One sentence makes people laugh.
One of Zhang Qiang's friends, while chatting with another of Zhang Qiang's friends, said something nice about him by the way: Zhang Qiang is a very good person, a very buddy, and he is very lucky to be friends with him. Unexpectedly, this sentence soon reached Zhang Qiang's ears, which inevitably made Zhang Qiang feel gratified and moved. At the same time, the image of that nice-talking friend in Zhang Qiang's mind has also been greatly improved.
Originally, the friend who put in a good word had a general feeling with Zhang Qiang, but after listening to this good word, Zhang Qiang took the initiative to strengthen contact and communication with each other, and then their friendship became deeper and deeper.
Speak well of your friends behind their backs, and they will think that you are sincere and have no bad motives.
Saying nice things behind a friend's back can also make the said friend feel the truth and sincerity of this compliment more strongly after hearing the nice things spread by others. When his sense of honor is satisfied, he will trust you more. It is precisely because Zhang Qiang's friends speak well of Zhang Qiang behind his back that Zhang Qiang has a better impression of him and takes the initiative to associate with him more.
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Xiaoyi and Linlin had conflicts because of some things, so they both went to Xiaoguang to talk to each other.
In order not to offend people face to face, Xiaoguang said in front of Xiaoyi: Linlin really doesn't know anything, and many places are his fault. When Linlin came to complain to him, he said it was all Xiaoyi's fault: I said, Linlin, can you not be as knowledgeable as Xiaoyi? That man is stingy and disloyal!
He felt that Xiaoyi and Lin Lin were incompatible in any case, so he just talked nonsense.
Later, after some friends' persuasion, the contradiction between Xiaoyi and Linlin was solved, and they made up again.
This time, Xiaoguang suffered, because both Xiaoyi and Linlin told each other what Xiaoguang said, which made him not a person inside and outside, and the situation in his circle of friends was very embarrassing.
As the saying goes, walls have ears. If you speak ill of others behind their backs, it will reach this person's ears one day. So, don't speak ill of others behind their backs at any time, even if your other friends have started on their own initiative, you can't answer the phone.
People who often speak ill of others behind their backs will certainly not be popular people, because people with a little brains will naturally think so: this time you speak ill of others in front of me, and next time you may speak ill of me in front of others. In this way, his impression in other people's minds is not much better.
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Everyone likes to listen to good words, which is almost human nature. However, it is better to speak well of others behind their backs than to speak well of others to their faces. This is because it is generally believed that when someone speaks well of others in person, it is more a compliment or flattery, which is not a sincere expression; Saying a good word about a person behind his back is usually considered as revealing the truth, so it can attract the attention of the parties concerned, thus winning your good opinion and having a good impression on you.
There is such a passage in A Dream of Red Mansions:
Shi Xiangyun and Xue Baochai advised Jia Baoyu to be an official. Jia Baoyu felt very angry and disgusted, and said in front of Shi Xiangyun and Xue Baochai, Miss Lin has never said these words to me. You should learn from teacher Lin!
Just then Daiyu was coming from the window, and she was very happy when she overheard Jia Baoyu say something nice about herself. Later, Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu complained about each other and their feelings increased greatly.
In Lin Daiyu's view, Jia Baoyu praised himself in front of Xiangyun and Baochai completely from the heart. And if Jia Baoyu said these words in front of Lin Daiyu, the effect may be greatly reduced. This is the beauty of praising others behind their backs. The same sentence, on another occasion, has a completely different effect.
Speaking well of people behind their backs can greatly show your intentions and sincerity, and can also play the role of mutual supervision and vigilance, killing two birds with one stone.
Why do indirect compliments feel so sweet? That's because you firmly believe that the other person is really praising you. Imagine if someone told you that someone said a lot of nice things about you behind your back, would you be unhappy? This kind of compliment, if said to your face, may backfire, making you feel that this person is extremely hypocritical and that his words are insincere.
Gossip often spreads behind people's backs. If you know how to use endless praise instead of right and wrong, there will be more laughter and friendship around you.
Skills of speaking between friends: remember other people's names.
Skills of speaking between friends: remember other people's names. Carnegie, a famous master of success, once said: A person's name is his most familiar, sweetest and most beautiful voice. The most obvious, simple, important and best way to get a good impression in communication is to remember other people's names.
