Showing off one's life experience 1 There is a strange phenomenon: what people show off is exactly what they don't have or lack. For example, when someone shows off his wealth, this person's wealth is often not much, or not enough-if there is enough, he doesn't have to show off his wealth, because this is already known to everyone.

The same is true when someone is showing off his knowledge. First, he has no knowledge, or his knowledge is not good enough-if his knowledge is really good enough, he doesn't have to show off. He must know that it is useless to show off, and a learned person must disdain to show off.

This is a contradiction. You should show off what you really have. But if you do, you won't show it off.

Therefore, in society, when dealing with interpersonal relationships, one thing is certain: when someone shows off himself, no matter what he shows off, he can only listen, and what is certain is that he is nothing remarkable in this respect, which is bound to be different from what he said. If you believe it, you will be fooled.

Showing off is a little different from lying. This is out of thin air, this is showing off. Actually, it's about the same.

Showing off the feeling of life 2 There are people who are happy all over the world. In fact, the real wise man always walks in the dark!

Recently, I have been troubled by a lot of information, all of which are "happiness": she divorced at 37, went abroad at 40, and married a billionaire at 58. Or her husband is rich, has a good figure and a high face value, and is a real male god. ...

The frequency of all kinds of happiness is also increasing. At first, everyone only told us that Zhao Wei was a winner in life, and later there were more and more winners in life; At first, Wang Leehom was said to be a male god. Later, there were more and more male gods. When it comes to showing love and happiness, it is really getting wider and wider. As long as you are a couple and have children, you are all happy. Take a trip, travel, sunbathe your dog, take some nice photos and show off on social media, and you will be happy. But is this really happiness?

To tell the truth, every time I see "gossip" saying that this star's family is happy and that star is the winner of life, I feel bored. Why do I keep staring at the stars? Isn't the happiness of ordinary people worthy of attention? The most important thing is that some stars show their happiness, and I don't know if it's true or not.

Sunshine and happiness have never been the exclusive right of stars. In the circle of friends, you can often see everyone basking in happiness. Some bask in luxury cars, some bask in overseas travel, some bask in famous brands, some bask in the signing ceremony of new companies and new projects, and some bask in women and babies. I have a classmate who is not very handsome, but very happy. She gave birth to a second child this year. She uses children to screen every day, and her words are always full of pride and superiority. You want to bless her, but why do you think her tone is wrong? Everyone intentionally or unintentionally alienated her for the simple reason that the sun was too strong and people's hearts were complicated.

There is also an old man who takes photos with beautiful women every day, travels, has private parties, hugs his waist and bears. Those women don't know where they came from. They wear heavy makeup. He thinks he is so beautiful, which actually makes many people sick and gossip everywhere.

Happiness should not be like this.

I've seen real happiness. A friend, whose wife was seriously ill, personally brought tea and water to the hospital, helped her to the bathroom, bathed her, walked with her and talked with her. During that time, he didn't do any work, all social activities were cancelled, no one asked him out, and he gave up surfing the Internet, only caring about her and accompanying her. He could have asked for help, but he refused. He said that I would accompany her personally and let her feel my love.

I have seen happiness. I have a friend, her husband is a successful person, and her daughter is working, so there is no need to worry about life at all. She is 45 years old and still looks like a little girl. Husband loves her dearly and gives her the jewelry store to play with. She drinks tea, reads books and sells pearls and jade every day. She is elegant and calm. Their family is rich, but they never advertise everywhere and have a good relationship with everyone. Such people are happy. Don't lack fine clothes, enjoy life, and don't involve others in envy and jealousy.

I have seen simple happiness. A young couple, a girl goes to work and a boy is engaged in art. Although he is very talented, the boy has not made a big splash, so he has not made much money. But two people's hearts are together and running in the same direction. Many of their relatives and friends have several houses, some have villas, but the couple will not feel dwarfed, because they find that those rich people also have troubles, and they know how to cherish each other better, but they are happier.

I've seen smart happiness, too. A girl always wears her best clothes at home because she wants to show it to her husband. When she goes out to work, she dresses simply and generously, and never wears designer clothes. She has rare jewels, but she doesn't wear them, or she wears them in a hidden way. This girl knows how to grasp happiness. Her happiness never shows off, never attracts attention, and she is only low-key and luxurious, only for herself and her lover.

Walking at night, all the happiness is the happiness in the deep heart, and all the happiness is quiet, peaceful and low-key happiness. Happiness is easy to run away if it is too high-profile, and it is easy to be fake if it is much more beautiful, and it will soon evaporate if it is much better. Therefore, it is really not the job of smart people to bask in happiness all day and show their love in high profile everywhere!

An international movie mogul often wears a plastic serrated watch because he doesn't need to borrow it to show his identity-who knows who wears a diamond-encrusted watch?

