There are still differences between men and women. Since you are a man, you should dress like a man. You can't imitate women deliberately, otherwise it will easily lead to misunderstanding. There are some unexpected consequences in study, work and life.
Show understanding and respect, life is our own, appearance is innate, if this way will make him feel happier, what qualifications and positions do we have as an outsider to question other people's lives and preferences?
This is the way things are in the world: if you get used to it, you will definitely recognize it. If you accept it, you will get used to it. Do what you like best, there is no need to care what others say! It doesn't matter what others say, what matters is that you can't give up easily because others don't recognize your behavior! ! Sometimes, the road that no one dares to take is the road that you should take!
Seeing this problem is a bit tangled. I don't know if you have heard the song Rose Boy and know the story behind it. That's a boy 15 years old. He is handsome, gentle and considerate, but he is regarded as a monster of "girls like whatever they like" Therefore, he suffered a severe school bullying and eventually died on campus. The boy incident triggered local reflection on school bullying and multi-sex education in Taiwan Province Province, China, and Jolin Tsai also created the Rose Boy to commemorate him.
Back to this question, what do you think of such college students? I think people are born equal, there is nothing wrong with being beautiful, and there is nothing wrong with being yourself. Boys can have long hair and girls can cut their short hair neatly, just as Jolin Tsai sang in Rose Boy, "Don't let anyone change you; You are you or you are fine; Someone will love you wholeheartedly. " "Long hair fluttering, jade as jade" is just a word to describe appearance and personality, and should not be mixed with other meanings just because it is used in different objects. A person who only does himself and does no harm to others should not be criticized and rejected by the outside world.
But what really bothers me is, is this behavior really "being yourself"? Rose teenagers are a minority in real life, which is why they attract so much attention. Then, in the network era, is this difference to be yourself or to "earn traffic and gain eyeballs"? Just from a set of photos and a few paragraphs, you don't know. Don't judge without knowing the whole picture.
Some people also pay attention to "Normal University". I think, to be a teacher, to preach and teach, we can't just stay on the surface. The ideas to be conveyed should be: love, equality, freedom and tolerance. It is not bullying compatriots, nor is it unconventional or grandstanding.
I respect freedom and differences; However, it is not recognized that deliberately creating "differences" to impress the audience may even lead to teenagers who have not established a correct outlook on life and values blindly following suit.
People are born free, but they are everywhere in chains. The above is just my personal one-sided understanding. If there is anything wrong, please look at Han Hai.
It turned out to be true! There is nothing wrong with girls being beautiful! I'm ashamed! I have to say that this boy is really beautiful! I like this kind of boy who dares to be himself!
It is said that this society advocates equality between men and women, but is it really equal? !
Why do girls take makeup for granted, while boys take makeup for granted!
Why do boys and girls do housework is a matter of course, while boys feel earth-shaking when doing housework!
Why do girls with short hair say they are handsome! There are boys with long hair who say "Niang"!
I'm not trying to set boys and girls against each other! I just feel that many things should not be defined, and everything can exist reasonably.
Many people have been looking at something with a fixed eye! For example, many people think that people should get married; Or, think that women must have children!
Who made the rules?
Who made the rules?
Who made the rules?
It's probably a secular vision. ......
Any kind of diversity deserves to be respected, and we have no right to deprive others of their choice of life!
Don't speak ill of others! No one is perfect, and forgiving others is also forgiving yourself.
When a boy is still in college, we often say that a university is a place for universities. Can you criticize him just because his appearance doesn't conform to the public's cognition? Everyone's personality is different, so we should respect it. When we criticize this boy, we should reflect. Do we really respect differences?
If one day what I do doesn't conform to the public's cognition, do I deserve to be criticized?
This is the "feminization phenomenon", which is the inevitable result after the pressure of survival is reduced.
To put it mildly, it is the guidance of the media that has created the "feminization phenomenon".
At first, Japanese "Hua Meng" and Korean "exquisite boy" were welcomed by Ms. China. Later, they took a fancy to this and reached the extreme on the road of "exquisite boy".
So the men on the silver screen are all white, slim and delicate, and even women are not as good as themselves. Eyeshadow, eyeliner, eyebrow tattoo, ear studs and earrings all appear on men's faces, and even learn some charming actions of women.
Teenagers with strong imitations will naturally think that this is the trend and this is the fashion when they see these programs.
This is the root of "feminization".
I think everyone's personality and behavior are unique and should not be treated differently, nor should they be treated by gender. Do people who say that boys should have short hair think that women should have children and tutor them? What is not masculinity is a prejudice, and long hair is not a unique right for women. Men in China have long hair since ancient times. When a man is 20 years old, he will be crowned (tied in a bun) to represent adulthood. With the development of social science and technology, hair styles are diversified, and everyone has a love for beauty. Some people like neat short hair, while others like long hair. I think as long as it is not intentional, there is nothing to blame, such as "I want to eat peaches, which is so cool".