In his sermons, Tuo put forward clear requirements on how to treat each other in family life, between husband and wife, between parents and children, and some classics also talked about the problem of pregnancy and children after marriage. The most representative classic is The Good Life.

Buddhist scriptures, in which the Buddha taught how to serve parents and deal with six kinds of relationships with wives, teachers, relatives, servants and monks; The Jade Maiden Sutra clarifies the way of harmony between husband and wife. Long Ahan XVI

"Jing" clearly says: it is the obligation of parents to find a good marriage for their children; The China-Arab 135 Sutra also clearly points out: "A husband should provide his wife with five things, love and respect." "A wife should respect her husband with thirteen things." He said, "If a man is kind to his wife,

Who? There is no attenuation if there is gain. "

The first section, the way of harmony between husband and wife

The way of husband and wife is the foundation of human relations. Correctly handling the relationship between husband and wife is of great significance to promoting family stability and social harmony.

As early as more than two thousand years ago, the Buddha attached great importance to the way of husband and wife and put forward many enlightening exhortations. The Buddha pointed out in the Jade Girl Sutra: "Love is intimate, hearts are different, respect is cautious, arrogance is not slow, doing good at home and abroad, being well-off at home, and hospitality is the way of husband and wife." This passage can be regarded as an outline of the road of husband and wife.

First, talk about marriage in love.

As the saying goes, "Ten years by boat, a hundred years by pillow".

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Women will become husband and wife, in addition to love, but also need fate. Otherwise, searching all over the world, how can you meet him in the end? Is marriage destined to be in the dark? This matter is not only confusing for ordinary people, but also for those who study Buddhism.

Why some people are happy after marriage, some quarrel for three days, and some quarrel for five days. The so-called "not friends don't get together"; Some broke up in three or five years, while others can hold the same belief and have a smooth sailing.

What is the reason and strength that determines whether we have love or not, or even get married and start a family?

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From the Buddhist point of view, love is essentially a combination of "wish" and "karma" in previous lives, one man and one woman. The so-called "wish" is an active force, which comes from the inner "wish"; The so-called "karma"

It is a passive and involuntary force, but it is also from the heart, just "unwilling." For example, many forced marriages are of this type. And these two forces will promote the occurrence of love. Of course, from a global perspective, there will be various reasons.

By: such as tenderness and consideration, beauty and generosity, understanding, well-off and so on.

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A happy marriage comes from a good karma that has been formed in the past (whether in past lives or in this life), so we have a good impression on each other at the first sight; Whether it is kindness, love, affection or friendship, there are beautiful things left in each other's consciousness or subconscious.

Memory. From this perspective, both husband and wife should be kind to each other, pay for each other, care about each other and leave a good impression. No matter in this life or in the afterlife, at least when we get along or meet again, the other party can repay the kindness and treat each other with kindness.

A good attitude is also a "good cycle".

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This is what we often say about love at first sight. Today, if you don't meet him, you can't get married. This is karma, your karma. Therefore, people in China talk about two factors of the combination of husband and wife. One is karma.

One is revenge. Loving couples are grateful and will not get married in the next life; If the kindness is not exhausted or deeper, we will still get married in the next life, not just like it.

People hate people because all our words and deeds and even our thoughts are giving strength to the future manufacturing industry.

Today, when we understand the power of karma, we know that the contradiction between husband and wife is half karma and half trouble. as soon as...

Because you hold a grudge against him, he deliberately asked you to marry him and let you love him deeply; Make you miserable. If this happens between husband and wife, don't blame each other. From a professional point of view, you have got your revenge today, you know.

Because you have wronged others before, you should accept them warmly, and in turn thank him for cherishing him and stop making enemies. If you do the right thing with him today, he will do the right thing with you, and the hatred is deeper. He pissed you off and you accepted.

Accept it, I will treat you well, and make amends with kindness. Only in this way can I get rid of hatred, otherwise I can't get rid of it, and I will make enemies in my next life. Why bother? So today we need to understand the phenomenon of life.

