When Hong Kong's economy is in recession, many people even have problems surviving, let alone finding suitable jobs. A girl was lucky enough to find a job selling jewelry in an upscale jewelry store, and she was very happy here.
One day, a young man in rags came to the jewelry store. It seems that his condition is very bad. His face is sallow and sad. The girl did not discriminate against him at all, greeted him warmly and accompanied him to visit the jewelry in the counter.
When the telephone rang, the girl was introducing the ring on the plate to the young people. When the girl answered the phone, she accidentally knocked over the plate on the table and gem ring fell to the ground. The girl hurried to meet them. But she clearly remembered that there were five rings, but only four were found, and the fifth ring was missing. At this time, the young man was walking towards the door with some trepidation. Suddenly, she realized where the ring was. The girl hesitated. When the young man walked to the door, the girl stopped him and said:
"Sorry, sir!"
The young man turned and asked, "What is it?"
The girl looked at his nervous twitching face and said nothing.
The young man looked embarrassed and added, "What's the matter?"
The girl said gloomily, "Sir, this is my first job. Is it difficult to find a job now? "
The young man took a look at the girl, a smile appeared on his tight face and replied:
"Yes, indeed."
The girl said, "If I were you, you would do well here."
Finally, the young man stepped back and held out his hand and said to her, "May I bless you?"
The girl immediately reached out and held hands together. The girl said in a very gentle voice, "Good luck to you, too!"
The young man turned and left. The girl went to the counter and gently put the fifth ring back in her hand.
There is no doubt that this is a theft. In general, people's choice may be to call a thief or call the police. However, the clever girl skillfully used the method of suggestion, so that the thief returned the stolen goods unhurriedly, and the thief did not make a fool of himself in public, and corrected his mistake gracefully.
Things in life cannot always be satisfactory. When there is a problem, you might as well subtly insinuate, let the other person understand your intention by hinting, and let him make a judgment, which can solve the problem without hurting the spirit. Song Taizu's flexible use of this skill is to reduce the rights of soldiers by drinking a glass of wine.
In the long history of China, the Five Dynasties was an eventful autumn. Whoever is strong in military power can become an emperor, and the powerful imperial army often becomes the decisive factor of political gains and losses. Li Siyuan, Li Congke, and Guo Wei of the Tang Dynasty all ascended the throne because of the support of the imperial army. Before Song Taizu ascended the throne, he helped Guo Wei seize power. Later, due to outstanding military exploits, he was promoted step by step until he was appointed commander-in-chief of the imperial army. Zhao Kuangyin used his prestige and superior position to launch the Chen Qiao mutiny, and easily gained the regime of the Later Zhou Dynasty and became the first emperor of the Song Dynasty.
After the establishment of the Song Dynasty in Song Taizu, the difficult problem was how to strengthen centralization and prevent the situation of separatist regime from reappearing. "Ups and downs with soldiers", Song Taizu was deeply touched by this. He is a wise man and knows that although the generals are loyal to themselves, some heavily armed senior generals still threaten their own throne.
In fact, while rewarding the generals for their support, Song Taizu implemented a lot of personnel changes and firmly controlled the power of state affairs, especially some important positions in the army, which were arranged for his confidants and cronies, such as Shi Shouxin. However, for Song Taizu, military power is in the hands of his heart and cronies, and it is not easy to sit back and relax. He ascended the throne because he was trusted by Chai Rong, the emperor of Zhou Dynasty.
Maybe one day, similar things will happen to his trusted subordinates, making him sleepless.
One day, Song Taizu, as usual, called Shi Shouxin, Wang Shenqi and other senior generals to get together for a drink. After the wine was hot, Song Taizu sent his entourage away and said to the heroes with deep affection, "Without your support, I wouldn't be where I am today.
I will never forget your achievements. Having said that, Song Taizu breathed a sigh of relief and said, "It's really hard to be the son of heaven. It is difficult for me to sleep well now! " The generals didn't know Song Taizu's real intention, so they asked, "What's the difficulty for your majesty to sleep well?"
