Being praised in life is a particularly beautiful thing. But it would be a pity if you didn't seize the opportunity of praise after being praised. I'm telling you, this is no small matter. This is the subtlety of social communication, which is very important.

In other words, you don't catch others' compliments verbally, but just say: thank you; No, no; Where where; Make persistent efforts; Modest and cautious pleasantries, and so on. The result is often: the topic can't go on; The other party feels embarrassed; You blur your sense of self-identity; You deny others' cognition; There will be less and less positive feedback in the future.

This is the embodiment of social estrangement and unhealthy communication between people. When others praise you, they actually give you a good opportunity to deepen your feelings. If you miss the opportunity, in the long run, not only will there be fewer and fewer friends, but you may also miss some opportunities. So, what should we do?

Please remember an In-sister praise formula: repetition of egoism+insight of altruism ≥ win-win emotional value.

What do you mean? That is to say, use the content praised by the other party+obvious advantage from the other party = a complete boasting content, and use * * * to get more joy value.

For example, a friend who is a jewelry brand praised me and said, "Wow, Sister In, you are so beautifully dressed today!"

We began to apply this formula: egoistic repetition+altruistic insight ≥ win-win emotional value.

"Really? Am I dressed beautifully today? Thank you! " You see, egoism is repeated, and self-confidence is emphasized again through other people's praise quotations. Well, the altruistic insight should appear: "I will be happy all day if you praise me for my unique vision and high taste!" " "You see, the courtesy of social etiquette is reflected. He praised you, and you not only affirmed his affirmation, but also praised and affirmed him from the perspective of extension.

This kind of dialogue not only reflects the high emotional intelligence of the praised person, but also is especially sincere and not hypocritical. He praised your beautiful clothes, you praised him for seeing beautiful things, he had a unique vision, he paid a compliment, and you made him pay for nothing. You are all expressing truthfully, and the exchange experience is pleasant and win-win.

Have you learned? If you haven't learned it yet, try praisIng Sister In in the comments section to see how Sister In praised you for coming back. Pay attention to cherish, your sister is here, and you will become strong.