As a middle-aged calm and greasy old mother, I saw a news yesterday, which made me sit still and just wanted to call names.
By the way, I'm talking about the dog owner in Yuhang, Hangzhou, who rode on the second-born mother and beat her finger in front of the 6-or 3-year-old child.
As a mother with a second child, I am shaking with anger! It's unbearable. It's basically animals, not people!
165438+1On the evening of October 3, a mother was walking with her 6-year-old son and 3-year-old daughter. A dog without a leash suddenly rushed over and barked at the child, scaring the little boy around his mother.
The mother instinctively protected her son behind her and stretched out her foot to drive the dog away. The male owner of the dog came over, and they had an argument, which triggered the dog owner's madness and he began to hit people.
The dog owner grabbed his neck first, pushed his mother to the front cover of the car and fell hard.
Two children were nearby, and my brother was hit by a car. Until a man in a suit came and separated them.
When the mother took the child by the hand and was ready to leave quickly, the dog man still didn't feel wronged, ran back and knocked her to the ground with one punch. To make matters worse, he rode on her and punched her.
The 6-year-old boy froze at this time and decided to stay where he was and dare not move. The 3-year-old girl was scared and jumped while walking.
There is no sound in the video, but you can also see the child, suffocating and hopeless.
This is not in a remote dark alley. In the video, there are people waving in twos and threes, and the hostess of the dog has been standing on the sidelines. The world, how sad, how sad.
So far, it has been four days, the dog owner has been detained, and both dogs have been confiscated without a license.
Saya, a netizen from Hangzhou who beat pregnant women to walk their dogs a while ago, was raised in a legal fight and euthanized. These two puppies are not forbidden to keep dogs, so they can only wait for adoption at the homeless station.
What's wrong with the dog in this situation? Wrong is the cruel dog owner? Not only violent, it is said that while hitting, he cursed "You are a foreigner!"
It's really been a long time, and I haven't seen such popular news.
The world is big, the emperor tried his best to protect the mother of two young sons, and it was really outrageous to be attacked so violently. However, what is even more frightening is that all the violence is in front of children.
As a mother, I know it a hundred and twenty thousand times. What saddens the mother more than my broken finger is the mental blow to the child! Even if that beast goes to prison, what can he save? Especially children?
While watching the news angrily, I seriously thought: what would I do if it were me? What should I do?
Many people say that the biggest way for women and children to be safe together is to swallow their pride, stay out of trouble and run with their children. Children can't outrun dogs. The more children run, the crazier the dog must be.
I don't think you can avoid conflict by taking back your words. In life, we can avoid danger by choosing tolerance and vigilance, but there are always accidents in life. When you hide again, a mad dog will block your way. What I want to say is, what should I do when I can't hide?
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Put yourself in others' shoes. If one day I have an argument with someone else and I am beaten and controlled, I can't get away with it.
First of all, I will desperately shout "Take my sister to the security guard or dad".
Finding dad is the best choice, but if this happens in our community, two children without access cards can't go upstairs at all. Then go to the security guard, there will be security guards every few hundred meters, and the goal is clear.
Children have a natural sense of mission to their mother's instructions. Six years old is the age to carry on, but only if their mother can shout out clear instructions. Just say to the child, "Run and hide." It's no use. Great fear and attachment to their mother will make them stay where they are.
In doing so, we are not putting the heavy responsibility of rescue on children. Instead, find an excuse to keep the child away from the scene and not see his mother being beaten with his own eyes.
Seeing is believing, and this image is an indelible memory. If children can't see it with their own eyes, the harm can be reduced.
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Secondly, when you are beaten or pestered, ask the onlookers for help.
If you just shout "help", you will not achieve the expected effect. Because today everyone is wise to protect themselves, and the onlookers are indifferent people.
The trick of registering for help is to designate a person. For example, "Mr. Blue with glasses, please help me pull him away" or "Sister White Skirt, please help me call the police".
When we designate an individual, we will separate the individual from the irrelevant groups, and these groups will feel pressure and responsibility. Even if the person doesn't have the courage to stand up and help, he or she can at least stop or call the police loudly.
People who eat melons are on the wall. When most people are shouting to stop them, there will be a collective effect, and someone will stop them. Please believe that the speed of group influence can be earth-shaking in one minute.
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Third, after something happens, don't hide what happened in front of the children.
I think the biggest primary injury in this world is hiding.
Put the wound in a dark place and ferment indefinitely. The longer it takes, the worse it will be. In the end, it is no longer a wound at all, but a disability with broken hands and feet.
Hold the children in your arms and tell them that the world is dangerous and we can meet bad people, but justice will never be absent even if it is sometimes late.
You are very brave. You went through hardships with your mother. Your mother knows the grievances in your heart, and your mother understands your fears. Your mother is weak, but she is right.
Don't think that children are not sensible just because they are young. Maybe they are ignorant, but they will remember, listen and give them a channel to release their emotions. Emotion is a flood, it is better to block it.
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Fourth, reach an agreement with schools, friends and neighbors in an adult way, so that children can return to normal life as soon as possible.
When an emergency happens, the whole family life often stops, and every adult will be anxious and sad. Suddenly there will be many relatives who have not been in touch for a long time, expressing sympathy and support. These goodwill will bring great pressure to children.
The best way is to let children return to the rules of daily life as soon as possible. They should go to kindergarten and school, communicate with the school in advance, and don't give special treatment to their children. Or according to the situation of the incident and the degree of malignant influence, you can also ask the school to say hello to other children in the class in advance. In short, don't let the children think. After this incident, the whole world changed.
Let the children turn the page, this happened, but it ended, and I went back to my original life, studying at school, playing games and doing my homework.
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Fifth, if it is too difficult for you to do it yourself, please ask your family or friends to record the whole incident, including videos, online public opinions, commentary articles, hospital certificates, police verdict certificates ... and make them into files and store them somewhere.
Because no matter how hard we try, we can't erase this memory from the child. We can only minimize the harm, but what children see and experience must be harm.
When the children grow up and have their own judgment, show them the whole document. The only way to cure the primary injury is to open the wound and then sew it up.
It will hurt and bleed when you open it again, but as long as you have the courage and evidence to open it again, it's just that the scar after suture is not very beautiful, but it won't hurt or bleed.
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I'm not a psychologist, and I haven't studied children's psychology. This is my mother's instinct. I have thought of five ways to minimize the harm to children when unexpected things happen.
Life is so long that no one knows what will happen in the next second. This sudden event is not only beaten by a mad dog, but also various unpredictable situations.
I hope the years will be quiet, but as a mother, I have to make predictions as far in advance as possible.
Ladies and gentlemen, if you have any other ideas, please share them in the message area.