Everyone says that now. A chic life has become a lifestyle pursued by many people.
However, I'm afraid there are many different views on what a chic life is. Do whatever you want, don't go against yourself, don't consider the consequences, life is alive, anyway, it's a person's trip, is it chic? I go my own way, no matter what others think or say, I have no scruples about what I want to say and do not hesitate to say it. I will devote myself to what I want to do and do it regardless. Is it chic? Earn money, work hard, spend money, enjoy yourself, respect your needs and follow your feelings. Is it chic?
Don't be trapped by complicated interpersonal relationships, fame and fortune, don't set rules for yourself, and don't engage in "three essentials" and "four essentials". When the car comes to an end, people will find their way, put down themselves and their lives. Is it chic?
At any time, you can go with the flow, eat and play, go up and down, work and farm, talk about things, be serious and funny, laugh and cry, be able to afford to let go, spend a lot of money, let life slip past you, and talk about Sartre, Zhuangzi and future philosophy with a plate of peanuts. Is this chic?
When I left home or office, it suddenly occurred to me to wander around places I had never been before. As a result, I quit my job, sold my furniture and went straight to the station without looking back. I bought a third-class ticket and got on the train. Is this chic?
Maybe these are chic, maybe not, because chic is a kind of secular liberation, freedom of mind, freedom of personality and smooth behavior. A chic life can not only grasp yourself, but also show, play and enjoy your life to the fullest. More importantly, it can be displayed brilliantly, displayed incisively and vividly, and enjoyed extraordinary. Handsome people not only live freely, but also live beautifully, neatly and beautifully; Handsome is actually a kind of beauty, a rare beauty in life, and a beauty that expresses life and activities.
Therefore, chic is rare, or chic is rare. Although everyone is thinking about "a walk on a rainy day", walking is not easy. For example, people can't be chic without money, and they can't be chic with money; People with families are dragged down everywhere, and people without families are always lost; Being famous is easy and unprofitable, but as a servant, no one will buy your account; I go my own way and don't care what others say. It is really unique, but if it doesn't matter, I can't move in this world ... and so on. It's hard to live freely, smartly and beautifully!
However, it is not easy to be chic, to live a good life, and to live freely for ten lives. Who doesn't yearn for and envy, as long as you don't want to be bound by life and your humanity is distorted, then you will be chic sooner or later.
Romantic life
Romantic life is full of adventure, fantasy, passion and sad stories. People who are not passionate, unimaginative, calculating, understanding and self-disciplined cannot have a romantic life.
Romantic life is an exciting and burning passion. For the people and things you love, the fantasy realm you yearn for, and the magical picture you create, you are full of infatuation and yearning. You are willing to put your whole life into it, let it burn itself, make its life upside down and miserable, and you don't care if it turns into smoke in the flame.
Passion is never self-satisfied. Romance means a kind of contempt and resistance to tradition and convention. It hates following the rules. Wherever passion goes, it is like lightning, like a mountain fire, like a first-class spring. There is no reason to explain, nothing can be put out and nothing can be stopped. It is explosive, jumping, inescapable, impeccable and even more desperate. At this time, people only obey the orders of passion. Where does the river of life flow? It enters with enthusiastic laughter and collision.
Romance itself is a passionate song. Its greatest feature is unreserved emotional dedication. This is the touchstone to test true romance and false romance. Because there are all kinds of fake romances in this world, flirting everywhere, pretending to be noble everywhere, swindling everywhere, swearing with ulterior motives, haggling over every ounce and pretending to be open. ......
Whether romance is romantic depends on subjective temperament and modality. With romantic temperament, there will naturally be adventures, ups and downs and colorful life stories. Because the romantic self is the protagonist of this adventure, the maker of ups and downs, and the central figure of a wonderful life story.
You said that this man lived a romantic life, not because he was particularly lucky and met unique people and things, but because he had passion and temperament, and he loved to death when he wanted to love. No matter how long and tortuous the road of love was, he just firmly grasped his own direction and would rather die than give up.
Therefore, romantic life is not a regular and standard life. It may be a piece of water in Wang Yang, a waterfall and a bunch of wild ivy. Passion overflows everywhere when it is high. When it meets the wall, it will fly down. When it finds someone, it will climb up desperately. Wonderful stories often arise from this irregular commotion and chase.
Therefore, there are great joys and great sorrows in romance. When you are happy, you will fly high and get carried away. This is the ultimate beauty and the peak of love. When you are sad, you are depressed and desperate. Is the abyss of despair, the bottom of pain. People who can't stand this despair and pain had better not have a romantic life.
