At the beginning of the story, during the Muromachi shogunate period, Xiao Qingguo was five years old. Because his father was a former general, the struggle failed. In order to save her son's life, First Lady Yu, the mother, had to send Qing to ankokuji in Kyoto to be a young monk, and she was named Yixiu. I read the Taiwan Province Provincial Edition, which has a complete series, but the translation is different from the Mandarin Edition I watched when I was a child. I should be the son of the emperor. )
? The child who was about to leave his mother asked his mother with tears, "Why do I have to go to ankokuji to be a young monk?"? Mom, tell me, why? Why? " At this time, my mother, who has always been elegant and gentle, didn't know how to answer and burst into tears.
Seeing this, I can't help but be moved. What a forbearing and wise mother. If you tell your child the truth, there will only be two outcomes.
One is to plant the seeds of revenge in children's hearts, and children will be shrouded in the shadow of hatred in their lives.
The other is that the child is completely scared. Fear has been with him ever since, and he is afraid of everything.
Either way, it is impossible to grow into a healthy and intelligent child.
Although Yixiu's mother didn't answer Yixiu's question clearly, Xiao Qingguo vaguely understood something when she saw her mother's painful and sad appearance.
Children are very sensitive, and some words don't need to be said. Your sadness, pain and expectation can be felt by children. They love us more than we love them.
Mother took out a doll and told him that if he was wronged, he could tell the doll anything, and his mother would hear him. Be brave and strong. Boys don't cry easily. Tell him to be a respected monk.
Life in the temple is strict and simple. Such a young child will leave his mother and go to a strange environment to fetch water, chop wood and wash vegetables. Inevitably, I will be wronged, bullied and miss my mother. There were no cell phones and videos at that time. How to resolve children's thoughts, grievances and unwillingness?
A doll (sunshine doll) made by her mother has been with her all the time. Whenever she misses her mother and is wronged, she can tell it to the doll, as if her mother is around, and she will also think of her words, her persuasion and entrustment.
Through this doll, children's bad emotions can also be channeled and alleviated. Although his mother is not around, he knows that her love will always accompany him.
After resting for a while, he grew up, and by the time he was 10, he was resourceful and many Zen questions puzzled him.
Fearing that Hugh would become an outstanding talent when he grew up, the general rallied his father's old aides to revolt. Shortly after Hugh entered the temple, he sent a new Uemon (Taiwan version translation: Li Wujing) to monitor his movements.
With the growing reputation of Yixiu, First Lady Yu became more and more worried about Yixiu's appearance and safety.
The more resourceful you are, the more you will offend people. People who think they are very wise can't get a break, and people who are narrow-minded will hold a grudge.
Yixiu's mother is really far-sighted. Soon, the general heard that Yixiu had extraordinary intelligence and courage, and suspected that Yixiu had colluded with the former headquarters of the Southern Dynasties to resist him, so he invited Yixiu to visit the general's office to see if Yixiu really posed a threat and looked for an opportunity to kill him.
After getting the news, Mrs. Yu was prepared in her heart, but this day really came, and she was still sad and worried. The attendants around suggested asking the elder to send Yixiu abroad and escape from here.
Yi Xiu's mother looked at the distance and said sadly, "Strictly speaking, Yi Xiu is not my son now. I have handed him over to the Bodhisattva, and it is not up to me to decide whether he will stay or not. "
Yes, being a mother and thinking about her children must be far-reaching. For your safety, I will send you to ankokuji. In order not to be suspected of your status as a prince, I can only endure the pain of separation of flesh and blood and refrain from visiting you. The farther I am from you, the safer and quieter you will be. Not to be dragged into the quagmire of power struggle.
But as the mother of a clever and witty young monk, I will try my best to help you in a witty way.
On the day I went to the general's house to rest, Mrs. Yu sent someone to send a letter to the general, which wrote: "On the day you meet, I will climb the North Mountain opposite the general's house and recite poems in front of the temple at the top of the mountain. I hope you will meet my son happily and there will be no conflict. I will read a poem to bless you.
There is not a word in the letter asking the general to give it a try, which makes the general both puzzled and angry.
After resting in the mansion for a while, the young monk was not stumped by many difficulties. In the face of this witty and naive child, he is respectful and polite. The general likes him, but he doesn't want him to go back easily.
He told Hugh that your mother was on the opposite hill and sent a letter. When I read my mother's letter, I immediately understood the intention in it. When the general asked him if he understood his mother's meaning, Yixiu cried and said that he missed her very much, but he really didn't understand her meaning.
Ask the general if he understands? Then let the general tell the answer himself through a hint without trace.
This passage is particularly subtle. A poem read by my mother in a temple across the mountain means that no amount of gold, silver and jewelry can compare with my own treasure.
But let the general speak for himself, and he will naturally have some experience. In fact, rest is just a poor little monk who hides his identity, has no father and can't see his mother. Although witty, I can answer questions he doesn't understand. This is really worrying!
My mother has a deep and accurate insight into human nature and psychology. Break through the first great crisis in life. Take a rest. Before you fight with others, you always have to win or lose. Yixiu has been winning, but what happened? The loser is always unwilling, and he will be embarrassed next time. Next time, use more tricky questions.
After this experience, I must understand that winning is not rare, and sometimes losing is more important than winning.
When a teenager succeeds, he always has edges and corners, and everything will win or lose. It takes more experience to understand that letting others win is a higher level of wisdom.
Moreover, after this incident, I realized that my mother has never gone far and has been silently guarding and loving him. Maternal love is deep and great.
At present, I only watched 5 episodes with my son and learned a lot. The so-called classic is that at any stage of life, it can nourish us and bring us different feelings about life. Finally, pay tribute to the classics!