Most of the contemporary young people are only children, and they have been greatly influenced by their parents since childhood. Coupled with being married, you need to rely on your parents at the material level, so sometimes parents' opinions have a decisive role in young people. As an elder, it is ok to give children appropriate suggestions and advice, but if you control your child's thoughts, it is likely to worsen a relationship. The direct consequence of this situation is that the child's marriage is facing a crisis.
0 1. If a person has no ability, he will be looked down upon. This is a very realistic truth, but the real situation is often more cruel than this. Except for parents who don't dislike their children's earning ability, almost everyone will decide their attitude towards a man according to his income. Feng Xue deeply understands this truth, so after graduating from college, he is bent on starting a business.
In fact, for him who graduated from a famous university, he could have found a stable job in a large unit. Although the salary is not high at first, there is a lot of room for improvement. However, Feng Xue thinks that life is expensive. You can accumulate experience if you lose. If you win, you will succeed.
Because of his high academic qualifications and his parents' good reputation, Feng Xue fell in love two years after graduating from college. At that time, Feng Xue was 26 years old, just resigned from the unit, ready to start a business. Because all the money was invested, I only had one car when I got married. His wife Linlin speaks highly of him and thinks he will succeed in the future.
02. My mother-in-law is also very optimistic about this high flyers, because Linlin's family is ok, so she got a house before she got married. At first, Feng Xue started his business smoothly, but when his career just started, he was severely suppressed by his peers. Without contacts and markets, Feng Xue's first venture ended in failure.
What he didn't expect was that the attitudes of his mother-in-law and Linlin changed greatly with the failure of his business. Every time I go to dinner with my mother-in-law, her mother-in-law always taunts him with code words: "Hey, Zheng Xiao in the next town has started his own business. What a successful man, he earned more than one million in the second year. Hey, I really envy you! "
Even more irritating, under the influence of her mother-in-law, his wife Linlin began to look down on herself. The unsmooth career and love made Feng Xue fall into the trough of his life. In addition, I am "dependent on others" and can't stand straight, so my personality becomes withdrawn. Although Feng Xue raised funds to start his second venture as soon as possible, he was not favored by his wife.
At the same time, my brother-in-law lives in Feng Xue's house because he has just found a job nearby. However, my brother-in-law is very rude. Not only did he often go through his things, but he even sold some of his collections without Feng Xue's consent. When Feng Xue questioned him, his brother-in-law replied, "The houses you live in are all my sister's. What will happen if I use your thousands of dollars? "
Because of the arrival of his brother-in-law, Feng Xue and his wife had many contradictions. Finally, more than three months later, Feng Xue made a suggestion to his wife: "Wife, you must let your brother move out today. I'm really uncomfortable with him here. " I thought my husband and wife were married, but Linlin replied, "I think you'd better move out. My mother told me to divorce you long ago. If you can't make money, it's useless for you to be stable. "
Long-term depression and his wife's humiliation made Feng Xue feel that it was meaningless for him to stay in this family. This time he is ready to leave, and he feels that such a wife is not qualified to share his future success with himself. There is no need for such a marriage to continue.
In this impetuous world, many people's values are distorted. Even in some people's eyes, the ability to make money is the most important criterion to measure a person. If a person can earn money, he can get respect wherever he goes; If you can't make money, you will even be looked down upon by your wife and relatives.
We deny this value, and I believe there are still many people who have correct views. But unfortunately, this phenomenon often happens around us. This also reminds all young people who are struggling: whether you are a man or a woman, if you want to win the respect of others, you must learn to run hard. As a man, you must succeed!
Men are often very rational before marriage, and everyone will take finding a virtuous and family-oriented woman as an important condition. Such a woman can endure hardships with herself and help her to succeed. But if you choose a woman who is always critical and doesn't trust herself enough, you are doomed to be full of sorrow. Because living with this kind of woman, you can't make any mistakes or fail.
At the same time, young people should have their own opinions on love and marriage. Parents' opinions must have reference value, but they must not be completely led by their parents. When parents examine love, they often think too much and pay more attention to the present material conditions. But in marriage, young people must have confidence in the other half. Now that it has been approved, stick to it and support and encourage each other.
The most precious thing in love is not the number of houses, cars and deposits, but the trust between each other. With this trust, two people can share joys and sorrows and face the ups and downs of life together. Couples who can withstand the baptism of big winds and waves can go to the end!