Anyway, the band's summer is over.

This program, which accompanied me all summer, added a long-lost happiness and expectation to my pregnancy.

I still remember watching the first program, my husband and I sat on the carpet in front of the TV, swaying involuntarily with the music. It was a psychedelic drug that I struggled for a long time during my pregnancy.

As Hedgehog Band sang in Dear, I Want to Be Your Girlfriend:

Only, the summer of the band.

As we all know, forming a band or starting a business to find a partner is a relationship like marriage. Many bands in the program also mentioned that "joys and sorrows, the road is long, and people gather and leave", and different bands will cry for the same reason.

Happy at the same time, in the program 1 1, a visit by Hedgehog Band made me think about the relationship between husband and wife.

Hedgehog Band has three members: lead singer and guitarist Zhao Zijian (left), drummer Shi Lu (middle) and bassist He Yifan (right).

As can be seen from the above picture, Zhao Zijian and Shi Lu are the kind of people who are covered with thorns. Hedgehog Band, founded in 14, must be full of quarrels.

You see, this is the nth time that Shi Lu and Zijian have quarreled on the show. The language used is very similar to the daily dispute between husband and wife.

What would Yifan do if he stood on the side?

Read it again:

What kind of state is that? Let's take a look at Shi Lu's expression:

This is Shi Lu's reverence and appreciation after reading Zijian's lyrics, as if the whole person was ignited by Zijian's lyrics. What about the quarrel just now? It doesn't matter ~ it doesn't exist anymore ~

Love, husband and wife, all come together because they appreciate one or several points of each other.

The boy said that the way she smiles is particularly beautiful, and the kindness to me in daily life makes me feel the irreplaceable warmth of home.

Girls say I feel safe with him, and he loves me on the premise of respecting me. This kind of love makes me happy.

After marriage, the two began to face daily necessities, with great pressure on life and emotional instability. In the process of solving one complex problem after another, it is inevitable that there will be more or less out of control at a certain node. As a result, "disagreement" becomes "quarrel" and even becomes emotional venting-very common.

If a person appears at this time, it can also wake us up to "the moment when we see each other's advantages" and remind us that the other party is actually "not hiding their shortcomings." Can we take a step back more easily, let go of our out-of-control emotions and focus on "solving problems"?

Life can't be perfect. Life is spent solving one problem after another. This process is like playing a game of monsters. The most irrational behavior is that the big boss bares his teeth in front of you and you concentrate on quarreling with your teammates.

Too many marriages end because of "no communication", and most of them blame each other for "changing". Has the other party really changed? Have all the advantages of ta that you liked at first disappeared? No, it didn't disappear! They are still there. It's just that when we encounter more and more trivial problems, it is inevitable that we will be influenced by emotions and pressures and forget our abilities.

When there is an argument, if at this time, the person closest to the other party grasps the weakness or mistake of ta and doesn't let go, isn't that "there is no solution to this problem"? Unnecessary quarrels, emotional venting ... there is really no way.

And if we take a step back and think about how happy the advantages that attract us in each other bring us. At present, the problem of quarreling seems to be getting smaller and smaller, so there is no need to haggle over every ounce. Of course, there will be n solutions before us. So, we happily solved the problem and continued to watch Summer of the Band.

But husband and wife are not a band, so it is difficult for us to find a third person to help us calm down. Then please internalize this person into our own ability. Every time we quarrel, think about each other's advantages, see each other's advantages, and walk happily hand in hand through this life.

Let's read Yifan's words again:

///Hello, I'm Yu Binger///

Pregnant mother after 90, talk to you.

"New Female Fertility", "Weight Management" and Female Growth

Others care about your fetus, and I only care about you?