People are used to showing off what they don't have or lack. Not only materially, but also spiritually. If a person shows off his happiness, he is likely to be not only unhappy, but also miserable.

When a person is talking, if he always likes to quote classics (commonly known as "dropping the book bag"), then his knowledge is generally not much advanced. Similarly, if he speaks in English, his English level is inversely proportional to the amount of English he adulterates, that is, the more English he adulterates, the lower his level will be. Isn't this interesting?

Real rich people don't show off their wealth, not only don't show off their wealth, but also are notorious. Someone took the "rich list" to ask the rich, and the answer was: "How could this happen?" Because he has it, he doesn't have to show it off.

Showing off this phenomenon has a long history. It can be said that it is human nature and there is no need for excessive criticism. Understanding the existence of this phenomenon is very useful for dealing with interpersonal relationships, especially for young people who are not deeply involved in the world, and they can not be confused by each other's appearances.

Once, a rich man was cheated by a liar. People asked him how he was fooled. He smiled bitterly: "The liar looks much older than me."

The problem lies in appearance. There seems to be something that cheaters show off, but that is exactly what cheaters don't have.

Show off your life feelings 4. These two days, Jiang Xun's words have been hovering in my mind, and I have always liked them especially: the aesthetics of all life aims to resist one word-busy. Busy is the death of the soul. Stop being busy, and you will begin to have the aesthetics of life. Everyone is busy, and being busy seems to be synonymous with meaning. If I am free today, and Wang Laosan sends a message in the WeChat circle of friends that "I can only sleep for four hours a day" and "I am busy until midnight": then I seem to be far behind by him.

If others get up early to catch a plane, stay up at night, get together with friends and dilate blood vessels in various preparations, and I just drink tea and read books at home, will I degenerate? This is a question that many people think about.

Unconsciously, many people have lost their comfortable lifestyle and held their glasses to find another self.

The toxic radiation of contemporary success science is too wide, one of which is: because successful people are busy and have no time, if I am busy hitting the back of the head every day, then I am almost a successful person.

Don't deceive yourself, the above assumption may also be equivalent to that you are stupid and inefficient; Or most of the decisions you make are wrong, so you can only make constant remedies and avoid detours.

I appreciate those who live a relaxed and comfortable life more than those who beat themselves like a top in the noise every day. For example, some friends will suddenly fly to Europe for a month after a month of intense work; Or turn off a few shiny little opportunities and stay at home for a few days without washing your eyelids and socializing.

I especially admire a friend whose life is very interesting. Being in the modeling circle, I have never been influenced by flashy habits, and I have never tried my best to gather resources, create popularity and make myself exhausted. She once told me that people can decide what they see and hear. She chose not to touch something because she thought she might be adversely affected.

She devoted herself to designing her own clothes and immersed herself in the retro style. She is really happy-go-lucky, chic and calm. She travels and sees the world whenever she has the chance, but her career is still thriving. A few days ago, I found her taking new clothes to Paris to shoot while playing.

Didn't people work hard? Aren't people supposed to enjoy life?

The work can never be finished, and the career can get bigger every day, but is it really a good thing to continue to expand? I still remember when I went to Greece the year before last, the tour guide told us that a group of big bosses from China went to a local wine cellar to talk about cooperation with the owner of the wine cellar, and how many cases of wine to buy each year were rejected. The host said that we only make so much wine every year, not much. If we do too much, I won't have time to go to bars and travel.

Not only that, the wine cellar owner also introduced this group of big bosses to the neighboring wine cellar owners. The owner of the wine cellar doesn't make money himself, and even gives money to his competitors ... Unfortunately, this is just the way of thinking of China people.

There are too many organizations that fight chicken blood now, but which one is stronger? The chicken blood I want to offer you is this: the purpose of our chicken blood is to enjoy life, to enrich life experience, to chew the fruits of our struggle with our families, not the pleasure of chicken blood itself. Besides, do you really think you need so much chicken blood? Call again if necessary, and please block it if not necessary.

Therefore, I prefer those who arrange their lives leisurely and develop other interesting things besides work to those who shout every day that they have no time for breakfast, nap, illness and intravenous drip. Even if his productivity is not so amazing.

In the era of too much meaning, less meaning is a luxury. For example, have a meal with a group of friends and laugh and cry; For example, when others watch art exhibitions and concerts one after another to enrich their souls, I will choose one I really like to watch.

At this time when time is precious, I especially appreciate a woman who went to practice calligraphy and learn tea ceremony on a weekend. You can't pass the exam, you don't realize it, so you play by yourself.

I am exploring better ways to help everyone enjoy life together, instead of being tortured by other people's living standards.

Stop boasting about how busy you are, it's out of date.

Show off life feelings 5 Stop talking about products, people have three things to say:

1, its own merits;

2. The evil of others is not good;

3. Your future plans.

What you show off is easy to lose!

