Caigentan

-Tang Han's encyclopedia of dealing with people (full)

Northwest University Press

Caigen Tan —— A Complete Book of Treating People with Things

First, modest and clumsy methods.

The world is very shallow, and the spotting is also very shallow; Experience is deep, machinery is deep. Therefore, a gentleman is not as simple as his accomplishments; He is as sincere as his songs, and not as careless as his madness.

A person who has just entered the society has less experience, so he is more likely to be infected by various social bad habits.

Less; A person who has experienced the world has experienced many things and is deeply shrewd. Therefore, a gentleman should not be tactful, but keep a simple personality; He should not be cautious in everything, but should be open-minded so as not to lose his innocence.

Note: Keep the pure and simple nature. Laozi said, "Be simple, be selfish, and have less desires." Wet experience: experience the world. "Biography of Jin Shu Kong Yan" said: "erudition is not as good as beauty, and the reputation of being involved in the world is too high." Spot dyeing: here refers to people who are infected with bad social habits, which means contamination. Machinery: originally refers to cleverness

Wonderful artifact, here is a metaphor for human talent. Sophisticated: refers to the smooth understanding of the world. Park Lu: Simple and rude means simple and honest. Flexion: stick to the details and be cautious.

Boredom: bohemian, regardless of details. Bai Juyi's poem: "Crazy as a teenager."

Comments for people who have just stepped into society, there is a problem of how to adapt to society, because of lifestyle.

The experience is still very short, and I have not been infected by the bad habits of the floating world. Even if I have been infected, it is not too deep. This kind of person

Nature can still keep its innocent nature. Those who have experienced all kinds of storms and tribulations in the world have accumulated more experience and are correspondingly smarter. Society is a big school and life is a big stage. The experience accumulated by people who know the world through success and failure helps people to socialize with various problems in society. Experience is mixed, and lessons learned can be positive or negative. Some people accumulate experience from negative and bad aspects, and their personality gradually changes qualitatively. Such people are often treacherous and dare to do anything bad. From this point of view, the gentleman should pay special attention to the simple and steady honest style, not just practical. If you pay too much attention to sophistication and tact, you will lose your nature and become an old crafty and unpopular person. On the contrary, it is better to keep everything simple and unadorned. Sophisticated, sincere and unpretentious are all relative. In the case of blindly pursuing money and power and cheating for it, it is very valuable to be more sincere, more sincere, more simple and more free and easy.

Second, you don't have to know how to use it.

Snobbish, it is clean in winter, and people in winter are particularly clean; Clever, those who don't know are tall, and those who know and don't use them are especially tall.

Power and wealth are dazzling and begging. People who are not close are innocent, and those who are close are not affected by it.

Pollution is more innocent; Machiavellian, people who don't know are smart, and people who know but don't use them are smarter.

Note snobbery: refers to power and greed. "Biography of Zhang Han II and Chen Yuchuan" said: "A snobbish friend makes the ancients ashamed."

One. "Smart machines and cleverness: use crafty strategies.

Comment on some people who encounter profitable things, sharpen their heads and drill in, greedy and cheap; Among the rich

Powerful and influential people get together every day. Because they all come with a greedy word and want something, it is not surprising that the interest-driven combination cannot have human feelings. It is not surprising that "the rich live in the mountains, have distant relatives, and the poor live in downtown areas, and no one asks". The so-called world is cold. In order to maintain personal dignity, we should not fight for personal interests. We should also see that intelligence is exercised from wisdom and talent. If we use tactics for our own benefit, we are not as noble as those who don't know how to be smart and skilled. In particular, it is very valuable to have the opportunity to master power and money, but still remain noble, not corrupt because of power and not degenerate because of money. The so-called "wealth can't be lewd." Power, fame and fortune are inevitable in real life, and people with personality and principles may get rid of them; It is in order to maintain their own personality that they are ashamed of the use of clever tactics and regard power as a cloud.

Third, you must be clear-minded and talented.

Like a gentleman's heart, the sky is blue and the sun is broken, so people can't help but know the talent of a gentleman, and they can't easily know it.

A gentleman's cultivation is profound, his heart is as clear as the sky, and he has nothing to hide.

Things; A gentleman's talent should be like precious jewelry and should not be easily revealed to others.

Annotation talent: refers to the revealed talent.

Jade pearl collection: the significance of jade pearl collection. "The Analects of Confucius Zi Han": "There are beautiful jade in Sri Lanka, which is hidden in the coffin and sold for good." Lu Ji's "Wen Fu" said that "the stone is the jade mountain for light, and the water is pregnant with pearls."