Song Taizu calmly replied: The reason is not difficult to know. Think about it. Who doesn't want to sit on the throne of the son of heaven? When Shi Shouxin and others heard these words from his former brother, the son of heaven today, they were terrified and broke out in a cold sweat. The atmosphere of the banquet immediately became tense. They quickly kowtowed and said, "How could your Majesty say such a thing? Since the fate has been set, who dares to be unfaithful again! "
Song Taizu took it, "you can't see it that way. Although you are not disloyal, if some of your subordinates are greedy for money, once you are dressed in a yellow robe, you don't want to be an emperor, but can you do it? " When the generals turned around, they realized what Song Taizu had said, and they cried and bowed down, saying, "I am stupid. Please have pity on us and show us a way out. "
When Song Taizu saw this scene, he knew that the time was ripe, and took this opportunity to express his thoughtful thoughts: "Life is short and fleeting. Those who dream of being rich and expensive just want to save more money for themselves to eat, drink and be merry, so that their children and grandchildren can live a good life. Why not give up the military power, be a local official, choose a good field and house, leave an unshakable inheritance for future generations, buy more geisha and dance, and spend their old age safely. When the time comes, I will form children's in-laws with you, and there will be no suspicion between the monarch and the minister. Isn't that great? "
Shi Shouxin and others listened to Mao's words, and the panic and fear gradually disappeared, and gratitude and gratitude arose. So the two kowtowed and thanked him, saying, "Your Majesty is so considerate, what are we worried about!"
The next day, Shi Shouxin and other veteran heroes wrote in succession, saying that they were unwell and unfit to lead troops to fight, and requested to relieve the relieving. Song Taizu was very happy, and immediately agreed to their request, relieved their whole army of power, and gave them a lot of gold and silver treasures.
Song Taizu successfully relieved the military power of ministers, which is called "relieving the military power with a glass of wine" in history. Song Taizu did not use the method of killing heroes used by some monarchs in history to solve the problem. Instead, we should adopt a peaceful way, subtly nudge the key point of the problem, and let our men willingly hand over their military power. This will not only help to calm people's minds and consolidate the ruling order, but also help to further strengthen the concentration of military forces and promote the deepening of military reform. It's really a win-win situation.
"The founding emperor was very afraid of those heavily armed generals. Song Taizu ascended the throne through a military coup, which is even more obvious. Therefore, he wants to remove the heavily armed generals from their military posts in order to eliminate their threat to his throne. However, Song Taizu didn't want to extend the butcher's knife to his cronies and brothers, so he took the method of beating about the bush and suggested inducing these generals to draw their own conclusions, thus easily solving this big problem without bloodshed. Compared with Liu Bang, Emperor Gaozu, Zhu Yuanzhang and Ming Taizu. This skill is too clever.
For those who deal with public relations affairs, it is really a good way to awaken each other and express their ideas by innuendo and suggestion, which can often solve problems well and achieve their goals easily without paying too much.
In the process of doing things and asking for help, sometimes it is impossible to solve the problem by moving with reason and knowing with emotion. As the saying goes, "please hurry." On the contrary, using provocation may produce miraculous effects, and then achieve your own goals.
A fox, very, very hungry, searched for food for a long time and finally found a piece of meat, but the meat was taken away by a crow. The fox can only watch the crow fly to a big tree with meat in its mouth, but there is nothing he can do.
Looking at the piece of meat, the fox was tired and hungry, so he begged the crow to give it a small piece of meat to taste, but the crow ignored it. Finally, the fox thought of a way. He said loudly to the crow, "Many animals say that your voice is beautiful, even better than that of an oriole. Is that so? "
Some time ago, because the crow found a plague in time, many animals were saved in the jungle. Many animals praised the crow for its beautiful voice, which is also the crows' proudest thing.
