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65438+ 0~3 months before engagement
1. Buy wedding cakes (quantity and style)
Step 2 Choose dresses, makeup artists and stylists
Step 3 buy wedding rings, jewelry and gold ornaments
4. Book the banquet venue and venue layout
5. Draw up a banquet list
Step 6 print wedding invitations
7. Draw up the list of people attending the wedding.
8. Ask about and understand the relevant customs and things that need to be prepared.
9, regular beauty maintenance, hair care, skin care
65438+ 0~2 weeks before engagement
1. Send invitations or phone invitations.
2. This person buys gifts for work.
This woman bought a gift in return.
4. Buy gifts related to customs.
65438+ 0 days before engagement
1. The wedding cake was sent to the place designated by the woman.
2. Prepare engagement fee (big order, small order)
3. Prepare all kinds of red envelopes.
Step 4 count gifts
Step 5 buy an engagement dress
6. Contact wedding participants and staff.
7. Prepare the vehicle and driver
Engagement day
1. Gather people for the wedding.
2, inventory items
Step 3 assign tasks
Step 4 explain the matters needing attention
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First of all, traditional engagement gifts
1, universal gift
Cooked offerings: a broiler (a hen that is about to lay eggs but has not yet laid eggs), a fish, a piece of meat and an altar of rice wine, which symbolizes marriage and career, warns women of virtue and auspicious family, and expects to be a good wife and mother.
Four-color sugar: orange cake, winter melon sugar, rock sugar and candy, which symbolize sweetness, growing old together and infinite happiness.
Incense gun and candle gold: incense (boneless and green), firecrackers (big firecrackers, cannons) and candles (dragons and phoenixes in pairs) are used to worship ancestors, wishing each other good luck and peace, increasing happiness, uniting the two families and revitalizing the cause.
Fight for 2 meters: the man prepares glutinous rice 12 Jin, sugar 3 Jin 22 Liang, and makes red dumplings for the woman, which means round and beautiful.
Face line: it symbolizes the marriage of two surnames, a happy marriage, long-lasting blessings and endless happiness for future generations.
Fuyuan: longan and dried longan are used to bless the prosperity of future generations, which contains the meaning of dragon inheritance, complete happiness, handed down from generation to generation and endless life.
Top cloth: It's a gift from both men and women. The man has six kinds of gifts, and the woman returns 12 to 16. The selected gifts are essential for daily life, which means good luck and happiness.
2. Special gifts
Half-pig: Half-cooked pork or foreign ham (eighteen or thirty-six) to show rich and sincere respect.
Raw chickens: castrating six chickens means that the marriage foundation is permanent, peaceful inside and outside, and full of vitality.
3。 Fresh fish: There are six rare fresh fish, which means that the head and tail are more than enough every year.
4。 Good wine: 24 bottles, meaning 24 solar terms a year are safe and full of love.
Top line: indicates the length of the blessing newspaper.
3. * * * Bring gifts
Large-scale use: Traditional banks attach great importance to "money" and usually choose new banknotes wrapped in red paper. The gifts given by the man to the woman are: clothes, purses, shoes, belts, watches, bracelets, earrings, headdresses, cosmetics, bedding, headscarves, stockings, tea sets and sewing boxes. . . . Gifts from the woman to the man: leather shoes, belts, wallets, ties, clothes (suits), socks, watches, cuff links, tie clips, razors, hats and shirts. . . . Wait a minute.
Small order: select new banknotes circled on red paper, with large quantity and small order.
Gold ornaments: gold rings, bracelets, necklaces or diamond necklaces and diamond rings. . . . Wait a minute.
Second, modern engagement gifts.
1. Gifts that men should prepare
Hire money
Gold ornaments (rings, bracelets, necklaces, etc.) ) and watches
Gift cake
Four-color sugar (orange cake, winter melon candy, rock candy and candy), tea, a pair of dragon and phoenix candles, a pair of incense sticks, a pair of ancestral paper and a pair of dragon and phoenix cannons.