Romantic life
Romantic life is mostly related to talented people and celebrities. Only those who live a chic life and are not trapped by secular norms and fame and fortune are romantic. True romance is not a romantic generation who just wants to take advantage of a little, but a romantic and informal relationship. Romantic life is often celebrated through the ages, which reads out the wonderful scenery on the road to enjoying love. For example, the story of King Edward VIII of England is widely celebrated. Edward, born in 1894, is a truly unpatriotic and romantic king. He has participated in a series of romantic events since he was a child, and especially likes to have sex with married women. Once, hiding in a bomb shelter, he met Mrs. Ward, the wife of a Liberal MP, and immediately fell in love, which triggered a love fire in 16 years. During this period, he fell in love with many beautiful women at first sight and was entangled in lingering love. Among them, his love affair with Simpson, the wife of a naval officer, shocked the ruling and opposition parties. It is said that Mrs. Simpson seems to have a magic power. She possessed Prince Edward and pursued her crazily. Love her. In order to please Mrs Simpson, he quietly took out gold, jade, diamonds, jewelry and other treasures worth 654.38+10,000 pounds handed down from the royal treasure house and gave them to Mrs Simpson. Later, the relationship between the two became more and more tense and they began to show off in public. /kloc-in the summer of 0/936, they spent their holidays in Yugoslavia and Greece, walking, swimming and sunbathing at the seaside together. Dressed in swimsuits and shirtless, Mrs Simpson and Edward, like nobody's business, suddenly became "explosive" news in European and American newspapers, shocking the British royal family. When Edward proposed to Simpson, he was immediately opposed by all walks of life. The British Parliament and the Church believe that Edward VIII, as the king of England, should never be allowed to marry Mrs Simpson, because Mrs Simpson was born in a commoner, divorced in the past and is now a married woman. Edward's behavior was against the state religion and disrespectful. Some people even claimed to blow up Mrs Simpson's house, which scared Edward VIII to move in with her. Finally, the cabinet meeting decided that Edward should either marry Mrs. Simpson and abdicate, or become a king and give up his marriage. You can't have both. In this case, Mrs. Simpson suggested that she was willing to leave England and let Edward continue to be king, but Edward was determined not to change her mind. He would rather lose his crown than the woman he really loves. So 1936 12 10, he signed the Imperial abdication, and then left London, finally ending his romantic life in exile.
It can be seen that the romantic life is romantic precisely because it shows that human nature is not bound by customs.
Enjoy life: people are born to enjoy, and living is to pursue happiness. This is many people's outlook on life. Just think about it. What are people doing alive? Aren't they all dying? Don't great men and small people, wise men and fools, generals and soldiers all walk in this world? The end result is nothing more than emptiness, nothing, naked coming and going. In that case, everything in life is unreliable, except one's own worldly life enjoyment. Therefore, never mistreat yourself, let alone think too much, and be an ascetic. Therefore, hedonism prevailed in times of peace and prosperity and abundant crops. Because life is good, people no longer feel that there is anything worth dedicating and pursuing, let alone worrying about how to spend tomorrow. As a result, there was a banquet and a drunken dream. "Today, people are drunk, and they don't know that people are worried all night." There are various kinds of enjoyment clubs, carnival dinners, and even extravagant and desperate gambling. ......
Enjoying life is mostly sensory satisfaction and enjoyment. They experience life with their senses instead of their hearts. Sensory people, nothing more than mouth to taste, eyes to color; Nothing more than lust, lust, sexual desire and so on. When a person is immersed in the pleasure of the senses, he will fully feel the needs and energy of his life, and he will forget everything, first of all, the final outcome of man-death. Therefore, people who enjoy life often have a feeling of grabbing life space with death, as if seizing every minute of enjoyment makes people feel that living is worthwhile, otherwise it is not worthwhile, or it is in vain.
Therefore, people who enjoy life are crazy. They are desperate, don't consider the future, don't consider the consequences, don't believe in the afterlife, don't obey God, and don't even care about their bodies. Immediate pleasure is everything, including drunkenness, indulgence, gluttony and drug abuse. Many people lost their lives because of the so-called wine pool, meat forest and extravagance.
Enjoying life is not necessarily happiness. On the contrary, people who pursue pleasure are often very desperate, desperate for the world (thinking that there is nothing worth pursuing) and desperate for themselves (they will die sooner or later anyway). Pleasure is just a kind of life and a life-saving straw in the world. Besides, sensory enjoyment is limited and short-lived; Excitement is always fleeting, and it can't be an orgasm forever. So hedonists' emotions tend to fluctuate greatly. When he was excited, he was carried away, full of flavor, vitality and enjoyment, but after he was excited, he was so empty and depressed that he even wanted to commit suicide by jumping off a building. After the carnival, many people committed suicide.
