There is an old saying: "The wind is crazy and the rain is urgent. Stand up straight and you will see your heels."
No one's life is smooth sailing. There are only a few key points in life. A wrong step will affect a lifetime, even a lifetime.
The road of life is very long. Whether it is good or bad, the key is to hold your breath and calm your mind. Only in this way can you fully protect yourself and accumulate the blessings of your life.
1, when frustrated, just hold your horses.
I ching said: people should regard all training as their own growth process.
No one can escape some tests of life. The more desperate you are, the more you have to get through it, the more unlucky you are, and the more you have to hold your horses and cheer up silently, so that life can win a turning point.
Sima Qian defended Li Ling and angered Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty. He was sent to prison and tortured.
Suffering from such torture is a great shame in life and a very heavy blow to an upright and lofty intellectual.
In prison, Sima Qian was ashamed and tried to commit suicide several times.
But he thinks that Historical Records has not been finished, and his father's will has not been completed. He will never be content, his years of hard work will be in vain.
With great perseverance, he endured contempt and ridicule from the imperial court, turned grief into strength, and settled down to write a book.
Sima Qian endured the humiliation and endured the difficult years with firm will, and finally completed a masterpiece with historical significance.
Some people give up on themselves when they are frustrated. Some people regard temporary unhappiness as an opportunity for introspection. Hold your breath and actively seek opportunities for breakthrough.
Success is not overcoming difficulties, but overcoming yourself.
A truly capable person can survive in a desperate situation and will not give in to the immediate difficulties, but believe that this is only a test on the way forward.
The "king" on the road of life is not how many opponents you have defeated, but that you have already become a different person from yesterday in repeated transcendence.
Only when people are down and out in life, those who can hold their breath will achieve great things and be truly superior.
2, scenery, not arrogant and impetuous
"There is a kind of wisdom called keeping a low profile and keeping a low profile," said: "No one will choke to death because of swallowing arrogance, only people will spit out arrogance and fall to death!"
When people are in the spring breeze, it is easy to spit out arrogance, but it is difficult to swallow it. Blindly arrogant, do not know how to hide their own light, get rid of their pride, the disaster of life will come.
In ancient times, there was a man who was proficient in martial arts and had great strength. He was famous in the local area.
And he is also carried away by people's applause and praise, thinking that he is omnipotent and no one can compare with himself.
He kept looking for someone to challenge him and then hit others to show his great courage. Those who suffer under his hand dare to be angry and dare not speak, and others dare not hide.
It is said that when people are crazy, there will be rain, and when people are crazy, there will be disaster.
One day, an old man came to the martial arts field and said that his kung fu was so little.
The old man's words angered him. He punched the brick wall and sank his fist deep into the wall.
He was very proud and laughed at the bad old man. He could do nothing. After he calmly responded, he made a statement of life and death with him and dueled three days later.
On the day of the duel, there was a sea of people.
He squared up, exhausted all his strength and punched the old man standing above the martial arts field in the stomach. Everyone watching the game was nervous about this doddering old man.
The dust settled, and the old man remained as steady as Mount Tai.
And he knelt on his knees, his hand bone was broken, he was sweating profusely, and his fist could not be pulled out in the old man's abdomen. Finally, when he begged for mercy, he shook the old man to death under an arch bridge ten feet away.
Mr. Yin Shan said: "Don't be wild in doing things, just do whatever you want."
When people are proud, they must not get carried away. The more successful you are in life, the more alert and cautious you are.
The stupidest thing about people is that they think they can do anything, have their eyes above the top and are arrogant, but they don't know that disaster is coming when you can't swallow your pride.
The Book of Changes tells us that as long as you are careful, you will never lose in this life.
When life is proud, those who know restraint, respect and humility can become the final winners in life.
3. Don't complain when you are wronged.
Wang Yangming said: "The more difficult it is, the more time it takes to cultivate your mind."
The so-called way to train your heart, even if you encounter too many grievances, you must hold your heart and you will win in life.
Fa Yan Zen master was a very famous Zhenwu Zen master in the Northern Song Dynasty.
Before he became abbot, he used to manage the mill in the temple. This most profitable job in the eyes of others has aroused the envy of many people.
The abbot of the temple can always hear rumors from some people that they drink and have fun in the mill every day and even associate with women.
After hearing too much, the abbot became suspicious of him and blamed him, but he didn't defend himself. Not only that, he also bought some wine and meat to hang on the wall and bought some powder for the women who came to the temple.
At this time, the abbot heard more slanders and couldn't stand it any longer. He asked him to make clear the accounts and money of the mill and then left his job. The performance of the law will follow immediately.
The abbot was stunned when he saw the accounts given to him by the legal eye. The eyes of the law have only been in charge of the mill for a few years, and they actually put 300 thousand in the warehouse!
The abbot finally understood the slanderous remarks he had heard that someone had deliberately wronged him. How can you have so much money by drinking and having fun all day?
The watchful eye can bear the slander of others, and quiet inside has made great achievements. He was praised by the abbot, and finally appointed Fayan as the first.