The crow listened to the fox's words, opened his mouth and almost spit out the meat, but still resisted the impulse to talk and nodded.
Unexpectedly, the fox laughed when he saw the crow's movements, and the crow's eyes widened.
The fox smiled and said, "Do you want to know why I am laughing? I'm laughing at you. I'm overreaching. I thought my voice was better than oriole's. I've only heard of it before. I didn't expect you to admit it. That's ridiculous. I think even my broken gong voice is better than yours. Can you believe it? Let's compare it. "
The fox said, ignoring the crow's reaction, shouting proudly, but looking at the crow defiantly. What the fox said is really good. When its sound is really harsh, it is much worse than the sound of a broken gong.
The crow has been trembling with anger by the fox's words. When he heard the fox's provocation again, where could he hold back his anger? He opened his mouth to defend himself. Who knows that the meat in his mouth has dropped, and the sly fox has already prepared it. After seeing the meat fall, he rushed up with the fastest speed to take a bite and ran away without looking back.
Only when the crow saw this situation did he know that he had been taken in by the fox.
The hungry fox wants the meat he wants from the crow's mouth. At first he begged, but he didn't succeed. Later, he dared to get what he wanted from crow's mouth.
Please don't be as good as a thorn stick. Zhuge Liang in the Three Kingdoms period understood this truth very well. He used the goading method in Jiangdong successively, which made Sun Quan and Zhou Yu promise to unite Wu against Cao, and then defeated Cao in Chibi World War I, laying the foundation for Sun Quan, Liu and Cao to divide the world.
In 208 AD, Liu Bei was beaten out of the water by Cao Cao, and he was defeated again and again, and finally fled to Xiakou. Liu Bei, who was defeated by Lien Chan single-handedly, tried to fight against Cao Cao's army by throwing stones as an ally and brought about his own destruction. According to the situation at that time, there was no other way out except to jointly occupy Sun Quan in Jiangdong.
But Cao Cao has just conquered Jingzhou, and the army is stronger than Mazhuang, and its momentum is like a rainbow. How could Sun Quan, who was on the sidelines, agree to cooperate with Liu Bei against Cao Cao? This is undoubtedly a big problem.
Just then, Zhuge Liang stepped forward and went to Soochow alone to persuade Sun Quan and Zhou Yu to form an alliance with Sun Liu and defeat Cao Cao. So how did Zhuge Liang do it? When Zhuge Liang arrived in Jiangdong, he saw Sun Quan with blue eyes and purple beard, and he was handsome. He thought that gentle persuasion might not achieve his goal and decided to irritate the other side with words.
So Zhuge Liang said this: "Now the world is in chaos, the general is dispatching troops, Jiangdong and Liu Bei have recovered Jiangnan and are ready to compete with Cao Cao for the world." But Cao Caobing was stronger than Ma Zhuang and defeated many people. Recently, it won Jingzhou, which has a great influence in the world. If he is only a hero, he can't help him. This is also the reason why Liu Bei fled here. You should plan ahead and think carefully. If you can compete with Cao Cao with your own strength, you should break off diplomatic relations with him as soon as possible. If you can't fight, listen to the counselor, disarm and bow down. If the general pretends to obey, but his heart is hesitant and he can't make a decisive decision in an emergency, then disaster will soon come. "
Instead of answering Zhuge Liang, Sun Quan asked, "Even if what you said is true, why didn't Liu Bei surrender to Cao Cao?"
Zhuge Liang said, "There was a strong man named Tian Heng in the State of Qi. He would rather die than surrender to Emperor Gaozu because of his morality. What's more, Liu Beiben is a descendant of the Han Dynasty and an outstanding person in the world. Even if the situation is not good now, many people admire him and have defected to the enemy. Whether things are successful or not is up to God. Liu Bei is a generation of heroes. How can he submit to Cao Cao and be willing to be under others? "
After hearing this, Sun Quan flew into a rage and said, "I have 100,000 troops in Wudong, and I have inherited the painstaking efforts of my father and brother. How can I easily give these heritages to others? "
Zhuge Liang's words strengthened Sun Quan's determination to resist Cao, but it was not enough.
