Actually, you are happy.

In the vast sea of ??people, you are not the most miserable one. At this time, you should be happy.

Think about it, you are not pitiful, you just don’t have the courage to cross that hurdle yet.

I am looking forward to a heavy rain

A slight drizzle,

It has been falling quietly for a long time,

Mixed with leaves ,

With waves of cool wind, it spreads on the earth.

A corner of the city,

Quiet and interesting,

People can hear their own heartbeats.

I hope that a heavy rain will come,

to break this quiet and breathless scene,

to make the heart as calm as water stir. Ripples of silk,

However, the wind did not come, nor did the rain!

At the end of the night,

The sound from the distance is like a bell and a canopy,

The people on the bed are shivering,

The inner roar is ,

A dry throat,

But I can’t open my mouth.

I look forward to a heavy rain,

to wash away the silence,

to allow the heart that has stopped long ago to beat freely;

I look forward to a heavy rain,

At the end of the night,

Dilute people’s thoughts,

Make the tossing and turning people happy Go to sleep!

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A rainbow appeared on the horizon,

I thought I saw hope,

There was no fatigue at night,

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There is only madness,

It seems that there is no obstacle anymore,

I have found the direction.

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It’s just that the sea has changed,

The rainbow after the breeze and drizzle is only a moment,

And the one I’m looking forward to Heavy rain, but no sign of it yet!

Personal signature after breakup: Sad because you are sorry, so I have nothing to do with you

You are the strongest wine in youth

You commented on it later It turned out to be a story that I couldn’t bear to delete

Leave this city and let the wind take me away.

There is always a song that will make you feel heartbroken after listening to it

You heard my laughter but didn’t see my cry

It’s hard for me to explain clearly what stopped me from looking back for you

You never belonged to me. Nothing to lose

Who do you love hiding from the world

At worst, I quit drinking and then quit you

I can forget all our stories

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Because you are sorry, I have nothing to do with you.

Don’t use my arrogance to cover up your hypocrisy

You look forward to two or three years and it’s summer again< /p>

Your smile is so bright that it hurts my eyes

Don’t forget your peace of mind even if you don’t let it go

The tears keep falling, are we really separated

You look like you don’t need me.

I am laughing and bursting into tears

You in my dream are the dawn that wakes me up

I still can’t let go and still miss her and still struggle

Is it fun to use other people’s feelings to stimulate your ex-girlfriend?

The last thing I want to admit is that I have never let go of you

I want to see how far you can go and how good she is

Powerful Talented people will show weakness, and fragile people will only show off.

Don’t let others move your heart just by moving their mouth

Memories come to haunt you from time to time, who made you choose the wrong embrace and support in the first place

True despair does not include jealousy and tears. But with a smile on my face

I calmly and cowardly wear a tolerant hat to forgive myself

Let the future come, let the past pass, and let you go

Nostalgia is an inarticulate longing

Do you still remember those words that were a little fanatical because of your youth and innocence?

If the rivers flow backwards and the mountains grow old, I will cut off these thoughts of lovesickness and go back

Long time no see, I wonder how ugly you have become

The Bible often says When I read the sentence that God loves the world, I feel sad that God does not love me

One day there will be a perfect person sitting next to you

Some pain cannot be healed by time.

I understand that comfort is just warm nonsense to you now

Look for an excuse, anyone can leave first, but I am reluctant to leave, but you will not stay

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It’s not that I have to do it with you, you’re just the one I remember the most

It’s wrong to put down your self-esteem and open your heart to anyone, otherwise they will start not cherishing it

I am not as fragile as you think, and I have not become haggard and thin after separation.

If I leave you, I won’t die, but I will miss you very much

I am used to being easily dependent and have expectations. I deserve the pain

The story is short. I said he came and left

You only know what I said, but do you know what I want to say

For love without an ending, I use plot to support it.

Now that you have passed through the wild wind, walk slower

It’s cheap, popular and not unique, so forget it

Time will fade a person’s memory , but it can't make people forget those memories

You said that no matter what I become, you will never leave me, so I took off the mask and saw you running away

Someone They say it hurts if they don’t know how to cherish the loss, but I think the loss after cherishing it hurts the most

Who said you would never let go of my hand, but now. . .

