After psychological trauma, you should actively divert your attention and try to do what you should do. You can use the following methods to make adjustments: First, you must learn to talk, especially when the psychological trauma is particularly severe, you must You must learn to communicate well with your parents, classmates, and friends, and seek their encouragement, tolerance, and support, so that you can gain a greater sense of security and support. Support and encouragement from family and friends are always helpful. It is one of the greatest sources of happiness, and it can also urge us to become better and become more energetic and motivated. Second, you must do things that you can and like to do, such as going out for shopping, eating delicious food, watching movies, watching funny videos, etc. These methods can effectively divert yourself from the problem of psychological trauma and allow yourself to Pay attention to colorful activities. Only by focusing your energy on more valuable things can you achieve a fulfilling life and become happy and happy. Third, you should also live a regular life and do appropriate exercises, especially yoga, playing badminton, swimming, running, etc. These aerobic exercises can very well alleviate the problem of psychological trauma, especially alleviating negative effects such as depression, pain, and anxiety. Emotions affect us, but you must choose the exercise that suits you and insist on doing it regularly. All the above methods are acceptable. Hello, if possible, we recommend short-term psychological counseling and counseling.
To briefly talk about your problem, poor growth and lack of hobbies are the key problems, which lead to autistic and distrustful of anyone. Usually, such causal problems are normal, and you don’t need to panic.
When we step into society, you will actually find that some people in life are indeed worthy of our interaction and trust. I think you also know in your heart that you are willing to associate with them and become friends.
When you fully understand the bottom of your heart and you need to take this step and take the initiative to interact with them, you will find that your ability in this area is relatively weak and you cannot face them well. Yes, it is best if others take the initiative to come to you. Even if others take the initiative, you will still ruin the relationship.
In the last question, we saw psychological conflicts in relationships. In fact, you know the reasons for such conflicts, so why do you have such problems and conflicts?
Of course we have to go back to the key issues, the unhappiness and lack of love in childhood. As long as these problems are solved, the rest can be solved easily, but we know that when we were young, we can no longer go back, so in your The trauma in the heart may be permanent and dark and difficult to recover from.
Generally when encountering such a client, the client is usually asked to tell the story of his childhood, his dissatisfaction, and all the unsatisfactory things in his heart. After the analysis and guidance of the psychological counselor, he can get out of such darkness. subconscious.
If you want to find a solution on your own, I will introduce some methods that you can try:
1. Keep a diary by yourself, and write down all the things that made you unhappy and unhappy in the past. It's not for recording or analysis, it's just for a kind of catharsis. When you clear your bad subconscious mind, you will find that you are extremely relaxed, so as to achieve the purpose of self-repair.
2. Find a good friend to chat with and throw the unfortunate things to him. In fact, it has the same effect as finding a counselor. You just have to guide yourself and do your best to discard those dark things. Memories, the effect is similar to the previous one.
3. Positive and strong self-intention. As mentioned before, in today’s society, there are friends you are willing to make friends with. You actually trust them, but the problem is that you are not confident enough. When you encounter problems and setbacks, you will be defeated. Strong psychological suggestions can often double your confidence, thereby resisting some negative aspects. The method is also very simple. Tap into the sunny side of your heart, enlighten yourself all the time, before going to bed, after getting up, You can do it while riding in the car, at work, or while studying. You have to tell yourself what you can do, you can do it, you are confident and capable, and I can continue even if I fail, including telling myself, I should Trust others, they are indeed worthy of my trust. They have nothing to do with my previous misfortunes. I can make peace with them, build confidence in myself and strengthen my positive subconscious mind. This method may be difficult without professional guidance, but it can indeed train your psychological quality, and it is very powerful. Needless to say, it can repair your own psychological problems and can be used throughout your life.
Finally, when we usually deal with people who lack love, we will give double encouragement and praise. The treatment of autism is not ok in a day or two. If there is no one around to help, you must take it step by step. , make progress little by little. Every time you make progress or increase your confidence, or you successfully talk to others and become friends, you need to encourage or reward yourself. For this progress, you can even invite friends to go out and have dinner together. Chat, do or buy some things and things that you like and enjoy to reward yourself, then we will enter a virtuous cycle and increase your confidence-->successful progress-->get results and get rewards--> Give yourself more confidence.
Only in this way can you slowly step out of your own world. There is a saying that confident people are the most beautiful. Moreover, consciousness can be controlled. You don’t have to be afraid of your own dark side. Go out boldly, with confidence and courage! !
I hope it is useful to you and wish you good luck. This seems to be related to improving one's overall quality. We should start from the perspective of how to deeply understand ourselves and the world and transform ourselves into a harmonious world.
First of all, you should read the corresponding books, learn the relevant life science content, and look at the connection between brain development and individual life evolution. There are many related books. I think the most suitable books for ordinary people to buy without any disadvantages should be "The Miracle of Mindfulness" and "Transformation and Healing of Life" by Master Thich Nhat Hanh. If you want to strengthen your confidence, you can read "Zen Diary" by Jin Manci. It can make you realize that these are not fantasy in a very real way. Realize that these things come so naturally.
Second, based on reading, you can sort out your own understanding of your own world. A few principles in thought: how you want your life to be, you will have it, but you need to be patient and tenacious to do it bit by bit; only by being responsible for yourself and loving yourself can you love the world, don’t be shy about talking about yourself; love yourself , Love the world, but don’t coddle and indulge; everyone has their own destiny and rights. We can only help but cannot arrange it, and we have no right to interfere and blame; sow the sun and reap warmth and light.
The third way to do it is to have the above basic ideas and concepts. You can scientifically plan your life, set long-term and short-term goals in life, and achieve them bit by bit. Because the goals are small, you can overcome inertia and be true. To achieve, if we gather together and slowly accumulate, no matter how great the goal is, we will achieve it. In daily life, you should do everything well and enjoy everything with concentration and meticulousness, and keep it in mind, that is, your heart is on your mouth when you eat, and your heart is on your legs when you walk. Whenever possible, you should sum up your life in a timely manner and don’t owe debts.
Fourth, take some time every day to stay quietly with yourself. You don’t want to stop doing it, but just appreciate the feelings. This can accumulate strength and clarify your mind. Ask yourself questions quietly for half an hour every day and answer them seriously, and you will slowly understand many problems and your own heart. Dedicate time every day to give yourself a thousand smiles to make your body and mind soft and pure.