Entertainment life: life is pleasing to the eye, and entertainment is the main theme.
My life is designed by myself, but there are not so many things I have to do. I don't care whether the road of life is straight or curved, and where it leads. But I want to see the beautiful scenery that others have seen, and I don't want to give up trying what others haven't enjoyed.
I am easy-going, have a wide range of interests and have a comprehensive life. I am willing to try and appreciate everything in this world. For example, different lifestyles abroad will impress me because of their richness. My interest shuttles between different customs. I like all kinds of food, whether it's butter, walnut oil or sesame oil, and I don't care whether they are in tin plates, wooden bowls or clay pots. I will appreciate it slowly and savor it. I seize every second to entertain. I like all "useless" things that have nothing to do with fame and fortune, and I am always addicted to them. I open the newspaper and never read political and economic news or world events. I like reading anecdotes and new tricks of entertainment. Of course, after reading all this, there is nothing to see. I will read column by column, even the advertisements for missing persons in the cracks, because my life needs recreation, which is recreation.
I never like my job unless it is also a pastime. Because I like so many things. Reading, playing cards, drinking tea, walking, chatting, playing chess, sitting on the bed, picking my feet, hiding in the bathroom and cutting my nails. These are pastimes, but also pleasing to the eye in life.
Recreation doesn't care about the object or the length of time. The key is fun and enjoyable, don't worry. For example, reading books, I never read voluminous philosophical books, boring history books and profound modern novels. I really don't understand why the authors of these books torture themselves like this and then torture others. For what? Why does life need so much philosophy? Is it too soon to think hard? Some people say that he also wants to have fun, but he just has no time; Ah, this is really a big joke. No one wants to have fun and has no time. As long as you really want to play, not half-hearted, not just playing as a rest, then time will come. In people's life, we never have time to entertain ourselves, only time to entertain ourselves. If you don't believe me, come to me. Sitting in the office, walking on the road and returning home, I am enjoying myself. What I hope most now is that my boss will fire me, and then I will have more entertainment.
Kuanshu life
People live happily and have less troubles; If you want to worry less, you have to be broad-minded, learn to forgive yourself and tolerate others. This is called an easy life. Life was supposed to be leisurely.
If people want to live a comfortable life, they must first accept themselves and their nature, and they will not be too harsh on themselves, nor will they be anxious because they look down on themselves. When they encounter misfortune and disaster, they will suffer like others, but they can overcome it and live as usual. Unlike some people, they are not worried about possible disasters. They will make some necessary preparations, but they will not be exhausted.
Kuanshu leads a very casual life. They know their temper, their desires and opinions. They don't have to investigate and verify anything first, and they don't have to look at other people's opinions. They just go their own way.
At the same time, life is tolerant of others and things that you don't know. They know that life is changeable, which is a reality that individuals cannot change. People should not only accept this reality, but also find pleasure in it, so there is no need to live in fear and worry. For things that you don't understand, you always take a recognized attitude, and then slowly ponder and understand. Because of this tolerance, people who live a relaxed life have a harmonious relationship with others, because they can naturally get along with all kinds of people, regardless of their age, education and personality characteristics. Because they treat people as they are, not as they want, they seldom feel disappointed in others, let alone find fault with others, and always feel that others are not qualified-if so, their anger will rise and their hearts will beat faster. For example, a professor is a workaholic who often goes out early and comes back late, and things at home are delayed, but his wife is at ease. She said, "When we got married, I knew he couldn't change his temper, so he often came home late, even spent Saturday and Sunday in the lab, and I wouldn't find it too unbearable." With tolerance, life can be stretched and comfortable, which is the meaning of stretching life. Therefore, the relaxation of life is a comfortable lifestyle based on understanding reality. Forgiveness means not complaining, not false happiness, deceptive tolerance and dishonest whimsy; People who live an easy life are realistic and don't look at life entirely through rose-colored glasses or sunglasses. A generous life shows a healthy and beautiful human nature.
Broad-minded life: Broad-minded life is a desert-like life, because it can accept the wind from all directions, not stick to Nana Ogawa, not wandering in the narrow path, let the wind roll, Sha Fei, everything with life and death, everything with nature, life will rise and fall.