I haven’t had time to spend your first birthday with you, so you must be happy and meet someone who understands you better than me and loves you as your life.

Whenever I can’t control myself When I feel depressed, I think about how stupid and sad I was in the past.

. Are you okay? Let's not lie.

Do you dislike me for being lukewarm to you now? Then do you know that the way I look now is just like you before?

? ? . Even if you don’t look back, I will still be here.

Who am I lonely for?

The past was once blocked, and I often used busyness to dilute it. A feeling, a heart-wrenching separation. ------Inscription: The gorgeous fireworks will eventually dissipate, and the truly invested emotions will not last a lifetime as expected. When he opened it, tears flashed in his eyes, and he shed tears of sorrow. That year, when you and I were innocent, we loved each other with real emotions, and spent a good time holding hands to keep each other warm. Is it a fool of the world, or a shallow fate, the lingering warmth is still there after the person has left. Maybe they were young, maybe they were proud, they parted ways regardless of the reason. Maybe he is not deeply involved in the world, does not know how to deal with people gracefully, and his emotions like a spark of fire have fallen away. He has a stubborn temperament and is focused on his career in the face of disappointment. His years of hard work is attributed to his freedom from worries and ties. Calm down, do not allow yourself to look back, and always remind yourself not to be trapped by love. It is better to be a woman who is successful in her career than to live a life of inaction. Perhaps, there is no separation without knowing how to cherish; perhaps, only by transcending yourself can you make up for the emotional imperfections. If the warmth in the palm of your hand is not tightened, your fingers will be clasped together for life; if the pain in your heart is not hidden, it will not hurt. Who owes whom a love debt, after all, it is shrouded in mystery and there is no clue to solve it. The separation is the end of this life. I have looked back countless times, and I have wanted to sit across from each other and talk about the sorrow of separation, but I have found that except for the traces and names deep in my heart, I can no longer find them. Afraid of leisure, afraid of the darkness of night, your shadow erodes my inner world, flooding it. Looking through the past over and over again, looking for a way forward. The result is just like the fruitless ending of a happy encounter. Slowly getting tired, lock your heart and love, don’t fight against fate, don’t do unnecessary troubles, just be content with the status quo and be at ease! Looking up at the moonlight//text//QQ1 (classic and beautiful reading) 071603882

How do people become mature?

Text | Koiwai

I really like the concept of equivalent exchange in the anime "Fullmetal Alchemist".

I have always believed that everything in this universe is energy conservation, and everything has a price, but some are intangible and some are tangible. Some are recognized by the world, while others can only bear it alone.

And for a single person, there is such a saying.

If you want to get something you have never got, it also means that you have to lose something you have never lost in exchange.

For example, after Peter Parker suffered a spider bite and mutated, he could only be considered a Spider-Man. The reason why he became Spider-Man, instead of using super powers for his own benefit, was precisely because of the introspection and maturity caused by the accident in which he spared the criminal but caused the death of his uncle.

When people become mature, some answers are always politically correct. For example, read more books, think more, contact more excellent people, and then think and persist. This is always true, but the question is, why are there so few people who can actually do this? Of course, there are personality and environmental factors involved, but there are still many people who are aware of it but still can’t do it. Why? ——Because many people lack the motivation to do these things.

When you tell a fat man that you want to lose weight, he also knows that he needs to lose weight, but knowing that he wants to lose weight and wanting to do it from the bottom of his heart are as far apart as the Pacific Ocean.

On the contrary, if a beautiful woman says to a fat man, if you succeed in losing weight, I will be with you. This source of motivation will make his blood boil immediately.

So we are the same, we have heard so many truths, don’t we know what is right and wrong?

But even though I know some things are right, I don’t know if I need to do them, because many right things don’t make people happy. Even more frightening is that we are afraid that even if we do it, there may be no results.

“Now that I’m at a crossroads in life, I know which way is right. Without exception, I know it, but I never take it. Why? Because it’s too damn hard. "——"Smell the Smell and Know a Woman"

If you have insufficient gastric motility, you can look for morphine. If you lack the motivation to change yourself, how can you find it?

I still like to share some stories, because there are so many things worth thinking about in real experiences, which are far better than drawing direct conclusions.

1.

