Such people, if placed in casinos, are often called "dark horses".
In the early days, no one was optimistic, but at the critical moment, amazing potential suddenly broke out, which surprised everyone, but looking back at their growth trajectory, everything is reasonable.
In the early stage, the spotlight came, you sang and I appeared on the stage, and the flag of the king changed on the rostrum. He hides in the corner and eats only melons. No one will notice a smile on his lips. It is the confidence and calmness of the research opponent who knows everything, and no one will notice the surging ambition in his heart. That is the fate of talent and diligence accumulated in one place and successfully fermented.
This process is called hiding others.
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Knowing how to hide other people's faults is a realm of life. You can start a business in your country, and your foundation will last forever. You can catch up with others, you can make a profit and protect Thailand.
How many smart people in the world can't resist the desire to become famous early and are eager to prove their Excellence to the world. As a result, the early bird was beaten first, and the early rafters rotted first. Instead of becoming pioneers, they became martyrs.
This kind of thing is common in human history. Xiang Yu, who committed suicide at the age of 24, led 8000 children to sweep mountains and rivers and dominate the world, but ended his short life at the age of 29, and his opponent Liu Bang reached the supreme position at the age of 54.
Over the past 40 years of reform and opening up, countless enterprises have mushroomed. When the West Lake is full of swords and shadows and big coffees, who still remembers those early wave-breakers in Wu Xiaobo's book The Great Failure, who created great brands, such as the year of nine, the season of the sky, Tang Wanxin and Pan Ning, but they are narcissistic and narcissistic in the face of the general trend.
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Knowing how to hide others' faults is a temper, a revision of mentality, and a sense of ease and happiness that matches the achievements at this stage.
There is a saying in "Caigen Tan", "A gentleman's heart is blue and white, and people must know it; A gentleman's talent, jade beads hidden, can not make people easy to know. "
The realm of ancient gentlemen was high, and everyone knew it was high. However, his ability is like a jewel in a box, which can only be easily discovered at a critical moment.
How far life can go, in the final analysis, depends on "two-wheel drive"-ability and realm. Only when the two go hand in hand and always remain at the same level can we keep our current achievements and launch a charge to the next height. But if you are not at the same level, or your ability is higher than the realm, you will be at a disadvantage. If you climb up, you will easily fall down, or the realm exceeds your ability, you will be powerless and everything will be unsatisfactory.
When the ability is higher than the realm, hiding others is our way of keeping in good health. Proper convergence of mind, modesty and low-key, and harmonious coexistence with people can reduce a lot of unnecessary jealousy and troubles. Everyone has an inflated heart and jealousy. Once you die, you will always ignore the hostile eyes coming from somewhere in the dark, usually unconsciously. When you make a mistake, you may be waiting for a time bomb.
When the realm is higher than the ability, others can exchange time for space, be alone and cultivate their talents. Nietzsche said, "A higher philosopher is lonely, but this is not because he wants to be lonely, but because he can't find his own kind around him." When your realm is far beyond your peers, there is no * * * confidant around you. At this time, you don't have to wander around and feel lonely, and you don't have to feel the sadness of death. You should know that first-class masters compete with the realm, second-rate masters compete with internal skills, and only third-rate masters compete with martial arts moves. As long as you calm down, choose a good direction and spend more time and energy than others, skills and abilities will naturally be acquired over time. Moreover, as your Excellence is noticed by more people and people of the same kind want it, the breeze will come.
If you are willing to constantly adjust the gap between ability and realm, there will be no ecstasy when you are proud, and there will be no loneliness when you are frustrated. Instead, you will be satisfied and happy when you use your time.
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Knowing how to hide from others is the touchstone of interpersonal communication, not for three minutes of heat, but for endless aftereffects, not for grandstanding, but for friendship like water.
In real life, we never lack such people around us. They are born with a sunny smiling face. They treat people with great enthusiasm, talk appropriately, ask for something from them, and readily promise. But give up halfway, find various reasons to shirk, become more and more passive in doing things, and finally end up anticlimactic and accomplish nothing.
There are also many such people, who are always self-righteous, or proud of money, or proud of their talents, and know everything, as if the world is big and Laozi is the first. Who can ask a hero? It seems profound, but in fact, what I have learned is just nine Niu Yi hairs, which can't even touch the edge of an expert.
Both of them have committed the taboo of human nature. The former does not have a long-term perspective. Over time, who dares to entrust the big things to the workplace and life? The latter is full of unknown addresses, showing off his achievements everywhere, hoping to broadcast live to the whole world, which means that he must grow up forever and not make mistakes. Once things go wrong, he will get a lot of scolding.
In fact, no one is perfect. If you spend a short time together, you can brag and show enthusiasm. But if you are ambiguous for a long time, you can't grasp each other's temperament and mentality from the beginning. It is better to be a low-key person, release your potential bit by bit, let the other party look forward to it all the time, and leave enough buffer space for yourself.
When your strength exceeds others' expectations or impressions, it brings disdain to the other party, because in the other party's view, this may be just a probability deviation, which belongs to the normal range of actual ability fluctuation near the normal value, and it is not worth making a fuss at all;
If the score exceeds five points, it will surprise the other party, because it has seriously subverted the imagination of the other party, and a sense of freshness that you sit up and take notice arises spontaneously;
More than ten points is an unparalleled soul shock. When the final result of expectation and cognitive judgment is far from or even fundamentally different, congratulations, you will completely change each other's values and gain a lifelong friendship.
Having said so much is by no means to teach you not to make progress. In fact, ignorance is just a gesture in the stage of life. If fate favors you and the opportunity comes, you have to do it when you should. Just before that, we should keep a low profile and wait for the opportunity.
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