Buer: Do you think a beautiful woman should strive for a career or a "man"?

Busan: Only women who have a successful career are more confident.

Bufour: Get married. A good man is the destiny of a woman's life

Recently I watched a debate variety show, and I suddenly felt something and wanted to say a few words.

My hands are very tired when I browse Weibo now. It's not because there are too many, but the articles I'm interested in are basically buried among a large group of beautiful women's photo posts, which makes my eyes tired. Every time at this time, I wonder why I didn't prepare a bigger mobile phone. I also like beautiful women and like to read their Weibo posts. But it can also make you tired of it, not to mention that when you open Weibo, all of them are photos taken at the same angle nine times in a row. This is not a problem of aesthetic fatigue, but it is not at the level of "review". Of course, there is no denying this group of beauties. Which woman doesn’t love beauty, which woman doesn’t like to take selfies, and which woman doesn’t want to use photos to retain her youth. Spring is so fast, and women who don’t use micro-plastic hyaluronic acid on their faces can only do it. My phone is full of selfies to comfort me that I haven’t gotten old yet.

I don’t deny it, because I also have a lot of selfies on my phone, and I am also a woman.

Should a beautiful woman focus on her career, find a good man, have a happy love life, or find a second-generation official and a rich second-generation person so that she can save herself N years of struggle? Come, let Fuji take you to listen to the debate between Fuji San and Bu Four.

"Busan"'s monologue:

I am a career-oriented woman. In today's society, women should make themselves strong and independent enough. The only person who can be relied on in the end is Own. Having a stable career and being financially independent is more practical than anything else.

Why should I get married and have children at the most beautiful age, and give up my career and future for my family when I should be struggling the most? I should be a blooming pearl, not buried in a pile of housework. One day when my face was dull and my skin was sagging, I saw a woman with messy hair doing housework, while my man became more attractive as he got older and liked young girls born in the 90s. Therefore, you must have your own career and maintain your sense of independence at all times.

The success of my career has made me more confident. When I continue to travel to various social occasions, wearing a dress and holding a wine glass, with a smile on my face, I have various social relationships. When I step into my company every morning and see a group of people struggling together, that sense of satisfaction and accomplishment makes me even more excited to climb to a higher career peak.

I must achieve something.

Narration of "Fu Er":

Watching Fu San describe her life with great interest, I felt that she was very tired. Looking behind a beautiful face, there must be such emptiness and loneliness. I don't rule out the possibility of getting an injection for this pretty face from time to time.

Women, there is nothing wrong with being yourself, and there is nothing wrong with having a career. It depends on how you do it, and how you do it.

It has always been particularly difficult for women to balance family and career. There is no balance between the two. Some people say that Yang Lan is not a successful example. However, have you ever thought about what Yang Lan was doing when she was 27 or 8? If she had married an ordinary person, if she had devoted herself entirely to her career, would she be like this today? Only those in authority know the bitterness behind the glamour. Sometimes, some happiness and perfection are only for outsiders to see.

Some people are like this. They are used to licking their wounds and always show a confident smile to others.

According to the Book of Changes, women should be soft, couples should be male yang and female yin, male strong and female soft. This is not to say that women’s status is lower than that of men, but that women’s softness is a complement to their husband’s strength. Not everyone can be a strong woman. If you want to be a strong woman, you have to do a lot of things that you will lose.

Some people say that I don’t want to be a strong woman, but that I am helpless sometimes and my career keeps improving, so I am pushed to that point. In fact, for this reason, just comfort yourself. Human actions all come from inner instinctive desires. If you have no desires in your heart, you won't take this step even with a knife on your neck. So in the final analysis, it is your own heart that drives you to want to do this. For this kind of person, some things can only happen, such as changes in career, family, or other big things, which will slightly hinder their progress. But if this bond can't stop her, then let her go, because you can't keep her if your heart is not there.

Women should still be independent and exist without relying on others. This is freedom.

