One of the answers is this:

Poverty is not a crime, nor is the pursuit of exquisiteness, but it is wrong to oppose poverty and exquisiteness, and it is even more wrong to equate exquisiteness with consumerism.

Anyone can be exquisite and poor, so please learn to be exquisite with less money instead of spending your hard-earned money or your parents' money as a wedding dress for capitalists.

This reminds me of what Yi Shu wrote in little reunion. A lady with real temperament never shows off everything she has. She doesn't tell others what books she has read, where she has been, how many clothes she has and what jewelry she has bought, because she has no sense of inferiority.

The same is true of really exquisite girls. She has no sense of inferiority, and she doesn't need money and material to build herself up.

In our consciousness of pursuing drama, female number one is the role of the heroine's halo above her head. Everything they do is positive, and the people they meet are warm and beautiful.

But this play is a bit unconventional and especially true.

I think the reason why the role of Wang Manni comments on polarization is that on the one hand, the audience supports the heroine Jiang Shuying and is enthusiastic about the heroine Wang Manni;

On the other hand, many people see the shadow of "extreme poverty" in Wang Manni. For example:

I have worked hard in big cities for many years and have almost no savings. 1978, parents need to make more efforts to save 654.38 million yuan.

The flowers must be spent, and they will hurt you mercilessly. When traveling, in order to upgrade my grade, I will not hesitate to swipe my credit card and then repay it in installments.

Life is very particular, and carpooling is not accepted. Holding a monthly salary of 15 thousand, but dreaming of a life of "51 thousand"

Wang Manni's body always reveals that in order to live exquisitely, she does not hesitate to be poor.

There is nothing wrong with being poor. It is even more true that she doesn't want to be poor. Wang Manni, just a Cinderella, wants to live a rich life and marry a handsome and rich prince charming. It was only after she was black and blue that she realized that Prince Charming had only married one princess.

Wang Manni came to Shanghai from a small town and worked in a luxury store for eight years. With her own efforts and progress, her performance is good. Fortunately, after she got a million-dollar order, she was promoted to sales supervisor.

Her hard-working attitude is admirable, and her hard work on life is touching.

In order to win customer resources and performance, she doesn't drink water or go to the toilet. As a result, she got acute nephritis, fainted in the rental house with pain, and was called an ambulance by her mother who was far away from home.

In order to save money, she ate a box lunch and saved 10 yuan. She only buys four pairs of shoes a year and changes them in spring, summer, autumn and winter. She also hoarded a lot of discounted shampoo online, and filled the refrigerator with enough food to eat for a week.

But at the same time, she will also show a sense of pride from time to time, and I will always deserve better.

After rejecting the greasy blind date introduced by his family, Wang Manni said disdainfully, "I am too expensive for you."

After talking to his mother on the phone, Wang Manni said that if I want to get married, I can get married in a few minutes. I don't want to go home or find ordinary people.

But she is an ordinary person.

On the balcony of the rental house, she likes to sit there and watch the lively crowd quietly. She feels that she belongs to Shanghai.

Wang Manni, with face and brains, never gave up her pursuit of exquisite life, but her own conditions were limited.

Wang Manni once said that at the age of 30, she would either buy a house in Shanghai or find someone to marry.

But at the age of thirty, she has neither bought a house nor got married.

In fact, Wang Manni knows her identity as an ordinary person.

When Zhong Xiang introduced the elevator, there was an inner monologue. She said that she was about to enter a rich family, not an ordinary family. At that moment, she also understood that what is even more worrying is the material hardship that has always been.

Therefore, Wang Manni is contradictory. She wants to marry a rich man, but she is poor. She thinks she is beautiful and smart and can choose a good couple, but she has no background.

On the one hand, she yearns for exquisite life all the time, on the other hand, she often falls into material difficulties, so she falls into the deep pit of "exquisite poverty".

Monthly salary 15000, she spent 8500 to rent a house, just to have her own independent living room, kitchen and bathroom. As for the sharing that can save 2000 yuan, she flatly refused to consider the intermediary.

The company rewarded her with a trip to Europe. In order to upgrade her grades, she swiped 18,000 credit cards, repaid the loans in installments, and spent huge sums of money to buy Liang Zhengxian a lettering suitcase. She needs a month without food or drink to pay off her debts.

Wang Manni is too tired.

The price of her pursuit of "exquisiteness" is to dig a "poor" pit for herself. When the pit is finally filled, she will continue to dig another one, and she can't find the direction again and again.

Zhong once said a meaningful sentence: "Man, you have taken something that doesn't belong to you, and sooner or later you have to return it in another way."

The "exquisiteness" at the expense of "poverty" is exactly what Zhong said does not belong to her. She met Liang Zhengxian.

The love experience between Wang Manni and Liang Zhengxian is a pool of "dog blood", because Liang Zhengxian has a real girlfriend and Wang Manni is a mistress.

If Wang Manni hadn't paid extra for the cruise, maybe she wouldn't have met Liang Zhengxian, and she wouldn't have experienced a series of bad things, such as being slapped in the face by her real girlfriend, slapping her face hard and losing her job.

Or is matter more than reason? Wang Manni's concept of mate selection is clear, rich, interesting and handsome. She is a poor girl and puts money first.

In fact, Liang Zhengxian saw Wang Manni clearly from the beginning.

Two people are chatting on a cruise ship. Wang Manni doesn't understand why ordinary people can't have a good meal in a pay-per-view restaurant.

Liang Zhengxian's explanation is that some people think that the restaurant doesn't belong to their own cabin, so they won't look twice. Some people can afford it and need to pay extra, but they will eventually return to the restaurant contained in the cabin they bought before boarding.

