A venerable elder found a chair beside the high wall of the temple. He knew that someone had used this chair to cross the wall and come outside the temple. The elder moved a chair and waited here by feeling. At midnight, the young monk climbed up the wall and jumped on the "chair". He felt that the "chair" was not as hard, soft and even a little elastic as before. After landing, the young monk looked intently and realized that the chair had become an elder. It turned out that he jumped on the elder, who picked him up with his spine. The young monk left anxiously, and then waited nervously for the elders. But this elder didn't do this, and didn't mention the matter of "knowing you and me from heaven to earth" at all. The young monk was inspired by the tolerance of his elders. He kept his heart and never climbed over the wall again. Through hard training, he became the leader of the temple and became the elder here a few years later. Coincidentally, a teacher found that a student often drew with his head down in class. One day, he went over to pick up the student's painting and found that the characters in the painting were grinning themselves. The teacher didn't get angry, but just smiled stupidly and asked the students to process after class and draw more vividly. Since then, the student has never painted in class. He has done well in all subjects. Later, he became a very accomplished cartoonist. Through the above example, imagine that aside from other factors, we can conclude that the hero's later achievements are not unrelated to the tolerance of his elders and teachers, which can be said to be the subconscious mind aroused by tolerance and corrected their life rudder.

Tolerance needs not only "the masses", but also a kind of wisdom promoted by cultivation. In fact, only broad-minded people will naturally use tolerance; On the other hand, if the elders move to a chair, there is nothing to say to the young monk. The young monk may be bound from now on, but he will never really reflect and there will be no future story. Similarly, the teacher's practical jokes on students are usually furious and then severely criticized, but because the way is too "usual", it is difficult to achieve "unusual" results. In fact, this involves a problem, that is, management. The so-called management, in the final analysis, is to straighten out the corresponding relationship between people, so that managers and managed people can achieve harmony and unity. Real high-grade management is an art.

2. Lin Xiangru was tolerant of Lian Po, which resolved the contradiction between the two ministers and protected the peace of the country;

Bao's tolerance for Guan Zhong has made a generation of celebrities.

The bishop's tolerance for Jean Valjean saved a soul that was about to fall. ...

There are also intolerable. Mr. Dong Guo tolerated the mistake of the wolf and saved it with a kind thought, but it almost became delicious in his stomach.

Guo Jing endured Yang Kang many times, but the result was a legacy for Wulin. ...

There is a story in Buddhist scriptures. Long ago, in Polonaise, there was a coolie. He is very diligent. Whenever he has some savings, he changes them into gold, seals them in a jar and buries them at home. Every time he watched the gold increase day by day, his happiness increased day by day.

As the days passed, he finally got seven bottles of gold because of his life's frugality, but at this time, he finally got sick. Because he still refused to pay for a doctor's treatment, he finally left his gold and died.

After his death, he finally became a poisonous snake because of his hatred and obsession with the gold he left behind. He still guarded the gold buried before his death day and night. In this way, things changed. One day after ten thousand years, he suddenly realized that it was because of this persistence and hatred that he could not get rid of the snake for ten thousand years. When he realized from this persistence, he was quick.

A bright moon hung high in the sky, and an old monk who came home late quietly looked at the open temple door. Knowing that there was an unexpected visitor, he quietly took off his shabby cassock and stood quietly in front of the temple. The empty-handed thief came out of the temple, stuffed the cassock into the thief's arms and said, "Brother, I am too poor to give you anything more. Maybe this cassock can shelter you from the wind and rain! " Watching the thief run away in a hurry, he looked up at the bright moon in the sky and said to himself, "I really want to give him this bright moon!" " "A few days later, on a bright moon night, the old monk saw a clean, meticulously sewn and neatly folded cassock outside the temple gate. The old monk held the cassock tightly in his arms, looked at the bright moon and said with a sigh of relief, "It seems that he received the bright moon I gave him. "

5. Monks and thieves

I used to live in my hometown, and every time I went to work, I always passed a crossroads. There is an unknown tree at the intersection, tall and straight, covering the sky.