If you want to be invincible in interpersonal communication, pay more attention to remembering other people's names! In this way, all you do is remember a name, but let the other person feel respected, and at the same time let you win the favor of others. There seems to be nothing cheaper than this.
One sentence makes people laugh.
Jim Fred was born in a poor family. His father died early when he turned 10, leaving only his sickly mother and young him. In order to make a living, Jim had to drop out of school early to work in a brick factory. With limited education, he was popular everywhere with enthusiasm and frankness, and later entered politics.
By the time he was in his forties, he had been awarded honorary degrees by four universities. He also held an important position in the Democratic Party and later served as the post of postal minister.
Once, the reporter asked him the secret of success. He said: it's hard work, it's as simple as that.
The reporter is obviously not satisfied with this answer: no, this is not the answer I want.
He asked, what do you think is the reason for my success?
The reporter said: I heard that you can name ten thousand friends word for word?
No, you are wrong! He immediately replied: I can at least accurately name 50,000 people. Moreover, when I see them again several years later, I will still call out their names, greet their wives and children, and talk about all kinds of things related to their work and political stance.
Speaking of Jim's amazing skills, there is also a widely circulated anecdote: when Roosevelt was running for president, Jim took pains to take the train to and from the midwestern States, cordially greeted, talked, gathered and dined with the local people, publicized Roosevelt's political views and strongly supported Roosevelt's election.
After returning to the east coast, he immediately wrote to friends in every town, asking them to help list the names and contact information of all the participants, and finally wrote letters to everyone. And he always starts with letters and calls each other by their first names.
Because Jim found that no matter how many names appear in front of a person, he is still most interested in his own name. Remembering other people's names and calling them out accurately is a sign of respect and friendliness for anyone.
Remembering a person's name is the beginning of respecting each other and a shortcut to enhance personal charm.
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On Sunday, Wang Fang went to a friend's wedding reception. After the banquet, a girl happily took Wang Fang's hand and said, long time no see.
Wang Fang thinks the other person is familiar, but she can't remember where she met him. She only remembered that her surname seemed to be Zhang, so she blurted out, Nice to meet you, Miss Zhang.
The other party looked puzzled: Miss Zhang, my last name is Wan!
Wang Fang was embarrassed to know that she remembered the other person's name wrong.
Remembering other people's names reflects your attention to others and is also a kind of respect for others. If you are familiar and enthusiastic when talking to others, you can't name them, so you can only use hello and you instead, or say the other person's name wrong. This situation will not only embarrass you, but also disappoint others.
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In interpersonal communication, when you meet someone you have dealt with again, if the other person can call out your name, you will feel very kind and have a good impression on the other person. And if the other person just feels familiar and asks your name again, both parties will feel embarrassed and the cordial and pleasant atmosphere will be swept away.
American President Roosevelt is an expert in communication. Before he was elected president, at a banquet, he asked the names of some people he wanted to know, and then took the initiative to call their names. Those who have admiration for Roosevelt saw that Roosevelt could even call out his own name, and soon regarded him as a close friend and became a staunch supporter of Roosevelt in future elections.
Xiao Li came to Guangzhou to open a community fast food restaurant, and the business has been very good. People in the neighborhood like to spend money here, even if it takes a long time. There is also a Jessica's fast food restaurant in the community, and the fast food tastes good, but why do people come here? There is a simple reason. Li Can Jr. always calls out everyone's name accurately. She knows who likes pepper better, who likes salty food and who likes sweet food. She makes everyone feel unique in the world.
Some excellent salesmen, even if they only met once and chatted for two or three minutes, can still call each other's names correctly when they meet again in the future, which makes them moved. It is not surprising that such a salesman will have a good performance.
Being good at remembering other people's names is not only a courtesy, but also an emotional input, which often brings unexpected results. In the lobby of a hotel, a guest came to the reception desk to check in. Before the guests could speak, the waitress said, welcome again, sir. I hope you enjoy your stay here. After listening to this, the guest was very surprised and showed a happy look, because he only lived here once two years ago. The guest felt very respected, so he had a good impression on the waitress and the hotel she served.
Talking skills between strangers: avoid embarrassing others when talking.
