Women's clothes should be clean, especially not different. And if a dozen people are in the same place and one person's clothes are unique, can he walk and sit safely?

Women's clothes should be clean and tidy, and they must not be the same. If a dozen people stay together, and one of them is brightly dressed, everyone will focus on her. Can she sit and walk freely as usual?

On the low status of women in feudal society, they were regarded as accessories of men. The feudal etiquette system imposed various restrictions and requirements on women. This kind of "women's clothes and accessories are clean" is also a norm for women from the perspective of men. This is the product of that era. Modern society emphasizes "equality between men and women", and the "feminist movement" has already flourished around the world, and women have their own values as well as men. It also contributes to social development. In today's world, female prime ministers and ministers are not uncommon, and there are outstanding women in all walks of life. It can be said that "gender equality" is the embodiment of social development and human progress.

What people want, they should follow the etiquette.

The original diet, what people want, can not be without it, not asking for it, is gluttonous; Men and women, what people want, but not without, if they don't care, it is rape and prostitution; Property is what people want, but they can't live without it. Unreasonable is a thief. If people only indulge in sex, disputes will arise and prison proceedings will prevail. The holy king thought so, so he took it as a ceremony to save people's diet and men and women; Make it justice to restrict people's taking and taking.

Gentlemen are the three, although they know what they want, but they dare not speak out of turn, and they dare to sprout in their hearts! The villain is the opposite. Diet is human's natural desire and indispensable. If you pursue unreasonably, it is gluttony. Men's and women's affairs are people's instinctive desires, and they are indispensable. If you use unreasonable means to meet your needs, it is adultery; Property, which everyone wants, is indispensable. If you get property by illegal means, you become a thief. If people just want to indulge their desires, they will cause disputes and will inevitably go to court. Considering these problems, the ancient holy king formulated etiquette to control people's diet and the relationship between men and women, and formulated morality to limit people's access to property. Although a gentleman knows that he needs food, men and women, and property, he dare not express it, let alone have delusions! Villain is just the antonym of gentleman.

Comment on this principle "propriety and righteousness control the leisure of desire", that is to say, propriety and righteousness are the basic principles to limit people's various desires. The author admits that "diet", "men and women" and "property" are the basic desires of human beings, just like the ancients said "eating habits". These desires are indispensable for human survival, but if we indulge in the pursuit of desires and satisfy them through unreasonable means, we will do illegal things. Feudal society is a society of absolute monarchy, unlike today's legal society, which uses various laws to maintain the basic relationship between people and maintain social stability. Feudal society has a set of etiquette norms suitable for feudal rule, which use moral power to limit people's behavior. Feudal etiquette is a code of conduct that everyone in feudal society should abide by. It is the moral standard of society. People's satisfaction with various desires must conform to this norm, otherwise, they will be condemned and punished.

You can't get wealth and color.

The original sage said: seeing desire makes the heart not chaotic. This is the most convenient requirement. Beggars swallow when they see food, stare when they see beautiful women, and get what they want when they see money. This is inevitable unless they make up their minds. As long as we can get to the bottom of it and ignore it, there is no delusion, and there is no action without delusion.

The sage said, "If you don't look at what may arouse your desire, you won't feel confused.".

This is the secret of saving a lot of trouble. Generally speaking, people will swallow their saliva when they see good food, stare at beautiful women, and see money will arouse greed. If they are not determined people, this is inevitable. Only when we can completely cut off the root of greed and turn a blind eye to it will we not have delusions. Without delusions, we will not make mistakes in these things.

The comment "If you can't see what you want, you won't be confused" is actually a passive escape thought. The world is rich and colorful. It is natural that food, beauty and wealth can arouse people's desires. These things are everywhere in the world and make our life better. They are not the root of evil in themselves. Besides, how can you turn a blind eye to these things? It's only self-deception to say that you turn a blind eye. There are so many things that can arouse desire in the world that mistakes are inevitable. In order to prevent people from being confused by things that can arouse their desires and doing things they shouldn't do, on the one hand, we should strengthen ideological and moral education and improve people's ideological and moral awareness, on the other hand, we should strengthen the construction of the rule of law and improve people's legal awareness, so that people can consciously act according to law and regulate their behavior with laws. It can also be seen from this quotation that people in feudal society have almost no legal concept, emphasize self-cultivation and think that high moral cultivation can cut off all kinds of desires and people will not be at fault. It can be seen that moral power plays a very important role in human behavior norms in feudal society.

