Our lives are connected by decisions big and small, ranging from what to eat for breakfast to which university to go to, what kind of job and spouse to find.
For example, what job you decide to do will determine your industry career experience, promotion and development, circle, salary, lifestyle, and even dignity.
Who you are and who you will become largely depends on your decisions.
Our daily time is also connected by decisions big and small. When do you get up? What to wear? Work, study or leisure?
The dozens of decisions we make every day form a powerful force that changes our lives.
Those who decide to start at the right time will always be late because of traffic jams, which will affect the views of our leaders, colleagues, friends, and partners, and affect work performance and interpersonal relationships. In many cases, the so-called "bad luck" is actually just the wrong choice - why not start earlier?
So, the quality of our lives depends on the quality of our decisions. The basis of good decision-making is rationality, because decision-making requires logic, analysis, and collection of sufficient information, rather than relying on feelings or experience.
Between two points, a straight line is the shortest. Rational decision-making is the shortest thing between you and your dream. But the reality is that we always make decisions as a matter of course, relying on our sixth sense or experience, making our dreams out of reach. If you want to counterattack, you must first learn to make rational decisions!
Why is it so difficult for us to make rational decisions? ?
1. If you want everything, nothing will be good in the end!
Greed accounts for a large proportion of people’s bad nature.
I want both the beauty of beauty A and the virtuousness of beauty B. After many comparisons, I finally chose beauty C, who is both a little bit beautiful and a little bit virtuous. This is what I want. Yes, you will never suffer a loss. Yes, there is a little bit of everything, so everything is ordinary, submerged in the crowd, and cannot make a splash.
We are always making decisions, but we don’t know what we want, so we just want everything.
Han Han has a saying that I really like: All-round development leads to all-round mediocrity.
So, we have a mediocre life.
To make rational decisions, first of all, we need to understand: not the best decision, but the most suitable decision.
What is the most appropriate decision?
Before making a decision, let us describe our decision-making criteria in detail! What factors are involved in the decision we want? Which factor is most important? What do we like? What do you hate?
Compare the options again, and the one that is most suitable is the most suitable decision! ?
For example, we plan to change jobs.
Many people directly search for jobs online and then submit their resumes for interviews. Among the companies you interview, whichever one feels the best and has the highest salary, you will go to work for that company. So, after the honeymoon period, I complained about all kinds of dissatisfaction, found that this was not good, and I was not satisfied with that, and thought about changing jobs~
This is to find the best decision based on feelings.
How can we make the most appropriate decision?
First of all, let’s describe in detail what kind of job we want to find (decision-making criteria), what are the specific factors, and what factors we care about most!
For example, the job standards I want are (in descending order of concern): I need a stable job as a trainer. The salary is two thousand higher than my current salary, and the development space must be at least one level higher. It is best to take weekends off during working hours. The drive from home should not exceed 1 hour, and social reputation is not as good as bad reputation.
After describing it like this, compare the options and choose the most suitable one.
Suppose there are two companies A/B to choose from, I need to make a decision:
Other factors are similar, only these two aspects are different: Company A has high wages and development There is no space. ?
Company B’s salary is 20% lower than that of Company A, and they can be promoted one level (wage increase by 20%).
How to choose at this time? ?
The salary requirement in my standard is: two thousand higher than my current salary. ?
Does Company B’s salary meet the requirements? ?
If applicable, evaluate the development space item, and finally choose B. ?
If it does not match, remove option B and choose A finally. ?
It’s clear what to choose. ?
Those who are hesitant, it’s because they want both abalone and shark fin! ?
I want A’s high salary and B’s development space. ?
In fact, decision-making has nothing to do with the strengths and weaknesses of A/B, but has to do with our decision-making standards!
So, what do you want? Do you understand?
2. I am right!
Most of us are overconfident in our knowledge and abilities.
First of all, we have a lot of experience in the past, which means that we are right most of the time.
Secondly, even when we make mistakes, it is easy for us to find reasons for ourselves: bad luck, bad weather and other objective factors. Most of them are not my fault anyway.