Drink offering (a bottle of wine, a hand-washing chicken)
2 meters, Fuyuan, Tangzai Road, a box of flowers with heads, half a pig (or eighteen or thirty-six foreign hams), six bundles of noodles and twenty-four bottles of good wine.
Gifts for the woman (clothes, purses, shoes. . . . Wait a minute. )
Banquet ceremony (table pressing ceremony)
Matchmaker ceremony
According to local customs, you can prepare separately:
Chef ceremony: Chef ceremony
Service end ceremony
Toilet utensils: water ceremony at the washbasin
Carrying instruments: welcome.
Card issuing: makeup ceremony
Tea holding appliance
Feeding ceremony: thank you for your kindness in raising children.
Sedan chair instrument: a gift for the bride to get on the sedan chair.
Waiwaicai: A chicken, a pork and a squid.
2. Gifts that women should prepare
Gift giving: Help the woman give the red envelope to the man who received the gift.
Timothée Chalamet
Tangyuan and snacks
A banquet for this man's guests.
Five grain seeds, raw charcoal, wick, cotton, broken bags, brown sugar, lead money, lead powder, abdomen circumference.
A pot of pomegranate and a pot of osmanthus.
Gifts (shoes, belts, wallets) were returned to the man. . . . Wait a minute. )
Matchmaker ceremony
Appointment procedure >>
Usually, "engagement" focuses on the customs and habits of the woman, while "marriage" focuses on the customs and habits of the man. In modern times, it is mostly agreed by both men and women through consultation. The following are general customs, which can be increased or decreased according to actual needs or local customs.
On the day of engagement, the man put "engagement gifts" in two, six or twelve mahogany boxes, with six people, ten people or twelve people. After the convoy was loaded, he shot at the woman's house.
The man's motorcade fired a gun about 100 meters in front of the woman's house, and the woman also fired a gun in response.
The matchmaker got off first, and the rest got off one after another. Finally, the younger generation (male) of the bride opens the door and lets the groom wash his hands and wipe his face. The groom-to-be gives the groom a red envelope gift.
The man's staff will give the gift (red wooden box) to the woman's gift porter.
The man's relatives and friends entered the woman's house in turn.
The elder of the woman greets the relatives and friends of the man to be seated according to their age, and the prospective groom is next.
After sitting down, the matchmaker formally introduces the relatives and friends of both parties, first introduces the relatives and friends of the man to the woman (the groom-to-be introduces them last), and then introduces the relatives and friends of the woman to the man.
After the gift display is ready, the matchmaker will give the size, gold ornaments and gift points to the woman's parents.
The woman's relatives and friends put away the gifts and displayed the sacrifices on the altar, ready to worship the woman's ancestors.
The bride-to-be holds a tea tray in both hands (several cups of sweet tea are placed on it, depending on the number of men), and the lucky (lucky) woman (or her elder) helps her out of the hall, offering tea to her relatives and friends (from young to old, the groom-to-be is the last) and quitting the hall (bowing to her relatives and friends when she leaves the hall).
The man's relatives and friends will drink the sweet tea and put the red envelope in the cup.
The bride-to-be goes out to collect tea cups (the process is the same as tea worship).
After tea, then "wear an engagement ring" (hang your fingers); Tie the gold ring and the copper ring together with a red line, indicating that the husband and wife are the same body or change to a diamond ring.
The woman prepared a high chair and a low chair.
The bride-to-be takes a seat, facing the living room door, and sits with her feet on the low chair.
The groom-to-be stands on the right of the bride-to-be and faces the bride-to-be.
The bride-to-be holds out her right hand, and the groom-to-be holds the ring in her right hand and puts it in the middle finger of the bride-to-be's right hand (cooperate with the photographer before putting it in).
The groom-to-be holds out his left hand, and the bride-to-be holds the ring in her right hand and puts it in the middle finger of the groom-to-be's left hand (cooperate with the photographer before putting it in).
The groom-to-be gives the bride-to-be a red envelope gift.
After putting on the engagement ring, the matchmaker takes the groom-to-be to change the address to the elder, parents and relatives of the woman one by one, and the bride-to-be changes the address to the elder, parents and relatives of the man one by one.