Learn to respect

Yi Ming

I once heard such a story:

A businessman saw a ragged pencil The salesman suddenly felt a sense of pity. Without thinking, he put 10 yuan into the pencil seller's hand and walked away without thinking. After walking a few steps, he suddenly felt that it was inappropriate to do so, so he hurried back and explained apologetically that he had forgotten to pick up his pen, and hoped that he wouldn't mind. Finally, he said solemnly: "You are a businessman just like me."

A year later, at a warm and grand social occasion where business gathered, a personable man in a suit and leather shoes appeared. The salesman greeted the businessman and introduced himself gratefully: "You may have forgotten me, and I don't know your name, but I will never forget you. You are the one who gave me my self-esteem again." and a confident person. I always felt that I was a beggar selling pencils, until you told me personally that I am a businessman just like you. "

I didn't expect such a simple statement from Shang. It makes a person who has low self-esteem suddenly build up his self-esteem, and makes a person who is in an embarrassing situation regain his self-confidence. It was precisely with this kind of self-esteem and self-confidence that he saw his own value and advantages, and finally achieved success through hard work. It is not difficult to imagine that if there had not been such a word of respect and encouragement at the beginning, even giving him a few thousand yuan would not have helped, and there would never have been a huge change from self-confessed beggar to self-confidence and self-improvement. This is respect, this is the power of respect!

Respect is a kind of cultivation, a kind of character, a kind of equal treatment of others without being humble or arrogant, neither looking up to nor condescending, and a kind of full affirmation of the personality and value of others. No one can be perfect or flawless. We have no reason to look at others with a mountain-like gaze, nor are we qualified to laugh at others with a non-considerate look. If others are inferior to us in some aspects, we cannot use arrogance and disrespect to hurt others' self-esteem; if we are inferior to others in some aspects, we do not need to replace the respect we deserve with inferiority or jealousy. A person who truly knows how to respect others will inevitably face the strong and the weak in all careers, the lucky and the unfortunate in life with an equal attitude, a normal mood, and a calm mind.

Respect is a ray of spring breeze, a clear spring, a comfort pill that gives people warmth, and a shot of heart that inspires people to forge ahead. It often complements sincerity, humility, tolerance, appreciation, kindness, and friendship, and is incompatible with hypocrisy, arrogance, harshness, ridicule, viciousness, and snobbishness. Giving respect to successful people shows one's admiration, praise and pursuit of others' success; giving respect to failed people shows one's sympathy, comfort and encouragement to others after they fail. As long as there is respect, there will be true love in the world, there will be hope for the future, there will be continued efforts after success, and there will be a comeback after failure.

Respect is not blind worship, nor is it disgusting flattery; it is not unprincipled modesty, nor is it humility without self-esteem. Understanding the importance of respecting others does not mean learning how to respect others. In this sense, respect is also a science. If you learn to respect others, you will learn to respect yourself, and you will also learn and master one of the important things in life.

Let us slowly experience and explore on the road of life!

Reciprocate love

——The charm of respect

Yang Suifang

A person's taste is mainly reflected in the process of getting along with others. The 17th-century British poet John Downe said in his poem "For Whom the Bell Tolls": "No one can be like an island, standing alone in the sea. Everyone is like a small piece of soil, connected to form the entire land." If a piece of soil is washed away by the sea, a corner of Europe will be missing, just like a mountain gorge, like your friends and yourself. "This poem tells us that no one can live alone and must get along with others. When interacting with others, if you want to be welcomed, you should sincerely care about others and respect others.

John Dewey, the most knowledgeable philosopher in the United States, said: "The most profound driving force in human nature is the hope of being important." Everyone comes into the world to be respected, cared for, and respected. The desire to be affirmed, when you meet his requirements, he will radiate great enthusiasm for that aspect of your respect and become your good friend.

A salesman once said such an example. His job was to attract customers for Johnson & Johnson, one of which was a drugstore. Every time he goes to this store, he always greets the salesperson at the counter before going to see the owner. One day, he went to this store, and the store owner suddenly told him that he would not have to come here again, and that he did not want to buy Johnson & Johnson products anymore, because many of Johnson & Johnson's activities were designed for food markets and cheap stores, and for small medicines and groceries. The store is no good. The salesman had to leave the store. He drove around the town for a long time and finally decided to go back to the store and explain the situation clearly.

When he walked into the store, he greeted the salesperson at the counter as usual, and then went inside to meet the store owner.

