Many people think that her husband's online flirting is just verbal flowers and plants, not an affair, but he will still resent it.
Because there is a mistress, when you don't know it, your feelings with your husband have been shared and participated by TA. Although there is no physical relationship, when your husband wants to say something, you are no longer the only choice, or even the best choice. Has the famous library been out of power for 30 seconds?
If we want to solve flirting, then we need to know the reasons and motives behind flirting.
1, proving the charm
Some men are coquettish, in fact, out of inferiority, and various conditions may not be as good as their wives, so he needs something to arouse his self-esteem and male charm.
2. Revenge on marital dissatisfaction
Some male compatriots are often scolded at home:
You can't earn more money than other husbands, and you pay less for this family. What else can you do besides muddling along? Why did I marry a loser like you?
If there are such voices at home, the man has been depressed for a long time, but whenever he meets a woman who appreciates and tolerates him outside, he will be impulsive, even out of revenge, and develop into a physical derailment.
3. Realize value
Many people lack love in the process of growing up, are controlled by their parents, and when it comes to themselves, they will project this desire on their partners. He needs to constantly confirm that he deserves to be loved, and also needs to realize his sense of existence and self-worth by changing women.
How to deal with her husband's coquetry?
1, draw a line
If found, don't let him delete it or hack it, because what he and Sam need is separation, not isolation. Isolation will only increase each other's thoughts and even make the relationship more hidden. It is better to let the husband make it clear and let the other party really realize the end of the relationship.
Step 2 determine the bottom line
For example, if the opposite sex chats with her husband, you should agree on how to be ambiguous and tell him your bottom line. If we can't reach an agreement, we can moderately lower the standard, but we must never break through the bottom line.
Step 3 take the initiative to avoid suspicion
It is ok for a person to have friends of the opposite sex, but if you don't draw a clear line with friends of the opposite sex, the relationship will be vague, which will breed unnecessary trouble. Let your husband learn to take the initiative to refuse and avoid suspicion, and let him know that you are not asking you to cut off all contact with the opposite sex, but to avoid doing things that will misunderstand you.
4. Sign the marital property agreement.
This is aimed at the serious situation of coquetry For example, we have "frankly met" online, and there are even signs. Then you must know very well that it is not love and warmth that brings love rat back to his family, but punishment for not daring to do it again.
Give him a chance and let him know that if he makes a mistake, he will bear the price. Moreover, this price must pay the actual cost to be effective. It is better to let her husband sign the marital property agreement and make him feel uncomfortable.
It is normal for people to have secrets and desires, but don't hurt and deceive each other in the name of love.