How to raise healthy and sunny children in an incomplete family environment?
0 1 It's important for mom to have a good attitude.
After parents divorce, children should not be allowed to grow up in hatred, because children are not the mother's private property. Don't repeat the father's fault in front of the children.
You should have seen the entertainment news these days, saying that Little Dragon Girl married her same-sex girlfriend in Canada. The little dragon girl is only a teenager and married a 3 1 year-old online celebrity from other places, which has nothing to do with her family background. In order to threaten Jackie Chan, Wu Qili gave birth to a little dragon girl, but it didn't work. My life and career have been delayed, but she is not poor. This is just her choice, and it is just a winner and a loser.
Poor little dragon girl. She grew up without her father's care, and her mother was full of hatred for her father. She grew up in an atmosphere of onlookers watching the play. Can she be healthy in heart? So, this is probably why I chose to marry at a young age and choose to be a "man" at home.
Xiaomei, a classmate, just divorced her husband, because he cheated in marriage and never made money to support his family. Actually, there was an incident before, and then her husband bought a car for Xiaomei to drive. Relations have eased a little. Xiaomei drives this car to kindergarten middle school to pick up her daughter every day. Later, the men became worse and worse, and they stayed out at night. Xiaomei couldn't bear it. They really divorced!
Married for five years, but nothing. The house belongs to the man and the car has to be returned. The child is Xiaomei, and the monthly maintenance fee is 1000 yuan. The little girl was only four and a half years old and asked her mother in a daze, "Mom, where is dad?" Why is my car missing? "
Xiaomei had just divorced and was in a bad mood. I guess she didn't say a few words to the child at that time. Later, during the two visiting hours in the first month, the little girl quarreled with her father and broke up in discord. The already meager relationship between father and daughter is even more precarious.
Never use children as chips to threaten each other! Because a truly heartless predecessor doesn't care about the love between father and son; If he cared, would he still do three things, stir up the wind and rain and stir up a family? Water a sapling with hatred, and only this sapling will pit; And, of course, yourself! Love rat will not be affected in any way.
Xiaomei finally walked out of the haze, her career improved, and she found a part-time job that she was good at. With more income, she naturally became confident. She bought a better car than before, so she took her daughter for a ride. She also told the little girl: "Mom and Dad are just not suitable, so they are not together. But your father is still your father! And mom is very capable and will make you live better in the future! "
Really depends on the weather to eat, it is better to rely on yourself!
After losing a partner, mothers should not care too much about their children, just be appropriate.
Having lost her husband, the mother devoted all her energy and time to her children. This kind of maternal love is too heavy, which will cause great pressure on children and is not conducive to their mental health.
Because fragile mothers will be very disappointed once they find that their children have not reached the expected standards in their hearts, and they will be more strict with their children, which will cause great psychological pressure on them.
I have a best friend Ross. How old was her father when he died in a car accident? Her mother is young and beautiful, but she has kept it alone for so many years. Aunt's heart is very high. She wants to prove to the world that even without a husband, I can raise my daughter and we can live a good life, so she is extremely strict with Rose.
Ross can't eat without practicing piano music every day; If you don't get the ranking in the English Olympic Games, you will make up your English for one month in a row. Later, after graduating from college, in order to be more popular in the marriage and love market, my aunt even took Rose, who was only in her early twenties at that time, to have plastic surgery, and she was not allowed to eat when she was fat. The clothes that Rose will wear the next day must have been matched by her mother on the first day. Ross's mother's mantra is: "You can't fix it yourself. Mom helps you decide! " "
I have to say that my aunt really trained Rose to be quite excellent, beautiful and talented, with a high degree and a good job. But I just don't have my own ideas and pursuits.
Ross's goal is clear: marry a rich man and let his mother live a good life.
Facts have proved that as long as you persist enough, you will eventually get what you want! Rose finally really married Oba, a rich man who was 10 years older than her, short and bald, and whose marriage history was unknown. When getting married, the scene is grand and luxurious! Rose realized her dream: big house, Mercedes coupe, brand-name clothes; Of course, the man also fulfilled his promise to buy a big house for Rose's mother!
But there is no such thing as a free lunch! There is something wrong with men. They are born indifferent to X, and the sperm survival rate is low. The purpose of marrying Ross is also clear:
First, health. Ross is satisfied, young and healthy (the man requires a comprehensive physical examination before marriage);
Second, high academic qualifications. Rose met a man just after graduating from graduate school, which proved that the woman's IQ was high;
Third, beautiful. Although Rose has done micro-plastic surgery, she has a very good foundation and can improve the genes of the next generation.
Yes, the so-called marriage is so realistic. He is over forty years old and has a successful career at home. If a man doesn't want children again, he probably won't have a chance. So, he chose Ross out of a thousand choices. But I don't know if there is love in this marriage.
Because of men, children can't be born by conventional means. Rose gave birth to twins through IVF, which made her suffer greatly, but also took advantage of men.
Ovulation promotion is very harmful to women's health. Under the action of hormones, and she is pregnant with twins, Rose is seriously fat after childbirth. For Rose, who was taught by her mother that "beauty is death" since childhood, value is a devastating blow.
She became obsessed with the so-called XX powder sold in WeChat business, which can rejuvenate her skin overnight. She not only bought it herself, but also invested all her money as an agent. Try every means to lose weight, eat a little a day, and have no pity for stomachache; As far as I know, she has done it three times, which is very painful, and she has done it too many times, and the lifting effect is not obvious, but no one will listen.
The pressure in her heart is too great. She is afraid that men will dislike him because of her face and figure, so she can no longer let her mother continue to live a good life. She grew up in a single-parent family, and she was afraid that her children would follow her old path. Her mother's high-intensity management has caused her great psychological pressure. Rose even secretly told us: "Sometimes I feel that living is boring, but I dare not die. What should my mother do? "
In fact, single mothers should try their best to deal with their emotional needs, do not use their children to transfer their emotional pain, fill their emotional gaps, and do not deliberately create a feeling of dependence on each other, which will deprive their children of independence and gradually leave their parents.
In fact, single mothers can also cultivate healthy and sunny children, provided that maternal love is healthy and sunny. Don't occupy a child's life just because you are a person. Encourage your children to communicate with others and make friends. Don't pay too much attention to the fact that you are a single parent. If you regard this as normal, your child will be more normal.