Indeed, if you plant evil causes in the past, you will bear the consequences today. Without a correct view of karma, you will complain and you will not be able to get rid of the consequences.

● From the perspective of Buddhism, we should purify our hearts from the standpoint of mind, so as to relieve the bondage of troubles and transcend our feelings for all beings; From the standpoint of karma, we should treat hatred with gratitude and eliminate karma. This is the smartest way to deal with emotional problems.

Q: Is there an "everlasting" love marriage in the real world?

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It does exist, but it is rare. Love and marriage are mainly determined by the habits and karma of previous lives, and most of them are established karma. If you have a happy marriage and family in this life, it is mainly the feeling of doing good in the last life, but it is not necessarily the next life.

They can still be married. If they want to continue their marriage, they must do good deeds, have basically the same thoughts, beliefs and behaviors, and swear to be husband and wife in the afterlife. If husband and wife can really become soul mates, then there will be.

Maybe husband and wife in the afterlife.

For example, in Biography of Mr. Ajiaman, Mr. Ajiaman and the villagers had a question and answer session on "Love in Past Lives".

"Q: What should a couple do if they want to get together in the afterlife and never part?"

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Ajiaman: "Hope can only be a guide or a road. In order to realize it, it must be supported by action or industry. For example, everyone wants to be a millionaire, but how many people can achieve this goal? big

Most people have this hope, but they can't practice their karma. They are still poor. The same is true of love between husband and wife. If they want to be happy together in the future, they should never be apart.

Children must have the same knowledge and behavior patterns, and be satisfied with each other, and do not commit adultery, which destroys the peace of mind of their spouses and leads to loss of confidence.

If both husband and wife have the same desire, can practice the karma mentioned above, and always maintain the same loyalty and trust, then their hopes will certainly come true, because there are karma there. If they only have such a wish, but their behaviors are different, such a wish, no matter how eager, cannot be realized. "

Marriage can shape a hell on earth or a paradise on earth.

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Generally speaking, the most important thing in life is to choose a spouse. He (she) is not only regarded as living together, but also as breathing together and sharing similar bitter and happy experiences. Anything that affects a person, no

Whether it is good or evil, it will definitely affect another person. People who have a good spouse are happy. The spouse will stop the other person from going astray and then guide him or her to the right path. If two people are honest and kind, they are willing to work hard for their development

Work hard, then their house will become the residence of angels on earth. There is no quarrel, and there is no picky, because both of them are equally self-disciplined, and their thoughts and actions are guided by Buddhism. Such a partner who is married.

Husband and wife can be said to help build a hell or paradise on earth, and share each other's sadness or happiness, depending on whether they are willing to do evil or do good, which is related to this life and future generations.

Second, how to be a good husband

In the Buddha's time, the status of the husband was extremely lofty. A wife calls her husband the main son, while a wife is called an accessory or a nurturer. It's just a matter of having children. Men can have more concubines, so women often intrigue and hate each other, which often leads to family misfortune. In view of this, the Buddha disapproved of polygamy and advocated that men should be loyal to their wives in order to make family life complete.

How does a husband treat his wife? Buddha pointed out: As a husband, you should "love and respect" your wife with five things, namely, love, no contempt, providing clothes and cosmetics, entrusting housework, "love your wife and kiss her" (be kind to your wife's relatives).

For example, the Buddha said in the Book of Good Life: "A husband is good at living and respects his wife. Why Yunwu?

A man who treats people with courtesy,

Both are magnificent,

The three of them have food and clothing at any time.

These four are solemn and timely,

These five people were entrusted to this family.

Being a good person, a husband respects his wife with these five things. "The five principles of waiting for a wife include the following:

(1) Treat each other with courtesy

Men and women have equal status, and husband and wife should respect each other. Regardless of income level, family background disparity or even intelligence difference, they are all equal in personality. A husband must not discriminate against or despise his wife.