One can't be lost and greedy.

Some children in the original text indulge themselves and forget to return. As for those who have no regrets when their families are ruined, the cover begins with hard work. If there is nothing to see, they can't see through it, so they can't go back.

Some of these children are addicted to lust, so they get lost. They ruin their family business and don't know how to repent. These people all wanted to try at first, but because they didn't have knowledge in their hearts and couldn't see through the consequences of doing so, they developed to an irreparable level.

Comment on Feng Menglong's Warning Story and Du Shiniang's Wrath Box. Although Du Shiniang was born as a prostitute, she was affectionate, righteous, courageous and knowledgeable, and she was already tired of the life of a prostitute. I entrusted my life to my lover Li Jia. After many twists and turns, I finally escaped from Yanhua Lane and went home by boat with angel lee. However, this Li Jia entrusted by Du Shiniang for life is not a loyal and reliable person. He is a playboy, who lives in Shaoxing, Zhejiang, and is also a family of officials. During the Wanli period, the imperial court allowed officials' children to pay for food and rice to enter universities in Beijing, so that they could get it in the imperial examinations. Li Jia also took the opportunity to come to Beijing to become a Guo-zi-jian diploma in imperial academy. But he didn't concentrate on his studies and had sex with Du Shiniang, a famous prostitute in Beijing. Li Jiaben is a playboy, and Du Shiniang is a genius like you. They fell in love at first sight and hit it off. Since then, Li Jiahua has lived in a brothel for a long time with a huge sum of money, and lived with Du Shiniang all day long. Although they are clients and prostitutes, like lovers, they never change their minds. Time flies, the sun and the moon fly, I think it's less than a year. Angel lee can't afford such expenses, and her money is getting less and less. Mrs. Brothel is getting cold to him. Father Li Buzheng heard that his son was addicted to brothels at home, and wrote several times to ask him to come back, but he was obsessed with Du Shiniang's beauty and only stayed in brothels. Later, he heard that his father was angry and even more afraid to go back. So that Li Jia was penniless later, Mrs. Brothel just wanted to kick him out. Knowing that he had no money, she promised him to redeem Du Shiniang with three hundred and twenty pieces of silver. Li Jia and Du Shiniang lent money to the procuress. Du Shiniang is free. So they took a boat back to their hometown in Jiangnan, and when they landed at Guazhou Ferry, they met Sun Fu, a rich son. Sun Fu's soul shook when he saw Du Shiniang's beauty. Bad heart. Invite Li Jia to drink on the shore, and gradually find out the ins and outs of Li Jia and Du Shiniang. Grasping angel lee's psychology of bringing prostitutes home, I'm afraid she won't be tolerated by her family, pretending to be sincere and willing to talk to lee, pointing out the serious consequences of bringing prostitutes home, and willing to trade her daughter for Du Shiniang. Angel lee is originally a frivolous prodigal son without ideas. After listening to Sun Fu's words, he was moved to forget his friendship. He sold Du Shiniang.

Du Shiniang spent a long time in fireworks, accumulating thousands of gold and silver jewels and hiding them in boxes. I thought of polishing Li Jia's clothes at home to please my parents. Now I heard that angel lee was ungrateful and sold herself. It's really painful, but I'm helpless Throw the jewels in the box into the river one by one in front of the onlookers, Li Jia and Sun Fu, and denounce Li Jia for ingratitude. Scold: "I have jade in my rafters, and I hate that Lang has no pearl in his eyes." I am not responsible for my husband, he is responsible for my ears! "Holding the treasure chest, he jumped into the river and died.

The tragedy in Du Shiniang is pitiful. And that fickle son Li Jia loves beauty mercilessly and has been reviled for hundreds of years.

Children should make friends properly.

The world is worried about children's blood gas, and the game of wine and color can confuse their hearts. If they find that they have lost their virginity and lost their family, they will be locked up at home, and it is forbidden to make friends, resulting in their ignorance and ignorance. As we all know, this is not a good policy. If you are forbidden to take precautions, your feelings will be opened and can't be extinguished like fire. What's the difference between living at home, being careless and being mysterious? If you don't come in and out often, you should make friends with them. Although you are familiar with corruption, you can see through it and you will be ashamed not to do it. If you try, you won't be stupid or vulgar, and you won't be influenced by villains.