A classmate in primary school was originally a playboy who lived a comfortable and prosperous life, but had a bad personality and liked to fight. During the summer vacation of his fifth grade year, his father died unexpectedly. It was said that he owed a huge gambling debt, and he couldn't get over it for a while. Later, the house was sold to pay off the debt. From then on, the family fell into decline, and the whole person began to become taciturn and study seriously.

His transformation was sudden, almost overnight, as if he had changed into a different person. It is not difficult to imagine how he suffered in his heart every night after that.

Many years later, he has become a very good and gentle person. He told me that after losing his father, he began to realize that he was nothing without his father. Looking at the weak and crying woman Mother, he thought, there is still a mother who needs to be protected by him, so he must grow up quickly to become strong, reliable, and reassure his mother.

In this kind of example, it is easy to go to extremes, because an incorrect thought may lead to a wrong path. So the story is just a story and cannot be used as a guideline. I tell this story to express an idea.

When a person realizes from every pore that he cannot rely on anyone else and cannot always place his hope on the outside world. Only by making himself strong can he protect himself and his loved ones, he begins to quickly Grow up.

2.

One of my mentors told me about his younger brother. The mentor was from rural Qinghai. When I was young, my family was poor. When I was in junior high school, my younger brother didn't like studying and had a bad temper. He always wanted to go out to work and always had conflicts with his family. One summer vacation, he ran away from home after a big quarrel with his family.

The family searched for it for three or four days, but they were all desperate. At this time, he went home.

A man with empty hands and a pale face covered in dust. He hid in his room and slept without saying a word.

Afterwards, I went to talk to my mentor and found out that he had been tricked into digging coal mines, but was abandoned halfway and all his luggage was taken away.

And that place was a desert area without any human habitation. He walked home alone based on his feelings, sleeping in the open air and hungry. At night, he was still worried about the presence of wild beasts and dying of exhaustion in the wilderness.

Waking up in the middle of the night and staring at the stars in the sky, he felt extremely calm in his heart. All the previous anger suddenly disappeared. He began to think about his own value, the meaning of his family, what the future is, and life. How to spend it, etc. Although he couldn't explain why, he began to learn to reflect and think on his own.

Later on, my mentor’s younger brother underwent earth-shaking changes. He began to calm down and read books seriously, learn about the outside world, and ask my mentor many of his thoughts on life. I really fell in love with reading and thinking.

Many years later, he became a high school physics teacher. This was something he had never expected.

If it hadn’t been for that accident and that truly quiet night, maybe he would have really wandered around and become a working prodigal.

Life will make some unintentional jokes, give you a turn, stumble, and then give you a different perspective.

Some people are lucky enough to discover it, and some people ignore it all their lives. Then remember the past and hate the present. Blame everything on fate.

I’m not sure if it’s true what Socrates said: An unexamined life is not worth living.

A person who doesn’t know how to look carefully, who lives a life of confusion and drifts with the crowd, may seem busy and hardworking, but he may never have matured.

3.

After careful consideration, I decided to post my own experience. It is when I look back on my past self that I feel deeply moved by the changes in life. Then I couldn't help but say a few words, which can be regarded as self-reflection again.

Many years ago, I once liked a girl very much, and I was completely obsessed with her. But she was a smart and quiet girl, but she thought I was too naive and impetuous, so she never accepted me. I thought that by reading more obscure books, talking more about advanced topics, and understanding more history and philosophy, girls would think I was mature and talented. You don’t know if you are familiar with it, but you are the most naive when you think like this.

Because my motivation for reading is just to make girls think I am mature and meaningful, I still resist reading itself and just swallow it without asking for a deeper understanding. I felt dizzy after reading it and couldn’t remember anything after reading it. I could only excerpt more wonderful words and sentences, go to Douban to read other people’s summaries and book reviews, and pretend to have studied it. (But at least with this motivation, I started to read a lot of books.)

In a chat, in order to appear knowledgeable in front of girls. I pretended to be very knowledgeable and talked about some scientific and technological knowledge from the perspective of Guoke.com. Unexpectedly, there was a doctor of science at the scene. He refuted me in an understatement and made me want to disappear from the world in minutes.

Later on, I didn’t want to read any more. I thought that my conditions were not bad. She liked it or not, so why should I do as she asked?

