Perhaps, the essence of life is to wait alone, and no one can borrow happiness from others, so loneliness is always the only sadness on the road of love. But perhaps, as Jiang Xun mentioned in his six speeches about loneliness, "Loneliness is different from loneliness. Loneliness will panic, but loneliness is full. "
First, wait alone, wait for the person you love.
/kloc-when he was 0/7 years old, Chen Wen wrote a list of his dream lovers, which was full of all his requirements for the other half. It was not until Liu Rong appeared that he suddenly realized.
Hugo said, "Is a man born twice? Yes, for the first time, it was on the day when people began to live; The second time was on the day when love was born. "
From the beginning of understanding love, people are waiting alone for someone who is willing to give love. The form of fate may be childhood friends, love at first sight, love at first sight, or everlasting, but no one can interfere with our love, and no one can really fiddle with who we meet and who we will be moved by. It can be said that love means loneliness from the beginning, and everyone has to take it one step at a time. Some people wait for many people they want to love all their lives, while others only wait for that one person all their lives.
But the reality is cruel, and waiting alone is not pure. Those bejeweled and talented people wait alone, just killing some time; And those ordinary people whose wallets are barely full in their trouser pockets don't have much charm to rely on, and the lonely wait becomes long. There is a singing set downstairs in the girls' dormitory, holding a tape recorder to send candy rings and saying, "I've decided to give you something you won't forget." When you think about it, it doesn't exist anymore. Just like my feelings for you, it will only melt in your heart. Even pretending to be rich and bring beautiful girls in front of the person you like is too tacky to try to make Liu Rong jealous, but this vulgarity is also full of secular sadness. You know, almost all unpretentious romances have to be smashed with money. When Chen Wen rushed to the jewelry store to buy a gold ring, he thought that Liu Rong "definitely liked it", but he lost to Daming who could buy more gold rings.
When we were young, we all made a list like Chen Wen, and then waited for the dream lover to appear in reality. But there are always few dream lovers, and even fewer people are willing to suffer for love. Therefore, in the face of love, many people either don't meet the person they love, or they can't catch it, or they slip away when they catch it. After all, a toss, and then wait alone.
Second, wait alone, waiting for a suitable person.
Waiting for someone you love is romanticism that succumbs to the heartbeat; Then waiting for someone who suits you is realism that compromises life.
There is nothing but the pursuit of Liu Rong, and I painfully understand that "there is no dream lover in the world, even if there is, maybe her characteristics and personality are not suitable for her at all." But I am sure that there must be a girl who suits me in this world. " But Liu Rong knew what she wanted from the beginning. She once said to Chen Wen, "Anyway, I believe in lightning love. But it depends on fate. I always feel that everyone will find someone who suits them. "
In love, too many people just want to have an OK husband/wife, so those who insist on waiting for the only thrill are really independent and brave.
Liu Rong's two responses in the film are a good footnote to her view of love. As mentioned above, Chen Wen gave Liu Rong a candy ring, but it was given under a very inappropriate situation. Chen Wen said, "I have long wanted to change other girls. If I were a girl, I would have fallen in love with me ",but Liu Rong thought," I am not another girl. What happened? You think you have done a lovely thing, so I must be crazy about you, don't you? " Once again, I met Liu Rong and Daming in the shopping mall, talking and laughing. Liu Rong said, "I misunderstood our relationship. We pursue different goals. I forgot, I am not rich. " Liu Rong responded angrily that he just wanted to live happily. "Life is not easy."
Admittedly, the role of Liu Rong is not pleasing. Probably because we are all used to the drama of love without desire and compromise for love, Liu Rong's naked material and selfishness stung some darkness in our hearts. Yes, is the love of "feeling enough to drink" worthy of praise? Did someone else do a little romantic pursuit, but also shed tears of joy? Should I be grateful to Dede for saying "I have loved you for a long time"? Love is your own, not to make a living to satisfy the touch of others.
