Face is something that everyone has, something that everyone is crazy about. Maybe everyone won't believe what I'm going to say next, and they will think that my pen is "poor" and I can't find anything to write before writing this thing. In my opinion, face is a super curse! Everyone's life is led by one thing, and that thing is face. No matter what kind of creature, even the gods in the sky have their own faces. Face is something that can be easily picked up but difficult to put down. Some people can let go, because those people are extraordinary. Ordinary people can't do it, and the bigger the position in officialdom, the harder it is to do it. Some officials must have a deep understanding of this. Some people feel that they can't get out of this tone if they lose face, so that evil thoughts arise from their hearts and try their best to kill those who lose face. This is why many good friends turn against each other and kill each other for face. For example, I read a reportage about attempted murder in Zhiyin magazine: two people were close friends, and one of them had some obstacles that were considered shameful to some extent, but once that friend accidentally told his secret in public, and the leaker became angry from embarrassment. When he got home, he became more and more angry and hated the friend who humiliated him in front of others. That time was full of murder and murder, so the man called his friend who humiliated him and pretended to invite him to dinner at home. This friend didn't know that there was a catastrophe, and he was finally killed by that man's crazy sword ... For example, the emperor in the TV series "Rude Princess" almost killed his brother in order to protect the royal face. Is this face important? I don't think so. A disgraced person does not mean a callous person. More importantly, in some cases, you may lose face. People should be able to afford it and not be fascinated by a hateful face. Everybody says, right? Although we have entered the 2 1 century, people's material living standards and spiritual civilization have been greatly improved, but I think male chauvinism is still widespread in this society. Maybe they are spoiled by China's idea of "son preference" for thousands of years, and they always think that they are better than women and self-righteous. In fact, it is not their pride that is doing strange things. ?
To tell the truth, my father's male chauvinism is still quite serious. Both mother and father support their families with wages, and sometimes the income of mother is higher than that of father. It should be inappropriate to say that father is the pillar of the family at this time. In this case, everyone should be equal, but my father never does housework, washes clothes, cooks and mops the floor ... He never touches the floor, and he can comfortably wait for the meal to be served after a hard day, while my mother still has a lot of housework even when she gets home. I think it's unfair. Sometimes I ask my father why. From his tone, I can see that he thinks that as a man, these things should not be done. This is what mothers should do. Men should do great things. But I was thinking, what great things did he do? Still not proud? This is a common phenomenon in many families. ?
If something happens at home, the decision-maker will always be the father, and we didn't participate. Even if his is wrong, we are not allowed to express the opposite opinion. Once there is an argument, my father always scolds us with "what do you know" for his own face and the "dignity" of a big man? This is not too serious. Now the media occasionally reports domestic violence, and some people seem to have morbid psychology. They think that the wife should obey him in everything, and if she is a little unhappy, she will end up beating and cursing. They may think that by doing so, they have enough face, and as a big man, they have enough face, but I despise the face gained in this way from my heart. At this time, the word face becomes downright derogatory, which shows the ignorance and sadness of human beings. In fact, in this society, whether it is politics, science or finance ... there are women everywhere, and women really hold up half the sky in this society. Those men seem unwilling to admit that women can draw as well as themselves, or even better than themselves in some fields. In order to save face, they move out of male chauvinism, and they can't see their guilt and timidity.
The era of male chauvinism belongs to the past, so there is no need to pretend. Are three faces equal to fame? Yes, according to the dictionary, face is nothing more than a superficial thing. If reputation is mentioned, it can also be understood as a superficial thing in the usual sense. But there seems to be something wrong here Even though they are superficial substances, their direct participants are often different. Face, as we generally understand it, is to support and create face for ourselves. And reputation seems to be the image of what you do in others, in society and in public opinion. However, if you think about it a little, in history, most people around us are others, and public opinion holds the opposite attitude towards their own reputation. Therefore, although we say that face and reputation belong to the surface, the essence is quite different. I have come to the conclusion that face is not fame. A person with a bad reputation may not have a bad face, but most people with a bad face will not have a good reputation, so compare the pros and cons and the conclusion will be clear. In this way, our correct value orientation will tell us that saving face is not a proper way. Do not rule out the voice and face of a respectable spokesperson.