There is a wonderful dialogue in the book:
Hanshan asked me: What should I do if someone slanders me, deceives me, humiliates me, laughs at me, belittles me and belittles me?
Pick him up and say, just put up with him, avoid him, let him go, put up with him and ignore him. You will meet him in a few years.
The highest accomplishment in this world is to know how to endure. Because of patience, you can have a lot of gas fields and cultivate a big mind. This is not a rare wisdom.
In this world, nothing can be satisfactory. When you encounter difficulties and troubles, if you keep angry and complaining, it will not only affect your mood, but also hurt your health.
It won't always be cloudy. Whether it rains for two weeks or next month, please rest assured that it will be sunny.
Instead of complaining, it is better to endure in suffering, swallow grievances, not complain, and prop up the big picture, so as to change the status quo and earn happiness and comfort.
4. Don't be extravagant when you are at ease.
Sima guang once said: luxury means more, and if you want more, a gentleman will covet wealth and get quick success.
From simplicity to luxury, once people are extravagant and don't know how to be frugal, they are close to disaster.
Minister Ji Zi was very worried when he saw Shang Zhouwang ordering craftsmen to make a pair of exquisite ivory chopsticks.
He advised Zhou Wang to say:
"Use ivory chopsticks to match delicacies, eat delicacies, and wear well-dressed silks and satins; If you have beautiful clothes, you need a beautiful palace to match them. In that case, you must have many certificates, and the country is not far from disaster. "
Zhou Wang not only refused to listen to his admonition, but also ordered Ji Zi to shave his head and be put into the harem as a slave, which made his fatuity and tyranny worse.
The ending can be imagined. Finally, the Shang Dynasty was destroyed by Zhou Dynasty, and the Star Tower became a new burial place.
The country is like this, and the destruction of the family is inseparable from a luxury word.
"Hanshu" has a cloud: "Sometimes it is born, and if it is used excessively, the material resources will be bent. The ancient rule of the world is known by fiber, so it is sufficient. "
If a family is extravagant, it will ruin the family style and the children will be lazy. Even if there are Jinshan Yinshan at home, you will sit quietly and watch the tigers fight.
Extravagance can't produce hardworking offspring, and the family can't escape the end of decline. Only when a person is prepared for danger in times of peace and knows how to manage his family diligently can he take good care of his family and live a good life safely and smoothly.
It must be remembered that if people are diligent, they can spend every day safely. If they are extravagant, they have no choice but to go.
As the saying goes, if you make a fortune, you will lose it.
It's hard to think about a porridge and a meal, but it's hard to keep thinking about it.
I hope we can always be alert, diligent and housekeeping, and maintain a good family style, so that we can be prosperous, safe and happy from generation to generation.
Don't be afraid when you are in danger.
As the saying goes: a healthy body is not chaotic in the face of danger, and a calm mind does not invade ghosts.
The more afraid, the more confused, the more confused, the more difficult it is to think rationally, and it will only get worse.
Everyone will encounter a sudden crisis in his life, and our response to emergencies may change the trajectory of our lives.
When danger has happened, the first thing you need to do is to think calmly.
Chen Ping escaped from the military camp of Xiang Yu, the king of Chu, and sneaked into the Yellow River to go to Hanwang and Liu Bang.
In a hurry, I got on a thief boat. There were four or five people on board, with big arms and a round waist, and their fierce faces were exposed.
Chen Ping has noticed, but there is no other way. He was worried that he would miss the time and that Chu Bing would chase him, so he had to bite the bullet and get on the boat.
After a long journey, Chen Ping keenly observed that the people on board gradually showed malicious behavior.
"This is a big official who escaped."
"I must have hidden a lot of jewels and possessions on me, hehe."
Chen Ping heard their whispers and gave a sinister laugh from time to time. She couldn't help but think nervously:
"They want to kill people for money, but I don't have any property or jewelry. I'm alone with only one sword. How can I defeat them and get out of danger? "
The boat sailed to the middle of the river, and those men were about to attack Chen Ping.
Chen Ping got up from the boat and walked out of the cabin, saying it was stuffy inside, and offered to help them rock the boat. He took the opportunity to take off his sword and coat and put them beside the boat as if nothing had happened.
The move came as a surprise to those people, who didn't know what to do. But Chen Ping shook the boat hard. After a while, it is also called sultry weather. He took off his clothes and helped them make trouble naked.
When these people saw that there was nothing on him, they stopped the murder of him and quickly slid the boat to the shore.
Caigen Tan said: "When you learn to keep calm in times of crisis, you can eliminate the crisis."
In our life, we will always meet with an emergency. Instinctively, we will panic, but when we think about it, panic can't solve the crisis at all, it will only add a lot of trouble.
Keep calm in times of crisis, let yourself calm down, and then calmly analyze the situation. This is the wisest behavior of a person.
Life is like a boat, all boats can sail smoothly on the calm sea, but when the heavy hammer of fate unfortunately hits important injuries, those who are full of wisdom and fearless can handle it calmly.