The shop owner was very happy to see him, welcomed him back with a smile, and ordered twice as much as usual. The salesman was very surprised and didn't understand what happened after he left the store. The store owner pointed to a boy selling drinks on the counter and said, after you left the store, the boy selling drinks came over and told me that you were in the store. He was the only salesman who came to greet him. He told me that if anyone is worth doing business with, it should be you. The shop owner agreed and became the salesman's best customer ever since. The salesman said, "I will never forget that caring and respecting everyone are qualities we must have." "

To care about others and respect others, you must have noble sentiments and an open mind. When you use your sincere heart to make the other person feel emotionally warm and happy, and spiritually enriched and satisfied, you will Experience a beautiful and harmonious interpersonal relationship, and you will have many friends and achieve ultimate success.

Lijiang Morning Song

——The Call of Respect

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Liu Ling

I finally looked forward to a Sunday.

Early in the morning, I went to Jinjiang Pavilion in Diecai Mountain by the Li River, with the morning fog in front of me. Float, feeling confused

"Mo Daojun left early, and there were even more early travelers. "A young man recited a poem and walked lightly to Jinjiang Pavilion, "Good morning! Miss. "

I subconsciously trembled in my heart, "It's early for you too! "So I leaned on the railing and looked at the Lijiang River that curved like nine ileums. Occasionally I glanced at him sideways: he was so handsome, so dashing, and he wore the "Guangxi Normal University" school emblem. He walked to my side and set up the drawing board.

< p> Since I didn't see any other tourists, I couldn't help but cast a wary glance. He waved his brush and focused his gaze on me, looking down. Soon, the young man stood up and walked towards me. He shuddered. He smiled kindly: "Miss, I've offended you!" "I was at a loss. When he saw the astonishment on my face, he hurriedly explained: "I am a student of the Fine Arts Department of the Normal University. I came out to sketch. I was originally going to paint the morning light of the Li River. I didn't expect that your input made the fusion of man and nature become the most beautiful. landscape. It's just because of my poor writing skills that I can't express it optimally. Could you please give me some advice? "That's it." I walked to the drawing board and was shocked: "Is this me?" The background was the morning light of the Li River in Jinjiang Pavilion. I leaned on the railing and looked at the river, my eyebrows were furrowed, I was filled with sorrow, and I had no energy... I felt that I was incompatible with the surrounding scenery. His spirit was extremely uncoordinated, and his face had a touch of melancholy. "My brush is too clumsy and I couldn't paint your face well..." He looked apologetic. "No, it's not that you didn't paint well, it was me who destroyed the scenery and harmony." "Miss, you seem to have something on your mind?"

My thoughts went back to a week ago...

That day, I received a letter written in an unfamiliar handwriting.

"...I will never forget, every time we look at each other, your moving eyes, the eyes that occupy my whole heart..." "Oh my God!" I was shocked, this is the most beautiful thing people have ever seen. Sensitive and absolutely forbidden in school... I stared blankly at the ceiling of the classroom. "Which dashing man made our beautiful eldest lady lose her mind?" The harsh voice shook my eardrums. Before I could recover, the letter in my hand had been replaced by the "red pepper" in my class. "Snatched.

For several days, this incident caused a stir on campus. Several good friends also distanced themselves from me. One gloomy morning, I was called to the office by my head teacher. "Isn't it too early to start flirting with someone at such a young age?" She went straight to the point.

I feel unfamiliar with this world.

"Miss, here it is." The gentle tone woke me up from my "nightmare" again. The young man handed me a handkerchief, and it turned out that I had tears streaming down my face. The boy who wrote the letter was my deskmate in junior high school. He always treated me as a younger sister until he was admitted to a regional key high school. He also did not forget to attend me in the county and tutored me in my weak area - mathematics. I understand that he only told me a pure feeling in his heart, and only showed a memory deep in his heart, but the worldly prejudice actually distorted it incredibly.

"Little girl, you should live more freely, face everything calmly, having life is the greatest happiness." He suddenly changed his name to me, and the young man standing in front of me was no longer a stranger. , but a respected brother. "Look, the morning light on the Li River is so beautiful! Do you remember that CEO Chen (Yi) said: 'I would like to be a Guilin person, not a god.' Please smile and face life with a smile! Let's ** *We also created a piece of "Morning Song of the Li River" "

About an hour later, he held a newly painted piece of "Morning Song of the Li River" in front of me. My eyes suddenly lit up: the background was still Jinjiang Pavilion, the mist had dispersed, and the view was very broad. The Lijiang River meanders from the north to the south. On the river, there are several fishing boats, the wind is blowing and the sails are flying. On the east bank are green vegetable beds and rice seedlings, in the distance is the dark shadow of the Languang Mountain, and on the horizon are pink clouds and flowing clouds. I leaned on the railing with my left hand, my right hand drooped naturally, turned slightly sideways, and looked into the distance. The breeze in front of me lifted up my light blue dress, and the skirt was flowing elegantly in the morning breeze. The face is as beautiful as an oval, the eyes are looking forward to the sky, and there is a bit of confidence, and there is a sweet smile on the cheeks.