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Couples who get married by falling in love often think that their birthright has been determined and the relationship after marriage has been guaranteed; So in the past, the concept of restraining oneself and winning the favor of the other party changed. Follow everything you say and do.

I don't think it is necessary to be polite between husband and wife, and I don't correct my shortcomings. It's that I make a big example and show it at any time. I also think there is no need for husband and wife to hide their weaknesses, but I don't know what they need most.

This is courtesy and respect. Other couples always want to control each other to accommodate themselves. Gradually exposed all the shortcomings without scruple, and as a result, I was bored for a long time and only felt the abomination of the other party. Just like the Buddha in the Promise.

Shou Jing said, "I hate my wife", and Yu Ye said, "I am not happy when I see my husband". They hated each other, so their relationship broke up.

In order to prevent the boredom between husband and wife, the husband should do the following:

A husband should learn to always care for and be considerate of his wife. For example, when she is resting or sick, you should take care of her carefully.

Husbands should learn to thank their wives often. When she does small things for you, such as mending clothes and socks, you should say "thank you" instead of taking it as her duty. On the surface, although she thinks your words are unnecessary, she is very happy inside.

A wife likes her husband to praise her in front of others. This kind of praise made her not only happy, but also grateful. A wife hates criticizing her shortcomings in front of others and humiliating herself. When a husband needs to correct her, he should avoid being heard by parents, children or others.

If your wife has any opinions, listen to them with an open mind, then discuss them with her in detail and respect each other's opinions; If the other party makes a mistake and wants to correct it, don't be rude; Hua Yan Jing said: "It is often used as gentle language, soft language, pleasant language for listeners, kind language for people's hearts, and Athenian elegant language." Don't make "poisonous words, malicious words and bitter words that make him hate, such as burning his heart."

(2) Solemn but not profane

Power is solemn but not impetuous, strict is dignified and self-loving, and it can't be taken lightly without blasphemy. Treat your wife's behavior with dignity and courtesy, and your speech behavior should not be frivolous and indulgent.

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Outside, be temperate in sexual life, otherwise it will hurt both sides; Even lead to lifelong illness. Because of excessive sexual desire, it will lead to listlessness and neurasthenia, which will have adverse effects on both body and mind, and will also cause anger and trouble.

Manic, melancholy and morbid, marital relationship, will go downhill. In order to keep healthy, we should live moderately according to everyone's age and physical strength. This can avoid the harm of deliberate indulgence and improve the family.

The pleasure of court indulgence is the most terrible and should be strictly guarded against. Buddha said: "Don't commit adultery with yourself, be content with your wife, so your wife loves herself and doesn't invade others." .

(3) Food and clothes are always available.

A woman is usually very happy when her husband gives her something she loves. The so-called beloved thing doesn't have to be expensive. As long as you buy it for her, she will feel infinite happiness in her heart. For example, if you buy clothes and food for her when she wants it in her heart but hasn't said it yet, she will naturally be overjoyed and think that you are a caring person.

(4) Solemn and timely

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"Being solemn in time" means buying clothes for your wife to decorate, so that she can dress neatly and suit the times. Because the love of beauty is what any wife has. However, a husband should not make her dress up too luxuriously and dazzled.

Unique, a pure luxury, blindly pursuing the "new trend" will lose its solemn real meaning. Clothing is not only the appearance of the body, but also the taste of cultivation. When choosing clothing decoration, we should take these two points into account.

(5) Entrusted family

The husband only needs to be responsible for the general affairs of the family, rather than personally supervising and managing trivial matters. The husband's meticulous intervention and criticism of housework often makes his wife feel unhappy and boring. Therefore, even if his wife does not handle affairs properly, he should "make peace", understand tolerance and let his wife be the master.

You know, if there is no wife to do housework, then the husband will have worries.

Third, how to be a good wife

The Buddha taught many commandments about how to be a wife. Buddha said that a woman should "be devoted to her husband and not commit adultery"; "Don't despise your husband"; "Husband travels far, cleans up at home, and has no second thoughts"; "Be willing to be bitter and happy, have no second thoughts, want to be a nun and choose food and clothing" and so on.

