However, the ending of Fang Zhongyong's story is tragedy; Because my father was greedy for petty profits, he didn't send Fang Zhongyong to study, but left him in the village as an exhibition and benefited from it. Finally, his story ended in lack of knowledge.
God is fair. Genius teenagers like Fang Zhongyong often die of natural causes. This is really puzzling. What caused these stars, which were supposed to shine in the sky, to fall?
0 1 Disappointed, diving into Peking University.
Tang Xiaolin is such a prodigy. She was born in an ordinary family in Yantai, Shandong Province, and showed her outstanding talent from a very young age. She is the first in primary school, junior high school and high school.
As a child, Tang Xiaolin was determined to be admitted to Peking University, the highest institution in China. In the summer of 2004, with the hope of parents and teachers, Tang Xiaolin walked into the college entrance examination room. A month later, the admission notice from Peking University was sent to her home. Her father was busy setting off firecrackers and her mother was inviting relatives and friends to dinner. Everything seems to be moving in the right direction.
After entering Peking University, Tang Xiaolin was still the diligent senior. After four years of study, she got the opportunity to go to the University of Utah for further study and flew to Europe two months later.
However, at this time, a turning point in life appeared. After two years' study in school, she successfully got a degree certificate for graduate students. It seems that this time it is as smooth as before. But no one predicted what would happen next.
02 tragedy, buried in a foreign country.
At that time, the University of Utah stipulated that doctoral students must pass the qualification examination in the third year, but Tang Xiaolin published six papers and still did not graduate smoothly. Coupled with the huge work pressure, she began to be paranoid all day, anxious, nervous breakdown and gaunt.
Parents call every day to ask about their recent situation. Tang Xiaolin can only perfunctory past. No one knows how much she has suffered. A confident girl disappeared and was replaced by a lost and gaunt loser.
Finally, on a late autumn afternoon, she jumped into the cold sea from the Golden Gate Bridge and went to sleep.
Tragedy broke out, and many people don't understand why such a small blow made this "charming girl in heaven" unbearable and gave up her life. Why didn't she think more about her bright future before jumping?
Actually, the answer is simple. Let's walk into her heart: a child who has never been hit since childhood is growing up and is praised by outsiders, as long as his parents whip him in his ear: you must live up to expectations.
No one really understands her. People pay more attention to her grades than to herself, not to mention her interests. Maybe she cried at night in a foreign country, but no one could hear her.
The pressure is increasing, she can't change my life, and she begins to question my previous achievements. She can't graduate and become the last straw to crush the camel. In the end, she chose my life.
Deepen the analysis and find the mystery of the disintegration of genius
She was a proud top student in middle school, but no one knew that she actually wanted a guitar constantly. She is a talented woman with a bright future in the eyes of others, but she is afraid that even if she makes a mistake, she will be scolded by her mother. She is an overseas Chinese envied by everyone, but in fact, she prefers jiaozi to Hamburg. Perhaps the real child has died under the lash of his parents, leaving only an empty shell in the world.
At the cost of her life, Tang Xiaolin told us the answer: it was never an accidental blow, but the gradual accumulation of pressure that defeated these geniuses. Finally, generation cannot be forgotten. Even if she has the gift of eight fights, it will be in vain if she doesn't accept the pressure.
Therefore, how to make children bear the failure correctly and how to accept the pressure has become the primary task of family education.
Think deeply and don't put a heavy burden on your child.
First of all, from the source, to learn to accept pressure, we must keep its size within the controllable range, that is, decompression. The direct source of stress is parents. Most of them rely on the "starting line theory" to put pressure on their children from time to time, enroll in cram schools, stare at the grade list, and subtly form an idea for their children: I want grades but I am a waste.
The typical education in China is "I don't want you to be safe and happy, I just want you to be superior". In the long run, children's psychological depression for too long will eventually lead to bad consequences.
Decompress your child appropriately, and take him to understand the world more, instead of blindly pursuing success, so that your child can be mentally healthy and have greater plasticity.
Second, it is the "failed education" that we are all ignoring. I hope that the liberal arts students will be righteous. Failure education is to let children know how to bear failure. This is not a good thing after all. If they encounter setbacks early, they will understand that no one can continue to win.
At this time, I told him that failure is not terrible at all, and we can stand up again and think deeply about my mistakes, so that we can fight again by experience. He didn't scold him every time he failed in the exam, but thought that failure was the end of the world and there was no possibility of turning over.
Finally, we all inevitably fall into the habit of money, but don't "support the poor" too much, just remind our children that it is your great honor to study. As long as you study hard and earn money in the future, you can change the present situation at home.
This will only increase the pressure on children and label themselves early: children from poor families. Gradually, he will become inferior and sensitive. He will feel that learning is his only way out, his psychology will be very contradictory, his pressure will accumulate over time, and he will accept the pressure from his parents early.
Therefore, no matter what the family circumstances, we need to let our children live with dignity and backbone, instead of spending a few dollars on you every day, which will not change my life. We must always give our children a healthy mind.
Unfortunately, girls never wake up. How should her parents spend the rest of their lives!
The fall of genius is always regrettable. Regrettably, more attention should be paid to thinking, and the country is gradually paying attention to the problem of great pressure on contemporary primary and secondary school students, and relevant policies and rules are also being introduced.
What we have to do is always pay attention to the mental health of those children, give correct guidance, and stop guiding psychological education. Don't let these children live under pressure prematurely, and the next Tang Xiaolin will not appear.