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Professor mother-in-law teaches "three virtues of women" and girls don't marry. what do you think?
It is often heard that girls spit out that they met some wonderful things in the difficult mother-in-law or the man's family when they were in love, which eventually led to breaking up and felt that they were particularly "unlucky". Every time I hear such words, I always advise the girls that this is not misfortune, but your luck.

It's not that you are lucky to encounter these dog blood problems that ordinary people don't encounter, but that these problems can be exposed before marriage and you can find them in time. This is a blessing in disguise. It's better to avoid a wrong person when you meet the right person and family. The wrong family is lucky. You know, meeting the right one may not bring much change to your life, but meeting the wrong one is enough to drag people's life into hell, and it is almost impossible to turn over.

Luck is hard to find, but it's not that you can't create opportunities for yourself. If women want to get into the right marriage and get happiness in life, they must have keen judgment and correct outlook on life. In fact, many times it is not that the other party is too smart and too secretive. Many times, the relationship before marriage can tell each other's problems, depending on whether you can be keenly aware and make a reasonable judgment.

For example, going to my mother-in-law's house for the first time is a specific occasion, and it is easy to observe each other's true thoughts and intentions. However, some girls often ignore obvious problems because they are too nervous, too inexperienced or too concerned about the results. The other party is digging a hole for her at the moment, and she will jump in without hesitation. For example, for the first time, the mother-in-law asked her daughter-in-law to do housework. This question is a cliche. However, there are still many girls who think that as junior students, if they want to leave a good impression on their elders, they must be diligent, so it is silly to be sent.

But she forgot that as a newcomer and a guest, she not only lost her dignity, but also lost her valuable initiative. She even ignored that the other party's demands on herself were excessive and unreasonable, and she needed to be vigilant. Remember, don't underestimate yourself too much. Marriage is equal to both you and the other person. No one owes anyone, no woman or man. No one should do anything, and there is no specific obligation and responsibility.

You should also know how to distinguish the three views of the other party. You should never agree with what you should agree with, and don't be easily biased by the other party. You should stick to your principles and bottom line. Sometimes, it is not wise to be careful. On the contrary, it is precisely because of the sanctity of marriage that we should face it with a more cautious attitude. Doubt is not blasphemy, but responsibility for one's own life.

The child is a clever girl, and she knows this very well. Although she loves her boyfriend very much, after meeting the man's parents for the first time, the child changed his mind and reluctantly gave up this relationship.

The reason is that the child finds herself completely out of place with her boyfriend's family, and some views of her boyfriend's mother also make her unable to agree. In her eyes, she thinks her three views are correct, and her boyfriend's family is undoubtedly beautiful, but in the eyes of her boyfriend's family, this girl is very headstrong and petty, and no one thinks she is wrong, which is very interesting. But there are always black and white things, and the difference depends on which angle you stand on.

Let's talk about the situation of children first. The child is 25 years old and his family conditions are OK. The child's father is an architect. Although I work as a migrant worker all day, my salary is still considerable. The child's mother is a kindergarten teacher. The child's mother is a very cheerful person, perhaps related to work, and sometimes her thoughts are childish. Influenced by his mother since childhood, Xiao Tong is also careless in character and doesn't know how to beat around the bush.

But that doesn't mean Xiao Tong is stupid. Although her mother looks cheerful at ordinary times, she always comes up with ideas and never panics when something really happens. The child remembers that when he was a child, once in the second grade, he was stripped of his pants by a naughty boy next door. In children's eyes, it may not be a big deal, and children's mothers have always been a talkative type. Originally, this matter should be over soon, but Xiaotong's mother was uncharacteristically and severely taught the boy and reprimanded his parents.

She knows how to protect her daughter, instill a correct sense of self-protection in ignorant children, teach her to stay away from danger and teach her to become a better person. The child lived up to his mother's expectations, was slim and graceful, and found a decent job in the system after graduation.

Xiao Tong's boyfriend Zhou Kai was introduced by an aunt of his mother's unit. This aunt grew up watching children, and usually likes to be a red line and a matchmaker. At that time, Zhou Kai's parents just asked her to introduce her son, and Xiao Tong just resigned from other places and came back to look for a job. Before finding a job, she often idled around her mother's unit. As soon as Aunt patted her head, she put the two people who had been out of touch together.

Zhou Kai's family conditions are really good. My father is a minister in a unit, and my mother is a language professor in a university. Compared with his parents, Zhou Kai, like Xiao Tong, has been muddling along in a compilation unit more than once. Said the aunt is a red line, children and Zhou Kai's family is more suitable, and the man's family is better than the female strategy, this small gap is also quite appropriate.