So I started to play outside, feasting and feasting, and became more and more impetuous.

If this continues, I will only become an increasingly annoying person, frivolous, glib, smug, and empty-headed.

What if, there was no such accident.

Late at night when my hormones were raging, I saw a girl I liked on Weibo saying that she was very hungry and wanted to eat midnight snacks. So I replied below and I will drive you there.

Go out excitedly and gallop all the way. So that night there was an unforgettable car accident.

I don’t want to describe the specific process of that car accident, but the impact of this accident on me was really huge. The meaning of life and death, the value of life, the attitude towards life, etc., in every sense, let me My life took a turn.

For the next month, I almost locked myself in my room. Except for eating and going to the bathroom, I no longer wanted to touch anything or see anyone.

From the beginning, when I was asleep and in a daze, I began to slowly recall my attitude and behavior in recent years, and I felt ashamed.

It’s very strange. I suddenly wonder how I can live the way I did before. I began to dig out many books that I had bought before and never read them, and found that I could calm down and read them one by one. Some of them brought tears to my eyes and made me fall to the ground.

Among the books that have had the greatest impact on me are "The Sixth Patriarch's Altar Sutra", "The Fanatic", Alain de Botton's "Notes on Love", "Falling in Love with Romance", "Crime and Punishment", and another book I The only book by Baby Anne that I have read many times - "Lotus". Although I wasn’t interested in the other Baby Annie books, many sentences in Lotus really hit me in the face like a slap in the face, making me think deeply and alertly.

These books made me completely fascinated by the world of words and thinking, and I began to truly develop the habit of reading, thinking and writing alone.

I later began to adjust myself, simplify my life and interpersonal relationships, clarify my life direction and pursuit, and live a fulfilling and simple life.

Two full years have passed, and all my friends, including my parents, have seen the changes in me. I have changed from a surly and willful brat to the comfortable me I am now. I am gentle, calm, and down-to-earth doing what I like and what I am good at. I also continue to learn new technologies, meet many interesting people, and listen to many people. Special experiences and stories. It also makes me see the world becoming softer and softer.

Of course this accident was not what I expected, but I am still grateful that it happened. If it hadn’t been for that car accident, I can’t imagine what kind of person I would be now.

After telling the story, I want to say that when we are young, we always want to mature quickly and be independent. But haste makes waste in many things. Without personally experiencing the nihility and absurdity of this world, the changes and impermanence of life, and the complexity and delicacy of emotions, it is really difficult to mature at once. Some are just disguised sophistication.

You have to be emotionally mature. If you don’t get hurt once or twice, or feel heartbroken for a while, you won’t be able to mature naturally and be a natural expert.

I only realize that I have to do this in detail. The ancestors have already said it very concisely.

I once wrote a paragraph: No one is born sensible, but he has seen too many disgusting people.

When we were young, we had too many beautiful imaginations about the world. Only by personally participating in many games and rules of society and reality can you experience the complexity and simplicity, fun and helplessness of this world.

The Bible says: "Enter the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and many are who go in there. But narrow is the gate and broad is the way that leads to eternal life. It is small, and there are few people looking for it.

In fact, no matter how many suggestions you have, the key is whether you can take the first step.

I have met many people. , I am dissatisfied with the status quo and want to change, but the next sentence is always self-justification, such as who made me poor, I am fat, I don’t have a good father, I don’t study enough, I can’t exercise, I have no special skills, and the people I like will not like it. Me. Even if my efforts are not as good as those who are born winners, or the most disgusting thing is - I obviously want to change, but I have to say without conscience that I think my ordinary life is good now, good sister, you have lived an extraordinary life.

If a person insists on self-justification, I can only write two big words on all the misfortunes in his future life: Desire itself is not a bad thing. If you want to make money, It is human nature to want to be friends with beautiful and excellent people, and to want a wonderful and interesting life.

The bad thing is that you dare not face your own desires and do not want to believe in people's plasticity, time and time again. Suppress your desire for change.

If you want to change, just face your feelings and say out loud, "I want to change!" "This is not shameful!

Pascal asked: What is a person in infinity?

How does a person define himself, change himself, and discover himself? This is the biggest challenge in everyone's life.

