In real life, everyone is eager to be happy, hoping to have a good mood every day, but often feel unhappy, because they have worked too hard and are afraid of getting nothing in the end; Because I care too much about my performance, I am afraid that I will fail and I am ashamed to see people; Because the higher your expectations of yourself and others, the more disappointed you will be; Even because of someone else's unintentional words, an unintentional look. In this way, people are expanding their desires without limit, and when their desires are not satisfied, their hearts are like pressing a big stone. No day is happy.
Imagine, all day long, fame and fortune, all day long, all day long, all day long, how to talk about happiness. We often pursue happiness in this way, but we can't let go of the burden in our hearts. In fact, happiness is very simple. Happiness is a kind of mood, a kind of cheerfulness after an epiphany, a kind of relaxation after a heavy burden is removed, a kind of sunshine after clouds have cleared away, and a kind of philosophy and wisdom of life.
In Africa, the aborigines there use a strange hunting method to catch baboons: in a fixed Xiao Mu box, a small hole is made in the box, which contains nuts that baboons like to eat, just enough for their front paws to stick in. Once baboons catch nuts, they can't stick them out. People often catch baboons in this way. Because baboons have a habit of refusing to put down what they have got. Seeing this, people can't help laughing at the stupidity of baboons: why not put down their claws and nuts and run for their lives? However, looking back at ourselves, you may find that baboons are not the only ones who make such mistakes.
Because they can't let go of their position and interests, some people run around all day, ignoring their due work; Because they can't let go of attractive money, some people try their best, and the result is often complacency; Because I can't let go of my desire for power. Some people are keen on flattery and bribery at the expense of losing their dignity. Once it gets out, they will regret it. ...
We are busy in the world every day, and we are busy running our own world every day. Some people may argue and even fight for a little gain and loss. Some people are addicted to the life of money and fall into a materialistic world.
Like silkworms, bind yourself with heavy silk!
Think carefully about life for decades, we came to this world naked and finally returned empty-handed. Even if the rich can buy a first-class urn and a first-class cemetery, the contents are all the same: they are all piles of dirt! All kinds of things in the world will eventually become empty, rich in fame and fortune, and full of flowers, which turned out to be just a flash in the pan.
Don't you see that Yuhuan Yanfei is full of dust?
I've been reading this sentence for hundreds of years, "I forgot to put my hand behind me, but no way back is in front of me", but how many people can really put their hands back?
Life is like a boat. The boat of life can't bear too much material desires and vanity. In order to make it not run aground or sink halfway when it reaches the other shore, it is necessary to take only what is needed and put down those "nuts" that should be put down decisively. Sometimes learning to let go is actually letting go of yourself and not being bound by many things. As a philosopher said, we are happy not because we get more than others, but because we care less than others.
In ancient times, there was a very rich man. He had countless treasures of gold and silver, but he was always unhappy. So, he carried a lot of gold and silver treasures and went away to find happiness. But after walking through thousands of waters in Qian Shan, I couldn't find happiness, so I had to sit on the roadside in frustration. Suddenly, he saw a farmer coming down from the mountain with a big bundle of firewood on his back, humming folk songs all the way. The rich man said, "I am an enviable rich man." Excuse me, why are you unhappy? "
The farmer smiled, put down the heavy firewood and wiped his sweat comfortably: "Happiness is also very simple. Letting go is happiness! " The farmer's words immediately inspired the rich; Always afraid of being robbed by others, always afraid of being robbed by others, all day long. Where does happiness come from? From then on, the rich gave jewels and money to the poor, devoted themselves to good deeds and showed sympathy, thus nourishing his soul and he also tasted happiness.
This story also makes us understand that in real life, although everyone is eager for happiness, they can never let go of their burdens. Just like the rich people in the article, they are always worried about losing them. How can we find happiness?
We often get caught up in trivial things. Although we long for happiness and hope for happiness, we are often depressed because we are unhappy. In the journey of our life, there are countless thorns and setbacks. How to treat them with a normal heart, solve them with calmness and tolerance, and find happiness, which we have not done many times. The reality is often that we have jobs, but we are always dissatisfied with our jobs; Have a comfortable house, but always envy others better than me; We have a good salary, but we always complain about not enough, and so on. Where does our happiness come from?
It is difficult to let go, which may bring temporary loss or heartache, but after you really let go, you will find that all the entanglements and cones can be transformed into a vast sky. Letting go doesn't mean giving up, let alone leaving you empty. Letting go is a feeling, a state of mind, a grasp of external things, priorities, distance and thickness. Let go of what should be put down, and you will have a happy life!