Rain or shine, sooner or later, I always see a young monk standing quietly under a big tree begging for alms. Despite the neon flashing at the intersection and the noise of cars and horses, he always stood quietly with his eyes closed, and his expression and perseverance deeply touched me.

There are often two or three unkempt and ragged children chasing and playing under the tree. Once, I accidentally found that the child had openly stolen money from the monk's bowl, but the monk turned a blind eye.

Careful observation shows that children's stealing behavior is not "accidental", but a "habit". Monks' money became their fixed income. I am so angry that I really want to bring the child to justice. But after much consideration, the monk's kindness finally came true.

Soon after I moved to my new home, I never passed that intersection again, and the little things above gradually faded from my mind. I happened to pass by the intersection the day before yesterday, and found the monk still standing there silently, but there were two little novices beside him. I took a closer look and found that the two children had stolen the gold. Suddenly, I realized one thing.

Confucianism emphasizes "teaching without distinction", criminal law pursues "fixed-term imprisonment" and Buddhism advocates "Purdue". Invisible, I learned another lesson.

6. There were too many people on the bus. A lady accidentally stepped on a man's foot, blushed and apologized, saying, "Sorry, I stepped on you." Unexpectedly, the man smiled: "no, no, I should say I'm sorry." My feet are too thin. " With a burst of hubbub, laughter rang out in the carriage at once. Obviously, this is a compliment to an elegant and funny man. Moreover, people who are on the scene will not doubt that this beautiful tolerance will leave this lady with a beautiful impression that she will never forget. A lady accidentally fell into a neat shop with wooden boards, and the cream cake in her hand stained the floor of the shop. She smiled apologetically at the boss, but the boss said, "I'm sorry, I apologize on behalf of our floor." It likes your cake so much! " So the lady smiled, smiling brightly. Moreover, since the boss's enthusiasm touched her, she immediately made up her mind to "repay" and bought a few things before leaving here. Yes, this is tolerance-it is sweet, it is warm, it is kind, it is bright, it is sunshine, who can refuse sunshine!

7. Shu in the Three Kingdoms period appointed Jiang Wan to preside over the state affairs after Zhuge Liang's death. One of his subordinates is Yang, who is withdrawn and speaks slowly. When Jiang Wan talked to him, he only answered. Someone didn't like it, and muttered in front of Jiang Wan: "It's outrageous that Yang is so rude to you!" Jiang Wan smiled indifferently and said, "Everyone has his own temperament. It's not in Yang's nature to praise me to my face. Let him criticize me in front of everyone, and he will feel ashamed of me. So, he had to keep silent. In fact, this is his valuable place. " Later, some people praised Jiang Wan that "the prime minister can punt in his stomach".

8. Dong is a native of Jiyang, Shandong Province. He was an official in Beijing during the Ming Dynasty. One day, he received a letter from home saying that his house was built to lay a foundation, and he had a quarrel with his neighbor, hoping that he could use his power to solve the matter. Dong immediately wrote a book after reading it, saying, "A thousand miles to send books is just for the wall, and I can't help laughing and breaking my heart;" You are very kind to me and close neighbors. What are the disadvantages of giving up two feet? "After the family saw it, they felt that Dong made sense. When building a house, they voluntarily gave up a few feet of land. Neighbors saw Dong Jia's behavior and felt something, so they followed suit. As a result, the two families gave up eight feet wide, and after the house was built, there was an alley, which the world called Renyi Hutong.

On the 50th anniversary of his golden wedding, an old mother told the guests the secret of keeping a happy marriage. She said: "From the day I got married, I was going to list my husband's 10 shortcomings. For the happiness of our marriage, I promised myself that whenever he made these 65,438+00 mistakes, I would forgive him. " Someone asked, what are the disadvantages of 10? She replied: "To tell the truth, for 50 years, I have never listed the shortcomings of 10 in detail. Whenever my husband does something wrong and makes me jump, I immediately remind myself that he is lucky, and he made one of the 10 mistakes that I can forgive. " This story tells us that in the long journey of marriage, it is not always sunny and flowers are in full bloom, but there are also summer, summer and winter, with wind, frost, snow and rain. In the face of some small contradictions in life, if you can learn to be tolerant and patient like that old mother, you will find that happiness is actually around you.

