Then, how to interact effectively with psychological counselors, as a helper, should pay attention to the following aspects.
First, how to judge whether the opposite counselor is suitable for you?
This is a key point, which directly affects the result of the next consultation. Because the psychological counseling service in China started relatively late compared with the west, the psychological counseling market is mixed, and the professional level of psychological counselors is also very different. As a helper who doesn't understand psychological counseling, it is difficult to make an accurate judgment.
First of all, visitors should pay attention to whether you can understand what the opposite consultant said, and whether the consultant can thoroughly understand what you said, which is the premise of interaction between the consultant and the visitors.
Secondly, after listening to the counselor's words, the helper's view of things is broader than his original view, that is, he feels that he used to have many narrow places and seems to accept something more.
Thirdly, through this initial communication with the counselor, I have the desire to communicate with the counselor again.
Finally, help seekers should also pay attention to observation. In the conversation with a counselor, it is impossible for such a counselor to keep a secret for you, regardless of whether the counselor will mention the previous visitors by name or not. Psychological counseling is a highly confidential job, and it is impossible for a psychological counselor who has not grown up to keep secrets, because it is anti-human to let a person keep secrets, and it is human nature to share secrets with others. In order to ensure the privacy of clients, a qualified consultant must follow ethical rules through psychological growth in order to pass the barrier of confidentiality without inner conflict. Therefore, the helper should understand that he won't mention others by name except for some special confidentiality exceptions explained to you by the consultant, and you can trust him.
If these four conditions are met, the helper can trust the opposite consultant and try to stay with the consultant, otherwise you need to find the next consultant who suits you.
Second, with the feelings of the previous step, the next step is to establish a trust relationship with the psychological counselor, which is related to the quality of the consulting task. As a helper, you need to have 100% trust in the counselor, because a qualified counselor is all-encompassing through business growth and personal growth, and the counselor will not make moral judgments on any language, thoughts and behaviors of the helper, nor will he comment on right or wrong.
In addition to describing their psychological and physical symptoms, help seekers should put down their defenses and tell the counselor the following questions:
1, the helper wants to ask questions that he dare not say.
2. The helper is ashamed.
3. Help-seekers feel that speaking out is detrimental to personal dignity and deny their own problems.
4, other problems that have been suppressed for a long time and they don't understand.
These problems need to be understood by psychological counselors, because there are many reasons for the psychological problems of visitors, and the above problems are more important. These problems will lead to some biased cognition and uncomfortable negative emotions caused by suppressing these problems, and then form some unhealthy thinking patterns and behavior patterns, and then form some harmful psychological defense mechanisms that even the help seekers themselves are unaware of.
Therefore, help-seekers can fully trust the counselor, gain enough sense of security in the consulting room, put down their psychological defense lines, and speak out these problems, which will help the counselor to analyze the problems comprehensively and objectively and help to realize effective communication with the counselor during the consultation process.
Third, the seeker must understand that psychological counseling is not the work of a counselor alone, but requires the joint efforts of the seeker and the counselor. In the interaction, the seeker is not a passive role, but the more active the better. Inspired by the psychological counselor, he can actively perceive his inner feelings, face his own problems, reflect hard, know and accept his unknown side, and know himself comprehensively and objectively. The purpose of a consultant's job is to help the seeker achieve the goal of helping himself, that is, "helping others to help himself".
It seems that you are fully prepared and can participate in the negotiation efficiently. First of all, it is necessary and necessary to be fully prepared as a visitor, not on impulse.
1. Understand the basic consultation settings, such as: the appointment time arrives on time, the consultation interval (the next consultation time), the consultation duration, and the consultation fee, and make clear your consultation goals;
2. Be patient, because consulting a non-panacea will be effective immediately and take time, especially remote consultation;
3. Strong sense of participation: mobilize subjective initiative to participate in consultation and establish a good relationship with consultants;
4. Economic considerations: stable economic support is needed;
The whole process of growing up is not beautiful, and the pain may be emotional, emotional and physical discomfort.
Secondly, it is necessary to clarify the changes in psychological counseling.
1. Obviously, psychological counseling is not a simple hint, but an effective method, which is to explore the relationship or root of the crux with the help of visitors' own motives;
2. Obstacles are reduced or reduced, emotions and emotions are more and more stable, and cognition is clear;
3. With the above abilities, there will be no problems, problems and obstacles.
Personality improvement is the real change and growth, and it is the real efficient consultation.
How to help clients interact with counselors efficiently?
For many visitors, before entering the formal consultation, they usually have a certain understanding of the consultant from the side, ask others, recommend by friends they know, and so on. Once a consulting relationship is established, you should have such an idea or belief. I want to recover, and I want to recover under the guidance of this consultant.
When consulting, actively cooperate with the consultant and answer the relevant questions of the consultant, especially around the formation of symptoms, stimulating events and wrong cognition. Don't hide, tell your truest thoughts, don't feel privacy problems, and don't feel embarrassed, because telling your truest feelings is conducive to the analysis and judgment of the counselor, so as to find the key to the problem in a short time and give solutions to the problem. Such consultation is certainly efficient. If there are some altitude sickness in the consultation, I just feel that sometimes the effect is not great, or I don't feel it. Think about the consultant's overall thinking. If you feel that the thinking is right, stick to it and basically recover. If it fails several times, you should consider stopping consulting and finding a consultant who can solve the problem.
During the consultation process, visitors actively cooperated and completed the relevant homework according to the requirements of the consultant, and the overall effect was good.
Let's listen.
he said
Go straight to the point
Shun he cong yi
Establish a correct view
There is no special effect method, as long as you are eager to change, face it sincerely, trust the consultant and relax yourself, the effect will be good.
There is no other good way. When you go, tell yourself that complete trust and cooperation are the only things you can do.