When we reach middle age, we all lose the youthfulness of our youth. After being polished off our recklessness by society, we accept the wash of time.

I have met many people, heard many things, and experienced many difficulties.

Thirty years of life have transformed us into a more sober and stable version of ourselves.

Some people start to work out hard after middle age and lose their muscles; some people start to have micro-plastic surgery constantly, fearing that time will leave traces on their faces, but they cannot erase the traces of time. impression.

Some people start to decorate themselves with gorgeous brands, but their emptiness increases sharply when they are alone; some people marry "money" for the sake of face, but can only face the coldness at home. wall.

In fact, in the world of middle-aged people, everyone has long understood that communication between people has gone beyond just looking at faces. After middle age, these "three views" are more important than facial features.

01 Views on marriage: Don’t be pushed into marriage

After middle age, if you are still single, you will inevitably be missed by the three aunts and six mothers in the family.

He always introduces people casually, and always advises you not to be too demanding, just find someone who is similar, and relationships can be cultivated after marriage.

At times like this, my aunt always tells my cousin not to care about the nonsense of relatives, live however you want, and don’t force yourself to get married if you don’t want to.

The reason why my aunt is like this is because I have personal experience. My aunt and my current uncle are married for the second time.

Before the divorce, my aunt's life was always quite miserable. The so-called conflicts were not a big deal.

For example, she is a delicate person who likes to put flowers and plants at home and always keeps her home clean.

However, my aunt’s ex-husband was a sloppy man who loved to smoke. In addition to flicking cigarette ashes into the potted plants she raised, he also pinched cigarette butts in the pots.

Moreover, dirty clothes are never thrown into the dirty clothes basket, and smelly socks can be found everywhere.

Every time there is a family gathering, my aunt always prepares clothes for her ex-husband in advance and always reminds him to pay attention to hygiene. Although I am young, I can still see the bitterness on her face that cannot be concealed.

My cousin also said that at first she didn’t understand why her parents wanted to divorce. Later, the appearance of her stepfather made her understand what her mother said: Life is too long, and I don’t want to live with it forever. ?

She said that although her stepfather was average-looking, he always dressed up very well and helped tidy up at home. He knew that her mother liked to grow flowers, and he even took the initiative to search online on how to grow flowers. Raise better.

Some flowers like light and need to be moved to a place where they can get the sun, while some flowers like darkness and need to stay away from the sun. She actively helped move the flower pots. She and her mother always had endless topics to talk about. Always prepare little surprises.

Now every time I have a gathering, I can see my aunt with a rosy face, always smiling from the bottom of her heart, and she is obviously much younger.

02 Concept of Health: Recognize your cowardness and protect your health

Some people say that when they are over 30, they are often unable to do what they want. While working all night to make a living, they understand the importance of health and start to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

Yesterday, a classmate of mine in China sent me a message in the middle of the night, asking me to buy him some health care products that nourish the stomach, liver, and essence.

I asked: Why do you need to make up for everything so suddenly? ?

He just told me that some time ago, he often drank until midnight before going home because of too many social events and drinking parties. Own.

As soon as I came and went, my body was hollowed out. However, he never stopped destroying himself.

When he returned home one day, his vision suddenly went dark and he collapsed at the door. His wife was so frightened that he immediately dialed 120 and was sent to the hospital for emergency treatment.

After he woke up, he looked at his wife who was crying beside him and his child who was confused as to what was going on. He made up his mind to change his living habits and exercise more and eat less greasy food. My family will no longer waste their health.

After being on the verge of death, he has another skill in his life: giving in.

From then on, the wine bureau pushed them as much as they could, and there were relatively more light foods on the table.

He said that no amount of good wine and meat is as good as a good body. A good body can save tens of thousands or even hundreds of thousands of expenses in the hospital. A good body can allow me to spend time with my family. .

03 Age View: A passionate soul never grows old

Director Wang Chaoge once again said this in a speech: 12 years is a cycle. At the age of 36, family, work, Life tends to be stable, and people are completely divided into two types: one is repeating 36 years old; the other is starting to look for a new life.

The vast majority of people die at the age of 36, not from physical death, but from fatigue, anxiety, silence, and no desire for life. ?

Many middle-aged people, in addition to being trapped by the social framework, will also hypnotize themselves by saying that they cannot do many things when they are old and have completely lost their pursuit of new things.

It can be said that I have completely lost my passion for life.

Vera Wang, the wedding dress queen who turned 70 this year, became a hot search topic because of an animated picture of her dancing awkwardly with a child.

In the animated picture, she has a slender figure, light movements, and does not look aged at all. Many netizens filled the comment area with lemons, envying her figure and condition.

Someone also found a back photo of her facing the sea and leaning against a pillar. She wore a simple white tank top and black shorts, giving the whole screen a girly vibe.

Wang Weiwei’s sense of youth comes from her passion for life. She has been self-disciplined and stubborn all her life. She wears a facial mask every day. Her favorite things to do are driving cars and lifting weights.

She married her boyfriend of 10 years at the age of 39, started a business at the age of 42, divorced at the age of 63, and a few months later she held hands with her boyfriend who was 36 years younger than her, and she regained her freedom after 6 years. body, her life is simply a legend. For her, the word "old" is just like what Dou Wentao said: "Oldness is not an age problem, nor a physiological problem, but a cognitive problem." ?

After middle age, if you can have a correct view of age, you can always be curious about the people and things around you regardless of age, and never be afraid to start from scratch.

After middle age, people should have a correct view of health, learn to cherish their bodies, understand that life is impermanent, and cherish the time and quality of getting along with the people around them.

Have a correct view of marriage and do not treat yourself badly on the long road of life.

Have a correct outlook on age, try bravely and embrace life without fear in the future journey of life.

The rest of your life is very long, so you must be kind to yourself, whether you are alone or as a family, cultivate your own "three views", and live a quality life for the rest of your life.