Some people in the world think that young people, insufficient blood gas, who are underage and addicted to alcohol and gambling will disturb their minds, so that their morals will be ruined and their family business will be destroyed. So keep young children at home, keep them out, cut off from the outside world, and make these young children ignorant and heartless. Do you know this is not a good policy? Once the discipline of these children is relaxed, the lust of these children will erupt, like wildfire, which cannot be extinguished. Besides, you shut them up at home, do nothing all day, and secretly do something you shouldn't do. What's the difference between this and letting them out? It is better to let them go out on time and tell them to be careful in making friends. They can see what they shouldn't do, and they must know they are ashamed and won't do such a thing. Even if you try to do such a thing, you won't be stupid and mean, and you will be completely fooled by the villain.

This paper analyzes Yuan Cai's wrong practice of keeping young people at home and isolated from social circles because he is worried that their young children will catch bad habits in the process of interacting with others, and points out that this practice is not desirable and young people should interact with others. Just be careful in communication, so that young people can broaden their horizons and increase their experience, so that they can distinguish between good and bad in communication and are not easily deceived. Yuan Cai's educational principles for teenagers are also worth learning today.

Parents in modern society attach great importance to children's education, but they are also troubled by some problems, such as dealing with children's communication. Some parents are afraid that their children will go out to learn bad things from others, strictly restrict their children from going out and keep them at home, thinking that they will be put in the safe. In fact, these parents ignore the role of normal social interaction in the healthy growth of their children. Every child will go to the society and participate in social life in the future. If they want to adapt to this complicated and changeable society, they need to have normal communication. Parents should teach their children how to communicate with others and what problems to pay attention to when interacting with others. Guiding children to associate with people with good moral cultivation can help children establish a correct outlook on life and world. Parents can warn their children who they can't associate with through some unhealthy phenomena in society or combined with their own experiences and lessons. In the process of interacting with people, children can constantly improve their ability to distinguish right from wrong, cultivate a correct view of right and wrong, enhance their social skills, and lay a good foundation for children to step into society. If children are kept at home blindly, it does reduce the possibility of poor study, but it is also easy for children to lack a correct concept of right and wrong, form a withdrawn character, and become unable to communicate with others and adapt to society after entering society. The consequences are terrible.

Worry at home.

Although entrepreneurs are rich, they are worried day and night, and they are inevitably hungry and cold. The son of a broken family, his troubles disappear day by day, and he is arrogant and self-indulgent, which means "no more troubles." As the saying goes, "the lucky one is unlucky, and the murderer is unlucky", its efficacy is universal before he is strong and old, and before his death, people who know him should be self-evident.

After accumulating wealth, people who get married and start a family will be on tenterhooks every day, fearing that they will be hungry and cold in the future; People who have lost everything have gradually reduced their wealth, but they still act with dignity and say, "There is nothing to worry about in the future." This is the saying that "blessed people regard happiness as an unfortunate thing, while unhappy people regard misfortune as a good thing". This sentence is often fulfilled when a person is not mature, but not old, or old and not dead. A knowledgeable person should understand this truth by himself.

Analysis of entrepreneurs know that it is difficult to start a business, so they are conscientious, diligent, self-denying and dedicated, and are bent on making the family business flourish. I don't know that the future generations are mostly unscrupulous people. I don't know that my ancestors had a hard time starting a business, enjoying the success and being extravagant. In the end, they often end up in ruin. Although the four Jia Xue families in A Dream of Red Mansions are in their heyday, they are known as the "home of poetry and propriety", but their descendants are mostly idle and indulgent. Xue Pan, the son of the Xue family, lost his father in his childhood. He was spoiled by his mother and indulged in luxury. He spoke haughtily. Although he went to school for a few days, he didn't know many words. He fights cocks all day and travels everywhere. Although he is an imperial businessman, he knows nothing about business operations. Because of grandpa's old mutual affection, he hung a pseudonym in the Ministry of Housing and Urban-Rural Development, and all the affairs were handled by his family. But when these family members saw that Xue Pan was a useless man, they began to practice favoritism and malpractice, and their business gradually collapsed. Xue Pan, who calls himself a bully, has always run amok by financial resources.