I finally feel that life is so beautiful!

When we were leaving, the young man gave me both paintings.

At his suggestion, we sang "A Chic Walk" together: "The world is long, each time passes in a hurry, the tide rises and falls... I don't know how much sorrow there is in the world over the years, why not take a chic walk..." Deep in my heart The depression was completely melted into the singing, dispersed into the forest, and disappeared into the sky.

Girl’s Heart

——Declaration of Self-Esteem

Huang Yuanyuan

Last summer vacation.

It was Dani’s birthday. In order to pretend to be romantic and avant-garde, a group of us went crazy and broke into a bar in our slippers.

In the bar, the lights were red and green; the music was deafening; the tunes were hysterical... It was like entering a terrifying world. We looked around and saw that there were many guests in suits, T-shirts and jeans, wearing heavy makeup, or topless, chatting and laughing, drinking and drinking... When we, who were frightened like deer, had just calmed down, suddenly, the lights went out. Listen quietly, there is music, there is no noise, only tenderness...

Through the dim light, a dizzying scene appears in front of you: pairs of men and women touching their chests, hugging their waists, They were circling their necks, drinking and exchanging glasses of fine wine; pairs of men and women touched their lips, biting their tongues, kissing like crazy, making strange squeaking sounds... And the 28-year-old man at our table, dressed in student clothes, actually Riding on the man's legs and letting out anger, letting the man's claws penetrate her snow-like breasts... Suddenly, we felt on pins and needles, shy and embarrassed, we should not have peeked into other people's privacy. At this moment, several well-dressed young people walked up to us. "You young girls, please make out with us..." A group of us were so frightened that we ran out as if being chased by ghosts and ran a long way away. , then he stopped and leaned against the lamppost, gasping, "Hell on earth!" "It took me a long time to squeeze out a few words.

In the future, if a friend asks you to go out to play, you must first ask if you are going to a bar. If so, you will not go even if you are waiting in line. When I mention the bar, I always think of that 28-year-old girl, the disgusting scene, and the scene of visiting a bookstore on a Sunday half a year ago...

It was a small independent bookstore. There are all kinds of books in it, and the covers of many publications show half-naked or even fully-naked coquettish girls, posing and sultry. I actually spent all my money on it and left in high spirits like a treasure. I was stunned... I complained about my eyes because I was afraid that the naked girls on the cover would blaspheme my soul. I ran out quickly. I will never go to that kind of bookstore again. The girl I met in the bar that night seemed familiar. It turned out to be one of the girls who bought that kind of book.

I don’t know if someone else evolved here. How difficult it is to hold on to a piece of innocence in an era that is too fast or too fast! How difficult it is to maintain a pure land! However, no matter how difficult it is, I will never give up. , I want to stick to my innocence, stick to my beliefs, and maintain my pure land. The most important thing for a girl is self-esteem and self-love. Only with this can she be confident and strong.

"Put away the dark clouds in the sky. , as beautiful as blue velvet. "A girl's heart is a blue sky that does not contain dark clouds, but is only covered with colorful clouds; a girl's heart is a blank page of paper that does not contain ink stains, and only draws lotus flowers; a girl's heart is a precious harp that does not play the music, but only draws lotus flowers. Play elegant music; a girl's heart is a glass window, resisting the intrusion of flies, smiling to welcome the sunshine...

Temptation

——The loss of respect

< p>Shi Liping

Xiaolan is eighteen years old and has just graduated from a technical school. She is assigned to work in a factory. Although she is an ordinary worker, she has something to be proud of. She is naturally beautiful and ranks among her sisters. At first, she didn't worship famous brands too much, but she also liked to be unique. She would cut off the collar and sleeves of an old shirt and decorate it with some nylon lace, ribbons or bows. The accessory became a unique strapless or vest-style off-the-shoulder outfit, which made her look more lively, pretty and romantic. But later on, she kept wearing trendy clothes, which made everyone admire and envy her. The thin, revealing and translucent clothes vividly displayed the girl's unique curves in front of the man.