The most representative and dramatic Buddhist sutra is the Jade Maiden Sutra. It is about an Indian jade girl who changed from an arrogant and slow-moving woman to a modest woman after being taught by the Buddha. It is vivid and convincing, and the whole story explains in detail how to be a good wife.

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Yeyu Policewoman, etc.: yeyu is the daughter of Wang Shecheng's nursing elders, and she is born as "the daughter of a noble elder with unparalleled integrity." Yu Ye, because of her beautiful appearance, lovely figure and pampered since childhood, has developed arrogance and chronic.

Grid. Later, she married the seventh son of the elder Swasti Sudado. Suda, the minister of the Persian king, was kind-hearted and was a famous Buddha protector in China at that time. Because he often sympathizes with the poor and lonely, and he is good at giving, he is known as "giving to the lonely".

The only elder. "Suda elders' family is very harmonious. Sixth daughter-in-law is not only gentle and virtuous, but also believes in Buddhism. Yu Ye's daughter was still arrogant when she married her in-laws. She is not filial to her in-laws and her husband's relatives.

Lack of due respect, "arrogance, not taking care of aunts (in-laws) couples. Give a suggestion to a lonely family: how to teach your wife to be arrogant and dull? If a stick is killed, it is not good. If there is no training, its crime will increase day by day. "

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Jade can't be virtuous, which makes Elder Suda very disappointed and sad. He didn't expect yeyu, who was born in a famous family, to marry her husband's family, so he went his own way regardless of his elders and stirred up the family.

Personnel discord, right and wrong constantly. She went to see the Buddha several times, hoping that the Buddha could influence her, but she refused to go. The elders of Buddhist scriptures know that there is nothing anyone can do except Buddha to educate jade. But so is Yu Ye.

Unlike my family and daughter-in-law, I never want to go to the Gion to listen to the Buddha.

As a last resort, Sudado decided to invite Buddha to come home to confess (eat) in order to educate his daughter-in-law with Buddhism. The elder must go to the refined house in the garden to see the Buddha. He told him:

"Compassionate Buddha! Today, I have to ask the Buddha for help. Originally, we should not wash our dirty linen in public, but the Buddha is the loving father of all beings, and only the weeds of the Buddha can tame the strong and difficult beings.

"Buddha! Disciple I * * * has seven sons, and all six daughters-in-law are filial and virtuous. Only the seventh daughter-in-law, yeyu, is extremely smart and beautiful, but she is arrogant and dull, and always speaks ill of her elders.

"We wanted to often bring her to ask the Buddha to enlighten us, but stupidity covered her heart. Not only did she not believe it, but she also slandered the Buddha. She thinks that life is pleasure first, beauty first, love first, and nothing else. There is nothing we can do but ask the Buddha for mercy and find ways to transform my tenacious daughter-in-law. "

Realizing the need to impress the elders, the Buddha immediately said:

"Yu Ye doesn't want to come. You care so much about her. I'll visit your house tomorrow!"

When Elder Suda heard that the Buddha said that he would come to his home, he was moved by surprise and shed tears, and immediately rushed to the front of the Buddha to worship the Buddha's feet.

The next day, the Buddha took his disciples to the elder's home. The old couple, their seven sons and six daughters-in-law all came out to surround the Buddha statue three times to show their welcome. Only Yu Ye escaped from the Buddha and refused to come out. The elder felt very sorry for the Buddha. I am willing to marry this unwise daughter-in-law and live up to the Buddha's mercy. This is a disgrace to the whole family!

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Buddha doesn't care, but he has a kind heart. He used magical power to release 10 thousand golden lights from his whole body, making all the walls like transparent glass. At this time, everyone saw Yu Ye peeping at the Buddha statue in the gap behind the door. Yu Ye bears a grudge against the Buddha.

Touch, but when I saw the good light of the Buddha's lover, my past resentment was swept away. "My clothes are standing on end, and I am shaking all over." Knowing that I couldn't hide my body, I had to come out and stand beside the Buddha, with my head down and afraid to look up.