I like Pascal’s answer: Man is just a reed, the most fragile in nature, but he is a thinking reed.

Jun *** Mian, there is an English proverb for each other -

"The best time to plant a tree was 10 years ago. The second best time is now."

(The best time to plant a tree was ten years ago, followed by now.)

I particularly believe that the most important thing in every life is to constantly renew itself.

***Building a Green Dream

The wind swept the sand and dust around people crazily, and the streets and alleys echoed with roars. Some people began to feel uneasy, as if a strange circle was tracing the air. Back in the midnight era, with their scarlet mouths wide open, people seemed to be sneaking into the depths of the desert, with their sunken eyes still sinking in temptation, adventure, fatigue, and discomfort, merging excitement, enjoyment, catharsis, and desire. In one body.

I don’t know when the green began to count as boring grains of sand. The light of the forest and the grass, the joy of the butterflies and the birds were gone forever. The gentleness, softness and lingering of the river; the tears of the waves, the tranquility, beauty and intoxication of the lake. Together with the absurd promises and false praises, they are no match for the green mountains of the past. The water, the singing of birds and the fragrance of flowers only condensed into a dream. In the vast desert sea, mirages appeared.

In the shy shadows of green mountains and green waters, the fragrance of locks of hair once attracted one. The moon has seen these dewdrops on thousands of blades of grass, and the stars have seen them, but we can no longer bear them. What we can only bear now are the gifts of some remaining tomb pages - dust.

In the mysterious ancient temple, the bells penetrate the sand and ring the soul deep in life. The bells are fighting against the sand or accepting the ridicule brought by the sand - obsolescence, aging and death. . These are the conspiracies of sand and time, and their frame-up has no reservation.

When people realize the sand, the days are already occupied by the ubiquitous sand falling on people’s youth. People's voices, their young skin, their age and their desires. Many people have nowhere to escape, being chased and killed by the sand and dust.

There are leaves growing on the reinforced concrete skeletons, and there are no birds singing. . Why is there no trace of blue above the city?

The empty mountains are speechless, and the birds are extinct. The birds’ home has been destroyed, and the paradise has been destroyed. After the ruins of the mountains, the birds may still find a new place. His home, a small tree, could not find his life.

Human civilization begins when humans learn to chop down the first tree; civilization ends when humans chop down the last tree.

The bloody massacre has passed, it’s time for us to meditate! Those floods, mudslides, and sandstorms are warnings to mankind!

Modern people are eager to return. In the final analysis, it is the pursuit of green mountains and clear waters!

Holy singing has come from the sky.

People, in the desolation you have been looking at for thousands of years, have you heard the trembling from the depths of your soul?

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There is no shortcut to success, it requires being down-to-earth

The road to turning dreams into reality is a process in which a person works hard and strives step by step. Dreams are of course indispensable, but pragmatism is even more important. There is no shortcut to success, it requires being down-to-earth.

When talking about the "secret of success", the famous writer Er Erhe said: "I have no talent, but I am pretty lucky. Writing novels is basically a laborious job. If you don't believe me, try it and write ten novels a day." It takes a few hours and twenty years to write, but I have to come up with something no matter what." Lin Qingxuan, a writer who has been at the top of the best-selling list almost every year in recent years, said about his writing: "I am the son of a farmer, and my family has been farming for generations. I have an experience in the farmhouse: I can only harvest once a year, but I have to work in the fields every day. The same is true for the spirit of a writer. This is also the norm I have set for myself." In the past 20 years, He kept writing without stopping. In fact, not just writers, but every industry engaged in it should learn the spirit of a farmer and work hard every day. When the time comes, you will always see a harvest.

There are not many people in this world who are truly talented. Talent is a scarce resource, while luck can be encountered but cannot be sought. Only strength is inexhaustible. If you want to achieve results at work and move up a level, hard work is the key. This is applicable to any job. Hard work is the basic fulcrum for us to do a good job and advance our work. The spirit of hard work can enable a young person to realize his wishes and stand out from the crowd.

Valentino studied clothing design and production skills in the "Fashion Capital of the World". After completing his studies, he returned to his native Italy and opened a fashion store in Rome. Unexpectedly, a year later, his business was still so deserted that he could not even afford to live in the cheapest apartment.