Liang Zhengxian had just finished the analysis, and Wang Manni quickly replied that she was not the second person.

But before the cruise ship docked, she frankly told Liang Zhengxian that it was like dreaming to have a holiday these days. When the ship landed, the dream woke up.

Knowing this in hindsight is tantamount to admitting that he is the second person in Liang Zhengxian's mouth.

No matter how time passes, no matter ten years or eight years, I will finally return to my position.

Wang Manni's ex-boyfriend took her to buy jewelry. The amount of the card is not enough, so she can't swipe it. Her ex-boyfriend said cash. Wang Manni returned the jewelry directly, waited for a while and said to her ex-boyfriend, "Look, your card is maxed out, only enough for me to buy a necklace. We are really not suitable."

This scene reveals a strong worship of money, which is exactly the same as Chen Ke's experience in the TV series "Picture Book of Women in Beijing".

On Chen Ke's birthday, her boyfriend took out a gift bag. She was happy to be a LV bag, but she was disappointed all night when her boyfriend took out a suspender pajamas with a postage of 299 yuan.

I went to a buffet with my boyfriend that night. She was absent-minded, and her eyes kept staring at the LV bag of the lady at the next table. She broke up with her boyfriend after the buffet.

After that, she applied for a credit card and gave herself a LV bag.

A "delicate and poor" girl wants both love and material things, but when love can't meet material needs, she will choose to give up love and pursue material things, and gradually get lost in the material world.

Wang Manni said, I'm waiting for a man who can stand in front of me and lead the way, not a man who follows me and gives me clothes and meals at any time.

I don't want to live a plain life, and I won't find someone worse than me. I just want to find a better man than me. He is rich, interesting and handsome.

When she met Liang Zhengxian, she thought that her 30-year-old self had finally arrived. As a result, the other party was just having fun.

Wang Manni, who has worked hard in the bustling metropolis for many years, has never set foot on the road, because she has never put herself in a right position and is unwilling to accept her ordinary life and lack of money.

When she fell in love with her ex-boyfriend, she yearned for pure and beautiful love, but was defeated by material things; When she gave her heart to Liang Zhengxian, what she longed for was marriage, but she was persuaded by Liang Zhengxian's unmarried doctrine. She told her best friend that if Liang Zhengxian never got married, she wouldn't get married either.

She worked hard, but she lost herself again and again.

Daisy, the new assistant in the shop, said to Wang Manni:

"Make a rich boyfriend, wear a famous brand, drive a good car and park a parking space. You are not the kind of woman who loves fantasy! We have met many rich people in the study abroad circle, and the speed of changing girlfriends can catch up with the new season. In the final analysis, women still have to keep their careers. How many things can come to the end between men and women? "

Even Wang Manni's sworn enemy Daisy saw through her, but she couldn't understand.

Wang Manni doesn't know who he really is, living a life of contradictions, sometimes dreaming sweet teenage dreams, and sometimes looking at the present helplessly when he has nothing.

I don't deny that she is a hard-working girl, but she always shows the "poverty" brought by the pursuit of high material. Liang Zhengxian bought her a car, but she couldn't afford the parking fee.

The inequality between reality and dreams makes it impossible for her to live her true self.

Invite Zhong to eat jiaozi at home. Eating and eating, she suddenly cried and said, "I have been in this city for eight years, and I have no sense of belonging at all, and I don't know where my future is."

She is still confused.

I envy other people's exquisite lives, but I don't envy them at all for pursuing exquisiteness that is inconsistent with their own abilities. In the process of chasing, they gradually lost themselves and forgot where they came from and where they were going.

On the contrary, I appreciate the first group of people mentioned by Liang Zhengxian on the cruise ship. They know that the restaurant doesn't belong to them, so they won't look twice.

Like a clock, he works hard and leads an ordinary life.

There is a debate in "Seven Overlords". Is it wrong for me to be "exquisite and poor" at a young age?

The guest invited at that time was YCY. She said there was nothing wrong with exquisiteness and poverty. It takes money to make money. Investing every penny you earn in yourself can enhance your self-confidence, self-esteem and work efficiency.

At the same time, YCY blew herself up the first time she came out to work and took a fancy to a 700 yuan skirt. At that time, her salary was only 800 yuan, but she bought a skirt and left 100 yuan to drink porridge every day.

Cai Kangyong asked YCY, did this skirt bring some positive energy?

YCY said that at that time, I felt that I owned the whole world, but it was like that after the skirt was worn out.

Because the material on the surface is empty after all, what the years can't take away is the confidence in the bones.

Those young people who don't have much income, but are bent on pursuing a refined life, will drink porridge for a month, repay their loans for more than half a month for a bag, and overdraw their budget for half a year for a trip.

They enjoyed a short-lived pleasure, but the "price" paid for it was long and profound.

There is no denying that everyone is eager to live a refined life, but before pursuing a refined life, should we ask ourselves, can I afford it?

If the gap between dreams and reality is too big, it will inevitably overdraw consumption and supplement the present with the future. This future is too fragile.

True exquisiteness does not come at the expense of poverty.

Li Yinhe once said that an exquisite life is first sober, not ignorant, that is, aware of its own existence; Secondly, it is peace, not anxiety; Happiness again, not pain.

What I understand from this explanation is that those who live a truly exquisite life are soberly aware of their economic ability, and they are not robbing Peter to pay Paul. They spend every penny they earn peacefully, with little impulse consumption. They are also happy after spending money, instead of eating steamed bread, drinking rice porridge and spending money to wronged themselves.

Some people live just for a bare face and never tidy up their lining. If people don't have exquisite lining, how can they show their confidence?

See if a person is really alive, see her heart.