In fact, as early as ten years ago, he told his parents this idea, and their parents thought he was joking. Later, he asked his parents for advice seriously, and their parents knew that their only son really wanted to become a woman. However, as the eldest son, parents did not understand Huang Enling's idea of doing sex-change surgery and resolutely opposed it. Huang Enling's brothers and sisters, relatives and friends, and neighbors are also amazed at his ideas. They think that Huang Enling is a man, although her gestures are feminine. Why did he become a woman? What the 57-year-old father can't accept is that his good son will become a "big girl" in an instant, which makes him puzzled anyway. However, Huang Enling has made up her mind to be a woman. As long as he does not become a woman, he will live in the shadow one day, and no one can stop him. Parents and friends have no choice but to accept it.
In the days when she started her company in Nanjing, Huang Enling never stopped thinking of becoming a "daughter". His dormitory is full of his favorite cosmetics, and he has all the dressing tables for a girl, and there are many kinds. Huang Enling also told reporters that he spends 1 hour in front of the dresser every day. Not only that, he also bought many colorful and different styles of women's underwear.
On February 27th, 2004, Huang Enling came to a plastic surgery hospital in Nanjing to meet Lily, a transsexual beauty who came for photon skin rejuvenation surgery, to ask some common sense about transsexuality and to consult the doctor about the specific details of transsexual surgery. At that time, a group of experts planned to give Huang Enling a sex-change operation. They come from famous hospitals in Shanghai and Nanjing, and they are first-class experts in sex-change surgery in China. In May, he also participated in the "Asian Academic Exchange Conference on Transgender Studies" held in Shanghai, listened to academic lectures given by transgender experts at home and abroad, and exchanged views with transgender people in Asian countries. Huang Enling told reporters excitedly that although she didn't know English at that time, she established friendship with many friends at home and abroad through translation, and didn't return to Nanjing until 1 1 that night. However, just as Huang Enling was happily preparing for the new students, due to various reasons, his agreement with a plastic surgery hospital was interrupted, and Huang Enling's transgender idea was almost shattered.
Until the summer of 2004, Jiangsu Satellite TV invited him and his parents to appear on the Super Mediation program, and invited relevant medical experts, psychologists and lawyers to mediate the contradiction between him and his parents. Under the mediation of experts, Huang Enling finally got the understanding of her parents. At the same time, Dr. Tan Qian, an expert from the STD Plastic Surgery Center of Nanjing Gulou Hospital, had a long communication with him and confirmed that he had "sexually transmitted diseases". After a series of procedures, a 7-hour operation on June 65438+February 3, 2004 completely changed "he" into "she". Huang enling was very excited when she woke up. She told reporters: "At that moment on the operating table, I was not afraid at all, only excited. When I woke up again, apart from being excited, I was grateful to Professor Tan. " Having said that, she told the reporter emotionally, "My parents gave her a first life, and Professor Tan gave her a second life. Huang, the new name she will use in the future, was named by Professor Tan. " .
When she left Gulou Hospital, Huang Enling cried. On the one hand, she doesn't want to come here. On the other hand, she is a little scared. I don't know what relatives and friends will think of her after going home like this! "What a surprise!" Huang Enling told the reporter excitedly, "After returning to China, relatives and friends warmly invited her to be a guest at home. The girls in the village envy her when they see her now. "
Huang Enling likes reading Qiong Yao's novels, but her love design for the future has not been influenced by books. She clearly realized that the book is just a story, and it is conceivable but impossible to find the same template in real life. Although she has a lot of face and small achievements in her career, she doesn't ask much of her partner, as long as she has a sincere love. If she really meets such a person in her life, she is willing to accept new feelings. However, she will not deliberately look for it. She believes that it is not sweet to twist a melon, and she is willing to wait quietly for such a life. In order to avoid unnecessary trouble, she will tell her future boyfriend her true identity at the beginning of her acquaintance. "Aren't you afraid he can't accept it?" The reporter asked her, she said that if the future partner really loves her, he should tolerate everything about her, including her past, otherwise what's the point of living in a daze?