You think too much, the basic bride price around me is 65,438+10,000 yuan, and the man's house is completely renovated. The girl either marries two cars, or marries more than 65,438+10,000 yuan, or marries a shop, or doesn't leave a dime. Of course, there are those who don't want a bride price. This is based on the man's financial strength, but generally they can't even afford the bride price. Why start a family? Call yourself first!
This stereotype does not exist among the Han people in old Urumqi, and it is even quite despised. Other nationalities haven't understood it yet. I am an old Urumqi native, 50 years old, Han nationality. From the 1950s to the present, my Han relatives and friends have never heard of anyone who wants a bride price for their wedding. The man's family pays more, and the woman's family marries some things, such as the man buying a house and the woman marrying the car. Everyone does their best. Both parents help their children get married, as long as they live a better life and honor their parents. People in other places think that giving less bride price is a matter of looking down on the woman and losing face. Old Urumqi people think that it is a shame to get married and sell their daughters. But in the past decade, there have been more people living outside Urumqi, so it's hard to say whether the atmosphere will be bad in the future …
Every day, Xu, a traditional Chinese medicine doctor, comes home to give grandpa a massage and needles. After a long time, he talked about almost everything, ex-wife, second brother, baby son. So I tried to ask what the bride price in Xinjiang was. He said no. To be honest, I don't believe it at all. How can there be such a good thing? Although they are not selling girls, it is not easy to raise a girl.
Dr. Xu saw my doubts, so he talked about his college classmate A, who returned to his hometown of Guizhou after graduating from college. His girlfriend, who talked for five years in college, finally lost to the bride price, and spit out this distress to Dr. Xu when chatting. As a native of Xinjiang, Dr. Xu felt incredible at first sight. Why the bride price? Isn't that selling girls? So he used his golden words to hire a classmate and came to their hospital. It didn't take long to talk about a girlfriend in this hospital, and it is natural to get married and have children. Now the whole family is very happy. So it is true that local girls in Urumqi don't want bride price, and they are all excellent!
Xinjiang is not only a local girl in Urumqi who doesn't want a bride price when getting married, but also a girl in other cities who doesn't want a bride price when getting married. Even in rural Xinjiang, I have never heard of how much bride price is required. This is rare in the whole country.
Not only do you not want gifts, but Xinjiang is also very good at gender equality. In the eyes of Xinjiang people, boys and girls are the same, and boys and girls have equal status in the family. There is no saying that "married women splash water", and there is no saying that married women are excluded or their share in family property distribution and inheritance is reduced.
Not only do not give gifts, parents' meetings of both men and women will * * * support their children's family construction after marriage, and * * * share large expenses such as buying a house, furniture and cars for small families. Generally speaking, men seem to buy more houses.
Another thing to say is that there is no male chauvinism in Xinjiang, and there are many families headed by women after marriage. No matter who is in charge of the family in Xinjiang, the democratic and harmonious atmosphere in the family is generally good, which is also related to the generosity and atmosphere of Xinjiang people.
Of course, Xinjiang people are also suitable for marriage, but two children are angry with each other, and parents who voluntarily establish a love relationship will support blessings, which is also a good side of marriage and family relations in Xinjiang.
Friends and classmates around me, the Han people in Xinjiang want up to 10,000 yuan, the Hui people want more, the Uighurs also have bride price, the Kazakhs want money for cattle and sheep cloth, and the Mongols also want it but rarely.
There is no bride price atmosphere not only in Urumqi, but also in Xinjiang. When I say native, I mean people who have been born in Xinjiang for generations. Getting married is a happy event. There is no need to embarrass your in-laws like selling your daughter. At least, I think so. Most people who want the bride price are new residents who have moved from the mainland to Xinjiang, bringing the marriage customs in the mainland.
It is also the issue that everyone is most concerned about. The economic conditions in different places are different, and the bride price ranges from tens of thousands to hundreds of thousands. As for whether the local girl in Urumqi wants a bride price, others have no say, only the girl's parents have the most say.
Although I have been in Urumqi 18 years! But I don't have much contact with local girls, because Urumqi is a multi-ethnic city with more minority girls. Their marriage customs are different from ours. I really don't understand how to accept the bride price, but one thing is certain. Urumqi has never heard of sky-high bride price.
In real life, today's young people can fall in love freely. It takes a long time for two people to get acquainted and get married. When two people have fixed their eyes and the other person is their lifelong partner, they will tell their parents and let them meet to discuss marriage. At that time, the bride price was only a symbolic accessory. The most important thing is that they will have a good life in the future, which is what everyone wants most. So in Urumqi, it is different for people to marry their daughters, and there is no professional standard. Follow your heart!
Therefore, as soon as everyone heard about the bride price, they immediately jumped out to refute and said that there should not be so many unreasonable things. What I want to say is that I will understand when I raise my daughter. As long as it is not a high-priced bride price, my father-in-law basically loses money. After you get married, you must be kind to your father-in-law.
Because Urumqi is an immigrant city, except for some ethnic minorities, most ethnic minorities come from other prefectures in Xinjiang, and the ancestral home of Han citizens is basically the mainland, which means that people in different parts of the country have different customs and habits.
For decades, people of all ethnic groups have blended with each other and cultures have blended with each other. Therefore, some habits of mainlanders have been changed here. Without more complicated customs and habits in the mainland, people get along relatively simply.
The custom of asking for bride price before marriage has also changed in Urumqi. At present, local women in Urumqi do not want bride price, regardless of ethnic minorities or Han nationality, which better reflects the equality between men and women.
Before marriage, most men and women here buy houses, women pay for decoration or buy furniture and appliances, and women with good conditions buy cars. If the man's family is not in this city and the economic conditions are average, there are also cases where the woman buys a house and treats her son-in-law as a son.
This is the advantage of Urumqi as an immigrant city. Don't worry, the girl here really doesn't want a bride price. You should cherish her after marriage.
I didn't ask for a bride price. I don't think it matters. Bought a house and facade in full before marriage. I don't think it matters to write your name in the house. I have one myself anyway. I don't want any gold, hardware or diamonds, and I don't like wearing them. I don't want a wedding. Personally, I don't like that occasion. I think it is too noisy. I'm here to return the gift. A few people have a lively and sincere blessing. Just get a certificate and it's over. Just be happy, why think so much!