The kindness of the Buddha.

The Buddha said quietly:

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Yeah! A woman is not called a beauty just because she looks beautiful, and it is not worth being proud of. Only when she has integrity in her heart and a quiet and delicate female virtue can she be respected and named as a beauty. Beautiful appearance, moving figure, although it can seduce fans.

Drunk fool, but not respected, is not a good person. Relying on beauty, looking down on others and behaving badly will only bring endless pain to your future. Born a woman, destined to have three children.

Three kinds of defects, ten kinds of karma. "

Buddha first said that women have "three kinds of defects" and "ten kinds of karma", which led to women's suffering, thus defeating Yu Ye's arrogance.

Women's three defects are:

First, childhood should be controlled by parents, not as free as boys;

Second, marriage depends on the husband and there is no freedom;

Third, when you meet an unfilial daughter-in-law in your later years, you have to endure ridicule and obstacles.

The ten forces of a woman are:

First, when parents were born, they had an aversion to son preference;

Second, because the girl doesn't belong to her family, she doesn't care about her;

Third, female students are suspected of getting married and worried about getting married;

Fourth, women are shy, often afraid to meet people, not generous enough;

Fifth, when I grow up, I am committed to my surname and can't make my own decisions;

Sixth, when pregnant, the stomach is very big, the movement is inconvenient, and the pain is abnormal;

Seven, giving birth to children, the pain is unbearable;

8. If you depend on your husband, you may lose love.

Nine, sexual vanity, time-consuming grooming, unclean body flow, more than men;

Ten, suspicious and jealous, good at talking about right and wrong, moody.

So, what is there to be proud of?

Later, the Buddha said that she was a jade girl and criticized her for relying on beauty, being rich or expensive, and being arrogant and insensitive to her husband. She pointed out that physical beauty is not enough, but spiritual beauty is pure and behavior is correct, and taught her how to be a good wife. After hearing the Buddha's teaching, Yu Ye deeply repented of her past mistakes and asked the Buddha to repent.

"Jade shed tears, and the former White Buddha said: I am foolish and suspicious, and now I am like a maid, and I dare not slow down. That is to say, I kneel in front of me and beg for the ten commandments and three deaths. "

Yu Ye asked to convert to Buddhism, and the Buddha awarded him the Ten Commandments. She vowed to live forever and become a Buddhist. Elder Suda's whole family was very happy and congratulated her on her new life. From then on, Yu Ye became a virtuous daughter-in-law and was praised by people from far and near.

Next, let's take a look at what the Buddha taught us to be a good wife and what he said to women.

(1) Five ways to be a wife:

The Jade Maiden Sutra says, "Buddha tells jade. The law of being a woman. When there is the fifth class. How much is five?

Just like a mother-in-law

Er Ru's minister and wife.

Three sisters.

Four men and women.

Five couples.

What is a mother-in-law Love your husband like a child. What is a courtier? Just like being a gentleman. A famous minister and wife. What is a sister-in-law? A husband is like a brother. A famous sister-in-law. What is a maid? Being a husband is like being a concubine. A famous maid and woman. What is a couple? Return to your relatives and stay away from each other forever. Love, intimacy, concentric alien. Respect, respect, caution, no sense of slowness. Good deeds are rich at home and abroad. The guest to be picked up calls for a good name. The best way to get married. "

In other words, as a wife, a woman should follow five principles:

First, be a mother: love your husband as parents love their children;

Second, be a courtier: treat your husband as a king and yourself as a courtier;

Third, be a sister-in-law: treat your husband as a brother of your compatriots, and the husband and wife should respect each other; Respect your husband like your brother, be modest, and live in your own house according to your husband's preferences. This sister-like wife.

Fourth, be a maid: serve your husband like a maid serves your master, and always have a respectful heart;

Fifth, be husband and wife: and husbands should always be filial to their adoptive parents and live in harmony with their relatives. Couples should be loving and loving. Although the body is different, the oath does not match, receiving guests, diligently taking care of family affairs, not talking about the right and wrong of others, not talking about the length of people.

