Filial piety is obedience to parents, but if we just listen to parents blindly, it is because parents' feelings are foolish filial piety, so when parents' feelings conflict with our living selves, where do we go?
What I want to introduce to you in this issue is such a filial son, Liu Ting, who is now tossing and turning between so-called filial piety.
Once, he touched the Chinese people with his filial piety of carrying his mother to school, but at the age of 28, he had sex-change surgery, which made his mother fall between shock and helplessness. So what is his situation now?
1. His mother was seriously ill and his father abandoned them, so he shouldered the burden of his family.
Liu Ting was born in 1986. His family is a very poor family in Sara Town, Zhejiang Province. His parents are both ordinary.
My father works in a factory near the village and earns barely enough for him and his mother to make ends meet. Although her mother doesn't have a formal job, she occasionally does some private work to support her family.
13 years, a bad news came to this family. Liu Ting's mother was diagnosed with uremia overnight. Many people say that uremia is a terminal disease. If you want to treat it, you need to spend a lot of money, but it may not be effective.
Under the impact of this news, the irresponsible father chose to leave the mother and son at that time, and the cruel father watched helplessly as his seriously ill wife and young son were abandoned.
At that time, Liu Ting was only 13 years old, but he knew very early that he had to take care of his mother and take responsibility for her recovery. After school, he spends all his time working and supporting his family.
After returning home, he took care of his seriously ill mother while doing his homework, and actively sought help from the society. Later, more and more people knew about the poor child and his mother, so they gave them a helping hand.
Second, the dutiful son who went to school with his mother moved China, but he quickly became famous but fell into fear.
In 2005, Liu Ting, who persisted in completing her studies even in adversity, was admitted to Zhejiang A&F University. At this time, his life encountered a big problem and a difficult choice.
If he chooses to go to school, his mother will have no one to take care of him, and his seriously ill mother's situation is already very critical. However, if he chooses to take care of his mother and tries hard to get into a key university, he is not willing to give up his grades.
So he chose a particularly difficult road. He rented a house next to the school and took care of his mother. The boy's behavior attracted the attention of many people for a time. The school reduced his tuition fees and organized students to donate money for him. After learning about this, the hospital also reduced his mother's treatment expenses and took the initiative to reduce his burden.
Later, Liu Ting's behavior spread all over China. In 2007, he became a national moral model because his filial piety touched too many people.
However, Liu Ting's rapid fame made him feel very entangled. On the one hand, because more caring people pay attention to their lives and actively support them, his life is much easier, but on the other hand, he has fallen into unprecedented fear.
Third, she was diagnosed as heterosexual addiction and finally became a real woman after the operation.
Because in the face of numerous interviews, many reporters are deliberately emphasizing that he is a famous dutiful son in the country, and at the same time they are all saying that the boy is desperate to follow his mother to school.
All of a sudden, people all over the country knew that he was a boy, but Liu Ting was deeply entangled in this point, which Liu Ting never took the initiative to tell anyone, and it was also his deepest secret.
In fact, in his mind, he always thinks that he is a girl, but also thinks that the identity of a boy is just a bondage and a cover-up.
Because he was born white, many neighbors will say that this little girl is really beautiful at first sight. He doesn't understand why his parents gave him such an ugly name.
At the same time, I don't understand why I had to join the boys' team and the boys' dormitory when I was a child. All this made him feel very painful.
And the national fame made his boy's identity be realized at once and known by more people, which also made Liu Ting feel very entangled.
Later, he took the initiative to come to the hospital under the leadership of his mother. 20 13, the doctor diagnosed his condition as heterosexual. What is heterosexuality?
This is a congenital heterosexual disease, that is, as a psychological barrier, such people will regard themselves as the opposite sex from the bottom of their hearts, they are always eager to identify themselves as the opposite sex, and they are confused about real life.
This is a biological reason, it does not happen out of thin air, but is related to its own genes.
20 14 He made a very important decision. He decided to have sex-change surgery. From then on, he was no longer a boy, but a girl.
In terms of address, she changed from Liu Ting to Liu Ting. At the age of 28, she became a girl. Before the operation, Liu Ting often made such remarks in public, which attracted the attention of a plastic surgery hospital in Guangdong province.
They contacted Liu Ting and operated on her for free. Since then, she has completely turned into a girl and can finally live in her own way.
But will Liu Ting's life really change? And what changes will your life bring after the operation?
Fourth, practical problems follow, and the definition of filial piety is in doubt.
After plastic surgery, Liu Ting's life really fell into a kind of inexplicable happiness, and she began to appear in front of everyone generously as a woman.
In 20 15, she surprised countless people with a red dress. She can no longer be a man and use a man's body. Even though she used to be a moral model, she is very free and easy now.
However, life is not a movie. She began to use everything to spread the charm of women and exercise their rights. She published books and gave interviews. She has become a household name and attracted more attention because of her pioneering work.
She even took part in a beauty contest and won the most beautiful butterfly award. After that, Liu Ting began to work.
But in front of the camera, many people praised her courage, but she was not recognized by real life, and she was in a dilemma.
When she regained her social cognition as a woman, she found that everything was far from what she imagined, and the problems caused by gender could not be completely eliminated.
The shadow of transsexual surgery haunts her mind, and she is often accused and despised for no reason. At the same time, there is one of the most important issues.
Even since she believed that she was a girl, she hoped to meet a boy and be pampered in her heart, but she found it was still a daydream.
No boy will fall in love with such a strange girl. The most important thing is that mother can't accept her and her change. Once the dutiful son becomes a girl, can he become a dutiful son smoothly?
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Liu Ting's life really gave us a lot of room for thinking. How to continue filial piety?
Do you listen to your parents' opinions in order to make them cocky, regardless of your feelings and desire for gender? Or do you want to be kind to your parents in your own way?
But despite this unsolved problem, Liu Ting is indeed a very bold person. She is good at examining her heart and living in the way she wants.
Nowadays, many people in our life suffer from this disease, but some people always suppress their inner wishes because of secular obstacles.
They live in cages, under the noses of others. Such people are sad, and their lives are equally worthy of our love.