Xiao Tong and Zhou Kai, two young people, both worked hard in other places for several years after graduating from college and then returned to their hometown for development. They have all entered a similar system and have topics to talk about, so they are more congenial. Parents are also in favor of being together, so they quickly determined the relationship. Zhou Kai, a boy, is actually quite nice and gentle. He is not very good at losing his temper, nor does he argue or rob, which is good for children. Sometimes I look at Xiao Tong silly, but he doesn't say anything, just looks at him cheerfully.

Xiao Tong is still a child. Sometimes he gets angry, but he soon recovers. He doesn't need Zhou Kai's coaxing. Many people say that two people are really well matched together, and when they look at each other, they feel like husband and wife. The child never doubted that he would be with this man all his life. But what she never expected was that it would be herself who finally ended this relationship.

They talked for two years. This year, at the urging of their families, they began to prepare for marriage. Before the two families formally meet, two young people will go to each other's home to formally visit each other's parents. Although I have met each other's parents, it is the first time to visit my family. Zhou Kaixian followed the child home. Originally, Xiaotong's family was a more enlightened person. Seeing the woman's parents went smoothly, and there were basically no problems and contradictions, but it was different when it came to the man's side.

The child followed Zhou Kai home to meet his parents, which was a long homework. I heard that the atmosphere in their home is rather dull, and their parents don't like to talk, and they like girls with good families. Therefore, in order to leave a good impression on Zhou Kai's parents, Xiao Tong, who loves to talk, also pretended to be very deep, trying not to talk or make big moves, and acted like a lady. It's really useful to get her future mother-in-law to nod.

It turned out that Xiaotong had long thought about it. All day, she just pretended to be a lady and sat up and giggled. But then something unexpected happened to her. When her mother-in-law was cooking, she naturally called Xiao Tong to the kitchen and said that she wanted Xiao Tong to come and help. Children are actually stupid at first. Before coming to her boyfriend's house, the child's mother once told her to remember one thing, that is, she is a guest.

At that time, Xiao Tong still didn't understand her mother's meaning. Now the child understands that he is a guest, not that the guest doesn't go to the kitchen to help the master, but that the master shouldn't ask the guest to go to the kitchen. This is the way to entertain guests. But now that the host has spoken, Xiao Tong can't open her face and looks at her boyfriend for help. However, Xiao Tong was disappointed with her boyfriend's performance. Boyfriend respects her mother-in-law and listens to her. He didn't think there was anything wrong with her mother-in-law's request for Xiaotong. Instead, he suggested with his eyes that Xiaotong should go quickly and not let her mother-in-law wait.

Although the child didn't want to go, he finally compromised out of love for his boyfriend and in order not to leave a good impression on his in-laws. In the kitchen, the mother-in-law directly asked the child to fry two special dishes, which is said to be the first test of being a daughter-in-law of the Zhou family.

After listening to her mother-in-law, the child felt a little uncomfortable. After all, she is a guest and needs her help. What ghost daughter-in-law exam made her particularly uncomfortable. She wanted to refuse, but her mother-in-law stared at her with a smile. With a strong aura that cannot be refuted, children can't refuse and have to do it. In the process of doing it, the mother-in-law stood by, watching and chatting with the children. Although it was small talk, my mother-in-law said another topic.

"Xiao tong, you must have seen that our family is a more traditional family, and our thoughts are more traditional and conservative. Her father is an antique, and I am still more open. I heard that you are actually a lively girl, which is also quite good. As long as you have a sense of proportion, it doesn't matter what personality. " Hearing this, Xiaotong began to like her mother-in-law secretly. She thinks her mother-in-law is quite reasonable and much more open-minded than she thought. Although she is a professor, she doesn't have the airs of a scholar and can understand her words, so she doesn't have to pretend to be a lady. However, the child was not happy for a few seconds, but the mother-in-law's next words made the child laugh.

"But little tong, I still hope you can know that women must have virtue. I used to say that she was virtuous and virtuous. Now we don't pay much attention to it. Nowadays, girls have more personality and don't like being controlled and bound. I can understand that. After all, my own students have great personalities, and I often communicate with them.

However, they are still young and have never been in contact with marriage. Marriage is always sacred. A woman must know how to make sacrifices for her family. I don't ask much of you. I hope you can do three things.

The first one, which I am testing you now, is cooking. After all, women still have to be able to cook. After they get married, they have to cook for men anyway. This is what wives should do. Whether they do well is one thing, and whether they can do well is another. The key is to have this heart.