Show off yourself-this will make people jealous with ghosts and try to destroy your show off.

Maybe you will say: showing off is honest, not exaggerated. Why not? However, because you hurt the pride of others with your own pride. Others are hurt by you, will they still be good to you?

Show off your beauty, be careful that it will be destroyed in the future; Show off your wealth, be careful to be destroyed in the future; If you show off your good grades, be careful not to pass the exam in the future; How about showing off your children? Don't do this! You should make fewer enemies for your child, so that ghosts and gods will not be jealous of him, but protect him.

Be careful what you show off, because this is where you will be lost in the future.

The mage's metaphor is like this: you have a treasure, you show it to people everywhere, and the devil especially wants to destroy your treasure.

Under what circumstances will people destroy their merits? Is to show off their merits, their own practice, their own blessings.

Confucianism says: A person's fortune depends on his modesty or pride.

Man, don't talk about unfinished things or planned things casually.

Cause and effect, change when you say it. Just like the feud between people, telling the cause and effect will get worse or get revenge. What you haven't done is a taboo.

Tantric good knowledge advises people not to talk about unfinished things and planned things casually, which is also considered privacy. Unless it is done, cured and solved, you can say something appropriately and remain anonymous.

The Buddha once said, "When you rest in madness, rest is Bodhi." That's what the Shurangama Sutra says, which means your arrogant heart, your ambitious heart, and your heart of judging people! The kind of person who only knows that I am the smartest and I am better than anyone else.

For example, someone is ugly. Look at what he said,' Ah! "How beautiful I am!" You see, how persistent this is! If you stop this obsession and madness, you will get Bodhi immediately.

What is Bodhi? -enlightenment is enlightenment, and enlightenment is not far from becoming a Buddha. So, you can rest your crazy heart, which is a good place for you.

Han Feizi said: "Things are in the dark, words are in ruin."

Language "Han Feizi" No.12 ":"The husband is in the dark, and the words are venting, and it is not allowed to vent; And words and hidden things are so dangerous. "Body: the speaker himself. Hide: Hide. This: Even in the last two sentences, it doesn't necessarily mean that the owner said what he hid, but if he mentions it inadvertently, the owner will suspect that he leaked it, which will inevitably lead to danger. To sum up, this sentence means: things succeed because of secrecy, and speeches fail because of leaks. Illustrates the importance of keeping secrets.

It is one of Han Feizi's complaints. The content of this article is to state the difficulties of the monarch and analyze the reasons for his success and failure. Clear organization, narration and discussion. This paper first explains that the speaker should first understand the psychological changes of the monarch and put forward his speaking skills. Secondly, fifteen things that are said to be harmful to health are listed, and historical stories and folklore are cited to prove the argument that "it is difficult to deal with if you don't know".

"Everything depends on human effort, and defeat wins." Everything is done right. If you want to win by surprise, the first thing to do is to act in secret, especially in some cases that are carried out in secret and operated privately, and you are most afraid of seeing death. If the person in charge entrusts an important task to someone who can't keep a secret, it's called "entrusting people".

In the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Emperor Xian of Han entrusted the task of murdering Cao Cao to Dong Cheng, a general riding a chariot, which was a cruel case doomed to be solved. Xian Di handed the "imperial edict with clothes" to Dong Cheng, but Dong Cheng was careless and took a nap in broad daylight. The imperial edict was not hidden and was discovered. Drunk in the middle of the night, talking in his sleep, showing anti-Cao thoughts. Two leaks finally leaked the news, which not only brought death, but also destroyed the plan to destroy Cao.

A close mouth catches no flies. Many disputes and misfortunes come from one mouth. It is not difficult to speak, but it is difficult to say the right words at the right place and time. Keeping your mouth shut means saying something useful, not what comes out of your mouth. People don't smell, don't say. When chatting, people often say, "I'll tell you, don't tell anyone." The man casually said to others, "I'll only tell you one." You can't tell anyone. " It was not long before the secret was revealed. Therefore, the best way to avoid unnecessary disputes is to say nothing.

There is an old saying in China: A scholar sees a soldier, but he doesn't know the truth. Those macho men in the wrestling field often raise their fists against those eloquent speakers. Their logic is: it's better to see your mouth or my fist!

Having a glib tongue seems to be the original sin of China people, because "talking" does not create wealth. It has been seen that many people who are good at words get more wealth from society than those who actually create wealth. That is to say, this person can do nothing but talk, and his life is better than others. It's not fair!

In fact, people who really "speak" have a kind of transcendental energy, which is far greater than the power of fists. Language is power. Look at Tang Priest and Zhuge Liang. Their only skill is their mouths, and there must be a noble heart behind good words. How to put words well! This is an art of leadership! Good words can reduce the resistance of life.

However, the beauty of stopping words can only be perceived by practice! Keeping your mouth shut may be one of the signs of maturity.