After seeing a winning streak, he even ordered Haonu to kill Feng Yuan, the former buyer. He didn't take killing seriously. He went to Beijing with his mother and sister. After entering Beijing, he still kept his bad habit and indulged in pleasure every day. Later, he was prosecuted for life and sentenced to exile.

Most of the descendants of Jia Jia and Rong Ning are black sheep. Jia She forced the stone idiot to death for twenty fans, so people in their sixties and seventies had to marry the maid Yuanyang around the old lady as a concubine. There is no sense of proper limit, justice and shame at all. Jia, Rong and others only know how to indulge in pleasure. Eating, drinking, whoring and gambling are all bad, and Nuoda's ancestral property has also made them squander it.

You can't slack off if you have money.

People who start from the original text think that their wisdom is so brilliant when they see that everything they do is unsatisfactory, but they don't know that their fate is accidental, ambitious and greedy. He thinks he can be lonely for a long time and can't be destroyed. Didn't the creator smile? Those who cover up their own destruction, or those who have been born in their own homes, say, children and grandchildren, standing by their side day and night, they will be troublesome to their ancestors and hate them for not seeing them. The predecessors built the first house, and the caterer said to Dong Xian, "The person who built the house." The children at the banquet said in Xi' an, "People who sell houses." The consequences are as they say. Modern scholars once said: "What is visible to the eyes is managed by Mana; People who can't see with eyes don't have to worry. " This knowledgeable gentleman knows that people can't do it, and he is generous in his chest, just like a person who covers his fans.

The founder of the family business thinks that his wisdom is very clever when he sees that nothing he has done is unsatisfactory. I didn't know that my success was an accident of fate. I am complacent, greedy and dissatisfied. Can the creator not laugh at the idea that family businesses can flourish forever and cannot be corrupted? Those who ruined their family business were born in their home, either sons or grandchildren. Standing beside him every day are people who will one day destroy the family business founded by their parents and grandparents. Unfortunately, their parents and grandparents can't see these people go bankrupt. In the past, someone built a mansion and hosted a banquet for craftsmen in the east wing, saying, "This is the man who built the mansion." Banquet for children in the west wing, saying, "These people will sell their houses in the future." What happened later really came true. Recently, a scholar-bureaucrat said: "If you can see it, take care of it slowly;" If you can't see it, you don't have to plan and consider it. " This is because a knowledgeable person knows that some things are beyond human power, so his mind is relaxed and stable, which is of course different from those who are secretive and confused.

Comment on everything has a process of occurrence, development and extinction. So is a family. When ancestors started their business, they were smooth sailing and prosperous, thinking that they could be safe forever. However, things don't always go well, even a huge family business sometimes declines.

Jia Jiazu in A Dream of Red Mansions was the first to make meritorious military service, and was named Ning Gong and Rong Gong. Over the past 100 years, the family has been rich, and the children and grandchildren have enjoyed all the splendor, all of which are rich and indulgent. This huge family gradually degenerated from the inside, and finally it was ransacked, and the trees fell apart. Take Wang Xifeng as an example. In Jia family, she is highly valued by Jia family and Mrs. Wang. She has always been clever, flattering her superiors, bullying her subordinates, and doing everything in cheat people killed her. At that time, servants in both houses were flattering her. Her scenery was incomparable, but in the end she ended up with a tragic fate of "too clever to count her life" and died in her thirties.

In "Jin Ping Mei", Ximen Qing married five wives, was rich in millions, got the official position, was rich and powerful, and dominated one party. But later, too much sex, Ximen Qing, lost her life and her family business declined. Some of her daughter-in-law remarried others, some were sold to the government and even became prostitutes. The only son was also instructed by the monk to become a monk and pay his debts. How quickly Ximen Qing's family has changed!

During the period of absolute monarchy, the founding monarchs of past dynasties knew that it was not easy to start a business, so they were able to work hard, work hard, be diligent and love the people, and do some practical things for the people. Therefore, all dynasties generally presented a prosperous scene at the beginning of the founding of the People's Republic of China. Later emperors were greedy for pleasure, extravagant and extravagant, and had long forgotten the hardships of their ancestors' entrepreneurship, which made the people miserable. So it was replaced by a new dynasty. China's feudal society for thousands of years advanced in the rise and fall of various dynasties.