A broad-minded life is also like the sea, because it is broad-minded, full of endless sorrows, full of human affairs, living freely and the sky is vast. The first step to be broad-minded is to see through the limited life. Life is a hundred years at most, neither long nor short. Everyone is in the same situation. You don't need to be jealous of me, but don't think I'm missing. The rich cannot enjoy wealth forever, and the poor will not suffer forever. Besides, life is varied, and everyone can only live once. If you are lucky enough to succeed, you will not experience the glory of challenging life. Everyone has his own way of living, his own joys and sorrows.
Seeing through is seeing the ultimate, seeing nothing from the present situation, and seeing emptiness from the present situation. Life is empty, from empty to empty, the final result is nothing. Therefore, there is nothing hard to think about and nothing to let go of. Besides, how little joy there is in life and how short time is; There is no need to tie yourself to mundane trifles, no matter how deep the suffering in life is and how many things you worry about.
Open-minded people like to walk on the wasteland. Faced with complicated life situations, they often sigh: "Let's look at this vast universe and experience the silence of history. What a foolish act it is for a corpse to entangle its precious time in some boring trifles. I want to ask, time has changed, who is still interested in the trivial things you fought with me?
See through, see through, people's life will be free, they will come out of the small circle of haggling over every ounce, they will no longer waste themselves on small things, they will be able to serve people who are big and far away and create a long-term vision of life. If life is broad-minded, the mind will naturally not be tired, and living will not be so stiff and painful. Little things can't bring him trouble, and unpleasant experiences can't make him complain. Broad-minded people understand others and life. When you are happy, you can be presumptuous, when you encounter setbacks, you can let nature take its course, when you do things, you can concentrate, and when you are indifferent, you can get carried away. Such people live in the world without compromising themselves, but they don't care about others, so everyone likes them and admires them. I remember a foreign writer once said, "Life is short for those who are angry about trifles." On the other hand, a broad-minded person will live a long life, because the life of a broad-minded person is connected with the sky and the sea and can withstand all kinds of storms in life.
Life beyond things: After experiencing all kinds of life, some people will have a new understanding of life. They don't think that being serious, overly serious and devoted is a wise way of life. Instead, they will pursue a detached life and live more easily. The so-called detachment probably means not being too involved in everything, but standing a little farther away, so that you can probably avoid many trivial things in life and keep more of yourself.
Of course, detachment should not be too idealistic, and you should be too demanding of yourself. As far as the relationship between people is concerned, Roland, a writer in Taiwan Province Province, once talked about the experience of "treating others with dignity and detachment", which is very interesting. He said that there is a kind of person who is very considerate and considerate. Every colleague, every relative, every friend, happy birthday, Chinese New Year holiday, let their children's birthdays, graduation, awards, admission to school and so on all forget. He is always the first to entertain, give gifts and congratulate; Speak more tactfully at ordinary times, and you can't offend people everywhere. You can handle everything when you see what others say. But Roland found that such people not only live very hard and tired, but often don't end well. Because his life is occupied by these miscellaneous things, he is exhausted, but he has no time to do what he wants and should do. Besides, such people don't want to offend people too much. He often feels that once someone says that he is not good, he is very sad and nervous because he is very dedicated to others. In other words, people are really ungrateful in many ways. The more perfect and comprehensive people are, the more they like to find faults and find faults. If they occasionally find an omission, the less they will forgive them. This is probably the tragedy of most people who are over-committed. So get out of life. Transcendence is also a psychological way to protect yourself from harm. People often say that the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment, and finally unable to extricate themselves from the quagmire, which is probably the result of not being detached. Don't think that detachment is indifference, indifference to life, and lack of sympathy and sincerity to people.
Actually, detachment is an independent bearing. Don't haggle over personal gains and losses and others' evaluation of yourself, don't join the small circle of personnel disputes, don't judge others' merits and demerits behind their backs, and are not keen on passing on and probing into gossip, which are all manifestations of life's detachment.
In fact, how long does a person live? How can you live a chic and happy life if you are obsessed with complicated interpersonal relationships and petty profits all day? How can I achieve my career? It's better to get rid of it than to dwell on it.
Happiness lies in contentment: Happiness lies in contentment, which is a realm of China people's life. It shows that it is not so difficult for people to be content with happiness, but depends on their mental state. At this time, it is difficult to determine the meaning of happiness. No one can guarantee that American millionaires can live a happier life than rural farmers in China. The reason lies in who can be satisfied.