(2) the pursuit of five good

"Jade Girl Classic" said: "The Buddha told Jade Girl: One stays up late and gets up early to manage the housework, and all delicious meals should be taken from his mouth and given to his aunt (in-laws) first; Two people look at the things at home, so as not to leak them; The three were cautious about their verbal humiliation and less angry; The four are cautious and always afraid of inferiority; Five people are filial, so that they have a good reputation, their loved ones are happy, and their reputation is greatly enhanced. This is for five good things. "

These five good things are:

First, stay up late and get up early, don't be lazy, do housework diligently, and don't shirk everything; Give delicious food to your in-laws and husband first, and don't enjoy it by yourself first; Some women are lazy and indulge in mahjong all day, or with two or three friends, they indulge in all kinds of dancing and having fun all day, ignoring the lives of their husbands and children. This is a responsibility of housewives.

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Second, responsible for housework: family property should be properly kept to prevent theft and loss. Dealing with housework in an orderly way can make the husband have no worries and develop his career with peace of mind, and the children will have the warmth of the family when they go home.

Warm and fully protected. Modern women go out to work more, which can increase family income, but both husband and wife should adjust and cooperate well. Improper cooperation between husband and wife will lead to problems such as key children and teenagers.

Angry! Some women don't go out to work, share family expenses, have fun and gamble, don't do housework, and only increase many family disputes. Don't be careless!

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Third, endure grievances: every family has a difficult experience, a family's material life, and seven things are indispensable; The problem of getting along with sisters-in-law in spiritual life and serving aunt Weng can not be ignored. Even in small families, children's education

It is also a headache topic, which requires women to show unparalleled endurance, seek perfection in grievances, make licorice in medicinal materials, season in bitter life, and turn conflict and friction into peace and tranquility.

Be kind, tolerant and patient. If there is a family conflict, or even your husband scolds you, you should be patient and cautious, don't add fuel to the fire, don't make a scene, and don't hold grudges.

Respect for husband: A wife should respect her husband's guest status, respect his personality, make him beautiful and decent in front of others, and be respected by everyone. A wife will add a lot of luster invisibly. Sometimes, I see some tough women humiliating their husbands in front of everyone. Being a lion roar is not only a shame for their husbands, but also a shame for themselves.

Fourth, keep chastity and honor, be loyal to love, be cautious about morality, and have a decent style.

Men and women must be careful when they communicate, and there will be no evil thoughts when their husbands are far away. One of the fundamental five precepts of Buddhism is not to commit adultery, which means that there should be no adultery except proper husband-wife relationship. Women should strictly abide by this precept, keep chastity and honor, and never do anything detrimental to women's morality. Of course, men should also abide by this commandment. If both men and women keep it, society will avoid many marriage tragedies.

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Can love vanity: Some women see that others are more beautiful than themselves, so they try their best to impress others, run to the beauty salon, raise their noses and carve their eyelids deep, which makes them self-defeating and increases the pain of their flesh in vain. Some want to cut double eyelids, but after surgery,

It has become a "three eyelids"; I want to "change my skin", but I get "painting my face"; I want to do breast augmentation surgery, which eventually leads to disability ... In recent years, many beauty institutions have carried out medical beauty services beyond the scope, disfigured and disappeared beauty.

Cost disputes continue. According to the statistics of China Consumers Association, there are nearly 20,000 complaints about cosmetic disfigurement every year in the nearly ten years since the rise of China's cosmetic plastic surgery industry. In ten years, 200 thousand faces were destroyed, nearly 300 thousand.

People are hurt to varying degrees.

Some women see that others have more money than themselves, and they encourage their husbands to take risks to commit crimes, thus casting a tragedy.