It is wise to live within our means.

People who start from the original text are easy to get promoted, build food utensils and make good or bad luck. The scale is shallow and narrow, and it still follows the old system, so there are more days than sunrises, so there are often surpluses. The son of a rich family is prone to capsize and break, cover the tableware and pay for good or ill luck. The scale is huge, but he still uses the old one. His property is divided into several portals, and the cost has doubled. How can children support those who can save money, lose money quickly and don't understand? The ancients said that "from frugality to extravagance is easy, from extravagance to frugality is difficult", which is what it is called. It is especially difficult to keep a home in big noble. Although idle and cold, but the salary is also rich, and there are many legacies. Before the people who do it are full, they are all given by the counties. Although their eating utensils are extremely luxurious, their expenses are not out of family wealth. Those who are caught behind him without the previous day's salary or inheritance will have to pay their daily expenses. What's more, there are several, and the cost is still the same. Is it not broken? This is logical, and it is appropriate for every child to measure festivals.

Family entrepreneurs can accumulate more and more wealth because they are frugal in food, clothing, housing and transportation, as well as in the management of weddings, funerals and various daily expenses. They follow the rules before they become rich and never waste money. So they always earn more money than they spend every day, so they always have a surplus. Rich children are prone to bankruptcy, because they spend too much on clothes, food, utensils and appliances, and the scale of weddings and funerals is too large, so they always follow the old system, and several brothers divide the property, so the daily expenses have increased several times than before. Some children can save money and make long-term plans. I'm afraid it is too late. Besides, some children haven't realized it yet. How do they support their family business? The ancients said, "It's easy to be frugal, but difficult to be frugal." That's the truth. Powerful people can't guarantee that their descendants will never ruin their family business. When they are in high positions, even if they are not in charge of key departments, the state will provide them with very rich gifts and money. There are so many servants in front, and the expenses are provided by state and county officials. Although their clothes, food, utensils and appliances are extremely extravagant, those expenses are not paid by their own property. When the descendants of these powerful people, there is no generous supply allocated by the state when their parents and grandparents became officials, and there is no money and gifts given by others. The salaries of officers and servants and all kinds of expenses needed for daily life must be paid from their own property. And later generations divided the family into many families, and the expenses were still the same as in the past. How can we not lose everything? This is also the inevitable trend of the situation. Children should live within their means and manage their families diligently.

Comments on everyone, small families, we must live within our means, not too extravagant, in order to maintain the prosperity of the family business. If there is a lack of calculation and extravagance in daily life, even if the family is rich for a long time, it will be unable to make ends meet, and the decline of the family business is inevitable. Throughout the ages, such examples are numerous.

The Jia family in A Dream of Red Mansions, with the hereditary title of ancestors, has been passed down from generation to generation. Wear silk brocade, use gold, silver and jade articles, eat delicacies, drink and eat meat every day, listen to songs and sing operas, and socialize extremely luxuriously. Qin Keqing is just Jia's granddaughter. She died young, and the funeral was so grand and luxurious. Just because Jia Rong has no official position, in order to look good on his face, he spent 1220 silver to buy a vacancy of dragon captain, so that he could look good when he wrote it on Fan Lingjing's list. A funeral, Zhang Yangyang for a whole month, spent countless money. Jia Jianing and Guo Rong have nearly a thousand servants, all rich and powerful people, who are extremely extravagant. The truth came out only after being raided by the Royal Guards. Jia Zheng looked at the income and expenditure accounts over the years and found that "the income and expenditure accounts can't make ends meet, the government spends money year after year, and many accounts are borrowed." "Look at the land rent in the Eastern Province. In recent years, it has been paid less than half of that of our ancestors, and now it is ten times more than that of our ancestors." After reading it, Jia Zheng stamped his feet and said, "Great! I think Lianer is in charge, but she has her own control at home. I'm afraid I've spent many years in the lunar year, but I still pretend to look good and regard serving the world as a trivial matter. Why can't I be unbeaten? It is too late for me to save money now. " The Jia family, a big family with hereditary titles in feudal society, lived beyond their means, managed the family diligently, gradually degenerated from within the family, and finally came to a sad end. In our small family in modern society, it is even more important to live within our means in order to maintain family harmony and happiness.