You should first make yourself happy and have a positive and wonderful dating experience. If you want to make your love life happy and complete, you must meet other needs besides intimacy.

It is reflected in daily hugs, worship, mutual support, tolerance and understanding exchanges, and also in interesting dating and playing with children. Now I no longer rely entirely on sex to feel my love for Bonnie.

1, Mars and Venus in the new era

Actively face personality differences.

2. From life partner to spiritual partner

Long-term affection, romance, emotional support and good communication are the primary criteria for choosing a spouse.

Better communication skills to reduce stress, close the distance between two people, and generate deeper love and passion.

The greatest emotional pain in life is wanting to love but not loving.

3. Show your unique self

The main reason for our inner pain, physical pressure and mental torture is that we intentionally or unintentionally suppress the multifaceted expression of our unique self.

Women need to love and be loved; Men's independence pursues success, not satisfaction and happiness.

Life partner can bring happiness and satisfaction, and spiritual partner can create lasting passion.

Reduce stress: male-just increase testosterone secretion; Female-promoting estrogen secretion

4. Differences make passion last.

Learn to express your unique self different from your partner.

Only by combining the expression of masculinity with the expression of femininity such as tenderness, tolerance, cooperation and interdependence can a man fall in love with her. If not, even if he is deeply attracted at first, that passion will soon fade, because he will not feel the feeling of being needed from her.

My daughter's decompression-sharing her feelings

Men, the best way to relieve stress is to stay in their caves for a period of time and cultivate their hobbies, such as reading newspapers, praying, meditating and watching sports games. This is the cave age.

How on earth can I meet my Mr. Right?

5.testosterone from Mars

Men: Testosterone secretion is ten times that of women.

Woman: Estrogen secretion is ten times that of men.

The biggest problem in a relationship is not whether a man is angry, but whether he vents his anger on his partner.

As long as men are confident, they will not be emotional.

Common testosterone secretion activity: 1. Drive.

Make a decision

Work hard

Solve the problem (not complain)

Do project

6. Improve work efficiency

7. Provide free services

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9. Give up yourself for others

10. Prayer, meditation or silence

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12. developing skills

13. Make money

14. Adventure

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16. Success

17. Win

compete

19. Exercise

20. Physical exercise (such as running)

2 1. Intimate physical contact

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23. Listen

study

25. Play jokes or make fun of each other's problems with other male friends.

As long as it takes 20 to 30 minutes to do relaxing and stress-free testosterone stimulation activities, men can rebuild high enough testosterone levels.

6.estrogen from Venus

Healthy eating habits, regular exercise, adjusting one's behavior and using new sexual relations skills can all regulate estrogen.

The manifestations are: emotional instability, premenstrual syndrome, dysmenorrhea, depression, lack of sustained passion or attraction, inability to enjoy alone time or spend time with yourself, and always feel that there are many things I can't finish by myself, and time is completely insufficient.

Oxytocin is related to their expression and feeling of love, admiration, trust and security.

Stimulate oxytocin secretion: touch your body and share your feelings ("Venus Talk" is used to share rather than complain, not to solve any problems, but to let women return to the female side and men return to the male side.

How to do it:

1. Women say, men listen.

She just needs to share her feelings and never complain about him. You must not try to solve or correct her. 4. After sharing negative emotions for up to 8 minutes, take a few minutes to talk about some positive emotions, thank him, and then hug him for 3 ~ 6 seconds. After the hug, don't talk, both sides relax and feel how beautiful it is to listen quietly without interruption and argument. )

Excessive estrogen-a symptom of hysteria: this kind of lower body touch that has nothing to do with sex in clinic can really temporarily increase the secretion of testosterone in women.

The best support a man can give a woman is good communication, mainly because he needs to talk less and listen more, and listen to her heart patiently.

It only takes a little time to do something that really makes your partner happier, and your testosterone level will increase.

Unlike women, men need a job or other testosterone stimulation activities other than sexual relations to maintain hormone balance. What women need is a colorful social life and a lot of time to do what they love.

