Even without Liang Sicheng, Xu Zhimo and Qian Zhongshu, Lin is still Lin, because her beauty and talent are remembered by the world. On the contrary, without Zhang Ailing, Hu Lancheng is not worth mentioning.
Another woman, one year younger than Lin and six years older than Lin, is little known by future generations. This is Yan Youyun, a famous family in Shanghai.
Yan Youyun's grandfather Yan Xinhou is Li Hongzhang's staff. He opened several spinning mills, flour mills and oil mills in Ningbo and Shanghai. He was the first person to introduce modern machines into the factory in China, and he was also a major businessman in the southeast of China.
Father Yanzi is the only son of his grandfather and inherits his grandfather's legacy. Mother Yang is my father's second wife. Love peace, not sociable, like classical novels, poetry, sericulture, goldfish, jewelry collection and travel.
My father is very concerned about his family, especially his daughter. He is generous and versatile. My mother is gentle and filial, knowledgeable and emotional, and she is an indisputable quiet woman. Even if parents quarrel, they never quarrel in front of their children.
There is no doubt that Yan Youyun had a happy childhood.
19 19, 14-year-old Yan Youyun studied in Tianjin Girls' Middle School and entered Shanghai Hujiang University at the age of 20. Because of the strict school rules, she transferred to Fudan in her junior year and became the first girl in Fudan.
At that time, the tailor went home every day and had new clothes every day. He never wears the same clothes twice. Every child in the family has his own wet nurse, every adult has his own maid, and every small family has its own chef.
The house I live in is quite magnificent, extending to half a block around Jing 'an Temple and the whole Di Feng Road block. There are more than 80 people in a family of four generations, all supported by their fathers.
When traveling, there are private drivers and co-drivers. Because they entered the campus in a luxury car with brand number 84, the students were envious, so they were called "Miss 84".
Yan Youyun likes tennis, volleyball, skating and swimming, and often eats, watches movies and rides horses with friends.
No matter from the aspects of food, clothing, housing, entertainment and learning, this is a thoroughly good girl.
Eighteen-year-old Yan Youyun seriously told her mother about her views on marriage: "The future husband should not only win my admiration, but also be someone I respect. It doesn't matter whether he is rich or not. "
Yang Guanghao, a 20-year-old Tsinghua graduate, received a doctorate in international law and political science from Princeton University at the age of 24, a 27-year-old professor of political science in Tsinghua, an adviser to the Foreign Ministry of Beiyang Government, and a 28-year-old special correspondent of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs in Shanghai. Easy-going, sociable, love to play tennis, love to dance, take good care of younger brothers and sisters.
Yang Guangling's conditions can not only meet the two "necessities" of Yan Youyun's marriage view, but also have a good family background and pursue her crazily. A talented young man, a noble family and a beautiful girl from Fudan University, their combination is a godsend.
The nature of a diplomat's job is to move from one country to another every few years. After marriage, Yan Youyun assumed the duties of a diplomat's wife and went overseas with her husband. Three years, from London to Geneva, from Geneva to Paris, from Paris to London to Geneva, and finally back to China. In just three years, I have moved five or six times. Every time you go to a country, you need to rent a house and recruit servants and chefs.
In the past three years, I have changed from a princess who has no worries about food and clothing to a "housekeeper" who manages housework, recruits and trains servants, guides chefs and plans and presides over many parties. Yan Youyun, a wife and mother for the first time, managed all this in an orderly way and lived a happy life.
194 1 year, Japan bombed pearl harbor and declared war on the United States. Seven consuls in China, including Yang Guanghao, were killed by Japanese troops. Yan Youyun and three daughters were left behind. At the age of 36, she has to take up the duties of the consul general's wife, not only to take care of her daughter, but also to appease the wives and children of other consuls. The quarrels of wives, the illness of children, the exhaustion of savings and anxiety have reduced her weight to 4 1 kg.
Later, she organized her wives to grow vegetables, beans, chickens and pigs. With the help of many overseas Chinese, she bravely survived the war with her wife and children.
During the period of 1946, the salary and savings reissued by my late husband could no longer support the family's life, so I found a job as a "concierge" under the recommendation of Victor Hoo Chi-tsai. Yan Youyun hardly gets up early before marriage, but Yan Youyun is never late for work.
Before entering the United Nations, Yan Youyun had never worked formally, but the experience of the diplomat's wife gave her confidence. Her emotional intelligence is high, and she soon figured out the essentials of her work. In this way, I enjoyed working in the United Nations for thirteen and a half years.
1959, Yan Youyun and Gu Weijun got married in Mexico City. Gu Weijun's experience and personality naturally satisfied the two "musts" in her view of marriage when she was young.
After marriage, Yan Youyun can finally completely end the life of moving every few years. After settling down, Yan Youyun has always been centered on her husband. She said, "I like to take pictures of Gu Weijun wholeheartedly, making him healthier, more comfortable and happier. I believe Wei Jun will live a more moist life under my care."
Prepare him a cup of hot lemonade in the morning, soup, biscuits and bread at three or four in the afternoon, and a cup of Iowa and some snacks at eleven or twelve in the evening. Let him have enough time to read, think and do oral history research.
Yan Youyun is Gu Weijun's fourth wife and his favorite. Besides, she gets along well with his children.
Gu Weijun's daughter JuZhen wrote:
Dearest young rhyme:
1985, Gu Weijun died peacefully at the age of 97.
In his later years, Yan Youyun not only witnessed the satisfactory career and life of his children, but also helped many children to gain a foothold and succeed in the United States. Over the years, she still lives happily.
1992, the girl died of colorectal cancer, which made her unhappy for a while.
In 2003, I got colorectal cancer, had an operation, finished the operation, went home to recuperate five days later, and left the disease behind. A few months later, she danced with the doctor who operated on her at the birthday party. That year, she was 98 years old, wearing makeup and high heels.
1. You can enjoy happiness or suffer hardships.
Although Yan Youyun has not left any impressive works in all walks of life, she was raised by her parents both materially and spiritually, and has a correct outlook on life and values. She can not only enjoy the rich life in Beloved, but also endure the poor life of self-reliance during the war.
Whether suffering exercises or destroys the will depends on the quality of the suffering people. He who can't bear suffering can't bear luck. People with good quality can bear both great hardships and great luck.
Don't dwell on the past, look forward.
Looking at "One Hundred and Nine Springs: My Story" dictated by Wan Yan Xiaoyun, she always mentioned that she was very happy. It seems that she has been out of trouble all her life.
Actually, on second thought, not really. Yang Guanghao was killed; Displaced during the war; Children get sick one after another; Gu Weijun's death; The third daughter died of cancer; I was diagnosed with colorectal cancer ... any of these incidents is a great blow to the relevant personnel. Yan Youyun is always optimistic, although painful, but not exaggerated.
People who know the value of pain will not easily reveal and show their pain to others.
Therefore, when many people dwell on the past and sigh that "life is like seeing for the first time", Yan Youyun is thinking about how to create a better future.
3. Have wisdom, love and a sense of mission
Yan Youyun always said, "In my life, no matter what difficulties I encounter, I always think that someone will lend a helping hand, and it is indeed the case." She said that there were many noble people in her life, but she didn't know that she was a noble person among many people.
The most admirable thing about Yan Youyun's life is her upbringing. When getting along with others, she can always consider problems from the perspective of others, which makes people very comfortable.
"Let others feel happy because of her existence", perhaps this is the extraordinary place of Yan Youyun.
Wisdom, love and sense of mission, it is this big pattern that makes her elegant for a whole century.