It's easier to get to know each other than to get along. No matter how good a marriage is, there are also imperfect days, which need our careful management and care. It is said that after the "seven-year itch", many white-haired couples still have "silver wedding" and "golden wedding". We must believe in this sincere emotion and this promise in the world.
Once there is an infidelity obstacle in marriage, even if the other person is a "Neptune", will you still save the marriage?
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With the spread of thirty, "Neptune" became popular, and this promiscuous and irresponsible man with the help of gender advantage attracted everyone's attention. Some viewers said that when encountering a Neptune-style man, he fell into the trap of gentle and considerate love mode and was willing to be cheated. There are also spectators who are angry and feel wronged for the injured. "Neptune" is not only a character in TV series, but also a microcosm of many men in real love and marriage.
Zhang Lan and Li Yajun met in a shopping mall. At that time, they were all college students who participated in work-study programs, and they often went off campus to earn money on weekends. Two people * * * with commuting, Li Yajun eloquence is very good, often win the favor of Zhang Lan, two people naturally become lovers.
Although his family is poor, Li Yajun often participates in social practice activities to exercise himself, and often gives Zhang Lan some sweetness and surprises in love. In Zhang Lan's eyes, he is a careful, considerate and self-motivated man. When she graduated, Li Yajun was successfully admitted to the civil service, and Zhang Lan was pregnant. Zhang Lan stayed at home and became a full-time mother because her parents were old and her career was difficult to be comprehensive.
They live step by step and are still happy and comfortable. It's just that there are more and more social activities in Li Yajun. He said that he would quit his job and go to the construction industry to earn more money for his family. Zhang Lan is also very supportive of her husband and devoted herself to the life of husband and wife. After her son went to kindergarten, she relaxed a little and began to have her own time. Warm and hospitable, she has her own hobbies and girlfriends, often organizes theme parties, and her life is quite interesting.
Qilu said: "Looking for a responsible man is to have the courage and ability to shoulder heavy burdens in the future." Li Yajun is capable, profitable and considerate in the eyes of others. Many people think that Zhang Lan is married to love.
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At a spa party of two girlfriends, when the other party went to the toilet, I saw that there was an undeleted chat record on the girlfriends' mobile phone, and it was a naked bite. When you look closely, the recipient is actually her husband. She flew into a rage, constantly reminding herself to be calm and making excuses to leave first. Back home, the body began to tremble, but reason told her not to disturb her husband.
Fortunately, after seven years of marriage, although Zhang Lan didn't go to work, she still secretly saved a sum of money for her children to use in the future. There was a financial crisis from the beginning, and she also bought some wealth management products and gold ornaments, and now the income is good. She hired a private detective to pay special attention to her husband's life.
Zhang Lan looked through her husband's cell phone when he came home late at night and was drunk, but found no suspicious chat records with his friends. Wechat interface is very clean. I found that the real estate agent in the address book has many beautiful pictures. When she deliberately brushed their circle of friends to find out, there were no sales advertisements, only bags, jewelry and beer and skittles, which seemed to be a gentleman's life. Zhang Lan became suspicious.
Because there was no record of cheating with her best friend in her mobile phone, Zhang Lan mobilized network resources to find a way. According to the advice of enthusiastic netizens, she began to check bank card consumption records, hotel records, driving recorders, telephone bills and so on. , supplemented by private detectives. The moment the results came out, Zhang Lan almost fainted. Only then did I know that my husband was not only an derailed girlfriend, but also derailed many people. Not only is she dirty, but she also spends money on Bao Butong's mistress, giving expensive gifts and sweet words. Some young mistresses think he is divorced.
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This time, Zhang Lan saw through her husband, and the "Neptune" and "Hand Tearing Plan" in real life gradually staged.
In their marriage, Zhang Lan gave priority to children. She takes care of the family as usual, pays more attention to the children's psychological condition, and connects with better educational environment and resources to prepare for the later period. When the children went to summer camp, Zhang Lan showed her husband the evidence of cheating and claimed that she had found a professional divorce lawyer. The husband regretted it and begged Zhang Lan to forgive him with tears in his eyes.
"I don't want to go to social parties. I didn't do anything wrong until I was drunk. I am bent on making money for this family, don't you know? I did something wrong, for the sake of the children, forgive me ... "Li Yajun expressed regret and tried to hug her lover.
"I don't want to say anything, leave it to the lawyer!" Zhang Lan pushed him away, it was too dirty.
Zhang Lan was heartbroken, and reason told her not to be soft-hearted. If it's just an unfaithful girlfriend, Zhang Lan may put up with it for the sake of family and children. Now many people are cheating, what is done is done. This is not an impulsive mistake, but a personality problem. All infidelity should not be forgiven. With the first time, there are probably countless times. What's more, many people were found cheating.
Because of the previous investigation and timely stop loss, Li Yajun almost went out clean. But for the sake of children, Zhang Lan tries to minimize head-on collisions, and children need an upright role model. He is clean and free, and I believe that the child will understand her good intentions in the future.
Zhang Lan, who learned from this painful experience, chose to travel with her friends and children, persist in reading, managing money, holding theme parties, learn from her marriage and look forward to happiness!
Zhang Lan is a smart woman, calm and decisive, methodical and virtuous. In the marriage, she was betrayed and injured, but she recognized the reality and didn't handle the relationship well. Considering that the other party is the father of the child after all, it is not too ugly, and everything is in accordance with legal procedures.
She is a full-time housewife with a sense of crisis. Accurately speaking, even if she becomes a full-time housewife, she is an independent individual, living hard and trying to balance.
The material foundation became the weakness of her later difficult counterattack. It can be seen that no matter what role in marriage, independence and money are king. Women must have their own money.
We should have not only independent assets, but also spiritual independence. Developing personal hobbies and having a circle of friends, whether before or after marriage, beauty, gentleness and independence are all women's pursuits.