In fact, these four months are like a journey of transformation for me, which has brought many subtle but far-reaching changes to my relationship with my Danish husband. The story has to start from the beginning.
My husband and I met in China and fell in love at work. In the past seven years, we have traveled overseas together and lived in three countries. More than ten years of overseas life experience, coupled with my extroverted personality, have made me an independent strong woman in the eyes of many people. However, in my heart, I am a very traditional China woman, that is, a woman follows her husband. Its performance is characterized by clingy, male-oriented, and always at a disadvantage in love. My husband likes to save money, which is a quality that only people in China have. Everything else is foreign. For example, women need to be independent, both economically and physically. For another example, mature women who like sexy are very disgusted with MengMeng, a little girl. Therefore, it is not easy for couples with different values and different aesthetics like us to go through these seven years together. Many times, we always feel that we don't understand each other and can't figure out why he (she) wants to do this.
Someone told me that he didn't love you enough. Someone told me that cultural differences are too great, please bear with me. I was also told that every family has a hard experience, and contentment is always happy. So, I've been living like this for years.
Until the last three months, our relationship has undergone a qualitative change. And this profound experience is attributed to the job I recently found.
Here's the thing. After coming to Denmark, I found it very difficult to find a job. One day, Mr. K told me excitedly that this position is simply tailor-made for you. China Company, the Danish R&D department, is looking for an assistant in the project management office. People who can speak Chinese are preferred. The next month, the two of us crossed Dai Yue and rushed to the finish line in one breath. These 30 days are the first time we have been together for so long and done the same thing together. I feel that his wisdom and my ability work together. It's also the first time, I found that although I didn't like listening to him before, 99% of the time, what he said was right. For the first time, he found that I still had the charm when we met at the beginning of the year, and that was my ability at work. That month, we often changed the PPT to midnight, and often discussed how to deal with the next link while eating. What's even more amazing is that we have less quarrels and more smiles. It was the gentlest time I knew Mr. K, and it was also the most frequent time he praised me for being cute.
If the first three months of love is a honeymoon, then this month seems to be the honeymoon version 2.0. Because we found each other's initial love, what is more precious is that we use each other's best side to help each other make progress. Suddenly thought of that classic line, you made me complete.
Finally, the company chose another candidate. But we all feel that we have done our best. Finally, Mr k gave me a big hug and said, honey, you are really something.
Next month is Denmark's National Day month, and it is also my birthday month, July. Although the climax of job hunting has come to an end, the surprise birthday trip prepared for me by Teacher K still warms my heart. Since the interview war, Mr. K and I have spent more time chatting and got along well. Slowly, it is no longer just his problem that is the topic, and gradually, my point of view is not so naive. I spent July in Honeymoon 2.0.
I was going to find an internship. In the first week of August, I received a phone call from the company I had interviewed before. Sometimes, I really feel lucky. The recruited person can't go to work for personal reasons, so I am the second choice. We signed the contract that day. Although it came a little late and suddenly, happiness has already begun.
The day after I got the offer, Teacher K searched for rain-proof equipment for me online. In Denmark, the weather is often stormy after autumn. It is impossible to walk in the wind and rain without wearing a raincoat, boots and trousers. Considering that I need to walk to the bus station for work, Mr. K immediately ordered a set of equipment with 1500 yuan. At that time, Mr. K didn't give up money, but his eyes shone with excitement. In the evening, Mr. K solemnly told me that this job is a great change for your family and a new beginning for your own career. While I am happy for you, I also want to tell you that this job is just a job. As long as it is work, you will encounter unhappiness and pressure. Remember, don't care too much, and distinguish between public and private, so that you can live a better life.
We stood in the living room hugging each other and staring at each other. The room echoed with the music played at dinner, and my eyes were moist. I can feel how much Mr. K loves me at this moment.
Because, I began to have me. And then we ...
Cancer, I am born to pursue love and put my family first. Just like this, getting along with my predecessors will always be my humble pursuit and sad cry. Only Mr. K who has known me for at least seven years appreciates me, guides me, takes care of me and cherishes me. Zai Zai said he was lucky to be best friends with her husband. I am lucky, because Mr. K and I are both good friends and mentors. We make each other better and fall in love with each other again and again.
Maybe, you will say, you are so lucky. Perhaps, you will cast envious eyes. Or, you disdain, because you have a husband who loves you from beginning to end. Or, you and I have the same experience.
I just think that love is probably like this. When we are still lonely, we should enjoy time.
follow-up action
Last Friday was our fourth wedding anniversary. Mr. K said that I didn't celebrate until I got a job. Two big events were held together, and I was invited to Michelin restaurant for dinner. You know, eating out in Denmark is a luxury, because the price is too high, and many people have strong hands-on ability and creativity, so they can enjoy their own food. But Mr. K said we had a special day. We arrived early that night and chose a window seat to sit down. Three courses, three different wines. The first time I ate Michelin, it was called gourmet. Appetizers, entrees and desserts, there are different kinds of white wine, red wine and dessert wine. Finally, I seem to be a little drunk. It was our most romantic date in a long time, and it was the first time that we didn't look at our mobile phones from beginning to end, except that I took a group photo as a souvenir. We talk about work, family, holidays and all kinds of trivial things in life, but we are not bored at all, as if we were having a good talk with friends we haven't seen for a long time. We both laughed so sweetly, as if the air in the whole restaurant was full of sweet taste. Although the final bill was not a satisfactory figure, 1300, on the way home, Mr. K kept saying that today's experience was great. It's been a long time since I had such delicious food, and I was accompanied by beautiful women. To my surprise, Mr. K began to plan his next date after he came back, went to Germany to see the Christmas market and even found a hotel. It is also said that when you go to Tokyo on New Year's Eve, your ticket can be redeemed with points. . . Whether we do these things in the end or not, my heart feels warm at the moment. It turns out that the money he cares most about is worth it if it can be exchanged for our happy experience. Want to come, the honeymoon has entered the 3.0 era?