7, the harm of taking hormones

Dopamine: People's pleasure, motivation, interest and attention are related.

Serotonin: produces a feeling of optimism, gratitude and appreciation.

γ -aminobutyric acid: produces the feeling of happiness, happiness and love.

Estrogen, Testosterone and Progesterone: Affect the production and balance of brain chemicals.

Hormone replacement therapy may lead to an increased risk of uterine cancer, breast cancer, heart disease, stroke and thrombosis.

Taking birth control pills is related to depression.

Women's happiness and happiness mainly come from being able to balance their love and appreciation for others and themselves. Estrogen gives women the ability to appreciate others; Progesterone will make them appreciate themselves and know what they can do for others.

8. Women, hormones and happiness

Oxytocin: decompression

Emotional bond: When a woman gives some support, she will get another support in return. Example: Rely on the economic support and emotional support of the South (men express their concern, understanding and respect through listening and sweet love).

She should never let a man be the main creator of oxytocin in her life. Parents, pets, family members, beliefs, consultants, bosses, coaches, teachers, etc. )

Methods: 1. Talk about the problem.

Talking about interpersonal relationships

hug

Express what you see and feel.

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6. pedicure

7. Massage

8. Cooperation

9. Coordination

10. Accept the compliment

1 1. Help accepted.

12. Have enough time to do what you want.

13. Get extra support and make time for yourself.

feel secure

15. Pray

16. Express gratitude

17. Appointment

18. Cultivation relationship

19. I was moved by emotions other than sexual relations.

20. Accept the warmth

2 1. Pay attention to your feelings and needs.

22. Accept the apology

23. accept flowers

24. Get help and support from others.

25. Receiving information and greeting cards

26. Attend concerts or participate in social culture.

27. Get a promise

Feel worried

29. Feel respected

30. feel loved

1. Ask all kinds of questions when dating: expect men to be more interested in themselves. 2. Shopping. 3. Buy new shoes/accessories and wear them when you come back. 4. make up. 6. Wear sexy underwear. 7. Give gifts. 8. Help others. 9. Cook for your partner or take care of him in other ways. 10. Take care of the children.

Estrogen: brain excitation progesterone: brain calm

Social connection produces progesterone, while emotional connection produces estrogen and oxytocin.

Establish social ties with others

1. Play cards or board games

2. Participate in sports or other team activities.

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4. Learn yoga or other courses with many people.

Cook with others

6. Spend time with parents or family members who share the same thoughts and feelings.

7. Share the same experience in women's support groups or other thematic meetings.

8. Donate money to fund-raising activities or other charitable activities in children's schools.

9. Go to a party or a women's night and sit down and share with friends.

10. Attend a concert and dance with friends.

Self-development activities

1. Develop healthy eating habits or exercise to improve health.

Spend time learning new skills.

3. read a book you really want to read

4. Try the new recipe you've always wanted to try.

5. Set aside time to tidy and clean the house.

6. Make time to pay attention to your thoughts, emotions and feelings.

Practice meditation

8. Read books, watch TV programs or movies, and learn to integrate into the role.

9. engage in gardening activities

10. Exercise or walk in the natural environment

1 1. Take a candlelight bubble bath.

12. Listen to wonderful music and dance alone.

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I feel that she doesn't have enough time or support to achieve the goal of doing a good job.

During the five days of the physiological period, all hormones are low.

In the next five days, estrogen is in a low but rising period, that is, working bonds.

During the next five days of ovulation, estrogen levels will double. At this time, she needs emotional ties most.

At the end of the cycle 12 ~ 14 days, what she needs most is social ties.

The best time to plan a romantic date or go out is within the first five days after the end of her physiological period, but the best time to go to an appointment is the second five days after the end of her physiological period.

9. Your time, our time and my time

The key is to balance "your time" (working relationship), "our time" (emotional relationship) and "my time" (social relationship and self-development).

I now give my wife four hugs almost every day: one when we get up, one when we go to work, one when we come home from work, and one before we go to bed.