10. Have you seen the story of the sixth earring? This story happened in America during the Great Depression. Miss Mansa finally got a job as a salesgirl in a high-end jewelry store. The day before Christmas, a male customer in his thirties came to the store. Although he is neatly dressed and looks cultured, it is obvious that he is also an unfortunate person who has been hit by unemployment. At this time, Mansha was the only one in the shop, and several other employees had just gone out. When Mansha greeted him, the man smiled unnaturally: his eyes hurriedly escaped from Mansha's face, as if to say, you don't have to pay attention to me, I just came to see. At this moment, the telephone rang. Mansha went to answer the phone and accidentally knocked over the plate on the counter; Six exquisite gold earrings fell on the plate on the ground. Mansha hurriedly bent down to pick it up. But after she found five, she couldn't find the sixth. When she looked up, she saw the man walking towards the door. Suddenly, she understood where the sixth earring was. When the man's hand was about to touch the doorknob, Mansha whispered, "Wait a minute, sir." The man turned around and the two men looked at each other silently for a whole minute. Mansha's heart was pounding, thinking, what should I do if he is rude? Will he ... "Really?" He finally said. Mansha tried her best to control her heartbeat and summon up courage. She said, "Sir, today is my first time at work. You know, it's not easy to find a job now. Can you ...? " The man looked at her with unnatural eyes for a long time, and a smile appeared on his face. Mansha finally calmed down and she smiled at him. They are as cordial and natural as old friends. "Yes, indeed." The man's face trembled and replied, "But I believe you will continue to work here, and you will be excellent." After a pause, he went up to her and gave her his hand: "May I bless you?" After shaking hands tightly, he turned and walked slowly out of the store. Miss Mansa watched him disappear outside the door, turned and walked back to the counter, and put the sixth earring in her hand back. Her eyes were a little moist, and she thought, God, hurry up these days and let everyone get better.

1 1. While a priest was preaching, a believer was sleeping, so the priest said to all believers, "Those who want to go to heaven please stand up." Everyone stood up except the dozing believers. Then, the priest shouted, "Those who want to go to hell, please stand up." The sleepy believer was awakened and stood up in a daze. The priest said to him, "since you are standing, it seems that you really want to go to hell." The believer looked at the priest in the pulpit and replied, "Aren't you standing?" Father has nothing to answer. When teaching others, people often ignore themselves and may make the same mistakes as this person. Therefore, philosophers put it well: despite human shortcomings, we still have to forgive them, because they are us.

12. "She doesn't sell well. I bet if it exceeds 1 million copies, I will eat my shoes. " This is a talk show host's scathing comment on the autobiography written by Hillary Clinton, the wife of American President Bill Clinton. God often likes to play tricks on those who say nothing. Hillary's autobiography sold 1 million copies in a few weeks. It's time for the host to taste the shoes. Yes, he does eat shoes. However, the texture of the shoes is unusual, and the owner ate a shoe-shaped cake specially made for him by the President's wife. It must be delicious, because it has a special seasoning-endurance. In the face of the host's ridicule, Hillary did not give him a fierce counterattack or wait to see him eat shoes, but skillfully resolved this contradiction with humorous and tolerant Wu Fang. The president's wife is more admirable because of tolerance, and cakes and shoes are more delicious because of tolerance.

Proust and Bessel, French scientists in the18th century, were enemies. They argued for the law of constant ratio for nine years, each holding its own word, and no one allowed anyone. The final result ended in Proust's victory, and Proust became the inventor of the scientific law of definite ratio. Proust didn't get carried away by it. He took it for himself according to his genius. He sincerely said to his opponent Bei Souris, who had strongly opposed him, "If you hadn't made things difficult again and again, it would be difficult for me to study this constant ratio law in depth." At the same time, he specially announced to the public that Bei Souris was responsible for half of the discovery of Constant Ratio Law. This is tolerance. Allow others to object, regardless of their attitude, but fully look at their strengths and absorb their nutrition. This tolerance is touching.