Soon, Xiaolan was promoted to the factory director's secretary at the age of 40. She looked sophisticated and calm. But Xiaolan didn't mind. She still wore a thin and highly transparent off-shoulder dress at work, with the neckline low to her high breasts.

After a while, Wang Chang. He couldn't resist the temptation of Xiaolan's perfect body, so he occasionally joked with Xiaolan when they were together, especially when his eyes glanced at Xiaolan more and more often. While touching a certain decoration on Xiaolan's clothes, Xiaolan felt a sense of satisfaction in her heart.

A On Sunday afternoon, Director Wang asked Xiaolan to come to the office to work overtime. It was too hot, and they turned on the electric fan to the highest setting. The wind lifted Xiaolan's miniskirt, and she felt particularly comfortable. People say that youth is priceless, but Xiaolan felt so comfortable. For the price of 20,000 yuan, she sold her youthful body and soul for the first time...

From then on, Xiaolan's interactions with Factory Director Wang became more frequent and closer.

And Director Wang was even more obedient to her. The money in Director Wang's hands flowed like water to Xiaolan's private accounts in several banks.

Several years have passed, and the number of men around Xiaolan has increased day by day. The fundamental reason is self-evident, which lies in Xiaolan's outstanding appearance and slender yet plump figure. And that novel makeup. However, what really satisfied Xiaolan was a burly and handsome young man who was in the clothing business.

After Xiaolan married the young man, she still secretly slept with Factory Director Wang in Chencang. Later, in order to get rid of him, she resigned from the factory and ran a clothing store with her husband ***. Recently, the business of the clothing store has been very bad, and it is often crowded. Her husband is frowning all day long, and Xiaolan is also sighing.

Xiaolan is very smart after all. She thought that although she was a married woman, she had more mature charm. When she walked on the street, the rate of men turning heads was particularly high. During the summer dress change, why not give full play to her advantages? She asked her husband to change his business and focus on men's clothing. Her husband was responsible for purchasing goods when he went out, and she was responsible for selling goods at the counter. The business gradually improved again.

In order to attract more customers, Xiaolan has packaged herself, wearing sexy dresses, transparent vests, strong and dynamic bras, etc., changing one set a day, sometimes even several sets a day. She also took advantage of opportunities such as picking up clothes and trying on clothes for buyers, deliberately raising her arms or bending her waist to make men's eyes extend... Some customers touched or touched her chest intentionally or unintentionally, She also sent her warmly.

Although summer is the off-season for clothing sales, she is not satisfied with the vested interests in front of her. She believes that money is more important than too little. She dreams of becoming a "millionaire girl".

Once, Xiaolan went to a friend's house to play, and learned the news from her friend: In some areas of the urban-rural fringe of Guangzhou, a long line of young women stood in front of the theater door every night. On both sides, they all wore clothes as thin as cicada wings, allowing the men's eyes to "scan" their bodies. The clothes were transparent enough to see their body hair clearly. Around these women, there are men from the "theater troupe" who are beating drums and gongs desperately to complete the pre-concert publicity room work. The girl at the concert showed off the charm of the female body. Any girl who has the courage to expose her body and the qualified body condition can join its ranks, and the money she earns every night is equivalent to a month's salary of an ordinary person. Xiaolan thought that although she was in her late twenties, compared with those girls, she looked even more plump and charming. If you can join, as long as you show your body, you will get a lot of money. No longer have to guard your own clothing store all day long. She kept her word, and within a few days, she became a member of the concert, even performing naked on the stage...

A few days later, she was detained by the Public Security Bureau. Factory director Wang also lost his hat because he embezzled public funds and played with women.

What clothes to wear and how to wear them are one’s own business. Others should not point fingers and make irresponsible remarks. Moreover, the diversity and individuality of clothes are also one of the signs of human material abundance. Nowadays, thin, exposed and transparent have become the pursuit of summer clothing by some contemporary women. If this kind of pursuit is to beautify life, there is nothing wrong with it. But if you lose your self-respect and use it to seduce others, it will only become a tragedy that harms others and yourself.

[Analysis and Expansion]

Everyone lives in family and society. The harmony of family, love, friendship, and worldly relationships not only reflects emotional intelligence; The degree of civilization of society. And these are often inseparable from "respect".

The excellent works of Wang Pian selected here are cut from different angles, explaining the new concept of "respect" in family, society and even modern education. It is a talk on the issue of feudal traditional education, which pointedly pointed out that "feudal traditional education", later This has led to "stick education" obliterating the new concept of education. It is a new concept of education that not only has the function of motivating, but also has the function of teaching