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I had a surgery a while ago that required courage. It had nothing to do with my health, but I thought my nose bridge was too flat, so I went for a nose job on a whim.

My attitude towards plastic surgery has always been relatively objective. I will not mindlessly despise people who have plastic surgery. After all, it is human nature to love beauty. I believe everyone likes things that are pleasing to the eye.

But I don’t support excessive pursuit of perfection. People who are very exaggerated have a degree in everything, and the love of beauty is no exception.

So I think it’s best to make slight corrections based on my original look to make myself look more refined, but at the same time retain my own characteristics.

I don’t believe in the saying that plastic surgery can change your destiny, because the benefits that can be obtained by good looks will eventually be lost due to loss of appearance.

So why did I make this decision? To put it bluntly, it’s because of inferiority complex!

I have no bloody breakup experience that caused me to lose confidence in men and doubt my own appearance.

Because what really makes girls feel inferior is women of the same age who are much better than themselves. Faced with the excellence of the same sex, they will always feel ashamed of themselves and feel that they are not good at anything.

Once you start to feel unconfident, you will deny yourself every time you look in the mirror, feeling that it is time to change yourself.

But after all, plastic surgery is not as simple as changing your hairstyle. It does require paying a lot of money and also having to go under the knife on yourself.

In the words of my mother: "It hurts even if a thorn is inserted into a good person's hand. How can it not hurt if you put a knife on your nose?"

So I respect those who have experienced it even more Great people, because in addition to taking great risks, they also have the ability to endure pain beyond ordinary people.

I am a person with zero pain tolerance, so I was under general anesthesia during the operation. The originally 2 and a half hour operation ended up being performed for 4 hours because of some problems.

My friends outside the operating room were so anxious that they almost rushed into the operating room. Although I fell asleep during the whole process, I felt very reassured when I woke up with my friends by my side.

People have no sense of security as long as they are in the hospital, and all that is left in their minds are all kinds of scary "little theaters".

At that time, what I wanted was no longer how refined I could become, I just wanted to live well.

However, there is no turning back. Night is the most painful time of the plastic surgery. After waking up from the anesthesia, the pain rips every inch of the skin, making it impossible to fall asleep.

It was this pain that made me realize clearly: "It is ridiculous to try to increase your self-confidence by changing your appearance."

Lack of self-confidence Even if things have changed in terms of appearance, what should we do if there are things that cannot be changed such as one’s background, personal experience, conversation, and temperament?

In fact, what needs to be changed is not the external things but the inferiority complex!

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I saw a hot search a while ago. The female Sanqin Xin in "Heartbeat Signal" cried because of her low self-esteem about her appearance.

Out of curiosity, I searched for her photos. She looked like a fair-skinned, beautiful, and long-legged lady.

If such a figure and appearance require low self-esteem, then we ordinary people really have no right to be confident.

What surprised me even more was that Yang Chaoyue, who has always been known for his sweetness, actually said that when he was a child, he had low self-esteem because of his appearance and felt that he was ugly.

Then all the beauties in the studio expressed that they had this feeling and often doubted their appearance, especially when the front camera was turned on, their self-confidence was destroyed.

What enlightened me was Qi Wei's words. She said:

"Confidence or inferiority has nothing to do with appearance. No matter how ordinary-looking a person is, as long as he is If you find something confident in yourself, you will not feel inferior. No matter how beautiful you are, you will still feel inferior if you are not confident! "

Celebrities who rely on their appearance will have this kind of inferiority complex. It comes to mind, but I very much agree with Qi Wei’s words: Only by finding the shining points in yourself and recognizing yourself can you become confident.

This reminds me of Zhang Yuqi in Riding the Wind and Waves. Her debut song "Sweet Honey" was performed many times. The instructor rated it X, but she confidently showed the X card like a king.

Although her singing and dancing are not the best, she said that she came to this stage just to debut in the C position, and the facts prove that she did it.

Every time she appears on the performance stage, her status as a girl group is established, because she never feels inferior because of her zero foundation. On the contrary, she takes the initiative to serve as the captain, with The whole team practiced additional exercises to challenge difficult movements.

That’s why she, who is a novice in singing and dancing, can stand out from the 30 sisters because she can confidently say: "I am beautiful" even when her singing and dancing skills are not as good as others!

That was the first time I met such a confident Zhang Yuqi. She knew her own advantages very well, so she never compared her shortcomings with others’ strengths. She only compared her own strengths with those of others. Compare the strengths of others.

This is the self-confidence that belongs to Zhang Yuqi. She has the self-confidence to support herself at any time so that she can shine.

So identifying yourself is the first step to self-confidence, and other changes can only temporarily alleviate the feeling of inferiority.

Of course, when we see the shining points of others, we should also take a good look at ourselves as extraordinary. You also have many advantages that others do not have, and these cannot be copied by others.

Keep your own uniqueness, maybe you will be envied by others at this moment?

After all, good-looking people are all the same, and interesting souls are only one in a million. It is better to be a good-looking person than to be a one-in-a-million person!

The above, I would like to encourage all girls!