First, no matter how fierce the quarrel is, you can't say extreme thoughts and angry words, such as going to die, jumping off a building, committing suicide, etc. These are the most exciting words and the consequences are unimaginable. Maybe you just accidentally said an angry word at that time, and the speaker didn't want to listen. Don't wait until there is a big problem, it may be too late to regret the impulse.

Second, don't mention the good or bad things you have experienced. Don't mention them at all Turn over old scores. Maybe it will be more sad to mention what you did to her now than before.

Third, the other person may have experienced several emotional experiences before you, so not mentioning them at all may have a great influence on her. You may be jealous of her in advance, which may lead to more disputes. The other person may have had feelings with others and had children before you. The matter of children is the most touching and sensitive topic, let alone what to find your child.

Fourth, the other party or small family or school will leave shadows and scars in their hearts. If they tell you, you'd better forget it and don't turn it over. Everyone has privacy and has something they don't want to say. Don't force and attack each other. Mutual understanding and respect is the best way. I wish you good luck, reconciliation and happiness in life.