Searching for rent-related issues on Zhihu was intended to prepare for many problems that may be encountered when renting a house, but I accidentally found a phenomenon that is both realistic and worth thinking about-
No matter under the big topic of renting a house or many minor problems arising from renting a house, there are similar words: "Don't live with friends", "Don't share a house if you still want to be friends" and "What should I do if I live with my good friends and break up? 」
Many of these answers have received high praise.
I believe many people have a dream when they were young, that is, they want to live in a house with their good friends when they grow up.
However, when you grow up, don't say that you will live with your friends for a long time, even if you live together for a few days. The contradictions that arise during this period may cause you to break up.
Isn't it a pleasure to live with friends?
Why is it associated with negative words such as "breakup" and "breakup"?
* In the Japanese TV series Love Without Reservation, Viya, Qian Ming and Li Ming are friends who grew up together. After they all came to work in Tokyo, they moved in together and shared a room.
Zhihu user @vivian
"Sharing a room with friends is the worst policy. I would rather rent a single room than share it with my friends easily. With a beautiful vision for the future life, my friends and I moved into the shared house hand in hand, and the water, electricity, rice, oil and salt will be shared equally in the future. After living for two or three months, I can't get any rice, oil and salt. Come back for dinner today, but not tomorrow. You were busy with water and electricity, I was busy with everyone, and I forgot to turn in the water and electricity. These are small things. The terrible thing is that after a long time, I suddenly have something to rent temporarily! 」
Zhihu User @ Ma Xiaose
"It's just some habits in life don't match. She has never worked at home since she was a child and knows nothing. She can understand it if she thinks about it carefully. But sometimes, I feel unbalanced. Our relationship is not very stiff now, but I know I will end my stay sooner or later, and she may feel it, so they all say we will live separately when the contract expires. Stop loss in time! I really don't want to lose this friend! 」
@ Zhihu anonymous user
"Last year, I shared a room with my friends. When the contract was about to expire, we agreed not to share the rent, so we started looking for a house. Then, one month before the contract expired, the two of us moved out there. Then, I paid the deposit alone, and he didn't give me a penny. 」
Zhihu User @ Mu Zhi Yuxin
"For my friend, no matter what she did wrong, I can endure myself crying and won't say anything. After all, I am blind, but people have a bottom line. From then on, I will never share it with any friends again. If I can rent it myself, don't share it with anyone, which will bring unnecessary trouble. 」
Zhihu User @ Xiao Mo Log
"For roommates, her male ticket is her closest person. But to me, her male ticket is a stranger, a stranger who doesn't know her character and temper! ! How can you live under the same roof with a strange man? This is facing the unknown danger, okay? ! 」
* Although three primary school students have played together, it is inevitable that people with different personalities will have friction when they live together.
Everyone will choose to share for the same reason.
Rent, water and electricity are shared to reduce the cost of living.
If it's a girl, you can add one-
You can go back and forth together to increase the safety index.
The reason why I choose to share a room with my friends is nothing more than the starting point of "it is better to live with friends who know the root of the matter than to find a complete stranger". I think that at least when I encounter problems, there are people around me who can help me, and when I get home from work, there are people who can relax and chat and relieve the fatigue caused by work.
But unexpectedly, the expected "comfort" turned into a "bad heart". What I want to vomit most every day is the person who is both a friend and a roommate-you are the biggest reason why I have to be autistic when I get home from work!
Friends are not like family members who have lived together for many years. They have finished running in with each other and are used to many living habits of each other. No matter how familiar you are with your best friend, you have never lived together for a long time.
When the distance is closer, everything between us will be infinitely magnified, and our impressions and views on each other will also change.
"Every time we met before, she packed up her delicate makeup and dressed up. I didn't expect her to be so sloppy in private. 」
"I always knew he was a haggle over every ounce, but I didn't expect him to be so stingy? ! 」
"Every time I help her pay some money first, even if I urge her later, she always goes away. 」
"He snores loudly, and it is clear through a wall. He is the chief culprit of my severe insomnia. 」
"In the beginning, I always took the initiative to clean the room and take out the garbage. As a result, she actually thought it was a natural thing? ! 」
When you think of the mutual affection between friends, you may always give each other the greatest tolerance, and it is also because this mutual affection is always euphemistic and you don't tell the truth.
But when one of them doesn't meet the expectations of the other, any small thing may be the fuse to detonate your friendship crisis.
As a fashion model, Qian Ming (middle) is cheerful and informal, and her attitude towards love is as warm and generous as her appearance; Li Ming (left) is the editor of a literary magazine. His meticulous and cautious personality is very consistent with the temperament of this position, but it is completely different from Qian Ming, who is free and open-minded. Weiya (right) is doing marketing in a jewelry company. With a gentle temper, she usually plays the role of peacemaker among the three. On this day, Qian Ming and Li Ming quarreled because of their different attitudes towards love.