Fifth, always respect in-laws and husbands, unite family members, hide evil and promote good; At the same time, we should live in harmony with relatives, friends and neighbors and be kind to others. Establish good interpersonal relationships with relatives and friends, and lay a good foundation for the success of husband and family career. After all, marriage is not just about two people. Women are men's wives who get more help.

(3) Eliminate three evils

The Jade Maiden Classic says, "What are the three evils? Early to bed and early to rise. The husband's anger turned into disrespect. They all like eating themselves. Poor food and aunts (in-laws). Deception, fraud, evil. The three don't care about life, but travel around the world. He is ugly, begging, quarrelling with others, hated by his relatives and despised by others. It is for three evils. "

The contents of the three evils are:

First, sleep properly, don't sleep too much, go to bed early and get up late, all of which are inappropriate. Criticism of her husband is not only unacceptable, but also abusive;

Second, try delicious food first, and the bad food is related to the in-laws and husbands. If you are unfaithful to your husband, you always have romantic evil thoughts and envy others;

Third, I don't do housework and like to have fun; Search people, say people are not good. Love vanity, innovation, hate relatives, look down on others.

In addition, during the six-party talks in Max Loehr, the Buddha also warned his wife that there are five ethical principles for treating her husband.

Buddha said: "There are five things for a woman to serve her husband: first, her husband should welcome her from the outside; Both, when the husband is away, when cooking and steaming; Of the three, there can be no adultery, and the husband can't swear. Fourth, when using the precepts of husband education, everything must not be hidden; Fifth, rest, cover is lying. "

The above five requirements were aimed at women in Indian society at that time, but most of today's women are no longer full-time housewives, but have become hard-working office workers; Therefore, it is really difficult to completely achieve the above points, but the spirit of teaching by example should still be followed.

For example, "don't have lust for your husband, and you can't talk back." This article is a question of chastity with both mind and body, greed and sincerity. Both men and women should observe this problem. An adulterous wife cheats on her husband. A husband should not have lust for other women, and his family is bound to be at odds. Of course, his spirit is painful, and the consequences in the future are even more distressing.

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You shouldn't be angry if you can't talk back. This is a good way to get rid of anger. Some people think tit-for-tat is brave, but in fact, they must put up with their grumpy husbands and be smart enough not to suffer immediate losses.

Boss, let him scold you and treat him as calmly as possible, just as if you didn't hear him. Don't scold, don't pull up your face and glare at each other. Have to leave him or temporarily, and let his nerves gradually calm down. This is what the Buddha said:

"If you don't return anger with anger, anger will naturally rest." . Hatred can never stop it. Only kindness can stop anger, and this law will exist forever.

"When you use your husband's ring, you must never hide it." Sometimes the husband and wife agree, sometimes they disagree. If you are different, don't be arbitrary, be smart and make sure that the other person obeys his own opinion. In this way, there will naturally be no discord, and the harmony between husband and wife will last long.

If the husband is at fault and there are other things that he doesn't want others to know, the wife must keep it strictly confidential and never tell others. This is someone else's secret. If you know, don't tell anyone. Buddha said: "People have a sense of shame, but they will never say it. Smell it and don't tell it. "

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A husband gives his wife the economic power of the family, which is a sign of respect for his wife. Therefore, a wife must not neglect housework. The budget of daily expenses should be based on the husband's income. Never cheat on purpose. Falsely reporting the amount of consumption,

Increase the burden on her husband and enrich her own pockets. A husband is a lifelong companion, and we should treat him faithfully. How can we treat him with such fraudulent "hidden" things? Some women come with the words "hoarding can prevent future troubles"

Covering up her mistakes without knowing that it was her short-sightedness.

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How can we make a wall of gold and silver between a loving couple? If "hiding" is discovered by her husband, then love will be discounted. I have a business friend who works hard outside, and his wife.

Then try to accumulate private savings and lend money at low interest rates. Once, my husband found out about it, and there was an indelible rift between husband and wife. Therefore, to achieve family harmony, we must trust each other. Don't take it personally.

If you are full, you can be a backer. This is a foolish thing that is not worth the loss!