In the end, everything I heard and saw proved that I was right! We selectively recognize and interpret events, collect information, and call the results of our choices reality.
For example, when two people are passionately in love, they will be in tune with each other no matter how they look at each other, and any inconsistencies will be ignored or used as seasoning. After two people separate, their inconsistencies naturally become unforgivable.
So, no need to discuss the facts, we are all right anyway!
Because of this nature, we rarely collect information and analyze rationally when making decisions. Even if there is, it is just to collect information to prove that my choice is right!
To avoid this situation, we can do this:
1. Collect information first instead of rushing to make a decision: collect at least three types of information through the Internet, books, and people who have experienced it. decision-making methods and reasons for decision-making.
2. Actively look for information that goes against your own opinions: I want to buy a certain property. I will first search for the shortcomings of a certain property online, then go to the owner group for verification, and finally consider whether the shortcomings will affect the property. Make your own purchasing decisions.
3. Consult bystanders, what are the advantages and disadvantages of my decision? There is no perfect decision. As long as the advantages are taken into account and the disadvantages are acceptable, it means that our decision is right. ?
3. Personality tendencies: I can’t control myself...
Personality is a wonderful thing. We can’t explain why and why, but it just determines every aspect of us.
Some people are perfectionist and must be 100%, while some people are just fine; some people analyze rationally, and some people make intuitive judgments; some people like stability, and some people like taking risks~ In short, Everyone's personality is different, but they also have some similar traits, to varying degrees.
In personality, procrastination, impulsivity, and emotional control are the three aspects that most affect rational decision-making.
1. Procrastination: There are many factors for procrastination, such as fear of making mistakes, pursuit of perfection, lack of motivation, etc. The disadvantage of procrastination is that it misses time and delays things. The early procrastination is entangled, and the later stage is full of excitement and exhaustion.
In decision-making, it is easy to make a decision if one option is better than another in all important aspects. However, because each option has advantages and disadvantages, people often experience ambivalence that makes decision-making difficult, and they delay making a decision in order to find more supporting information or alternatives.
However, not everything is worth worrying about.
Some trivial matters, such as what to eat, what to wear, what movies to watch, etc., if done wrong, the cost is not particularly high, and it is not worth entangled and worried.
When making important decisions, you can try to set some limits to overcome procrastination. Such as setting deadlines and making them public to others, requiring supervision, and even establishing rewards and punishments. ?
2. Impulse is the devil. Impulsive people cannot control their desires and make decisions easily based on fleeting thoughts. If it is a small matter, impulsiveness is beneficial, enabling quick decisions and making life simple. But when it comes to major decisions that affect the trajectory of our lives, impulsivity can lead us to make erratic and low-quality decisions. Therefore, don’t make decisions impulsively, no matter how small it is.
3. Emotions are our feelings about people and things. Emotions make us run counter to reason. When we have emotions such as anxiety, fear, happiness, jealousy, etc., we will reduce the collection of information, reduce the ability to analyze, and make decisions too quickly based on feelings.
Put off making decisions when you are emotional.
If you must make a decision, seek advice from people who are not emotionally involved.
Or taking the time to expand our choices and weigh and evaluate multiple alternatives can reduce the impact of emotions on us.
Recommended book "Making Good Decisions" In addition to learning Chinese and mathematics, we know astronomy and geography, but we have never learned how to make good decisions.
We don’t know the steps to make a decision, we don’t know what kind of situation we need to postpone a decision, and we don’t know what kind of decision-making preferences our own personality will make, so we always make decisions based on our feelings and experience.
I recommend the book "Making Good Decisions". The reason for my recommendation is simple: useful information!
There are six steps and methods for decision-making, there are tests for decision-making styles and personality tendencies, and there are solutions for every wrong decision.
I am an efficient and practical person who still likes this kind of book. It is neither chicken soup nor bloody. The above views in my article also come from my summary of reading the entire book.
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