Being open-minded in comments is one of the principles of being a man, and "talent must be hidden" is the principle of being a man, and life is alive.

We must face all kinds of practical problems. All men are born equal and everyone has the right to pursue happiness. In a fair, stable and democratic society, people can be honest with each other, avoid cheating, establish harmonious interpersonal relationships and a stable society, and give everyone a chance to develop their talents. But in the long-term feudal society, if you show off your talents, you will not only be jealous of others, but also be considered frivolous or arrogant. In modern society, freedom and equality are emphasized, and talents are no exception. A truly equal society is to provide everyone with opportunities to give full play to their talents. If everyone hides his talent, it will not only give him time to study hard, but also be a great loss to the country and society. In the real society, there is a great relationship between giving full play to one's talents and grasping opportunities. In an environment full of suspicion, we must remember the lesson of avoiding jealousy because of talent. In history, there are countless examples of powerful people using their power to kill people who are richer than themselves. In this situation, it is necessary to preserve our sanity for a while. This is not to be negative and decadent forever, but to wait for the opportunity to come. As the saying goes, "the country is hidden without Tao, and the state-owned Tao is now." Sometimes hiding yourself is also a way of competition, and avoiding being "pointed at the head" is not necessarily negative. At the same time, Jade Flower Collection also shows a thoughtful, not frivolous, but amazing way.

Fourth, harmony and auspiciousness XiShen Duorui

Wind and rain are angry, birds are sad; Ji, the sun and the moon are like the wind, the vegetation is vigorous and happy. It can be seen that heaven and earth can't live without harmony, and people can't live without western gods.

In the storm, birds will feel sad, worried and nervous: Wan Li has clear skies and lush vegetation.

Prosperous. It can be seen that there can be no peace between heaven and earth, and there can be no joy on earth.

Note: Sadness and anxiety. The Analects of Confucius said: "an upright man is open and poised, the villain cares about the country and the people." Make solar wind: fog, clear up after rain. It's sunny and sunny.

Xinxin: lush vegetation. XiShen: Mind and pleasure.

Comment on the experience of "the petals are like tears, and the lonely bird has sung sorrow" in her poem. Everything in the world always follows.

Our psychology will change constantly. When we are angry, everything seems hateful; When we sigh, we feel sad at everything; when we smile, we feel happy at everything. What's the fun of this life if a person frowns all day and glared at the people around him? In today's parlance, this is called "empathy", that is, transferring one's subjective feelings to people and things around him. Therefore, a person always maintains a cheerful mood, an optimistic attitude and an open mind, which is the basis for success in his career and happiness in life. Pessimism makes people lose their minds, violence easily leads to accidents, and people who are always worried about heaven will become lonely. Only those who are willing to work optimistically can enjoy a happy life. Open-minded, do things must be aboveboard; Optimistic and cheerful, must be organized; Moreover, thinking is extreme, doing things is bound to be unreasonable, pessimistic and frustrated, and doing things is bound to be tortuous. It can be seen that the connection and disconnection of the world sometimes exist completely in one thought. First of all, we must work hard on self-cultivation before we can stand. People like sunny spring scenery. Similarly, people also like a peaceful and happy life. A person keeps a healthy, open-minded and safe mind, then the world around him is a cheerful and beautiful world.

Fifth, there is leisure in the tight, and there is leisure in the leisure.

Heaven and earth are silent, and the qi machine stops without interest; The sun and the moon run at night, but it is not easy to be honest and clear. When helping relatives, the mentality is important, and when you are busy, you should have leisure.

We see every day that heaven and earth seem to be silent and still, but in fact, the activities of nature never stop. (early) morning

The sun rises in the morning and the moon sets in the west at night. The sun and the moon alternate day and night, but their light is eternal. Therefore, a gentleman should imitate the changes of nature, make plans with a sense of urgency in his leisure time, steal time when he is busy, and enjoy a little leisure fun in life.

Note tight: Song and Ming's spoken language is the same as today's urgency, that is, urgency and grasping. Silence: the meaning of peace. Bai Juyi's "My Puppet Poetry" has: "I have no other thoughts in silence, and it smells like a furnace." Qi: machine, activity, and qi refers to the activities of nature. In other words, Qi is the Qi of Yin and Yang in heaven and earth,

Machine generally criticizes the movement of the universe, and Qi is the operation of heaven and earth. All night: day and night, that is, all night, all night Zhenming: It means eternal glory.

Comment on the universe, there is movement in silence, there is silence in movement, and the movement is alternating, thus completing the universe.

