you lose. Buddha said nothing, Zen said nothing, and everything he said and talked about was a lie. Writing too many articles is like frying leftovers, tossing and turning, that's all, that's all. What is really calm and calm is just picking up books, making pillows and sleeping.
Writing prose, I like those who are eloquent and calm. I write my heart by hand, and my heart is natural. Take it easy, take it easy. Don't use too many flowery words, just express your meaning clearly, it doesn't look tired, the words are simple and the philosophy is profound. "Zen is already sticky and not crazy about the spring breeze." Every time you encounter a big event, it is calm, and Taishan is the top, so you must be calm and calm. Things are often not as complicated as imagined. Grasp the essence, know the cow, and solve it in a few times. For gossip, don't argue about gossip; Don't blame others for adversity and injustice; Don't blame yourself for misunderstanding and injustice. As long as you don't move and let him calm down, then everything will be calm. "The wind comes to sparse bamboo, and the wind does not leave a sound; Wild geese cross the cold pool, and no pictures are taken by the pool. So when the gentleman comes, the heart begins to appear, and when he goes, the heart is empty. " As long as the heart is like a mirror, everything in the world is like a flower in the mirror, a moon in the water, and a person in the shadow, leaving no trace in the heart.
Calm is an ability. Zhou Yu "feather fan nylon scarf, laughing and laughing, lost in the smoke." Cao Cao couldn't calm down, so he rode his horse and fled in a hurry. But Cao Cao finally smiled. Winning or losing is not a common thing for military strategists. Laughing at the end is the skill. Only when the world is broken can it be calm; It is calm to look down on the world of mortals. Such as water, invisible and plastic. Air, for example, is invisible and intangible, but it is everywhere. When you are quiet, you are carefree and quiet as a virgin; When moving, it will destroy everything and be invincible.
Hanshan asked Pickup: "Someone slandered me, bullied me, insulted me, laughed at me, despised me, belittled me and deceived me. What should I do? " Pickup replied, "Put up with him, let him, avoid him, let him, put up with him, respect him and ignore him. You will see him in a few years." Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory; It's eleven to two who can talk to others. Indifferent, detached, he who sees through, puts down, goes with the fate and is at ease. The monk Tang Budai said, "Put your hand into the rice field and look up to see the water in the sky. A pure heart is the right way, and retrogression turned out to be progress. " Learning is increasing day by day, Tao is decreasing day by day, and it is decreasing again, so that there is nothing. Simple life, simple happiness, simple wisdom, indisputable, neither sad nor happy are all in the Tao. There is no gain or loss, no existence, live in the present, enjoy the process, be calm, happiness will come to you, and success will knock at the door in the middle of the night.
This is a materialistic era, and nothing can be separated from the word money. As the saying goes, "money makes the mare go." There is a WeChat like this: money can buy a "house", but it can't buy a "home"; Money can buy medicine, but it can't buy health. Money can buy a clock, but it can't buy time. Money can buy "rice" but not "appetite"; Money can buy "bed", but it can't buy "sleep"; Money can buy "jewelry", but not "beauty"; Money can buy "entertainment" but not "pleasure"; Money can buy "books" but not "wisdom"; Money can buy flattery, but it can't buy respect. Money can buy "partners", but not "friends"; Money can buy "luxury goods", but not "culture"; Money can buy "power" but not "prestige"; Money can buy obedience, but not loyalty; Money can buy "body", but it can't buy "soul"; Money can buy "fame", but it can't buy "true learning"; Money can buy a "villain's heart", but it can't buy a "gentleman's ambition". Treat money calmly, you can release yourself, set yourself free, and don't be a slave to money and desire.
Sometimes we should be indifferent to life, life is painful because of me, and the mind is troubled because of desire. Everything is empty. Only by returning to this empty space can we feel at ease. Plain is true, and leisure is true. There is no fear of returning to real life, no fear of death, and no fear in my heart. Finally, I was speechless. Too much talk, all nonsense; Too many thoughts, all the distractions. Solitude is a person's carnival! Being together is a paradise for two people. Watching silently and quietly, not saying anything, never leaving, is also happiness. Happiness is sometimes like sand in the palm of your hand. The tighter you hold, the faster you lose. Happiness is sometimes like a flower on the other side, faintly visible, but not touched. What is happiness? Happiness is just a feeling of the soul. When you are thirsty, drink water. Hungry, eat; Sleepy, sleep. I think the real happiness is to let go and let go of the pursuit of happiness. If you don't move wildly, you won't feel the pain in the world. Actually, it is happiness. Living is happiness.
A fresh heart will have secular desires, joys and sorrows. Love hurts, pain hates, and we choose to die. When the heart dies, it doesn't hurt and it's empty. When it is empty, it will restore the true nature of the universe, without sadness or joy, and everything will follow. Then, it is spring, full of vitality. Many times in life, we are born after giving up life. Laozi said, "Being born can lead to death, while being dead can lead to life." Life and death are the same thing, there is no essential difference. In fact, if you have more experience, you will look down. Looking down, you won't be swayed by considerations of gain and loss; If you fully realize this, you will see through it. If you see through it, you are not afraid of life and death. What's wrong with seeing through life and death?
There is no absolute right or absolute wrong in the world; There is no eternal hatred, and there is no hatred that cannot be resolved for a lifetime. I believe that after the storm, it will be sunny; Believe that the end of the dark night is dawn; Believe that the sky is falling, it will always be just a legend; I believe that God treats everyone fairly. If God closes a door for you, it will open another window for you. Slow down, put down your posture, let go of your gains and losses, be brave enough to be yourself, and keep a normal heart and calm no matter what others say. As the saying goes, "live fish swim against the current, and dead fish drift with the current." In the noisy material world, it is a good thing to build your own spiritual home, simplify the complex, live quietly, live poetically and live nobly.