Gillian's divorce was almost expected.

Because of this marriage, there were too many obsessions from the beginning.

At that time, Gillian was eager to get some recognition through marriage.

She said in front of the camera more than once: "I want to get married."

I once said with a gloomy face, "Up to now, no one has said anything about marrying me."

Obviously, she was a victim and her privacy was violated, but she took the initiative to bear too many mistakes and thought she shouldn't take those photos.

Later, Lai Guo Hong appeared.

Although many people are not optimistic about their love.

Although Gillian has only known him for three months.

She went to the besieged city of marriage without hesitation.

It is difficult to judge whether she likes the person in front of her or is happy because of "marriage".

But anyway, Gillian in a wedding dress has a sweet smile, which makes people feel distressed.

She was a fairy. After being teased by fate, it is not too much to get compensation.

Not long after marriage, all kinds of unhappiness about Gillian and Lai came out one after another.

Lai is not from the entertainment circle and does not adapt to life in the spotlight.

He likes the days when he smokes outdoors without paparazzi following him.

What's more, he is engaged in the plastic surgery industry and often has to deal with beautiful women. Just a few photos and videos are enough to make the outside world think.

Obviously, in the quarrel with each other, Gillian also realized that the marriage that needs mutual patience, concessions and sacrifices is not as beautiful as she imagined.

Guo Hong wrote in an article that he asked Gillian if she regretted it.

Gillian said: "I regret it and feel that I am not suitable for marriage."

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Gillian's obsession often reminds me of Lu Xun's story about Xianglinsao's donation threshold.

There is nothing wrong with Xianglinsao being forced to remarry.

But the ridicule of people around her made her feel guilty and worried that she would be punished after death.

At this time, someone taught her: "Go to the temple to donate the threshold, let the threshold take your place, bear the crossing and trampling of thousands of people, and redeem your life."

What a humiliating statement.

Sister Xianglin believed it, worked hard from then on, saved a year's money, and finally saved some money to go to the temple and cry for the threshold of donation.

Has the donation threshold really cleared the prejudice of the outside world?

I can't.

As long as you are still seeking others' approval, you can judge whether you are good enough through others' eyes.

It is equivalent to handing over the right to happiness to others.

It doesn't matter, people can still use their tongues to convict you.

The sadness of Sister Xianglin is that no matter how hard she tries to cater to her, public opinion is still willing to find fault with her, exclude her, and see her as a timely help.

Although she did nothing wrong.

Fortunately, now Gillian has put down her obsession with marriage and announced to the world: "I will never get married again."

She is no longer Gillian who is full of guilt and hopes to gain recognition by being married.

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I brushed the video yesterday and saw a TV series about Zhang Youyi.

Zhang Youyi, played by Rene Liu in the play, is experiencing Xu Zhimo's infidelity and shows his love to Lu Xiaoman in a high-profile way.

In order to see Xu Zhimo, Zhang Youyi put on new clothes and looked around in the mirror.

The son asked her why she was wearing new clothes.

She smiled and said nothing.

In fact, she is afraid of being surpassed by Lu Xiaoman.

I wonder what Zhang Youyi's mood is in reality. Have you ever thought about trying to maintain a little dignity in front of Xu Zhimo?

At that time, a woman was sad to see her husband show his love to another woman in a high-profile way.

It is said that at that time, in order to marry Lu Xiaoman, Xu Zhimo forced Zhang Youyi to have an abortion and divorce.

Zhang Youyi said: "I heard that abortion can be life-threatening."

Xu Zhimo replied indifferently: "Taking the train will kill people. I haven't heard of anyone who doesn't take the train or travel for this reason."

Facts have proved that abortion is dangerous, taking the train is dangerous, and the plane may crash.

A few years later, Xu Zhimo finally died in an air crash.

As his ex-wife, Zhang Youyi presided over Lu Xiaoman's funeral when he panicked.

She doesn't need to compare with Lu Xiaoman to get any recognition.

She stood there, and that was the best answer.

Zhang Youyi made the first divorce case of western civilization in the history of China, which was executed according to the civil law.

She didn't abort the fetus in her stomach as Xu Zhimo asked, but gave birth to little Peter, and as a friend, she was generous and agreed that Xu Zhimo would visit the children.

After that, she experienced the pain of losing her beloved son.

This still didn't stop her from continuing her studies.

After the divorce, Zhang Youyi seems to have forgotten all his love and affection, and hasn't remarried for 30 years.

She has studied German, taught in a university, run a clothing factory and lived a full life.

Xu Zhimo's parents regarded her as an adopted daughter and entrusted the whole family to her.

Even Xu Zhimo, who once laughed at her as a "hillbilly", couldn't help praising her in a letter she wrote to a friend before her death: "Zhang Youyi is an ambitious and courageous woman ... she is really not afraid of anything now."

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Someone asked, "How can I make my husband or boyfriend care more about me?"

Another person replied, "when you don't care about him so much."

Of course, this is not the standard answer.

But sometimes, life is really like this.

The more I want to prove to others: "Look, I am a good person and really worth cherishing."

The more you lose yourself, the more tired you will be.

The more free and easy you are, the more you concentrate on your career, study, work or travel, the more you can find your own value.

The reality is so ridiculous.

When you worry about things and want to please many people, you often can't even catch a handful of sand.

When you find yourself the protagonist of life and no longer care about other people's opinions, you will find that the whole world is coming to you.

Gillian, who longed for some recognition through marriage, finally found that marriage was not suitable for her. She said, "I won't get married again."

Zhang Youyi, who was caught in the whirlpool of public opinion because of his "abandoned wife" status, finally lived a wonderful life of her own after her divorce.

Even Xianglinsao, who once cried and donated money, finally learned to bite the bullet and say nothing in the face of ridicule from the outside world.

What reason do we have not to live a more transparent life?

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