First, frequently asked questions.
1. Who should propose the first meeting?
Usually, it is the man's proposal. Of course, after the two decided to meet privately, the man's parents formally proposed to meet again.
2. What is the main task of the first meeting?
After they decide to get married, they can arrange for their parents to meet. Apart from getting to know each other, they mainly want to discuss marriage.
3. How to choose a suitable meeting place?
If two people are in the same city, they can stay in a restaurant recognized by their local elders. If two people are in different places, usually the parents of the man come to visit the parents of the city where the woman lives, you can open a restaurant with good reputation or reputation in the woman's place.
4. Who needs to attend the meeting? Do you want to bring relatives?
Generally speaking, it is not recommended to bring relatives. Although the atmosphere may be good, both sides will exercise restraint. It is suggested that parents of both sides meet their children and bring grandparents at most.
5. What's your name when you meet?
Parents usually don't change their minds when they meet for the first time. Younger students can call each other's parents: uncles and aunts. Parents can call each other: XX father and XX mother, according to local customs. If the two sides are familiar with each other, they can also be called in-laws directly.
6. Do parents give red envelopes when they meet for the first time?
If this is the first time for a child to meet the other parent, or if he has not given a red envelope before, then parents can prepare a red envelope for the other child. If you have given it before, you won't give it this time.
7. Do you need a gift? What should I send?
It is basic etiquette for children to prepare gifts for their parents.
8. What did parents talk about when they first met?
(1) Chat at home and get to know each other.
Tell me about this bride price, dowry and related customs.
③ Talking about wedding preparations.
④ Talking about the RV and the future life of the couple.
9. Who will pay for the meal?
If they are in the same city, the man usually pays the bill. If the man's parents go to the woman's side, the woman usually pays the bill. Of course, in order to avoid embarrassment and contradiction, the younger generation can settle accounts directly, and don't let parents settle accounts.
Second, how to spend it happily?
1. When meeting, children should be fully prepared.
Introduce each other's basic information to parents, such as occupation, temperament, hobbies, taboos, etc. , to prevent chatting. Praise each other's parents in front of their parents, so that parents have a good impression on each other's family and chat will be more enjoyable.
2. Visit more and greet each other's parents.
Let the other parents recognize you and like you, so that they will be friendly to your parents when they meet, and no matter what they talk about, it will be smoother. When meeting, children should introduce their parents first. Parents are advised to start with talkative people. If parents are talkative, they can start the topic by themselves. If both sides are not talkative, their children can start a conversation.
3. How to chat without embarrassment?
There is no need to talk about details. The more detailed the discussion, the easier it is to have opinions. Therefore, when meeting, it is good for both parents to talk about the general direction and discuss the details of the wedding in private.
4. Topics that parents can talk about (you can communicate with your parents in advance).
You can talk about local attractions, characteristics and food in different places.
(2) Recent physical condition, health tips and life tips.
③ Their respective occupations, working conditions, past work experience, etc.
Hobbies, cooking, traveling and sharing.
(5) about their children's childhood fun, praise each other's children.
5. Remind parents what they haven't said.
Don't brag too much about yourself.
Don't over-raise or favor your children.
Don't underestimate your children too much.
(4) Don't belittle and criticize each other's children.
Third, how to talk about the appropriate bride price?
1, be sure to discuss it in advance.
If you want to meet happily, don't really discuss these things at the dinner table. You can communicate your parents' ideas with your own in advance, and then arrange a meeting after the two families reach an agreement, and then confirm things when they meet.
When meeting, it is best for the man to speak first.
It is best for the man to take the initiative to speak, because it is always bad for the woman to say it, and it is best to wait until the chat is over.
Remind parents not to say these words.
(1) If you change your mind temporarily, it will be very insincere and formal.
(2) Toughness is non-negotiable, which is the prelude to the collapse of the talks.
(3) Running away, threatening and intimidating are bound to annoy each other.
4. Don't talk about details.
The more detailed the discussion, the more likely it is to cause disputes, so when parents meet, just talk about the general direction, and the details of the wedding will be discussed in private. Then the questions that parents can communicate are:
How much is the bride price? How much is the dowry? Marriage customs of the two places.
② Do you need to get engaged? What is the general process?
(3) Wedding time, where and how many times?
The approximate budget of the wedding, what scale do you want to do, and how to pay?
Who will buy the RV, who will pay for it, and how to write the name?
Where to buy a house and where to live in the future?
Seeing that the situation is wrong, the child should mediate in time.
In case parents disagree, children must mediate in time.
Parents, uncles and aunts, let's eat first, the food is cold.
We'll talk about this later or at home. There's no hurry.
In short, children should not obviously help themselves or their parents, let alone express gratitude. Reach your own point of view and discuss any differences in private.
Fourth, the gift list.
For reference only:
Wine: Maotai, Wuliangye, Dream Blue, National Kiln, Red Wine.
Smoke: China, Su Yan, Yuxi, Yellow Crane Tower.
Tea: Pu 'er, Tieguanyin, Longjing and Jinjunmei.
Fruit: cherry, kiwi.
Health food: American ginseng, bird's nest, calcium tablets, protein powder, dietary fiber, ejiao jujube fish oil and honey.
Health care products: foot bath, massager, latex pillow, sphygmomanometer, health care pot, electric toothbrush.
Food gift boxes: nut gift boxes, pastry gift boxes, bacon gift boxes, miscellaneous grains gift boxes, lotus root starch cereal and other breakfast gift boxes.
Daily necessities: sweeping robot, window cleaning robot, wall-breaking machine, soymilk machine, electric shaver, dishwasher.
Clothing home textiles: silk scarves, warm clothes, cashmere scarves, down jackets.
Jewelry: jade bracelet, pearl necklace, pearl earrings.
Skin care and beauty: skin care suit, perfume, hand cream.