Second, about having children, now that you are all only children, there is no pressure to have two children, unlike when we only had one. Look how lonely you are now. You don't even have a brother or sister around. In the future, you will be under great pressure to support the elderly. I know you young people like freedom after all, but at least you have to have two children, preferably a son and a daughter. Although both boys and girls are the same, you will eventually find that it is better to have a son. It's not that I prefer boys to girls. You'll know later. A son always has the advantages of a son, but his daughter can't compare with him.

Third, when quarreling, women should give way to men more, and don't be too headstrong. There is scientific evidence that men are not as mature as women psychologically. Therefore, when couples quarrel and bicker, women still have to make more concessions. It's okay to take a step back for marriage. This is a sign that women know wisely. "Not the kui is a professor, mother-in-law said these words, the feeling is true, especially reasonable, children almost believed it. But she turned her head and thought, why, you want a woman to learn to cook, and you have to agree and be a big momma willingly.

It's even worse to have a baby. Giving birth to children is a woman's ability, not an obligation. It's even harder for others to have several children. Then it will become a real fertility machine. There is also a rule that men must be coaxed when quarreling. I feel that I have not found a husband and found a son.

Although the mother-in-law said tactfully, if these three things are really agreed, the woman's life will be ruined. The child imagined in his mind that he had married the Zhou family and had a bunch of children. While cooking, she was holding a baby. The child cried and tried to coax. Her husband is angry and wants to coax. She couldn't help shivering for a long time until her mother-in-law told her that the food was burnt. She woke up from her fugue, but the first thing she did when she woke up was to take off her apron and throw a spatula. "Aunt, thank you for teaching me your life experience. I feel that I have benefited a lot and let me understand a lot. "

The mother-in-law is also very satisfied with the child's performance: "It is good that you understand my good intentions. I did it for your own good. After you get married, study hard and I will teach you by hand. " The child said, "Aunt, what are you talking about? I won't marry into your family. Since you told me the three requirements of a woman's virtue, I have made up my mind. I really want to thank you. If you hadn't told me this, I would have been married. The engagement will be in two days, and it may be called off.

Well, it's convenient now. I have decided to break up with Zhou Kai. There is no interest dispute between our two families. Let's get together now. What do you think, auntie? "Mother-in-law listened to the child's words, and her face almost fell to the ground. The child really deserves a beating, but she didn't mean it. This is her character, but it really makes her mother-in-law angry. My mother-in-law later left without saying a word. After a while, Zhou Kai hurried in.

"Xiaotong, what did you say to my mother? What do you want? Why are you angry, my mother? Do you really want to marry me? " Xiao Tong looked at Zhou Kai singling out and calmly expounded a fact. "Zhou Kai, it's not that I don't want to marry you. I can't get married It takes a lot of time for you to get married with your family. I thank your mother for reminding me, and thank you for not getting married. Let's break up. "

After returning home, the child told his parents about it. Although the father felt that the child was a little reckless and thoughtless, the mother felt that the child had done a lot. "Daughter, your judgment is correct. No matter how good the family is, no matter how good the boy is, he can't marry. " It was in Zhou Kai that Xiao Tong felt a little nervous and suddenly said that she would break up and not get married, which was puzzling. The man's family also felt that she didn't say anything too much because the woman overreacted.

Do you think Xiao Tong overreacted? I don't think so. On the contrary, I think that girl is very lucky. As her mother said, her judgment is right. It's really charming to let her cook and learn what a woman's virtue is when she first meets her parents and mother-in-law. Ironically, in this ideology, she is still a professor.

What she said is very reasonable, which seems irrefutable, but when you think about it, it simply doesn't hold water. Are fallacies that belittle women. Why do women have to be able to cook, why do women have to have sons, and why do women have to coax men not to get angry just because they are women? A woman wants her husband. On that day, a woman should look like a woman?

This idea is really ridiculous. I can understand some family traditions, but I really can't understand some people's thinking logic. Tradition does not mean treating women as victims. Tradition can also respect women. While inheriting the tradition, we should also know how to get rid of its dross, instead of inheriting it completely. As a woman who has read books and thought in the new era, she really shouldn't have such old and backward ideas. Maybe the daughter-in-law Zhou wants will really exist, but it will definitely not be a girl like Xiao Tong, which means that Zhou is an inappropriate and wrong family for Xiao Tong.

Fortunately, the child stopped the loss in time, cut off the wrong feelings and put an end to the possible tragedy. Many people don't have this kind of luck at all, and when they find out after marriage, it will be too late. I have met many such unlucky women who failed to find out the problems of each other and their families before marriage, and only after marriage did they find that they were treated unfairly and suffered a lot. Be smart before marriage. Don't be afraid of offending others as you owe them. Both the other party and you have an equal right to choose, and the other party also has the right to examine you, not just passively waiting for the other party to choose you, but you actively choose him.