This failure made Valentino realize that he must improve his skills down-to-earth and do business down-to-earth. From then on, he worked hard to practice his skills and took advantage of every opportunity to learn from others. Whether it is a costume master or a street artist, as long as the other party has a skill, he must learn it. Even the gesture of a famous teacher tying a bow, he saw it in his eyes, remembered it in his heart, and studied it carefully. The hard work paid off. Eight years later, his skills have matured day by day, and his popularity has naturally continued to increase. All the female nobles in Rome were happy to ask him to design fashionable clothes. Later, dignitaries, celebrities and superstars all over the world were proud to wear the fashions he designed. He is recognized as the "King of High Fashion".

In fact, every bit of progress will not fall from the sky, and success at every stage cannot be achieved by luck. The road to turning dreams into reality requires one to be diligent and step by step. The process of breaking out. Dreams are of course indispensable, but the pragmatic spirit cannot be lost. If dreams are the ladder to success and the door to success, then a pragmatic attitude and pragmatic actions are the footprints left behind every step.

Emerson warned us: "When a person is young, who has not imagined? Who has not fantasized? Fantasy is a sign of youth. But, my young friends, please remember that people will always You have to grow up. The world is so vast and the world is so beautiful. What awaits you is not only a pair of fantasy wings, but also a pair of down-to-earth feet! ”

No one can rely only on heaven! Score successfully. Only hard work is the source of wealth that will never dry up. Success only favors those who work hard. It is impossible for lazy people to achieve great things, because lazy people always covet comfort and are frightened when encountering the slightest risk. They lack the spirit of hard work and are always waiting for pie to fall from the sky. Laziness will devour the human soul and destroy the human body. Bill Gates said: "Laziness and indolence are the root of all evil." Because they are unwilling to pay, they cannot become a winner in social life, but can only be a loser.

Diligence is first of all a positive attitude towards life; secondly, it is also the only way for each of us to become successful. If you want to succeed in your career, you must have a diligent work attitude. Three minutes of enthusiasm cannot inspire us. The birth of success requires persistent efforts. As the philosopher Poincaré said: "Unexpected inspiration can only occur after some days and through conscious efforts. Without effort, the machine will not start and nothing will be produced."

Pan Xiaoting, a professional billiards player hailed by the media as the "Nine-ball Queen", won the first Asian "Ball King Cup" men's and women's 9-ball mixed tournament in 2002, the 35th World Women's 9-ball Open in Osaka, Japan, etc. Awards. Pan Xiaoting can achieve today's results because of her dedication which is unmatched by ordinary people.

Pan Xiaoting started practicing in her father’s gym at the age of 15, and she practiced for 4 years. During those four years, her father gave her strict rules to practice football for 8 to 12 hours a day, without weekends, and she could only rest for half a day a week. Even if he is sick and gets an intravenous drip in the hospital in the morning, he still has to make up for the day's practice time when he returns to the gym in the afternoon.

When she started playing golf clubs at the age of 15, her father told her that if she wanted to be the best, she had to pay more and sacrifice more than others.

His father, who had been a football player and basketball referee, hoped that Pan Xiaoting would be like him, either not to do things or to be at the top of the pyramid. In order to achieve such a goal, if others practice basketball for three hours, Pan Xiaoting must practice for several more hours, so that she can catch up with others.

Pan Xiaoting said: "If you can't bear this hardship, if you can't bear this crime, give up as soon as possible and find another way out; however, once you choose this path, enduring hardship becomes the most basic thing if you want to succeed. Be prepared. It depends on whether a person has tolerance for suffering. People with strong tolerance will taste the joy of success sooner or later."

In fact, success is not that difficult. Choose a goal that suits you and work on it, and one day you will succeed. Many years later, when you look back on the path you have taken, you will definitely find that you also have that perseverance spirit. With perseverance, no matter what the outcome is, you will succeed.

If you have great talent, diligence will enhance it; if you only have ordinary talent, diligence can make up for it. As much as you want to gain, you have to pay as much. There is no free lunch in the world, only hard work will get you everything you want. Diligence is the most solid foundation for people to succeed and the guarantee for people's career success. Real success is a process, which is integrating diligence and hard work into daily life and into daily work. There is no shortcut to success, it requires being down-to-earth.