How to make a man be dead set: antidiuretic hormone is a physiological hormone for men to establish emotional ties with their partners.

One reason why it is difficult for men to get out of the cave is that they don't know how much women need their new emotional support in their spiritual partnership.

The more a man feels that he can meet his partner's needs, the more he will be attracted to her.

10, women need to listen, men need to appreciate.

Man: When you are angry, when you are resting, and when you are thinking, your expression is the same.

When you are stressed: First, do some relaxing time to calm yourself down. You can talk to other people, coaches and consultants, pray or meditate or climb mountains, play golf and go out for a walk with your male friends. You can also keep a diary.

Envelope marked "like": whenever there is a request, they will write it down and put it in an envelope. First of all, they will point out the changes they want in the least language, and then express their demands as an uncontrollable preference in a friendly and loving way. Making a request in this way can ensure that the other party does not have to respond immediately. And to some extent, it also makes the feeling of command or control much less. When the two parties only share their preferences once a week, and they also contain full love suggestions, the effect will reach the maximum.

Example: I packed your clothes for three days in a row. When you pack your clothes, the bedroom will look neat. I know you don't always leave your clothes on the floor, and you have helped me a lot in other ways. I will be very happy if you can remember to pack your clothes. Thank you. I love you. "

For women, the listening and respect of the other party is what they are most grateful for; For men, the most grateful thing is that the other party gives a positive response to his words and deeds and gives a neutral response to his mistakes as much as possible. Especially when a woman ignores or downplays a man's fault, he will be more grateful. Only when your partner receives a lot of appreciative information will they be more likely to listen and respond to your request.

Appreciate:

There are three very simple sentences that can effectively improve men's testosterone level.

When a man speaks, as long as it is reasonable, try to respond to him: "reasonable."

When a man speaks, as long as it is a good idea, try to respond to him: "Good idea!" "

When a man speaks, as long as it is right, try to respond to him: "That's right!

There are three very simple sentences that can effectively stimulate women's estrogen levels.

When a woman is talking, try to look at her and say, "Go on."

When a woman is talking, try to look at her and say, "What else?"

When a woman is talking, try to look at her and say, "explain it to me."

Spend five more minutes every day listening to a woman talk about her troubles, and she will feel your concern, listening and appreciation.

1 1, male demand VS female demand

Women need more personal emotional care, and men need more personal emotional accomplishment.

Use small gestures or words to express personal emotional concern, just like the kind of love and support that he actively showed on a date.

The trust, acceptance and appreciation expressed by a woman from the heart is his staple food. Her appreciation will make him feel a sense of accomplishment, which is the most important thing for him to decompress. On the contrary, her respect, understanding and concern are his dessert after dinner.

The life goal of Mars is to create change, while the life goal of Venus is to be happy.

The meaning and goal of life is a dessert for women, but a staple food for men; Similarly, love and happiness in life are men's desserts.

If you want a man to pay more for you, give him more trust, acceptance and appreciation.

The encounter between Mars and Venus.

Male:

Let me give you a hug. "I love you very much"

As long as a woman praises a man's efforts and makes him feel good, she will relieve his pressure.

Women need men's care, understanding and respect to relieve stress, and men also need her trust, acceptance and appreciation to relieve their stress.

13, no complaints about sexual relations.

"Let's arrange more time to stay together. Will you tell me when you are free? "

"I haven't seen you in recent days and miss you."

"Hey, you ate all the cherries, save some for me next time."

Ask less and praise more, which is the secret of warming up feelings.

Generally speaking, he feels that the more successful this relationship is, the more willing he is to give.

Unsolicited suggestions, criticisms, complaints and comments are obviously not a sign of love.

Your commitment, character and noble love will make the world a better place.

Postscript:

Different expressions of higher-level love: 1. Equality and dependence.

2. deeper sympathy 3. Inner wisdom 4. Bold courage

5. Win-win concessions. Amazing creativity

7. Enduring patience. Rationality insists on 9. Sincere and modest 10. Arouse curiosity 1 1. Sincere thanks.

12. Innocence rooted in the heart