Talking skills between strangers: avoid embarrassing others by talking. Everyone's heart has a fortress of self-esteem. Remember to leave steps for people everywhere to avoid embarrassing others, in order to achieve harmony in interpersonal relationships. If you can save each other in some embarrassing situations with clever words, he will appreciate you.
One sentence makes people laugh.
A 17-year-old girl easily found the opportunity to work as a salesgirl in a high-end jewelry store. The day before Christmas, a middle-aged man came to the shop, wearing shabby clothes, with a sad face and eyes fixed on those high-end jewelry.
At this time, the girl answered a phone call and accidentally knocked over a plate. All six diamond rings in the plate fell to the ground at once. She hurried to pick it up, only to find that there were only five left. She looked up and found that the middle-aged man was walking out in a hurry. She suddenly realized that he had taken the ring.
When the man was about to leave the door, the girl said softly, I'm sorry, sir.
The man turned around and they looked at each other for dozens of seconds. When a man speaks, the muscles on his face twitch.
Sir, this is my first job, and it is difficult to find a job now. I think you know it well, don't you? The girl said gloomily.
The man looked at the girl for a long time and smiled: Yes, it's hard to find a job. But I believe you will do well here. May I bless you? He stepped forward and held out his hand to the girl. Their hands were clasped together.
Thank you for your blessing. I wish you luck, too! The girl said. Looking at the man's far-away back, she opened her hand, and it was a shiny diamond ring.
The girl gave the man a step, thus saving the ring and her job, which made a theft case easily solved.
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Miss Zhang asked the cosmetics counter lady: Do you have any eyeliner that won't stain your eyelids?
The salesman said coldly, there is no such pen, but you are old, and your eyelids hang down and dirty your lower eyelids.
Miss Zhang was shocked and went home sadly. Of course, she didn't buy any cosmetics in that store, and she never came again.
What the salesgirl said may be true, but it hurts the customer greatly, and she has a bad attitude and is too arrogant to think of the customer at all. So irresponsibly hurt the customer's heart. In fact, it is herself who suffers the most.
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Nowadays, many people boast that they are outspoken. Even if there are contradictions because of improper words, they often excuse themselves on the grounds that I just like telling the truth. When a person wielding the whip of truth breaks into the inner realm that the other party doesn't want others to enter, it will inevitably lead to strong resistance from the other party.
Wen Qi went to a friend's wedding. During the dinner, a young man used the idiom "childhood friends" when explaining the relationship between the bride and groom. But in order to boast of his erudition, he also read this poem: When you, my love, ride a bamboo horse, run in circles and throw your childhood. This poem is right, but he misremembered the author. It was originally written by Li Bai, but he said it was Li Qingzhao, a poetess in the Song Dynasty.
Wen Qi graduated from Chinese Department, full of youthful spirit. Seeing this, she rudely corrected the man's mistake in front of everyone. But instead of saying nothing, this man insisted on his opinion even more.
So, the two men began to argue and refused to give in. At this moment, Wen Qi saw his university teacher sitting at another table and said happily, Let's not argue, let's find an expert to judge.
Not to be outdone, the young man said, "If you judge, you will judge. Who is afraid of who?".
Finally, the two of them agreed to let the university teachers in Wen Qi judge the reasons. Wen Qi hopes that the teacher can tell the young man that you are wrong. The author of this poem is Li Bai, not Li Qingzhao.
Unexpectedly, the teacher said to Wen Qi: You are wrong, and that gentleman is right.
Wen Qi was very embarrassed about this. She didn't believe that such a learned teacher would mistake the author of this poem. After she went back, she went to see the teacher again. Before she could speak, the teacher said, You were right just now. That poem was indeed written by Li Bai.
JiFen listened to a little confused, wondering to ask, then how did you say it was Li Qingzhao just now?
The teacher looked at her and said gently, everything you said is right, but we are all guests, so why embarrass people on that occasion? He didn't ask your opinion, but expressed his own opinion. Right or wrong has nothing to do with you. What good is it for you to argue with him about who is right and who is wrong? Don't forget this when working in society, and learn not to embarrass others.
Yes, never take all questions too seriously, it will only arouse others' disgust.