Monologue of "Busi":

I am a housewife. I used to be a person with so-called dreams, but when I met the other half of my life, everything changed. Everything has changed. I should take care of everything at home so that he can pursue his career without any worries. He is a good man who loves me very much and I want to protect my happiness. Isn't that what life is like, get married, have children, and then live. Especially for women, marrying a good man is the most valuable asset in life. With a perfect and happy family, you are the ultimate winner in life. I don't care about career, my family is my career. Women don't necessarily have to be in public to have a career.

Whenever my daughter coquettishly calls mommy on my shoulder, I feel that I am the most complete and happy person in the world. I can see the whole family eating together every night and listen to the snoring on the left and right at night, which makes me feel the most peaceful.

I am a post-90s generation. I have had two boyfriends. One is an entrepreneur, almost 20 years older than me. I was with him when I was in my early 20s. He fulfilled all my little girlish vanities and kept me from having any financial worries. My outlook on life and values ??were shaped by him, and I obediently act as the little woman behind him every day. He took me to travel to various places. If I wanted to work, he would help me find a job. If I didn’t want to work, he would buy things online at home. My second boyfriend is a second-generation rich man. I put on the best makeup every day, and my whole body is covered with famous brands. He brings me into contact with the most upper-class circles. Sitting in a sports car, I feel like I am the most beautiful person in the world. Happy. The savings I have now, and the job I can have as long as I want, were all achieved in just a few years. For other women, this may take a long time, or even a lifetime. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. Good looks are capital for a woman. You should make good use of your capital. Beauty is for consumption.

Narration of "Fu Er":

I won't comment on the first type of "Bu Er" women, because everyone has different outlook on life and values, and chooses different paths in life. There is no right or wrong. Word. What you think is wrong is a lifetime of happiness for others. What you think is right may be a tragedy in other people's lives. Therefore, do not comment on the right or wrong of any values, because everyone has different positions and different backgrounds. Do not easily ask others what they should do. It is stupid to try to make others live according to your outlook on life and values.

I also don’t comment on the second type of “not four” women. In today’s materialistic society, people are eager for quick success and quick benefits, so people inevitably look for shortcuts in their growth. It has been achieved and gained. In addition to sighing onlookers, don't you feel envious for a moment in your heart? Admit it, although people are inherently good at heart, no one is a saint, and everyone is more or less utilitarian. Is it just a matter of "just think about it" or "I want to be like him". However, you still have to fall on your own for some somersaults. Everyone's life is a curve, with always highs and lows. It's just that the lows of the walker in front are a smooth curve, and they go up after a roundabout. If you fly directly in front, be careful that the valley ahead is an abyss.

I can’t make a final decision on whether a beautiful woman should pursue a career or a man. She has too little experience and is not qualified to make a final decision. The most difficult thing for people is to have self-awareness. You know how much you weigh, don't think that every hotel in society is opened just for you if you have some achievements.

As for your career, just follow your heart. You must have a measuring instrument in your heart to alert yourself at all times. When your ambition exceeds a certain limit, you must know how to retract. A career can never be achieved, money can never be made, and vain words of support can never end. If you really want to have a career, ask yourself what you want in your heart and what kind of person you want to be, and then hit the road, never forgetting your original intention. If you happen to have a family, the understanding and support of your family is the key to a successful career, or in other words, it is the prerequisite for your happiness even after your career is successful. Of course, if you are a person who doesn't care about family, then simply don't get married and don't harm others.

Women, beauty cannot be used as food. Although we can’t completely say that this is a society that values ??appearance, we do. If you have a face but no substance, you won’t get a long way. Nowadays, there are many beauties, and there are piles of young girls with cute skin, white breasts and strong breasts. If you want others to respect you and feel that you are different, you must first see yourself differently and always insist on your inner voice.

A good friend told me that society is like this now. You can't change it, you can only adapt. I said that in this sea of ??society, even if I have to go into the water, I still insist on wearing my own clothes. All people are born equal. Respecting others means respecting yourself. No one is superior to others, even if you think you are successful. As a saying goes, sooner or later you will have to pay back your money if you go out to work. Any result is the result of your cultivation in the future. At any time, you should never break your trust with others, be kind, stick to yourself, and never lose integrity, so that your beauty will be truly beautiful.

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By Fuji