Contentment is related to happiness, because after contentment, the mood can be peaceful, people can be kind, and smiles can be natural. Although you have three meals a day, you can enjoy the family happiness of life. This kind of life realm is unimaginable for people who are immersed in prosperity all day and will never feel satisfied. Obviously, there is also a question of the size of desire. Contented people have low desires, or don't want to be controlled by desires. He regards desire as a dispensable thing, and realizing it is a blessing. If he can't reach it, he doesn't care, just give up or switch to other aspects. Content is better than riches. Take love life as an example. A contented person will never be lovelorn or commit suicide for love. If he falls in love with someone, if he can succeed, everyone will be happy, but if he can't reach his goal, he won't stick to it and pursue it hard, because he will find reasons for himself, such as "it's not sweet to twist a melon;" "It never rains but it pours" and so on; If it were another woman, he would still be happy, because he would compare and think that this was a previous marriage, which had already been doomed. Anyway, he will always satisfy himself and find reasons for his happiness.
Contented people certainly know how to live. Accept their fate. The so-called know life is never greedy, knowing that enough is enough, and closing it when it is good; The so-called resignation is to admit and accept the reality and never fight. Therefore, all misfortunes and sufferings are inevitable for those who are satisfied, and there is no need to cry. On the contrary, contented people can "enjoy Tao Tao" with many things, such as having a piano and a book, playing and singing, which is a kind of enjoyment; It's a pleasure to have friends coming from afar, but I don't know how drunk I am. The sky is high and the clouds are light, and the breeze is blowing. Watching the moon and climbing mountains is a pleasure. Walking and coming back after the excitement can also be a kind of enjoyment; It is a pleasure for a good man to aim at all directions and travel around the world. It is also a pleasure to meet an old friend in a foreign land and return to your hometown when you are lonely ... As long as your mind can relax, tighten and stretch, you can understand everything and find reasons for satisfaction and happiness everywhere.
Of course, the most important magic weapon to be satisfied with life is to "take a step back and think about it". The so-called "step back" is a vast highland in Putian, where the mystery of life is exquisitely played. For example, if a person fails the exam, he will think that "there are still many people in this world who can't even get into the examination room", so instead of being sad, he seems more proud.
If he is poor, he will think of many people who starve to death and come to the conclusion that "if you don't know the bitterness, you will know the sweetness", but you will be willing to be poor and enjoy it. And so on, no matter how others analyze it, the contented are satisfied and happy anyway.
Elegant life: let life become elegant and exquisite, which is probably the meaning of elegant life. There is no doubt that this is a gentleman's life. Elegance is the expression of high cultural accomplishment. Manners and speeches always look fashionable and elegant. You can't always be hands-on and rude. Exquisiteness is by no means stingy, but beautiful and unconventional, showing elegant taste.
Elegant life definitely embodies a life style, which belongs to a life selected from ordinary life and has obvious boundaries with ordinary "vulgarity". There are two kinds of customs in life, one is poor customs, and the other is rich customs, both of which are life forms with low culture. Vulgar customs are tolerable, and poverty in life cannot be elegant, but it is more rude and stupid; The rich and the vulgar are especially unbearable. If you have money, you can only buy some luxury ostentation and extravagance, but it is still vulgar at heart. If you pretend to be elegant, it is really worse than Zhu Bajie's scholarship, and it must be ridiculous and full of ugliness.
Elegant life mainly has emotional appeal, interest and affection, which are the embodiment of the protagonist's inner quality and cultivation, and are by no means posturing. Emotional appeal is manifested in many aspects of life. Take the layout of the room for example, it must be very particular. Every knickknack will be different, showing the master's artistic accomplishment and style. At this time, it is best to read Liang Shiqiu's Essays on Elegant Rooms to understand its meaning. Whether a person has emotional appeal depends on the decoration of the living room.
Interest is expressed from a person's temperament and interest, and it is an important factor to make life full of vitality and fun. Without interest, there is no mood; With interest, life doesn't seem rigid and boring. Interest also makes life full of human feelings and appreciation. It seems that we regard life as an art collection, and we can savor every detail, from which we can not only feel pleasing to the eye and spiritual pleasure, but also cultivate the aesthetic level. Emotion is an elegant outlook on life, deeply immersed in the consciousness of life. It means that life, as an aesthetic, has a unique spiritual pursuit. People can feel the brewing of art and find poetic expression in life. It is precisely because of this emotion that an elegant life can be refined and a realm of life can be created by itself. Needless to say, an elegant life is a "trimmed" life. You may have seen neat elm walls; By the way, just like them, life can only be like that after some artificial pruning. As for how to trim, it all depends on the level and will of the trimmer.
Be content, always smile, and don't waste this life! !