It is very clever to consider other people's feelings at any time and give them a step down. It reflects your tolerance and understanding of others and can win friends for yourself. Remember, giving others face is giving yourself face, and considering others' feelings is giving yourself a world.
Speaking skills between husband and wife: it is better to speak correctly than to speak beautifully.
Speaking skills between husband and wife: it is better to speak correctly than to speak beautifully. When two people move from love to marriage, there will be much more trivial things between them. It takes a lot of energy and time to deal with these things. Only when husband and wife learn from each other and cooperate with each other can they do better.
One sentence makes people laugh.
A couple have been married for more than ten years, and they have to send their parents living expenses every month. This matter has always been borne by the wife. But the wife sends 100 yuan to her parents and 50 yuan to her husband's family every month.
The husband has been very angry about this, but he doesn't want to be unhappy with his wife.
In the past, my husband got off work every day and did nothing. He always hugs his little son first and kisses him for a long time. But when he came home this day, he saw his youngest son crying in the rocking car, but pretended not to see or hear anything. He uncharacteristically walked up to his five-year-old daughter and picked her up.
The wife who was cooking turned and saw it. She quickly shouted, why don't you coax her son when he is crying like that?
The husband said unhurriedly, you'd better take this money from 50 yuan! I want to hold 100 yuan. My wife turned red when she heard this, and she sent 100 to her husband's family every month.
The clever husband humorously invited his wife into his preset translocation trap, without losing his principle. Instead of complaining at length, he implicitly hinted at the nature of the matter and his dissatisfaction, thus skillfully achieving the purpose of speaking.
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There is a young couple. One day, both parents came and everyone sat down to eat in a luxury hotel. During the dinner, the parents-in-law who are businessmen offered to buy a big house for their daughter and son-in-law, and each family offered100000. The man's family is a little embarrassed because it is an intellectual family with limited income.
The woman's father was dissatisfied with her in-laws, so he said to his son-in-law, Look at you, what's your future as a doctor? Why don't you go into business with me and earn hundreds of thousands of dollars a year?
After seeing off their parents, the young couple began to talk.
Husband said: tell your dad, don't tell me about studying business in the future, I don't want to hear it!
The wife said: My father is doing it for your own good. It's better for the old man to give you100000 to buy a house than your father.
Hearing this, the husband became even more unhappy and said, What's the big deal about your dad? He is just a nouveau riche!
So what if you have money? Without culture, you can only be a nouveau riche!
When his wife heard that he was attacking his parents, she was also very angry. She said, your family is good, you are so poor that you want to break a penny into two pieces.
When two people chat together, the more they talk, the more they talk. The relationship between husband and wife is getting stiff.
Husband and wife come from different families and each family has a certain cultural background. People who grow up in an environment will be proud of this environment and instinctively resent the criticism of their families. In this case, the mistake of husband and wife lies in not respecting each other's family.
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Everyone has self-esteem and longs for others to respect him. So, don't hurt others' self-esteem at any time, even your closest lover.
Some people are very straightforward, especially when dealing with lovers. They always feel close and are used to saying whatever they want. When they say these hurtful words, they may not have any malice in many cases, sometimes even out of kindness, but it will inevitably make their lover sound a little poisonous, thus hurting each other's self-esteem.
Almost everyone has a fortress in his heart, and you need to hide your true self in it to feel safe, even if your lover is in front of you. However, your outspoken words have broken through this fortress and pulled out the place of life hidden inside. Being naked certainly makes people feel uncomfortable. How can I make the other person like you?
In most cases, the outspoken party only considers its own feelings, regardless of the other party's position, concept and personality. It's not good if your words are just a harmless joke, poking a sore spot on your lover, or putting him in an awkward position. You may be outspoken and careless, or you may get stuck in your throat and not spit. If it is the former, the lover knows that you are unintentional, so it is not easy to attack and can only be stuffy in your heart; If it is the latter, because you really hit the core, your lover has to activate the self-defense system, or fight back or hold a grudge. Therefore, no matter what kind of situation you call a spade a spade, it will make people unbearable, hinder your husband and wife relationship, and keep your lover away from you so as not to be accidentally hit by you.
Therefore, it is not necessary to speak correctly between husband and wife, but it must be said beautifully, because telling the truth may hurt the self-esteem of the lover, and speaking beautifully can make people willingly accept it.