It is not difficult to wait for love, but it is difficult to wait for a suitable person. People come and go around, seemingly lively, but in fact it can only be regarded as interpersonal communication in the name of love. Love itself can't make noise. Because we always experience the untimely loneliness of love alone, sometimes we have to resist the external pointing fingers, refuse to pester us with the logic of "I am so good to you, why do you do this to me", bear all the causes and effects of love alone, and then become invulnerable until we meet a suitable person, and the years are quiet.
Third, wait for a better self alone.
Love is a matter for two people, but in the final analysis, it is everyone's own growth experience. It is obviously unwise to do nothing and be indifferent before love comes. While waiting for love to visit us alone, it is the ultimate meaning that love can bring us to become better.
In Waiting Alone, Chen Wen's positive changes are reflected in his thoughts. There are two scenes in the movie-
First, Chen Wen 'ai wrote horror novels, but the editor of the publishing house repeatedly asked Chen Wen to revise his novels. At first, Chen Wen did everything, but he always got a "nonsense" from the other side. Chen Wen took the manuscript back from the editor for the last time and said, "It is impossible for everyone to like the same thing." Yes, why do you have to compromise yourself to adapt to other people's preferences? If love is a process of waiting alone, then at least let us wait with joy.
Another scene is love, love and love. This is also the reason why many people watched the film Waiting Alone in into the pit. Chen Wen was confused and dreamed that the square dance aunt was dancing in his room. After waking up, she jumped out of the window and smashed the drums of the aunts.
In fact, there are several scenes in the movie about Chen Wen being woken up by the aunt of the square dance, but only in this last scene, Chen Wen picked up the gun and stopped the noise. I think this is for Jing Li. "Sometimes you can't force the other person to love you. You can only be loved by others, and the rest depends on the other person." We will be upset because of one person, and our inner world will be completely chaotic, but the choice will always be in our own hands.
At first, Liu Rong wavered again and again. The first one just said to ignore Liu Rong, and Liu Rong got stuck with a phone call and a kiss. When Chen Wen and Liu Rong completely broke off relations, they didn't drink for a moment, and then there were tears on their faces. The happiness of two people is the result of love, but the waiting of one person can also be the flowering of love. The unconventional thing about Waiting Alone is that the screenwriter didn't write about getting rich overnight and came back to show off in front of Liu Rong. Instead, I went back to the antique shop in front of Liu Rong and told him that he broke up with Daming and wanted to be "friends" there. No one answered, "Rong, I don't hate you. I forgave you a long time ago." But I am not a substitute for anyone. "
Love in reality is not like some novels by Mary Su, in which the protagonist realizes the promotion of wealth and status after being disliked by his lover, but the experience of love will definitely make us invincible and have our own opinions.
Voltaire once wrote, "The noble component in love is no less than the gentle component, the upward force is no less than the weak force, and sometimes it can inspire other virtues."
I believe that each of us can become a better self in love. It is up to us to follow the crowd to love a good girl and a good guy, or to continue to love someone who is not worthy of love. We can and should control the peace and tranquility, or chaos, in love.
The horror novels written by Chen Wen created an image of Kaonashi. When Chen Wen fell asleep in the subway, he once dreamed about this Kaonashi. The dialogue between the two people is thought-provoking:
Kaonashi: "You must follow your heart. Love is not a science, so it is so wonderful. "
Chen Wen: "What do you know? You don't even have a face. "
Kaonashi: "That's because I'm a figment of your mind."
Yes, love has no appearance, and all the stories are written by ourselves.
The positioning of Waiting Alone is a romantic comedy, but the faint sadness in the movie is everywhere: Chen Wen is still not with the girl of his dreams, Liu Rong has lost a person who loves him very much, and Jing Li's secret love for Chen Wen since high school has also been lost in time with the train slowly moving south. It should be said that director Yang Shixian has just got the scale of sadness and joy in love just right.
There is one of the most popular dialogues in Waiting Alone, "Live well or die quickly." When we only simplify life into life and death, we will understand that the ups and downs in love and the long and arduous waiting of a person are actually no big deal.