Zhuge Liang then carefully analyzed the situation of both sides for Sun Quan, enumerated many disadvantages of Cao Cao, and then persuaded Zhou Yu, the supreme military commander of Soochow.
After seeing Zhou Yu, Zhuge Liang made a few noises and said, "I have an idea. Not only do I not have to sacrifice grain and grass to Cao Cao, but I don't even have to see Cao Cao's face. As long as an emissary is sent on board to take two people to see Cao Cao, Cao Cao will naturally retreat. "
Zhou Yu was also worried about Cao Cao's army going south. Hearing Zhuge Liang's remarks, he was naturally curious and asked Zhuge Liang which of the two men had the ability to beat back Cao Cao's million-strong army.
Zhuge Liang deliberately betrayed them, saying, "The loss of these two men in Jiangdong is like the loss of a leaf in a big tree and a grain of rice in a rice barn, which is nothing at all. But Cao Cao will be overjoyed to get these two men and lead his army north. " Seeing Zhou Yu's impatience, Zhuge Liang went on to say, "When I was in Longzhong, I heard that Cao Cao built a bronze sparrow terrace, which was very gorgeous and spectacular. I also heard that Joe in Jiangdong has two daughters. The eldest daughter's name is Da Qiao, and the youngest daughter's name is Xiao Qiao. She is very beautiful. Cao Cao was originally a lecherous, and once said that one of his wishes was to sweep the world and achieve imperial career; The second is to get the Qiao sisters in Jiangdong and put them in a bronze sparrow terrace for their old age. Now Cao Cao, a million-man army, seems to have swept across Jiangdong, but the actual purpose is to get these two beautiful women. Therefore, the general should find Gong Qiao, buy these two beautiful women with a lot of money, and then send someone to Cao Cao, and Cao Cao will be satisfied. This will naturally make Cao Cao retreat. "
Zhou Yu listened to Zhuge Liang with a grain of salt and asked Zhuge Liang, "Is there any evidence for you to say so?"
Zhuge Liang said, "Cao Zhi, the youngest son of Cao Cao, is very literary. After Cao Cao built the Tongque Terrace, he asked Cao Zhi to write an article entitled "Ode to the Tongque Terrace", which was what he meant. Because this article is well written, I often read it, often remember it and often recite it to you. "
Later, Zhuge Liang recited the "Ode to the Bronze Quetai" and said, "There are two sentences in the southeast that embrace Er Qiao, so I will reward them sooner or later." . ? Isn't that what it means? "
Zhou Yu flew into a rage after hearing this, left his seat and pointed to the north to scold Cao Cao. Zhuge Liang quickly stood up and stopped him, saying, "During the Han Dynasty, the Huns invaded the frontier many times. The emperor of the Han Dynasty gave the princesses to others for intimacy. Now they are just two women among the people, so the governor need not feel so sorry. "
Zhou Yu said, "Da Qiao is Sun Bofu's wife and Xiao Qiao is my wife."
Zhuge Liang pretended to apologize, and Zhou Yu said, "I won the trust of Sun Bofu. How can we surrender to Cao Cao? That's just to test your sincerity. I hope you can help me and defeat Cao Jun. "
After persuading Sun Quan and Zhou Yu, the Sun-Liu alliance naturally formed and defeated Cao Cao in Battle of Red Cliffs.
In the process of Sun Liu's alliance, of course, Sun Quan and Zhou Yu were unwilling to give in to Cao Cao, but if Zhuge Liang hadn't cleverly goaded Wu Dong into making up his mind early, I'm afraid the alliance between the two countries is still in the foreseeable future, and Liu Bei, who is in a critical situation, would have been won by Cao Cao.
When doing things, if the clerk thinks that soft pleading is not enough, he might as well try challenging, which may make it easier to succeed.