Rotation is the fundamental law of infinite change in the universe. By looking at the changing law of the universe dialectically

Know the laws of life rules. In other words, one should be flexible when doing nothing in his spare time, and take time out of his busy schedule to strive for more elegance in his daily life. When you are busy, be prepared for danger in times of peace, and plan ahead. Do things with long-term consideration, haste makes waste; One should cherish one's life, don't waste one's time, and struggle endlessly on one's own life path. Therefore, the leisure here is relative, which does not mean that the idea of fighting for the ideal stops here. But when you encounter many things, don't be as confused as a blind man, no matter what the effect is. You should calm down in your busy schedule and think about whether your road is right or not. Learn to adjust your emotions, so as not to blindly balance your body and mind through the fun of life. In short, it is necessary to maintain the realm of "take time off when money is tight, and be prepared for danger in times of peace when you are idle" and make it a basic way of doing things.

Sixth, happy to look back and brush your heart.

Grace is harmful to the future, so when you are happy, you must turn back early; After failure or counter-success, don't let go when you brush your heart.

Being loved by your master in prosperity often brings disaster, so one should meet him when he is full of ambition.

If you are good, accept it and realize it as soon as possible; Setbacks can sometimes lead a person to success, so when you are satisfied, don't stop there and give up the pursuit.

Pay attention to grace: grace, benefit. Pleasure: I am proud and feel comfortable. Brush your heart: you can't do things as you like.

When you are proud of your comments, turn back early, and don't lose heart when you fail. This is what people have learned from their long life.

Talk about experience. Especially the first sentence, its political significance is very deep. There is a saying in feudal society that "Gao Zhen's achievements are in danger, and those who are famous all over the world will not be rewarded", "If the bow is full, it will be folded, and if the moon is full, it will be lacking", "Fame and fortune will take a step back, stability will advance, and danger will take a step back." Everyone is explaining that "contentment is always happy and you will never lose face." Zhi Zhi will stop forever and you will never be ashamed. " Sean, Fan Li and others retired after their success, which often made future generations sigh and admire. However, Li Si made a great contribution to the State of Qin, but he died. His wail of "How can a cunning rabbit be driven out of the East Gate of Shangcai" just illustrates the truth of the sentence "The higher he climbs, the heavier he falls", because power is the most corrosive to people's hearts, and people's greed for fame and fortune often leads to a tragic end of ruin. In the Western Han Dynasty, Wu Wang, Liu Ying and others initiated the "Seven Kingdoms Rebellion" because of greed. From the perspective of being a man, we should be more cautious when we are proud, not arrogant or impetuous. As for the latter sentence, its life significance is more obvious. Failure is the mother of success. It is impossible for a person not to be depressed. The point is that he will not be discouraged if he is frustrated.

Seven, relax and die.

The field in front of us should be wide enough to make people sigh; The later translation will last for a long time, which makes people think badly.

A person should be generous to others, so that people around him will not complain unfairly; postvital

The grace left to future generations and the world will last forever, so that future generations will have the same thoughts.

Annotation field: refers to the heart, the heart.

Unequal sigh: a complaint when you feel unfair about something. Thinking about non-scarcity: scarcity, which is a metaphor of eternal grace. According to "The Book of Songs: Elegance": "A dutiful son is indispensable, and he is often the first class."

Commenting on how to be a man has been a controversial topic since ancient times. It's "fighting for life"

To fight for the present, or to fight for the present and fight for the future, is to only care about personal interests, regardless of others' "frosting" or harming others' interests, or to do something useful and contribute to society and mankind? This is actually a contest between two world views. In life, a narrow-minded person is always haggling with others, which will inevitably cause others' dissatisfaction. When people are alive, they are tolerant and kind to others and do more good deeds. Those who left love for the world will be remembered by future generations. The kidney is "when a man dies, the tiger dies, and the skin stays", love is always there, and good deeds last forever. However, if Enze wants to leave a lasting legacy, he should do more good things that can last for a long time in people's hearts and society, such as writing books and building schools. Only by thinking more about others and being selfless can we have a broad vision and a generous mind.

Eight, the road stays one step, making three points.

Where the path is narrow, leave a step with pedestrians; If the taste is strong, subtract three points for people to eat. This is a method of bliss.

Walking on the narrow road, leaving a little space for others to walk; When you encounter delicious food that tastes bad, you should

Save three points for others to eat. This is the happiest way for a person to stand in the world.

Annotation path: path

Comments are not always narrow, and the brave win. For example, sometimes you can't take a mountain road for two people.

At the same time, if you act rashly, you are in danger of falling into Shenzhen. In this case, you must stop and let others pass.