What kind of group is it? If we simply discuss this issue, it may be a complicated sociological issue. I don't seem to have that ability, so I won't hold this face. This is a superficial analysis. Since the problem of "saving face" has been promoted to a social behavior, it should have a broader crowd base. In other words, we, all people in this society, will save face under certain circumstances, but there is a certain degree of difference between them, so we can attribute some people with a higher degree to the representative crowd of "saving face". There must be a typical image in it. Take it out and analyze it, and see "the lining of the face-teller". They are usually disadvantaged groups (in a broad sense) or self-disadvantaged groups, that is to say, they are not disadvantaged objectively, but are just positioned as disadvantaged. They are often exposed to the ways and means they define and are squeezed by non-vulnerable people. Trying to change but lacking the spirit of hard work and pragmatism. The popular expression is "punching a swollen face and filling a fat man". For this kind of people, we have naturally come into contact with them in our lives, so we will not refine them.
So what is "saving face"? Speaking of a superficial moral behavior defined as "saving face", it should also be the criterion of traditional moral values, that is to say, paying attention to superficial phenomena is not all vanity, it should be based on respect for morality, culture and etiquette, but it should also meet the requirements of proceeding from reality. Then, as "saving face", it is also an excessive exaggeration and tampering with objective facts. A most superficial or "face-saving" multi-faceted balance and even superiority. Of course, this is only a reflection of illusion and distortion. If we go deep into the inner world of "face-saving people", we will often find great contradictions and serious duality in their hearts, which will bring them long-term anxiety and anxiety after seeking short-term comfort. The 2008 Olympic Games is coming, and people all over the country are gearing up. China's sports leaders are also deeply impressed by sleeping, fearing that they will give the people a long face if they don't get results. Yuan Weimin, director of the General Administration of Sports, made a big speech and put forward the "Olympic strategy", arguing that the sports competitions before the Olympic Games should serve the Olympic Games in terms of schedule and content.
To put it mildly, Boss Yuan is also patriotic. In order to make achievements, you can do whatever it takes, because only by making achievements can you flatter China people. It is good to paste gold, but the question is, how long can these gold be pasted? Will these gold blindfold us and make us get carried away, instead of exchanging lasting dignity for instant face?
China people have always had the problem of saving face. The right to money, of course, is to fight for it desperately. If you can't get it, forget it. You still have to hold on to your face. The so-called face is not about life and death, but far better than life and death.
Think about that year, the hero of Wen Gongju forgot meson push, meson push was not happy-burning the mountain, Lao Zi and Lao Niang didn't go out. It is really "the tree is afraid of peeling, and people are afraid of shame"; Wang Lang buttered up to Cao Wei and rose to the top. He was accidentally exposed by Kong Ming and fell off his horse. He has no face.
Walking in the streets of China, the example is full of cars. An alcoholic in his seventies and eighties, "My ancestors were also grandfathers!" "Always talk about it; The teenager pointed to his nose. " Pony, your qualifications are a few heads lower than mine. Call' Uncle'! As for Ah Q, "We are much richer than you! What are you! " "My son will be much richer! "-to name a few, but also familiar.
Every day, I move out of my ancestors for 18 generations and 20 generations and introduce them one by one. I loaf around all day, don't work hard, and don't want to fight. I just take the struggle of words as my skill. So why bother? When Lin Shibo was a teenager, he often wandered around the Guangzhou wine market, and all he saw were drunkards who only talked big and lamented the world. They are quite evil, so they fought hard and eventually became a generation of heroes. That's face and dignity.
Let's go back to the topic of the Olympic Games. Take football as an example. China's national team is only a foil to the Olympic team. Looking around the world, there is no "comrade", so it is "China characteristic". Imagine that the Olympic team can really earn back face for the Chinese people at the 2008 Olympic Games, but does the dignity of a national football really depend on these boys? In fact, looking at international football, it is the adult national team that plays football. You put the national team in a very light position, for the general Olympic football match. After a few years, the harm is endless. Hehe, the world cup with the highest weight will arrive in three years, and the mob will play. If you don't even qualify for the group, it depends on where your face is put and where your dignity is posted! That's ridiculous!
If China really wants to shock the world, it can't always be greedy for temporary face. Huo Yuanjia's punches to the Eastern Warriors are gratifying, but what really makes Chinese people proud is the independence of a country and the rise of hundreds of millions of compatriots.
What we want is to spend less time writing, less time talking and more time working hard. Regardless of the individual or the country, what is needed is dignity, not a face that is not red after waking up!