Beware of boys' imperfect ideas
Men tell you about their previous feelings and only speak ill of their predecessors. My predecessor was clingy, cheating, cuckolded, unreasonable, bad-tempered, money-worshipping, and never mentioned his own problems. This kind of man's psychology is definitely abnormal and very problematic. At least his brain circuitry is not perfect. Do you think this kind of man will become normal because he loves your brain wiring? Don't!
Screening is more important than guidance. A man can't be reformed because you can't give him a brand-new childhood. Under the background that men love to have children, the argument that having more children can bind men is not very tenable. First, what many men really think is that any woman can have children and another woman can have the same children. As long as it is in my genes, the more children, the better. It doesn't matter whether you grew up with me or not.
Second, although many men love to have children, their enthusiasm for raising children is very general, and their willingness to participate in parenting and housework, or to invest in the one-child education and future is very low. Their calculation is: as long as there is food and books to read, see which child is more inspiring and helpful, so that the highest return on investment is that those men who only want one or two children will switch to the female model, that is, protect, take care of and support existing children, which is an act of maximizing interests. So pay more attention to the emotion of a single child and the investment of parents. The one-child policy era of family planning is a large-scale experiment in this regard.