Zhu Guangqian, an aesthete, once said: Life comes first. Life is "enjoying", "appreciating" and "cultivating vitality". If you forget life for the sake of study and career, that kind of study career will lose the meaning and value of life. Therefore, only those who know how to let go can live a full, full and rich life in a limited life and truly appreciate the beauty of life.
Life is short, letting go is the way out. Letting go is happiness.
It is a pleasure to let go of the burden.
I believe that everyone who has shouldered the burden has experienced the difficulty and heaviness of the burden on his shoulders. Even if it is light, it is unbearable in their hearts when the road is far away. They are eager to reach their destination as soon as possible, so as to "lay down their burdens" as soon as possible. Sometimes when you are really tired, you just have a rest. Although I have to choose again, I can feel a little comfort and relaxation from that short rest. Therefore, as long as you can let go of the burden on your heart, you can feel a kind of leisure and relaxation from it.
Letting go of "baggage" is a kind of happiness.
Although the ideological burden is not a tangible burden, this intangible "burden" brings no less pressure than the tangible burden, and sometimes it makes people suffocate. In film and television works, we often see the protagonist worried because of the ideological burden. If he has something on his hands, it will be even worse. In real life, many people have trouble sleeping and eating because of ideological baggage. Therefore, once you let go of the burden, you will feel relieved, relaxed and happy.
Letting go of emotions is a kind of happiness.
Human beings are the most emotional animals, so they are also the most emotional. In reality, people often hope that lovers will be well, but there are many feelings of parting. Some people say that it is painful to love others, but it is happy to be loved by others. Two people in love sometimes feel very tired, especially the kind of love that can't have results, knowing that it is fruitless love, but the authorities are fascinated and just can't let go, making them nervous all day, unable to eat, haggard and tired. If people can be rational, jump out of these emotional whirlpool and let go of this "confused love", their hearts will be relieved.
Getting off work is a pleasure.
In modern society, the competition is becoming more and more fierce, and people generally feel that the pace of work is accelerating and the requirements are getting higher and higher. All homework requires keeping pace with the times, pioneering and innovative, not only innovative in content, but also distinctive in form, and vigorous in measures, so that everyone in the post can feel certain work pressure. Work makes us busy, tired and unhappy. Therefore, after work, you might as well travel, join the "leisure family" and throw yourself into the pleasant landscape, so that the whole soul can feel the tranquility and tranquility of nature and fully feel the ease and happiness after work.
Letting go of fame and fortune is a kind of happiness.
Fame and fortune are innate. People are faced with a colorful world when they are born. If you can't let go of fame and fortune, people will be jealous under the psychology of "people are better than gas"; Speak insincerely in front of petty profits; Exhausted by flattery; Get carried away by one gain and be discouraged by one loss ... With this desire for fame and fortune, you will "get a thousand and think ten thousand" when you are rich; If you are rich and famous, you will still "cherish yesterday's thin clothes and think that purple pythons are long now"; If there is no chance of the ecliptic, you will curse the ill-fated life; If the red road is blocked, you will lament that there is nothing you can do ..... so you will fall into a quagmire of fatigue and unhappiness. Let go of the heart of fame and fortune, you can "not be happy with things, not sad with yourself", and you will have the ability to "see flowers before the court"; If you don't want to stay, you will be open-minded, look up at the sky, make yourself the master of your heart, and freely shape your mood.
The excitement and distress of life are nothing more than food, clothing, housing and transportation, fame and fortune. In the final analysis, it is foolish desire that bothers people. Tossing yourself like sand dancing with the wind, always trying to find an exit, but constantly getting lost. Even if occasionally excited, it will only be shallow. After laughing, only you know the pain.
South African President nelson mandela once said: "The greatest glory in life lies not in never falling, but in always getting up again after falling." I appreciate this flexible state of life, experience storms happily and face the ups and downs of life easily.
Cherish those who spend ordinary days together, forgive those who float in the sky with the sand, tolerate those who fall when they are down, and understand those who are incompatible with themselves. Everyone in life is a passer-by. Don't let the haze cover up your inner brilliance. A president will be born in the world, but more people will be born. You won't be unhappy because you are a civilian.
Letting go is happiness, but it is not easy to really "let go". It needs at least two conditions: first, an open-minded mind and an understanding and tolerant heart; Second, there is a noble spiritual pursuit, not tired of fame and fortune. Letting go is happiness.
-quoted from Yanbian People's Publishing House, "Being angry equals punishing yourself"