As the old saying goes, "Wash your dirty linen in public" is unreasonable for a woman who has entered middle age. Knowing this, I still choose to publish "dirty laundry" on the Internet, which shows that women have been bullied to the point where they live in no way back.
The cause of the incident was that the woman posted a video of her mother-in-law scolding herself on the Internet. This exposes the contradictions in this family and the situation that women are bullied at home. When netizens unilaterally targeted the woman's mother-in-law, the woman was comforted; But it is also because of this situation that my husband made up his mind and resolutely divorced himself.
According to the woman, it all happened after they bought a house and slowly guessed what had happened. They got married 14 years. In this 14 year, the woman gave birth to a son and a daughter for her husband's family. In the process of raising children, most of the time, women are taking care of children alone.
At the beginning of their marriage, the man's family was too poor to provide a wedding room. For a long time, both of them lived in their parents' spare house. At this stage, their mother-in-law will come and stay occasionally. There were contradictions during the period, but they did not rise to the stage of quarreling and abuse.
Later, her husband made progress. Through his own efforts, he accumulated some savings and bought a house of his own. This slow relationship changed as the two moved into their new home. After the two moved, the mother-in-law lived at home for a long time. Getting along for a long time also makes family conflicts frequent.
It is normal to have contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law; It is hard for women to accept that no matter who is right or wrong, the husband always stands firmly on the side of her mother-in-law and helps her mother-in-law "deal with" herself together. This situation makes women both angry and chilling.
In the eyes of mother-in-law and husband, family conditions are good, and with their own careers, they can stand up and speak. Coupled with her full-time nanny, she has "no contribution" to this family, which makes her mother-in-law often aim at herself and want to sweep herself out of the house. Slowly influenced by her mother-in-law, even her husband has the same idea. This situation makes women feel sad.
This time, because he posted the video online, the husband directly filed a divorce with himself. In such a situation, in my opinion, women should no longer be patient and let them know their contribution to this family over the years.
Through the woman's story, we can see that her family conditions are not bad; Although she is now a full-time wife and has no financial resources, there is a family behind her who loves her and has financial strength.
The run on a woman by her husband and mother-in-law made her feel wronged in her life at home. I think she is afraid to tell her family about such grievances, for fear that her family will feel sorry for herself. At the moment, the woman's inner thoughts are probably children. Two children can't live without their mothers, and they can't grow up in a broken family.
This mentality has made many women who have been unhappy in their marriage and family life. Without the fetters of children, I don't think women would be so humbled and submit to humiliation in neglected families.
If I were this woman, I would choose to leave my children and go back to my parents' home alone, let both sides calm down for a while, and then re-examine this marriage and family. As a good wife and mother after marriage, don't forget that we are daughters, and we also have a loving family.
This identity makes us feel distressed and cared for no matter how unhappy we are. Therefore, when we are bullied, we should ask our parents for help in time, let them intervene and help us get back justice.
What men and their families do gives people a feeling of "baiwenhang". As a husband, I don't love my daughter-in-law. I just push her into other people's arms. Moreover, the idea that this family wants to sweep their daughter-in-law out of the house after the economy improves is very shameful. At the beginning, women did not dislike the man's poverty, but now they do.
In my personal opinion, it is right to be filial to parents, but this does not mean that you must listen to your parents. It is a foolish filial piety. This mother-in-law also has ideological problems. She doesn't want to get along well with her daughter-in-law and make her family harmonious and happy, but wants to drive away the "useless" daughter-in-law.
If women really run away from home because of this, I think they will never find such a good wife again. This feeling may not be realized until the new wife enters the house.